Including SN threads in active convos

[Freckle]

I still can't get SN to show up in active convos. I haven't excluded the topic but can't find anyway to have it included. Any ideas Tech?

[Tech]

Hi Freckle, I think it should show up if it's not excluded - will investigate and report back....

[Freckle]

Well, there's always the possibility that no one's posting on SN, but somehow I doubt it!

Thanks for checking.

[Tech]

Actually, there are two SN threads showing in Active convs for me now. Are they not showing in your list?

[Freckle]

Nothing showing for me.

Some time ago, I ticked the box for No Buying and Selling. My active convos list shows this in bold at the top (not as a tick box - just Without Buying and *Selling. After that, SN threads were taken off the main list and you had to tick to include them. I didn't do it at that time as I wasn't sure that SN threads would be relevant to me. Then someone asked parents of NT children to join in the SN threads as their input can be valuable and I tried to include those threads again, but nothing happened. I've not been able to include them since. Clear as mud, huh??

[Lulumamaintheskywithfireworks]

actually, i have not got anything from sn either

[FlameFromBonfire]

Just to throw a spanner in the works...

The whole reason for making SN "opt in" was long and drawn out, but was eventually decided as being a Good Idea.

Now it is just there unless you exclude it again, and already the first thread has kicked off like it used to

Please can it be opt in again rather than opt out?

[Tech]

Actually, that's my fault. It isn't supposed to be there unless you opt in. I'll have a look at it this morning.

[Cappuccino]

oh this is just getting silly

I'm not here at the moment but I drifted past and saw this and it got my goat

if we can choose our own topics then why can't SN be any different to any other? Is SN going to be hidden away so that any new mners never see it? What if their kids were diagnosed as SN and they didn't know the board was there?

if people can opt in and out of topics then I thought that would have meant SN became like any other topic and you could opt in or out when you customised your talkboard

and that thread that 'kicked off' was people on SN belittling other people's worries

I don't see how this is something that we have a right to demand to do

[TheQueenOfQuotes]

Fio - I used active convo's when I first joined - was the first thing I clicked on

[Cappuccino]

if people want to ignore it they can

there was some talk the other day on the feeling depressed board, someone saying it was good that people could opt out of it so they wouldn't come on to the board and start saying 'pull yourself together' etc

I honestly, honestly, honestly don't see why SN is any different to that

as a woman with depression and mother of an SN child

[2shoeswhizzbangwoosh]

wow Feel like I have been her e before.........

[yurt1]

Oh please do make it opt out, there's already been a fight over there - faster even than I predicted (I gave it 2 weeks).

I've just come back from a school coffee morning where there were people with kids now in adult services (provison costed at 300 quid a DAY for someone who sounds very like ds1- that was great provision but a fight to get obviously). It was a rather depressing in some ways glimpse into the future. I really don't want to have to spend my time on here explaining to all and sundry how bloody different my life is to theirs and having to be all fluffy bunny school or shouted at if I'm remotely realistic.

But no doubt this will kick off again. (Yawn)

[2shoeswhizzbangwoosh]

yur1 omg the future(scared emotion)
I agree I hate having to explain all about dd everytime I post.

[yurt1]

And that thread was not belittling someone else's worries- it was someone having a shit time wishing she didn';t have to. And to be honest having some back from that coffee morning, havfing spent 2 hours staring at the awfulness of the future probably 90% of threads on musnet would make me feel like that today. Of course I'd never post that now (I've learned) but if you want SN open then you have to understand that when you're child has a serious disabilty that you sometimes feel ugly and you sometimes hate everyone in the world and everyone who has it easy. And people should be able to say that and be told it's entirely normal (whilst being given tips perhaps on how NOT to let the bitterness eat you up from the inside). And not have to apologise to someone who has no idea at all what it is like to live with a child who requires 24 hour care and attention and will do for the rest of their lives.

[yurt1]

Yes that's where I love you and I love my phone friend, because I now however ugly I'm feeling I can ask you and you'll both tell me its normal (and now I know it is and I know it passes). Gawd at the beginning I really needed that, or I would have ended up having a breakdown I think from battling the feelings and feeling it was 'wrong' to feel a certain way.

[coppertop]

It worked well when the SN board required people to opt-in to see SN threads on Active Convos. People who had stopped posting because of previous hassles came back to use it again.

Generally new posters who post about SN-related topics in other sections are told about the SN board if they haven't already seen it. If they use the Search button it will also show them SN threads.

There's no point in having an SN board if the people who would benefit most from it no longer feel able to use it (IMHO).

[Cappuccino]

Whatever your worries are, they deserve to be treated with respect.

When my dd was a baby, and not picking up items 'on time', my worries were not treated with respect - not by the HV, or by my friends, and I suspect they would not have been by the mn sn boards if that thread is anything to go by

though I appreciate that as mothers of sn children there is a need for understanding as many do not 'get it', there is also a need for understanding on the SN board that worries however 'mild' they see them to be can be incredibly worrying to some parents, whether they turn out to be something or nothing

often I feel that I can't post on that board because my life isn't disrupted enough by my child's moderate disability compared to others, precisely because of the strength of feeling on these threads, and that's quite sad

[Cappuccino]

Fio I love you very much but that's not awfully supportive, is it?

[elliott]

I am having this problem too - special needs is in my included list but the threads aren't showing up in my active convos list.
I don't think I ever post on the SN board but I do listen and boy, do I learn...it would be very sad to make it so hidden away that no-one can find it...