Don't think a lot of people on MN are very welcoming to posters who've joined recently.................

[toomuchtodo]

do posters who've been here a few years think they are more "important" than newer posters?

no one who posts here owns the site, but reading some posts I feel certain oldies think they have a share in MN or something

you haven't ladies!!!

each post is as valid as the next and new poeple joining should be made welcome, unless they post something which goes against the MN rules

[gess]

I think your name should be 'toomuchtimeonmyhands'.

Really file away under: 'not worth worrying about'.

[toomuchtodo]

I'm not worried

just a bit surprised at the tone sometimes used when discussing new posters

[lulumama]

from what i have seen of this 'unwelcoming' attitude

it seems to be directed at posters who seem to have joined with the sole purpose of telling everyone who doesn;t agree with them re the Madelaine McCann campaign, that they are selfish, thoughtless, self centred, and just plain wrong.

so , if i am wrong about that, please do show me where new people have been made to feel unwelcome

people who have posted here for a long time do feel loyalty to this site and its ethos, and to have new people join specifically to slag off mumsnetters, i think they are right to be annoyed.

not all posts are as valid as the next, the one calling us all selfish thougthless Bs was not valid or welcome in my opinion.

[AllieJubJub]

that's the joy of mumsnet. we don't tip toe around each other, you express an opinion, whether everyone agrees or not is a different matter. It's not personal

[toomuchtodo]

I didn't realise posters had joined to slag off original mumsnetters?

surely not?

[AllieJubJub]

i missed all this hideous crapola bickering thank god

[WideWebWitch]

no but there have been some nutters posting who, quite rightly, have been outed as nutters.

[toomuchtodo]

obviously missed all that

[AllieJubJub]

oooh i'd like one of Troy off of High School Musical

[toomuchtodo]

jesus, I've got huge bra's all right, could go camping in them!

[lillypie]

I think it is worth worrying about.
Surely the point of MN is to be supportive to other women,not to make them feel uncomfortable and or not good enough.

[RubberDuck]

Proper netiquette rules are to lurk for a while in any new forum before posting - it's a way of getting to know what is/isn't acceptable, what the general tone of the place is and whether you'd enjoy being part of that group.

Friction comes, in my experience, when people don't bother with that initial lurking period, dive in regardless and then act all hurt when they get flamed to buggery.

Mumsnet isn't a fluffy pink bunny sort of place - a simple lurk of a few days or even up to a week would show that instantly to any newcomer. There are lots of forums with different atmospheres and ethoses if you just care to look.

It's not about newcomers/oldies - it's about basic etiquette.

[lulumama]

if anyone can link to or copy and paste any where that people have been made unwelcome, except for the ongoing Madelaine McCann debates...and possibly the single chap who joined, seemingly to look for a date, then please do.

people do join to stir up trouble, they are trolls

[Blandmum]

Like the catholic church MN welcomes converts. They shouldn't be disapointed, though, if they are not elected Pope over night.

[toomuchtodo]

Iim posting to a thread in active convo's about new posters not being very literate etc

thought this sounded a bit harsh

[Twiglett]

why do I want to shove cotton balls in my cheeks and start muttering indistinct comments about 'da family'

[lulumama]

some posters are not very literate, and txtspk is so not a good look


seriously, as has been pointed out, if you lurk you get the feel for the place, you cannot expect to barge in , guns blazing and get a standing ovation

[stressteddy]

I think each of us has a right to say what we want to/need to. We all have very different lives and it can be really enlightening to hear different views. I would hate to think that new or old has anything to do with it. This would seem a bit mad to me
I have to say though that I don't particularly like the threads that start with "who's your favourite newbie?" or ""who do you love on mn?". I always get quite miffed when I'm not mentioned!!!!!!
Stressteddy goes off to get glass of medicinal vino

[calordan]

tmtd completley agree with, you a fairly innocent thread can go absolutely up in flames cos a "cool few" seem to gang up and attempt to outdo each other with insults or chav/ponce spotting, and as for netiquette, how ridiculous, isnt mumsnet a huge mixture of different attitudes and experiences, and not the playground of a select few?

[edam]

LOL at MB's comment, especially as it comes from a bishop.

Second what Lulu said. And I HATE being addressed as 'ladies'. Highly patronising. This isn't a suburban golf club, you know.