Modding question

[EmpressOfJurisfiction]

A while ago Justine said:

"You can tell someone they are are being an arse. You can't tell someone they are an arse. And the rules haven't changed on that."

and

"What's so hard about saying "your post makes you sound like an arse and here's why" and then proceed to demolish with powerful argument?"

Is that still true?

[Fairenuff]

Marking place with interest.

[RebeccaMumsnet]

Hi Empress,

Yes, it is. Although, as with most things, context is very important.

If it's a specific deletion of yours you'd like explained, we will happily take a look, report it and we can explain fully in a mail.

Hope that helps.

[EmpressOfJurisfiction]

Hi Rebecca

Thanks for replying. I haven't been deleted... yet . The question stemmed from a discussion on this thread.

[FlaviaAlbia]

I've been watching this thread. I had a comment deleted on the thread Empress has linked to.

I was surprised, because I didn't think it was that bad and certainly no worse than come comments I've seen on AIBU.

MrsDeVere and StaceyAndTracey also mentioned having comments deleted where they felt it was heavy handed. I know you can't discuss other peoples deletions without their permissions etc. but I don't mind if you want to discuss mine on this thread. If you think it should stand as deleted I'll suck it up and apologise.

[Fairenuff]

Can I also just copy this from another thread I'm on. I reported a post for accusing someone of trolling. This has always been against guidelines afaik.

Anyway, this is the part of the response that I received from HQ who decided not to delete the troll hunting post:

'We are increasingly finding that people use the word 'troll' when really they just mean that they think someone is stirring the pot or being a little goady, which we don't encourage, but we wouldn't actually zap people for.'

So can you clarify please, if I say 'I think you are just trolling' to a poster because I think they are 'stirring the pot' or 'being a little goady', my comment can stand, as did that of the poster I reported?

[RebeccaMumsnet]

Hi Fairenuff,

We do totally see you point. We looked at that post in the context of the thread and we saw it as a poster saying that another poster was posting stuff she didn't like/agree with.
We have decided to remove the post now, although it was a borderline "troll hunting" post.
Thanks for your post.

[Fairenuff]

So are you saying we can say ''I think you are just trolling' to a poster if we think they are just 'stirring the pot' or 'being a little goady', or not?

Because your email to me said that we can. Now it seems you are saying we can't