More Goady Fuckers

[Fairenuff]

Can we agree that if a poster starts a thread with a goady OP and doesn't return, they are a goady fucker. Can we also agree that if they haven't returned within the first three pages, they probably aren't going to.

[26Point2Miles]

No. Because life can get in the way of returning to MN.

And what might be goady to you might be genuine to some poor poster.....who makes that call?

[Fairenuff]

I'm thinking more about those posts that are general, not personal, a contentious topic and where responses come in really fast. The ones where it's someone's 'first post' or they say they have name changed, in other words no posting history.

If the idea is to generate debate with good intentions, why start a thread at a time when you're not available to join the debate.

[Fairenuff]

And why not come back later and answer the many questions raised?

[AuntieStella]

MNHQ always say they love reports. And have said that they will look in to potential goady fuckers.

So report it.

I don't think the users 'can agree' about it (we don't have MNHQ tools to look at posters properly).

And there are probably thousands of reasons why someone might start a thread and not come back within the time another post might expect.

But I really don't think you can do anything about someone behaving weirdly on the Internet.

[Fairenuff]

Ok I'll report. I'm thinking about the feminist one and the grammar school one just now but there are always loads more.

[ilovesooty]

I think I'm going to report the grammar school one. The OP has been back but is more goady with every post.

[Fairenuff]

What did you put in the message box sooty? I put Goady Fucker?

Guess HQ will know what I mean?

[ilovesooty]

I put goady fucker but it appears that both the OP and the sock puppet are now banned.

[ToadsJustFellFromTheSky]

And what might be goady to you might be genuine to some poor poster.....who makes that call?

I kind of agree with this actually.

I was accused of being a goady fucker and a troll by lots of posters on a thread that I started once. It certainly wasn't my intention to be goady though, I was just feeling very vulnerable at the time and in a bad place emotionally. I think because of this I wasn't thinking straight and it honestly didn't occur to me that my thread might be taken that way.

Then again maybe I'm in the minority and most people are well aware of what they're doing.

[ilovesooty]

who makes that call?

HQ do, after you've reported.

The latest one was not only a GF but sock puppeting.

[ilovesooty]

Meaning the grammar school one. Iona made that quite clear.

[Fairenuff]

Thanks Mary



Actually I've designed a phrase to post if I think someone is being a goady fucker. It goes like this:

'OP are you going to engage with the posters on the thread at all? If not, why did you start it?'

Polite and to the point I think

(If you see me posting that you will know what I'm thinking )

[IonaMumsnet]

AHEM

Yeah, sometimes it's obvious when Goadyfuckery is afoot, but sometimes it's not, you know? We hate to sound like a stuck record but do report it and we can check.

With the one earlier on Grammar Schools for instance, as soon as it was reported we could see there was sockpuppetry going on and were able to dust off the big red button. But we'd hate everyone to be sending snarky messsages on a thread to an OP who is having some sort of life crisis (or her internet has gone up in a puff of smoke or something), and so hasn't returned to the thread for a bit, and then comes back, cries and leaves forever!

So, yeah. Report don't retort, people.

Here endeth the goadyfuckery lesson.

[daffsandtulips]

I personally don't mind what everyone seems to call a "goady fucker" or two. Most of the time a person probably comes here to genuinely ask a question that is a bit emotive, gets absolutely pelted and personally attacked, would you come back to a thread where that was happening. I wouldn't.

[cozietoesie]

I don't mind the odd GF thread either.

You have no real idea what or who you're dealing with on the internet - some people simply have extraordinary lives, some people tell what they think is the unvarnished truth (except it's always as they see it ), some people ham it up a little to make a better story, some people ham it up a lot - and some people plain invent everything.

I have no idea why they should do that last except that they clearly have some strong need for something but if you think you can contribute and answer honestly by your own lights then that is surely a good thing if others are reading and perhaps thinking about the issues raised?

I'm sometimes a little concerned that others might be investing heavily in a thread which to my own mind is not real but then I don't know whether they're really reading and thinking about the topic or whether eg any are rote only.

I think you can only report to MNHQ if something makes you edgy and then answer honestly and thoughtfully if you still want to engage with a poster or topic.

[ilovesooty]

Plenty over the past couple of days again.

[Fairenuff]

I haven't been around as much this week but I've taken to hiding threads where the OP doesn't bother to come back. Especially when they ask for advice and posters need to clarify things with them.

My TIO gets cluttered with abandoned threads otherwise.

It just seems so bad mannered, I really don't understand why they post in the first place

Unless, of course, they actually are goady fuckers who just try to wind people up and get them to argue with each other

[ilovesooty]

And it continues...

[TheOnlyOliviaMumsnet]

@ilovesooty

And it continues...

Do report any goadyfuckery and we'll get on it like Bruno Mars UPTOWN Funk

[Fairenuff]

I have. And you're not.

Still waiting for a reply to my email.

[CycleChic]

Wait, since when was sock puppetrnot allowed? I thought that was one of the founding principles of MN!

[BadgersArse]

i once went to Tesco on the famous Norwich thread and got all sorts of grief for HAVING A LIFE