'Sharenting' (posting pics/Tweets/blogs about your kids): love it or loathe it?(46 Posts)
Hello. There's an article in The Guardian today about "sharenting", suggesting that parents who blog, Tweet and share pictures about all aspects of their children's lives could be doing their children harm by crossing the boundaries between public and private life.
Would you consider yourself a "sharent"? What form does your "sharenting" take: Facebook updates? Tweets? Blogpost? And do you think folks are vastly overdramatising the dangers of your children growing up with such a huge digital footprint?
If you're not a "sharent", does other people's "sharenting" enthrall, amuse or just annoy you?
Do please share <arf> your thoughts here.
Horrible word - I think MN should leave it to wither and die instead of encouraging it.
Just bought the guardian....
I don't share photos of my dc on Facebook and only very occasionally on other social networking. Mostly because I don't want the images sold to 3rd parties and I like a bit of privacy.
I agree with the comments about lack of privacy and don't do this at all, really. I email max 4 pics a year to parents and my DSis. Neither of us do fb and I've asked close family not to put pics of fc on fb.
I think it's up to them what they want their visibility on google etc to be, not to me. Don't want future employers seeing naked in bath pics or reading my comments on his sleep patterns
I imagine though that being inhis generation he will be baffled by my stance and immediately live his whole life online as soon as he has a choice. He will probably say 'what?' and 'why?' when I tell him that I kept him off the Internet as a child.
My facebook is pretty much entirely DS. However, I'd tell anyone I met in real life about how wonderful he is too. It's not just FB. If anyone doesn't like it they can take me off their friend's list.
I have put pictures of my children on facebook, I tend to ask them if it is ok first though. I don't do it very often though.
I don't care what anyone else does.
I do post pics of my kids on Facebook but I don't have loads of 'friends' and I do see it as a keeping in touch thing. I'd never put anything inappropriate or embarassing on though. And I'm quite careful with my own online security too.
I find 99.9% of child-focused blogs excruciating. They are either smug-filled uber-mums doing lots of creative stuff
to with their kids or utterly dull normal life stuff. Also with blogs you have NO idea who is reading it which I'd find weird.
I put pictures of my children on Fb. We live in a different country from all our family. Every 6 months or so though i go through my albums on Fb and make them visible only to me. Same with my other activity, such as Status' (Stati?)
So while I have albums on there from the last 6 years, the only visible ones are ones I have done this year.
it is a good way of sharing with family and then I use it like a photo storage facility for me!
I don't mind FB scattergunning of 345 pictures of The Week That Was In Junior's Life.
But dear God and all the angels, spare me the mummy blogs.
I have said it many times, and I'll say it again, just because everyone can write, doesn't mean everyone should. And the fact that a small person came out of your nethers does not make what you have to say any more interesting than it was before this amazing event.
so shut the fuck up and get a life
And what LaundryLego said. They (mummy blogs) are generally just piss boring.
I don't see it as any different to sharing a funny/embarrassing story on the phone to a friend which I certainly remember my mum doing, she'd tell the same thing multiple times to each person she was having a catch up with. I rarely talk to my friends on the phone.
With photos, in years gone by the funny family photos would be stuck in an album and brought out at every gathering seemingly forever. On facebook etc and with smartphones there's a new funny moment every week and the photos aren't singled out, they will be forgotten in a week or two and the photos relegated to a folder with 1000s of other family photos, only to be vaguely glanced at again.
I suppose I just think it's unlikely and a bit hysterical to worry that your child's future employer might be googling them and care that they once had a tantrum in a funny place when they were 3. Plus I don't tend to mention DS in photos with his full name, just his (common) first name or "my son". And facebook is friends only so again, to me no different to telling your friends a funny story which parents have always done.
I am aware of employers that have already found pics of potential candidates they definitely wouldn't want their employer to see!
If you have an unusual name this is much more of an issue. Evie Jones growing up now will probably safe, less so Peregrine Atthersly-Smith iyswim.
I had a colleague who signed an online petition - because she has an unusual surname this still comes up when you google her and makes her views on a potentially controversial issue crystal clear. She may be fine with that, she may not.
This issue is only going to get worse when the Internet is more and more searchable by image recognition - then the search engine will be able to find the top 100 pics even if there is no name in text on them.
Oh yes, definitely. I recruit and always and me and my boss always but always do Facebook stalking first.
As Bridget Jones would say , a brown shoe there, a white sock and a Hitler moustache here, is sometimes all you need to see.
Sad, but true.
Employers are also spotting potential recruits' posts on social media.
Again, I know of a situation where a candidate called let's say, George Elliott Castleton posted about the potential employer's recruitment process under a user name something like GeoECastlet - needless to say they did not get the job.
I put photos, status updates etc about my children on Facebook. I like to see / hear about my friends' children who all live apart and I don't get to see them too often. I do sometimes find the baby ones a bit boring as babies don't really do anything. I also find the smug ones quite annoying, but don't mind a proud mum one, so long as they are balanced with the 'my child is driving me insane' ones.
On my Facebook, I gave it set so that only close friends (ie family or those with children) get to see the posts about my children. My 'acquaintances' don't as I figure it would o my bore them. I put up details of my daughters gym stuff (mostly for family to see), but also funny things my children say do, and the odd frustrated one when they annoy me. So long as they're balanced, I like to see what my friends children are doing. I am actually interested in their lives and seeing how they grow!
What does everything need a new word?
Yes, I share pictures of my son online. My family lives on the other side of the world, it's the easiest way for them to see him grow.
I don't post pictures of my youngest on FB. My oldest uses FB herself and so she might occasionally put a picture up but that only tends to be if one of her friends posts one - for example a friend just put up a video of DD doing sports. Generally we don't, to quote my DD "I can't see the point of FB" so there isn't much on there of her.
I sometimes mention them in a status but not by name. My privacy is set to be very tight and I select who will see it on a post by post basis, e.g I posted the sports video but only aunts, uncles and cousins could see it.
I hate it. I don't have an issue with Facebook, but blogs really make me uncomfortable.
Take Kelle Hampton. Three years ago her blog took off. She has thousands of followers, has had a book deal, an army of fans. And yet much as I think she's spread so much awareness of Down's it seems to have strayed into her exploiting her dcs. There is a massive group of people on various sites voicing criticism, accusing her of exploiting them (particularly because her dds are shy, she has put their address and name of their school freely online, she literally posts photos of them doing anything and everything; naked in the bath, potty training) and it's gotten ugly. You only have to go on a site like 'Get off my internets' to see the vitriol.
I keep thinking, it's not worth it. It might be lovely to share your dcs with the world but ultimately you are choosing to put them out there when as adults they might be upset that you did. Personally I'm glad my childhood memories and photographs are private and that's not even getting onto the safety issue of unsavoury people viewing the photos and access to info like schools.
I can't look at most mummy blogs in the same way now. Ok so most of them don't have the same number of followers, and often no names are used, but if you start sharing photos of your children, when do you stop? When they're 5? 10? 15? What about their privacy and their dignity?
almost as bad as the word "sharent"
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
I'm not apologetic about posting a fair number (maybe 30-50 ish a year) of pictures of ds on facebook. But he is only 2 and we live 100s or 1000s of miles from family and friends and I know they appreciate it. I also do a very occassional post about something he has said or done. But I am selective about what type of pictures/stories I share publicly.
Agree with the comment that very unique names make this more 'high risk' but the pictures are under my name not ds's and my privacy settings are high
TiredFeet, that's nothing. I have
hidden FB friends who post that quantity every sodding weekend.
I suspect no one looks at that many pictures of someone elses life thebirds
should clarify as well, I do think the word "sharent" is truly hideous!
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