Vipers' nest? Come counter our hissy rep with your stories of Mumsnet Niceness(486 Posts)
Well, it's been bit of a week, hasn't it? <understatement>
And we don't know about you but we think it's time folks outside MN knew a bit more about the lovely side of Mumsnet. All this stuff about harridans and vipers' nests kinda feels a bit lopsided to us - and is certainly making us pull on our Uggs and want to redress the balance a bit.
We're really chuffed to see such kind words about MN on Talk at the moment and also to see blogs like MmeLindor's that focus so beautifully on the "other side" of Mumsnet.
But we also want to publish, for all the world
and the odd tabloid journo to see, a kinda showcase/archive of all the Lovely & Nice Things Mumsnetters Have Done over the years. And we'd really like your help with that, please.
Obviously, we have lots of Mumsnet Loveliness in mind already: ranging from Woolly Hugs to the Christmas Appeal and including everything from the lost toy on Blackpool Pier to the small acts of kindness shown every day from one MNer to another in need of help, advice or support.
But we really want you to tell us, too, about the Lovely Things you've seen (or taken part in) on Mumsnet. Please post them here - with links to the threads if you possibly can.
We'll read them all and, when we've run out of tissues, we'll publish some of your favourites for all the world to see.
Oh, and here's a pic of (warm and lovely) nest of vipers, courtesy of the fab women behind Woolly Hugs, to kinda set the tone
What others have said - the sense of community
If you want specifics while none of mine are massively life changing in the big scheme of things they made a huge difference to me: -
The MNer who came to visit me and my new baby after we exchanged PMs about her and then introduced me round and about to everyone.
(MN as Austen-esque introductory letter )
The MNer who sent me a maternity dress to wear to a wedding when I asked what I should wear on S&B and she said "you should wear one like x, hang on, just borrow mine)
The MNer who sent me advice about how to complain about a planning application which was going to have a huge effect on us (we followed her advice and the app was rejected)
Watching the support that goes on here keeps me grounded
Plus the whole place is full of so many inspirational women whether they're posting about something as trivial as what to have for dinner, or as serious as how to leave an abusive relationship, they are all amazing and I am proud to be a MNer.
Thank you, thank you for all your posts
We will distill them all into a permanent gallery of Mumsnet Niceness and let you know when it's published.
Please bear with us, though. We have some tissue-management issues to sort out first...
Here, have these luxury Kleenex with added aloe vera to help prevent chaffing and sore noses , a and a few chocolate covered s too. xx
greengoose, Merryn is a beautiful name.
Congratulations on your pregnancy
When I joined MN I was living in limbo. My health was pretty poor; I was at home on sick leave and going through a battery of tests. I had far too much thinking time, or rather overthinking time on my hands whilst the medical bods tried to work out what was wrong with me. I discovered MN whilst googling my symptoms (I know, I know ) and what I discovered became the very thing I needed: a hotbed of humour, compassion, education and warmth.
Thankfully the bods finally found something that sorted my physical health and I found here on MN something that kept me sane, and it still does.
I have laughed, cried, shouted and sighed so many times. Sometimes all in one day.
I am constantly in awe of so many people on here: the strength, wisdom, bravery and love shared here. The enormous support shown when people need it most, often by people who face challenges and heartbreak themselves. I certainly know that what is seen on the surface of this place on the threads is only a fraction of the support that goes on, continued via PMs and things sent to folks, Woolly Hugs and quick whip rounds, etc.
I have made some very dear friends... some of them I have yet to meet
This place supported me when I needed it most. I hope to do the same.
The parenting advice I have had is great. Actual advice (and experience) from actual mums, who do not have their publisher's/health authority/etc agenda to follow. Sometimes just knowing that mine is not the only 18 month old who still wakes up in the night and mine is not the only 3 year old to hold in his poo, helps. I've met a few mn'ers, but the anonymity makes me ask for hlep far more readily than I would with people I know.
Careful HelenMumsnet-you know what we're like. You'll be buried in boxes of tissues sent in by mumsnetters by the end of today!
I had to go to Dubai a month after my first baby was born and got loads of advice and met up for a coffee with a resident MNer there.
I had a fright with some scans of my ds2 when there were abnormalities. A very lovely MNer inboxed me with support. I was so grateful for it as we hadn't spoken about it to many people in RL.
I'm always amazed by the support people on threads give and I hope, once my life becomes less chaotic, I'll be able to do the same.
I am very isolated these days. We lost dhs care so I have to be here. I found this place.
There are people here with whom I disagree, vehemently some days. Those people will often pm me to check how I am. I said I was taking a break a while back because the odd Astroturfer was getting to me. The pms I got from a good many people, some of the people with whom I regularly joust, were fabulous.
There are also the people I have to pm occasionally, just to say, I'm Aspie, am I getting it wrong. They are always met with unfailing kindness.
Thank you Mumsnetters.
I have made some incredible friends on MN, friends who help my hand through miscarriage, refluxy babies and nights alone due to my husbands job.
Friends who have virtually jiggled the baby for me, made me brews and wiped my tears.
Friends who sent me flowers and vouchers when my heart was breaking in two. Cards when RL friends floundered. Friends who sent me flowers and gifts when my DC2 was born.
On another thread, fellow Brookers who cheered and held hands through the hell of TTC.
And finally the wonderful thread in classics about AIBU for toddlers. Literally has me on the floor roaring everytime.
I have often stepped away from MN when it has got tough but I always come back.
Thank you, you know who you are.
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