i slightly disagree with that Helen, about reporting and personal attacks
recently i had an 'altercation' with a MNer, and we sorted it out on thread - no harm done.
Until some nosey twat decided to report us both and with the deletions it is left looking like it was a nasty spat.
Ok, well, in that situation, although it was, technically, correct to delete the personal attacks, we would like to think the MNHQer on duty would have had time to see that you and the other MNer had made up on the thread and apologised to each other - and we could then have pointed out to the nosey twat reporter that peace and love had broken on, so all was well.
I used to post on a forum that imploded due to similar circumstances. It wasn't fun. It's still referred to as the Night of a Thousand Knives, as so many people were deleted and banned for what was, really, no reason.
I am not sure what 'mouldies' are - I am assuming people who have been her e along time?
I'm being lazy & copying what I said on another thread, with regard to regulars/oldies/mouldies:
" I am new to MN & love the fact that it has 'regulars' who I quickly learnt to recognise.
This isn't the only forum I use and the other two or so all have oldies/regulars & that's why I like them. You can realise the 'tone' of the place so much more easily than if it's just a bunch of randoms posting.
One forum I use I've been on for nearly ten years as have a few others. We get the odd accusations of 'clique' but also a fresh intake who understand that we have 'known' each other a long time & shared much.
It's what makes for a good forum, IMHO."
Any forum you join you have to tread water for a bit whilst you see what the place is like.
And this is bigger than the telling off email of today (I appreciate you have apologised etc), the reason I am harping on is because I think there is a real danger of the whole tone of the site changing and us all being driven off.