The SN:Children topic has been an absolute life-line to me since my DD was suddenly diagnosed with significant SN at 2 years 9 months. She's now 7 years 3 months, so I have been posting there 4½ years now.
For many of us there, it is a place where we can share our deepest fears for our children, our most hideous experiences and our darkest journeys. As well as cake, chat and frivolity, of course.
I'm sure you didn't expect that topic to be so widely used, nor so powerful when you created it. I know there were issues around inadvertent offence when posters stumbled across threads in Active Convos and posted as if the child were NT. You made the topic 'opt in' for that reason.
Recently, we have had a surge of posters who have no intention of sharing the community we have created. No intention of giving and taking support as the opportunity arises. They are simply there to 'educate' us. To raise the subject of their agenda.
Please could you define the purpose of the board in the top intro thingy <technical term> which would make clear that SN: Children is a topic for supporting people who care for children with SN, not a topic to harass the parents who are already tired, downtrodden and vulnerable?
I agree there should be more definition to what the various boards are for. I think a lot of it is to do with the AIBU attitude creeping across all topics.
There should be a defined difference between the "support" boards and the "chat" boards - maybe instead of the current multiple SN boards they should have SN Support and SN Discussion. That way anyone who wants to discuss issues can, and anyone who really is sick to the back teeth of trying to educate the entire world can hide the "discussion" topic.
I also think that stickying threads in topics would be a good idea - so there could be a general SN Supportive Chat thread stickied at the top of the topic - and probably a SN Teens and SN Adult Children, for example. Instead of separate topics that are empty.
no no Devient, of course not. You post where you feel comfortable
These ''new'' posters, with their agendas, gracelessly crashing around with no thought for the actual SECTION they are posting in, need signposting to more appropriate areas of MN. I am totally not saying the folk who use SN:Children are to do the signposting because we left behind a LONG time ago, the idea that posters should educate and illuminate ignorant others about disability, special needs and so on. What I am saying is, flag up to MNHQ and let them shuffle the posters on.
Prob not explaining self very well. feel free to tell me to bog orf.
I don't think MNHQ would move a thread that happened to be about sn to the sn boards, without asking the op.
Isn't this about the fact that there seems to be a few posters appearing on the sn boards who only ever talk about one particular issue, in an almost accusatory fashion, which seems to go against the idea of support, advice and friendship that the sn boards usually engender.
BeerTricksPotter, true...but if MNHQ have defined the topic in top intro thingy <technical term> then all we have to do when reporting is say 'contrary to the top intro thingy <technical term>', and it gets deleted pronto.
If it isn't defined, we have to go to great lengths to justify our outrage dislike of the thread and why.
It still is opt in isn't it? Or it ius on my settings,
I know the thread you are referring to, I read it, raised my eye brows and backed away quickly.
My children do not have sen's and I have learn a lot through the sen boards and some posters who I know through them. They are an invaluable place of support and advice and they shouldn't be being abused by some posters.