Defining the purpose of SN:Children

(34 Posts)
lougle Sat 02-Mar-13 22:29:09

Hi MNHQ

The SN:Children topic has been an absolute life-line to me since my DD was suddenly diagnosed with significant SN at 2 years 9 months. She's now 7 years 3 months, so I have been posting there 4½ years now.

For many of us there, it is a place where we can share our deepest fears for our children, our most hideous experiences and our darkest journeys. As well as cake, chat and frivolity, of course.

I'm sure you didn't expect that topic to be so widely used, nor so powerful when you created it. I know there were issues around inadvertent offence when posters stumbled across threads in Active Convos and posted as if the child were NT. You made the topic 'opt in' for that reason.

Recently, we have had a surge of posters who have no intention of sharing the community we have created. No intention of giving and taking support as the opportunity arises. They are simply there to 'educate' us. To raise the subject of their agenda.

Please could you define the purpose of the board in the top intro thingy <technical term> which would make clear that SN: Children is a topic for supporting people who care for children with SN, not a topic to harass the parents who are already tired, downtrodden and vulnerable?

It's kind of like shooting fish in a barrel sad

PolterGoose Sun 03-Mar-13 00:00:35

The opt-in thing is a bit of a red herring, anyone on MN can use the SN topics, just that you have to opt in to have SN topics show on 'your' Active Convos.

Icedcakeandflower Sun 03-Mar-13 07:08:44

I think the posters are looking for publicity, and are best ignored. Or hide the thread. Then report.

By posting on the thread, and it was at 12 pages last time I looked, their agenda zooms up on websearch results.

Maryz Sun 03-Mar-13 07:32:07

I agree there should be more definition to what the various boards are for. I think a lot of it is to do with the AIBU attitude creeping across all topics.

There should be a defined difference between the "support" boards and the "chat" boards - maybe instead of the current multiple SN boards they should have SN Support and SN Discussion. That way anyone who wants to discuss issues can, and anyone who really is sick to the back teeth of trying to educate the entire world can hide the "discussion" topic.

I also think that stickying threads in topics would be a good idea - so there could be a general SN Supportive Chat thread stickied at the top of the topic - and probably a SN Teens and SN Adult Children, for example. Instead of separate topics that are empty.

lougle Sun 03-Mar-13 07:44:24

Nice idea.

Maryz Sun 03-Mar-13 09:26:09

Lougle, have you reported that poster, btw? Because that post is in multiple topics and she is also being a bit odd on another post.

I presume she is a name-changer and knows the SN topic well, so mnhq should know who she is?

It's all very odd. And goady.

lougle Sun 03-Mar-13 09:29:52

Yes, Rowan said they were taking a look, but it's gone quiet from mnhq now...takes time I guess.

Maryz Sun 03-Mar-13 09:31:54

Yeah, and they are snowed under with spam - and by the looks of it aren't up yet, as all the spammy posts are still there.

Maryz Sun 03-Mar-13 09:58:02

Ok, it's gone now.

lougle, I have pm'ed you. I hope that's ok

lougle Sun 03-Mar-13 10:02:21

Thanks Maryz smile

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