Good morning HQ, how are you all today? I've had another of my ideas re. Aibu

(28 Posts)
Mintyy Fri 23-Nov-12 11:07:54

How about renaming the whole topic

Petty Gripes

?

I think that would stop people from posting chat or serious questions in the aibu topic, and petty gripes pretty accurately describes the rest of what is left in there.

Then I could hide Petty Gripes without the nagging fear that I might miss something interesting or helpful because people will not give a bit of thought to where they put their questions.

What say you?

thanks

NulliusInBlurba Sat 24-Nov-12 21:21:44

In fact, the AIBU I posted was really a petty gripe and nothing more, so petty gripes would have been the perfect title for it...

NulliusInBlurba Sat 24-Nov-12 21:20:46

OK, I'll believe you grin

Naa, acksherly it was pretty clear at the time it was all ironically meant.

It was actually I think the only time I HAVE posted an AIBU, and it was something I wasn't too bothered about one way or the other, so it didn't trouble me too greatly to hear that result (and it really was a split result - not one of these unanimous 300 people saying 'you're a loon' type of things).

MrsGeologist Sat 24-Nov-12 21:19:05

There needs to be an adequate holding pen for posters that use AIBU as an excuse to abandon common politeness and decency at the door.

Can mostly be heard defensively sqawking, 'but they posted in AIBU, they should expect a verbal kicking.'

I'd like AIBU to become Petty Gripes. Then I could hide it, safe in the knowledge that I'm missing nothing exciting.

Maryz Sat 24-Nov-12 21:11:07

Not at all Nullius, I was acksherly (probably) congratulating you on being so sensible.

I have a huge amount of admiration for people who ask "AIBU?" when they really want to know.

Of course, if I ever post an AIBU I make sure I'm right. I couldn't take the embarrassment of a pasting.

NulliusInBlurba Sat 24-Nov-12 21:08:40

Maryz - I'd like to remind you that I once posted an AIBU question because I genuinely wanted to know whether a particular activity by my SIL was acceptable, got a two-thirds opinion that it was fine and what was I bleating about, of course IWBU etc, so I said 'fair enough, good to know', and your response was essentially 'you're no fun accepting our opinion, you're meant to flounce off now'. So could it really be, Maryz, that you engage with IABU because you're really looking for a bunfight and are not interested in the second option at all? <narrows eyes accusingly in mock disgust> grin

Maryz Sat 24-Nov-12 20:56:05

I still want to divide it into

"I am a wanker and I know I'm right"

and

"I really want opinions"

With a button that posters can press to move threads from one topic to the other if someone posts in the second option and is a wanker.

BlameItOnTheCuervHoHoHo Fri 23-Nov-12 13:36:25

There could be a special link to flouncers corner!

Lougle Fri 23-Nov-12 13:17:36

Then you'd need another topic called 'My gripe is so not petty!!'

FivesAndNorks Fri 23-Nov-12 13:12:40

What about yes yabu and dfotal?

SuePurblybiltbyElves Fri 23-Nov-12 13:09:53

What if we made AIBU poll only? So AIBU then three tick boxes - Yes YABU, No YANBU and Do Fuck Off, there's a Lamb.
No bunfights, no drama. Just lovely statistical answers.

IAmSoFuckingRock Fri 23-Nov-12 12:40:59

oh yes a kick poster button would be great.

IAmSoFuckingRock Fri 23-Nov-12 12:39:13

we need 'petty gripes' and then 'response to petty gripes from the other party who was informed at the school gate that she was being griped about' wink

greenhill Fri 23-Nov-12 12:32:30

What about 'petty gripes (beware verbiage)' as a topic?

That way we won't spend 5 minutes ploughing through incomprehensible nonsense and bad spelling / punctuation...sadly only pedants, like me, will know what verbiage means <sigh>
I like the 'kick poster' option when I'm in a bad mood <see ^^ for causes>

I'm on the fence about 'hide poster' while it will improve my BP I do have the option of switching of MN for a few hours...

FivesAndNorks Fri 23-Nov-12 12:30:11

Mine should be "Is my shaggy dog being unreasonable?"

DowagersHump Fri 23-Nov-12 12:30:11

I think it should be more panto-themed. So AIBU (oh yes you are, oh no I'm not, etc)

There should be a whole topic just for 'who is BU, me or MIL?'

e.g 'My MIL looks after my dc for free 5 days a week so I can work, but yesterday she gave the 10 month old a chocolate finger. aibu to kill her and bury her under the patio?'

I like it slightly the other way around. "Petty Gripes for Arsewipes"
That way it covers both the content and a good chunk of the responders.

BlameItOnTheCuervHoHoHo Fri 23-Nov-12 12:23:26

How about "kick anyone who disagrees with you"?

FivesAndNorks Fri 23-Nov-12 12:17:58

You need "Petty gripes that go on and on in an immense OP with no paragraphs and little punctuation, and you get to the end and still don't get it"..
Needs a snappier name hough

SuePurblybiltbyElves Fri 23-Nov-12 11:29:33

I agree that the AIBU phrasing encourages eejits posters to put AIBU to think something banal or AIBU to ask a question that should be in Chat.

Let's call it Arsewipes and Petty Gripes.

Mintyy Fri 23-Nov-12 11:26:16

"Petty gripes that you must agree with op on"

"petty gripes that nevertheless take one immense paragraph to describe"

"petty gripes where op doesn't come back"

See? There's room for lots of little sub-topics.

Sorry to hear about the Major Gripes Helen brew and a biscuit for you.

'Please be aware your petty gripes may attract vicious and unnecessarily cruel responses from other posters and usually you are the wrongdoer in most people's opinion. Petty gripes is not a fight club, but there will be arguments and swears.'

CarpeJugulum Fri 23-Nov-12 11:21:03

Ooooh Oooh Oooh!

"petty gripes that have been done to death" aka P&C, BF v FF etc.

And don't forget 'Not really a petty gripe but I fancy a bunfight'. grin

Actually quite a good idea though Mintyy!

Also, what about
"Petty gripes that are really reverse petty gripes"

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