netiquette question

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Is it ok to post about miscarriage on your due in thread? Its happening right now .

[Furball]

Well, I suppose not, but you do need help and support. You poor thing - are you on your own?

[startingtobehalloweenylover]

i absolutely would not have minded anyone posting that on my due thread!

how far gone are you?

[startingtobehalloweenylover]

the thread is there to support you.... and i am sure everone who knows you there will want to help...

if you don't want to then start a new thread... or post here

[meggymoo]

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[QueenVictoria]

No one will criticise you at all

[PrettyCandles]

Thanks everyone. I don't know what I'm trying to hide or why I changed my name. I don't want to upset the others on my thread, some of them have had miscarriages and are so veyr hopeful this time.

I'm not alone (though it feels like it).

Thanks again.

[startingtobehalloweenylover]

if they have experienced it themselves I am sure they won't mind at all if you post it on the thread

i have m/c myself and know how awful it is

[PrettyCandles]

I wish we hadn't announced ityet - then we wouldn't have to tell people now. I'm only 7 weeks. Never thought it would be so upsetting this early.

[meggymoo]

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[startingtobehalloweenylover]

oh PC... i m/c at around the same time, early last year.
it hurts, even that early... i really feel for you.

in some ways it's almost worse because people tend to think that it's better for you being so early... when all you want is to cry and cry

[PrettyCandles]

Actually, I feel numb. I only cry when I go to the loo. How long will it go on? Like an ordinary period?

[startingtobehalloweenylover]

i think mine was a bit longer.. but not much.
just felt so helpless.. i wanted to do something to stop it.

i fell pregnant again a couple of months after, and didn't tell anyone until i had my first scan... i now have a baby boy!

so there is light at the end of the tunnel, even though it feels so terrible.
and although it's a cliche, time really is a great healer

[PrettyCandles]

Thank you for your kkind words. Don't worry that I don't post any more tonight. I'm going to be with dh, who is utterly gutted. I think I'm finding it easier to be philosophical agout it.

[startingtobehalloweenylover]

ok... take care

[meggymoo]

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[lisalisa]

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[Prettybird]

Prettycandles - I am sorry to hear your news. You were due round about the same time as me. If it is any consolation, I am still not leeting myself believe that I am "really" pregnant: a combination of still not "feeling" pregnant and having has a missed miscarriage last time around (only discovered at 11 week scan/CVS appointment). And like you, I know age is against me. I am therefore very wary of getting my hopes up.

Anyway, lots of {{{{{Hugs}}}}} and look after yourself. And you never know, it might be the happy ending that happened to Lisalisa.

[PrettyCandles]

Thank G for grandmothers!

We went to the hospital this am I chose not to be scanned because I didn't want to be led towards a D&C. I'd much rather let things take their course and only intervene if it becomes medically necessary. I believe the pg is over though, because I have no more morning sickness.

At least I have now had a good talk with a nurse practitioner who has explained what is happeneing and what to look out for. I've told my family and now it is just a matter of it finishing.

I accept it.

[LadySherlockofLGJ]

LisaLisa


That made me cry.

[Lonelymum]

Lisalisa, I had the same thing as you with my fourth pg. I so remember those tears I cried when we were shown our baby. I don't think I will ever cry like that again.

I am so sorry for your loss PrettyCandles. Be kind to one another . You deserve it.

[Enid]

pretty candles, sorry to hear this x E