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Has anyone ever been to one of those organised adult sex parties?

41 replies

LaBette001 · 29/07/2015 19:06

If so - was it ok?
I'm kind of interested - but worried that it might feel less fun and more seedy? Is it full of prostitutes and pervs or full of average couples interested in experimenting?
Is it ok to just observe or is full sex expected? What happens?

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LaBette001 · 29/07/2015 19:08

Oh yeah - and what do people wear?!?!?

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Dadof2wo · 29/07/2015 21:24

Do you mean a swingers party?
I have no experience but know people who have. They dont always take part if they dont feel like it or pretty much dont find anyone attractive.

WallyBantersJunkBox · 29/07/2015 21:30

Do you mean like Killing Kittens?

SylvanianCaliphate · 29/07/2015 21:35

There is a sex club in Sheffield called la Chambre that caters for couples.

I've never been but I'm assured by the chip shop man it's great Hmm

Frostycake · 29/07/2015 21:57

I know a manwho takes each of his girlfriends to one in London. Dont think they ever join in, they just wander from room to room watching. Wear whatever you like. Friend has a fetching line in pinstripe and leather suits. No idea if that's a thing or not.

LaBette001 · 29/07/2015 22:25

Yes Killing Kittens is the one I read about, I'd forgotten the name.

But seriously do people just turn up in their best outfits or is a more, ahem, dramatic look required?

Seriously has no one else ever considered going to one and had similar questions?! Am I so odd ? Grin

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LaBette001 · 29/07/2015 22:26

Frosty - the very fact that he takes each of his girlfriends to one sounds like cause for concern!

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StickyMessi · 29/07/2015 22:38

Are the school holidays still on

WallyBantersJunkBox · 30/07/2015 00:06

Can't message here unless you're a regular sticki.

Generally a free space to ask about any sexual question without fear of judgement and reprisal. Unless you want to do some rimming of course.

Yes I've been to an organised party. You are free to do as much or as little as you like.

paintedfences · 30/07/2015 00:16

Friend has a fetching line in pinstripe and leather suits.

Hah - I think I've met him!

LaBette001 · 30/07/2015 07:06

Thanks Wally - was is a good experience in your view?

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WallyBantersJunkBox · 30/07/2015 08:15

For me no. But it wasn't killing kittens and was a private party I was invited to.

All was going well, guys were polite, watching me with a woman, stroking affectionate etc. I was giving her oral and a guy came up behind me and just point blank tried to penetrate me anally unprotected and uninvited.

He pretended not to understand and was asked to leave. Got quite nasty.

The other guys were lovely but it really shook me up.

Hopefully those parties are a little better policed. I think they are more female centric too.

LaBette001 · 30/07/2015 08:21

Bloody hell..... Flowers that's awful.

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PollyIndia · 30/07/2015 11:28

No, but I went to Oxford and they used to have a sex party there once a year, although it was most raunchy in my first year. You'd get bussed in S&M gear out to some barn in a cotswold village, dance until dawn with people shagging around you. Actually it was a lot of fun especially for a naive comprehensive girl from a small town in wales.

PollyIndia · 30/07/2015 11:28

WallyBanters, that is awful

WallyBantersJunkBox · 30/07/2015 12:15

Polly I'm also a naive working class Welsh girl Grin

WallyBantersJunkBox · 30/07/2015 12:15

Not so naive anymore Shock

Frostycake · 30/07/2015 18:11

PaintedFences Does his name begin with 'M' and his nickname begins with B? If so, you have my sympathy Grin

paintedfences · 30/07/2015 20:26

Frostycake Ah it was about 5 years ago at this utterly HORRENDOUS massive kink night in London - he was a nice guy, we chatted for ages about this and that but mostly about how he'd decided to dress vintage style (avec Panama hat) all the time and how his small town he grew up in gave him the side-eye every time he went home. Think he ws early/mid thirties, good looking with brown hair and tall, but could have been anyone really!

paintedfences · 30/07/2015 20:28

To answer OP, the above horrendous thing was a huge event in central london and was bad. :( You were allowed to have full sex etc and it was just creepy and I didn't like it, coming from just attending small, well-run kinky events where only spanking etc was allowed.

I've heard good things about Torture Garden in London, if you fancy a kinky night out?

HelenaDove · 31/07/2015 00:02

From what ive read about Killing Kittens its only "beautiful and rich people" allowed. Hmm

WallyBantersJunkBox · 31/07/2015 06:27

Not rich, professional or interesting, Helena.

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LaBette001 · 31/07/2015 07:55

That's one of the things that worries me. If it is just beautiful and rich people (and we were allowed through the door) it would be crap to be the ugliest ones there... Or on the flip side it's really an event for old pervs trying to get lucky.

Would just love to find a safe space to very tentatively explore our sexuality as a couple without feeling pressurised into anything .... Sounds like these events are not quite the right forum

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LaBette001 · 31/07/2015 07:56

Torture Garden could be good though - thanks!

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WallyBantersJunkBox · 31/07/2015 11:45

Have you tried AdultHub op?

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