Anyone's child/ren going on their year 7 induction day tomorrow?

(76 Posts)
NotEnoughTime Mon 01-Jul-13 15:59:31

If so, how do they feel about it?

forehead Mon 01-Jul-13 16:01:43

My daughter is excited. I am surprised as she is quite shy.

NotEnoughTime Mon 01-Jul-13 16:20:35

That's good forehead. Are there many others from her current school going too?

My son is really excited about going to his new school tomorrow well he is excited about the canteen

Yep my wee laddie is he's looking forward to it, calling for one friend who is meeting another then walking up together.

Why won't he let me take him!? He needs meeeeeeee!


MadeOfStarDust Mon 01-Jul-13 16:25:06

Our local secondary "disovery days" are one school on Wed and another on Thur - my dd is Thursday and very excited... When we go pick them up, we have a parent's meeting and meet the tutor session - so it will be a long day for them...

NotEnoughTime Mon 01-Jul-13 16:27:03

Its great that all the children are looking forward to it. Its a big day for them and us too

LostInWales Mon 01-Jul-13 16:28:43

DS2 is in his pre year 7 week at his secondary school. I think today was a good day because his year 8 brother let him hang out with him at break time and all the impossibly leggy pretty (I don't remember being anything like the current teen girls) year 8 girls were hugging him and telling him he was cute. grin

Dd is going tomorrow for an "Art" day. Next week is induction day. She's been to the school before for activity days, they do them fairly often for year 5/6 so she isn't fussed. Next week they find out what class they are in and things like that, so a bit more of a big deal.

SonorousBip Mon 01-Jul-13 17:09:52

Forget them, I've got the parents' one tonight. Eeek!

I am not joking that I thought the teacher who was co ordinating the interviews was one of the 6th formers.

The head is quite dynamic, so I suspect the format will be - warm glass of white wine; rousing and inspiring speech from the head; meeting with 12 year old form teacher; nervous, first date style smiling at other parents in same boat. smile.

LostInWales Mon 01-Jul-13 17:18:07

I can't get used to never going to the school or meeting other parents (apart from the once yearly bunfight parent teacher meetings where you have to display impressive team tactics to see all the teachers whilst 180 other sets of parents try to do the same thing)

DS2 is really looking forward to going, they change so much in year 6, suddenly seem too grown up for primary school.

gerbilsarefun Mon 01-Jul-13 19:59:38

My dd2 went last week and really enjoyed it. She made a new friend in her form, and one of her friends overheard some boys saying my dd was the one they would like to go out with eek!!. SonorousBip I thought exactly the same when I went for my eldest dd's parents meeting at her new school. There was a row of people sat at the front of the hall, and I did wonder why the 6th form were there. Of course they were the new form tutors. grin

Ours is next week. DS2 has been doing a transition programme at the secondary school with ten other boys with additional needs, and he is enjoying it and coping well. Not sure how he's going to manage next Thursday when there are 190 boys who are going into Y7.

LostInWales Mon 01-Jul-13 20:14:38

ThreeBee my DS1 is SEN I was petrified when he went up because he hates crowds and noise so with 180 children per year I thought he would melt down but he's really got to grips with it and is doing well now. He was in a transition programme that carried on throughout the first year of secondary and it was brilliant.

Thanks LostInWales, that's reassuring. DS2 will probably be fine, and I'll be the one who finds it hard to cope.

cardibach Mon 01-Jul-13 20:53:44

Our school's is Thursday. I am one of the Form Tutors. You would not mistake me for a 12 year old, so at least I am contributing something to making new parents feel comfortable! Some of our Sixth Form will be at the evening meet-the-teacher bbq, though. They are often used as ambassadors.

Bunbaker Mon 01-Jul-13 21:01:44

" warm glass of white wine; rousing and inspiring speech from the head; meeting with 12 year old form teacher; nervous, first date style smiling at other parents in same boat."

You get wine!!!. We got nothing. at. all.

Ilovegeorgeclooney Mon 01-Jul-13 21:19:36

Well ours were in today. It is amazing how by Break you start to see the real personalities! One boy decided to square up to a prefect because he was told not to jump the queue. It was hilarious as the prefect, under strict instructions, explained to the bemused child that 'our Christian ethos' meant we do not push in. The poor child slunk to the back. However it is amazing how much information you get from these days for seating plans etc. The 'characters' don't take long to emerge.

NaturalBlondeYeahRight Mon 01-Jul-13 22:29:08

Can I join? Just had dd crying for an hour because its this Thursday and she's the only one going from primary. My heart was breaking for her even though I was calm and reassuring sad
Her older sister goes but she is convinced that they will all ignore her on the bus and no one will eat with her at lunch. Never seen her like it. It better be amazing on Thursday....,,

SonorousBip Mon 01-Jul-13 23:38:44

Ooh, I was right. Yy to warm white wine (and crisps! I love it already!)

Rousing speech from the head - tick. Trying our best, being nice, contribution in all areas, a partnership, integrity - tick, tick, tick. Nice, firm but fair, been round the block, head of y7 - tick. Actually, a really strong emphasis (and bearing in mind this is a pretty selective London day school much liked on MN) on kindness and integrity.

Form teacher? Literally, 12- maybe 13. Firm, knowledgeable and extremely pretty. Ds said she was "nice" and DH was much more complimentary. smile

Clary Mon 01-Jul-13 23:53:27

Induction at the school I work at is tomorrow and Weds.

I am going to be a yr 7 tutor and I am very excited to meet my new form grin so hoping they are all excted too!

(I will be astounded if anyone thinks I am a 6th former tho grin)

Mrsrobertduvall Tue 02-Jul-13 07:41:14

We serve chilled white wine and nibbles at ours grin

No one has mentioned the pitch to the parents about 'voluntary' contributions. grin

Maybe it's just the schools around here...

NotEnoughTime Tue 02-Jul-13 10:57:55

Well, my DS went off this morning for his induction day very nervous but happy. He was awake at 6.30am raring to go lets see how long that lasts

Good luck to them all, hope they have a great day smile

mumslife Tue 02-Jul-13 12:14:21

yes to the characters emerging quickly boy from sons school known troublemaker already been threatened with being reported to year head and thats on feeder day yikes!Tried to bully my son and my son promptly reported him to prefects

Lancelottie Tue 02-Jul-13 12:19:41

DD has hers tomorrow and I can't find any of the info about it. She's the only one going from her primary so no one to crib off.

Thanks for the reminder.

<bad parent of Precious Last Born here>

xyx Tue 02-Jul-13 20:17:22

Snap Lancelottie, blaming dh but should have sorted it myself as dd is going tomorrow! Website no help, just says 'all day'. Assume she has to wear usual school uniform but no idea about lunch, pens, etc. what an idiot I am!!

LackaDAISYcal Tue 02-Jul-13 20:24:31

My DS has his this coming Thursday. Several of his best mates are going up too, so he is feeling wuite optimistic and excited about it. This is not a usual state of affairs for him, so we are quite surprised. then the parents have their induction evening the same night.

I'm now hoping for warm wine and crisps smile

Lancelottie Tue 02-Jul-13 20:27:21

Found the info pack. 'School uniform is not compulsory but please wear practical clothing and not high fashion'

Aargh. DD does 'school' or 'scruff' or both at once.

Hulababy Tue 02-Jul-13 20:28:50

DD went for hers last Wednesday and loved it. They did a full day of "lessons" with their new forms. DD is in a class with 3 other girls from her current class, and there are 7 in total from her current class going up. Despite being really sad about leaving her current school, she was/is looking forward to her next one too. They came out buzzing with excitement. Off to get her uniform next Monday evening.

Marmitelover55 Tue 02-Jul-13 20:40:48

DD1 did hers last week and gave it 9/10. The dropped mark being because they were told not to put their elbows on the table and to sit up straight at lunchtime grin

We went for our indoctrination in the evening, but no wine was in sight - just elderflower or water, and biscuits rather than crips. The summer fair was a dry affair too - not a Pimms in sight - I'm definitely going to miss primary school even if DD1 says she isn't...

wineoclocktimeyet Tue 02-Jul-13 21:02:14

DS went today, only one from his primary so he and his mum were a little nervous....

Came out with a massive grin and hasnt stopped talking about and bbm'ing his new friends

Huge sigh of relief from mum!

BackforGood Tue 02-Jul-13 23:30:40

dd is going tomorrow (Wed). She's quite excited and a little bit nervous and I think also a little bit sad at the thought of leaving the Juniors, where she has absolutely LOVED attending. smile

Picturesinthefirelight Tue 02-Jul-13 23:36:04

Dd went for hers last week. She had a wonderful day. A full day of lessons , English , drama, ballet, RS & French. She loved the food then we kitted her out in uniform and dance wear.

The rest of her current school have their induction day tomorrow. She's going to be one if the only if not the only ye 6 child in school tomorrow!

Tommy Tue 02-Jul-13 23:39:57

DS1 going for his tomorrow - but I work there so I'll be able to keep my eye on him..... wink

Tiggles Wed 03-Jul-13 10:32:31

DS1 has been going to his all this week. I was a nervous wreck on Monday (he has Aspergers) but he has absolutely loved it. Even came home buzzing about how well he did in the maths test! I think they are getting a taster of every lesson - he's even done food tech and needs sports kit tomorrow.

Ahh, I started a little thread on this this morning (over in Chat - where NotEnoughTime kindly pointed me over here for good company smile) - as DS just gone off for his visit today. I left him heading off into the sunset - well round a corner across the quad - with his big sister's arm around his shoulder grin
Ahh, they looked so sweet !
And she promised to take him to the right place and look after him at lunch time when they have a BBQ to look forward to.

Will come out this afternoon telling me who's in his new class (I hope!)
and probably clutching a photo of said class taken on the steps (if it's the same as was for dd) Picture will take pride of place on kitchen wall for rest of the summer !

Thanks to this thread I've just remembered there's a "do" for parents tonight as well.
God bless Mumsnet - what would I do without you !
Oh, and Precious Last Born here too, so I know where you're coming from Lancelottie (IIRC) smile

How did your DS get on yesterday NotEnoughTime ?
Hope everything was good smile

NowIncognito Wed 03-Jul-13 12:27:37

My daughter is at hers today. This morning was the first time she's shown any excitement about secondary school, mainly because she was excited about walking there with her friends, without me (normally walks to primary school accompanied by me plus younger sister, although sometimes on her own).

I know this whole transition isn't about me, but I'm really dreading the next few weeks....all the tear-jerking leavers' service/assembly things feel like huge ordeals, and she is doing a small solo in the year 6 play/musical next week which I'm sure will have me blubbing away (got a lump in my throat just thinking about it). Plus the fact that in-laws are descending to stay for a few days so they can watch the musical, so will somehow have to do a massive clean/plan nice meals etc in the midst of a v hectic work schedule. Might need some hand-holding I suspect!

(Sorry for whinging)

Hey, it's just the next step on their great adventure of life Incognito

No sweat !

< dabs eyes - pollen count is very high just now isn't it ! >

In-laws coming to stay mind you - I'd be crying real tears !!

NowIncognito Wed 03-Jul-13 12:37:06

Thanks juggling - yes I realise I should be glad that she is progressing in life, and concentrate on all the opportunities available to her at secondary! But you're right, it's really the in-law visit which has felt like the last straw smile

Ahh, it's nice they want to come and see dd doing her solo in the end of year musical though. My parents have been up sometimes to see the DCs in things and the DCs really like that - does make it more of an occasion
as well as more of a hassle grin

loveinthemist Wed 03-Jul-13 13:02:15

My eldest DS's is next week followed by a meeting for parents in the evening. This will be his third full day at the Secondary School as they did a Year 5 Induction Day last year and then an optional 'Arts' over Whitsun Half Term.

He's looking forward to it and is definitely very ready to move on from primary school. I'm sure the nerves will kick in a bit in September!

NotEnoughTime Wed 03-Jul-13 14:12:14

Hi again Juggling, my DS had a fantastic day yesterday, thank you. He was full of enthusiasm and excitement which I rarely see these days so Im very pleased.

NowIncognito, I know exactly how you feel. It very hard at the moment for us. Of course we are looking forward to the next chapter in our DC's lives but it is also quite difficult to let go of our "babies" on to the next stage. now you have started me off again

Ahh, I hope my DS comes out with some enthusiasm and has been having a good day too NotEnough - will be picking him up soon - then have our evening parents "do" to go to ....

A looooonnnngg talk about the uniform which is eventually rewarded with a glass of wine and chat with other parents in the pleasant quad grin

LittenTree Wed 03-Jul-13 14:57:49

A year hence- I have DS2 eyerolling that it's Intake Day today so the place will apparently be crawling with 'little kids'; all announced from the lofty heights of the end of Y7, aged 12 and 2 months. grin

LostInWales Wed 03-Jul-13 16:43:48

I have the wonderful side effect that DS1 and DS2 are now the best friends ever after DS2 proved a hit with the year 8's (he is funny, very good at football and according to the girls 'cute') and DS1 is getting to bask in the reflected glory of being his brother. It is utterly freaky seeing them talking together and grinning at each other after 11 years of fighting like cat and dog. Long may it last. probably until DS2 steals the girl DS1 has been gazing at for years but is too shy to talk to

LostInWales Wed 03-Jul-13 16:44:54

I love how grown up they suddenly are after a year in secondary Litten to be fair I bet the year 6's do look like little children compared to the ancient 12 year olds grin.

b1uesky Wed 03-Jul-13 17:03:01

Lancelottie, I know how you feel ! dd is the only one going from her primary and she doesn't know anyone at her new school. This morning I felt so guilty when I saw some of her friends walking to the comprehensive up the road for their induction day. They all looked so happy and excited whilst dd just looked apprehensive and sad. Luckily the day didn't go too badly, she made friends with few of the girls. How did it go with your DD ? I hope she had a good day as well.

LittenTree Wed 03-Jul-13 18:40:20

I think DS2's transition (he's the eyeroller, upthread at the end of Y7!) was made waaay easier by having a DB 2 years older. He too was considered 'Cute!' and 'Sweet!' by the Y9s, esp the girls, when DS1 'introduced' him to them!

Clary Thu 04-Jul-13 00:36:18

Well I can confirm no wine at our parents' do this pm, tho one of the tech teachers did speak of it ... clearly a joke then.

My best moment was when my form left, after 2 days, today at 3.30, one of them said "See you tomorrow miss" bless him, sadly not till September! Glad they felt at home already grin

Ahh, that's sweet Clary

We got wine at our "do" smile

Quite a lot of parents there I knew - some from DS's toddler days, others parents of DD's friends - and with some had slightly forgotten they had a child in same year as DS, and what said child's name was blush

I was more on the ball with PFB ! Poor old straggling along PLB grin

MadeOfStarDust Thu 04-Jul-13 12:34:35

my youngest is at hers today - it was so funny - the look on her face when she was dropped at the gate with her friend and some Y9s who are there as guides asked:

"Do you little ones know where you are going?"

hahahahahaha - made them realise they are back to being "little ones" instead of the big Y6es

Lancelottie Thu 04-Jul-13 13:11:05

Stardust, that's so cute!

DD is rather subdued about it all as she doesn't know anyone in her year yet. DS is already there, though (moved schools in yr 8), and having said he was never going to admit to anyone that he even had a sister, apparently pointed excitedly through the window and told his entire geography class that 'that was his little sister in that queue there' and half of them went 'Aaaaaaawwwwww'.

Given that DD at 11 is bigger than most of DS's friends at 14, she was a bit surprised to be thought of as small and sweet!

BackforGood Thu 04-Jul-13 14:36:45

Well my dd managed to make her mark - had a nosebleed and had to go out of class...... HofY knows who she is now, when I spoke to form tutor at the evening meeting, she immediately knew who dd is..... grin

NaturalBlondeYeahRight Thu 04-Jul-13 16:51:21

Oh dear, didn't go very well for my plb. She is the only one going from primary too and came home upset again- I was really hoping induction would get her excited. Now what do I do? All I can think off is positive vibes and 'it will be fine' chats. wine

grants1000 Thu 04-Jul-13 17:50:31

Mine goes off on a 2 day 1 night residential next week to meet new classmates, he will be will quite a few of his primary mates too. Plus a full day the week after.

The school is one street away and I am worried out him walking up the road alone and serioulsy need to get a grip. grin

AChickenCalledKorma Thu 04-Jul-13 18:54:19

NaturalBlonde - it's hard isn't it. DD1 didn't enjoy hers much, despite the fact she is going with several friends. She felt very small (to be honest, she is very small!) and lots of her school friends immediately made new friends and left her languishing on her own sad. I know she'll get there and it will all be fine in the end, but it's feeling like it's going to be a long summer holiday when she'll not feel much like looking forward to the start of term.

On the bright side, her form tutor is a nice, respectable-looking middle aged lady - no 12 year olds in sight grin.

And the PTA fundraising appeal was made by a very professional-looking 50 year old man in a suit, which makes a refreshing change from the rather chaotic goings-on at her junior school.

I rather fear my DS made his mark too - as the stories of the day unfolded it became apparent he'd got into some trouble on 3 occasions with 2 teachers. Not bad for your first day.
I was able to talk it over with his lovely (but very young) form tutor at the evening "do" for parents though, and plead over excitement on DS's behalf.
Hopefully he's forgiven. But possibly has his card marked !
Hopefully DD's good behaviour may stand him in some good stead - but don't count on it forever DS !

BackforGood Thu 04-Jul-13 20:42:31

grin - that's very impressive Juggling.

smile indeed - in fact the form tutor even said he was impressed with DS leap-frogging over such high bollards in the quad, but not to jump over anymore if he would be so kind !

Lancelottie Fri 05-Jul-13 11:24:54

NaturalBlonde -- god, it's hard, isn't it? Was the wine for you or for her?

DD has to watch most of her current friends going off to their induction today, discussing who they'll be with in their forms.

DS started secondary with all his primary friends though, and their instant desertion of him was pretty heartrending.

DD looked just bewildered by everything, even when she was asked about clubs she might like. Lots of wailing about 'I didn't know Film Club meant acting in films! I said no because I thought it was learning about cameras!'

Sometimes I think just dropping them into it at the start of September without all the run-up would be easier.

I don't know Lancelottie, I think going for a visit day is good, and wished we'd had one in my day. But perhaps everyone has too high expectations of what can be achieved in a day or two .... getting a bit familiar with the place, the children in your class, and your form tutor is probably about enough ... I'm sure choosing which clubs to be in can easily wait til September !
And just because some of DS's friends were interested to meet some of the other children (new to them) doesn't mean they won't be DS's friend when they all settle down ?

Lancelottie Fri 05-Jul-13 12:53:41

Yes, I think her expectations were way too high! She was hoping apparently to find someone she'd 'just instantly know was going to be a good friend'.

Just to clarify -- DS isn't a new starter, he's been there a couple of years now. He originally went to a different secondary with his primary friends, but was dropped by them almost immediately, as he became a target for bullying and I think they dissociated themselves from him as a liability. Reading around the boards, I've come to the conclusion that this isn't as rare as we'd thought. it's as if they suddenly grow out of each other.

After a year of utter misery we moved him to this school instead, where he's flourished (and has a vast, noisy, eccentric peer group who move around in packs, playing ukeleles. DD should be in their year, she'd love it)!

Lancelottie Fri 05-Jul-13 12:56:08

Juggling, I thought for one horrified moment yesterday that DD was going to start secondary known as 'the one who spilt orange squash over the Principal'...

Have they signed your young leapfrogger up for the athletics squad yet?

Ah, wondered after I posted if I'd misunderstood there - so glad to hear you moved DS and he's now happy with a great bunch of friends - eccentric is always good I think. At one point DD's friends called themselves the "Unpopulars" I think it was - as against a boring trad group known as "The populars" So, those of them not granted entry to this self-titled "elite" group just made their own gang. I'm sure it was at least as fun, and more tolerant - so cooler to my thinking ! Way to go dd !
I was so proud grin

Lancelottie Fri 05-Jul-13 13:09:19

Yep, my bunch of friends at secondary called themselves 'the rejects team' as we'd originally bonded over being the last ones picked for team games every week.

(We were slightly horrified when one friend turned out to be quite a fast hurdler in the third year -- felt she was letting the side down a bit there.)

smile@ Lancelottie & glad the orange squash just missed ?

dd had a Roman party during her last Latin lesson recently where someone had brought along a bowl of olives - apparently bowl with much oil got accidently tipped over someone's head - lovely grin

MadeOfStarDust Fri 05-Jul-13 16:42:54

juggling - at least the recipient's hair will be glossy and easy to manage...

tigertwist Fri 05-Jul-13 16:46:48

naturalnlonde Think mine felt the same as yours - only one in her new class who doesn't know anyone. Out of interest how to these friendships form - have visions of my pfb on at own at the dinner table. She's such a l

tigertwist Fri 05-Jul-13 16:51:29

Grrrrr pressed to soon! ...

DD's a sociable person but not that confident enough to try and get in with an already established group. I hope these things just take a little time when they begin the new term. Ive reassured her, I was in the same boat many, many moons ago. I want her to make friends but not have to try too hard if that makes sense.

How long do these friendships take to form ?

Well I think the first few weeks are quite important. DD was already talking about the same friends she talks about now (Y9) by Christmas.
I think we'll be making the most of DS birthday in October to have a few friends over for sure. DD was lucky and was included in a lovely friendship circle with no real effort from me. But now I see how good that's been for her I think I'm prepared to take more initiative in the hope of the same thing happening for DS. Certainly being friendly to those who are starting knowing no-one can do no harm can it ?

Oh, meant to say don't panic though if no new best friends on first day !

And to be honest am thinking of inviting a few friends/ boys in his new class over for a games session/ playdate during the summer hols. But maybe that's a bit keen ?!

tigertwist Fri 05-Jul-13 17:13:41

Thanks juggling she came back sharing the little pieces of work they'd done, but then after a little while got a bit almost teary that she doesn't think she'll have any friends as they are already in their own little groups. She is friendly, chatty but possibly needs others to make the initiative to ask her to join in rather than her ask them if she can join in. Hopefully through sport etc and mutual interests that may form bonds too. She has taken going up to this particular secondary as the only one from primary very maturely - perhaps she now realises is going to take a little time and effort on her behalf to really feel she's made the right choice.

mumofthemonsters808 Fri 05-Jul-13 17:23:34

My feedback is a mixed bag...DD made friends with several nice girls in her form and decided to have lunch with them. Her Primary School friends then appeared and started screaming at her that she was going off with them and stormed off and left her with the new girls who were sat watching gobsmacked . At break the primary friends tracked her down and acted like nothing had happened. So it's going to be a long September.

Hi tiger - yes, personally I'm thinking maybe making friends at start of secondary is quite a good thing to be a bit pro-active about. But also true that we can't do it all for them and they're going to need time to form their own friendships.
But a bit of effort from both them and us in the early weeks may be easier and more effective than trying to fix things if they feel a bit left out later on ? Hopefully other parents will be doing the same and a bit of enthusiastic appreciation of their efforts goes a long way too I find. Always surprising when some children don't go to parties or sleepovers they've been invited to. Go to everything in the first term ! smile

I'm sure it will be fine and they'll all have some new good friends soon.

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