Hello
I'm brand new here so I need all the forgiveness if I'm doing anything wrong.
It's a very long, complicated story, but my 13 y.o. nephew is completely disengaged from his state school in Edinburgh. He refuses to go for days at a time and spends all his time on his goddamned Xbox. He lives with his mother in Edinburgh - his father (my brother) lives in Ealing and comes up to Edinburgh at the weekend.
Again, it's complicated but my sister-in-law has absolutely no authority over him. She has very poor mental health and my nephew had something of a dysfunctional early childhood. Various departments of social work and NHS/CAMHS have been involved at one time or another. The kindest thing I can say about my brother is that he's the absent-minded professor type. If I were feeling less kind, I'd say he's a bloody ineffectual waste of space who needs to get his arse into gear and take responsibility for his son's education. Yeah, like I said, it's complicated.
Anyway, the current plan is for him to go and live with his father and go to school in Ealing. My brother has a pretty good salary and could afford a private day school, and maybe weekly boarding in London or the home counties. I've done a bit of research and see that there are five 'outstanding' comprehensive schools in Ealing. (I think the little horror needs to go to Dotheboys Hall, myself.)
He's perfectly intelligent but just does no bloody work. He's capable of passing an entrance exam, but I think he'd refuse to take it or deliberately screw it up. Although, I don't think he's learned anything much recently, so I doubt he'd pass it even if he tried - he might.
So we're all flailing around. I'd be so grateful for any advice or information about schools in Ealing. I know absolutely nothing about private education but I gather that all private schools will require kids to take an exam - is that right? Please excuse my utter ignorance.
I imagine the 'outstanding' comprehensives are difficult to get into too?
Everybody in the family and also the social worker and psychologist think weekly boarding would be the best solution, but I suppose we'd be stuck with the same entrance exam issue?
I ought to add that my nephew has been comprehensively tested and there are no issues around dyslexia, learning disabilities, autism or anything else. His problems are pretty firmly rooted in the family dynamic.
It's all such a mess and I'd be grateful for any guidance.
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AuntieNinja · 17/11/2016 19:03
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