So as many, DS started Year 7 in Sept moved to a huge secondary. He's a very confident and mature child and an only. Doest adjust to change that well but Juniors did a good 6-7 visits to new secondary, he is familiar with it also. Knew we'd have a few problems and expected them but not now!
First week on the Wedn of him starting he had a melt down, crying, but couldn't tell me why only that he hadn't made friends. Reassured him that it was only his 3rd day and it would come in time. Also think he was just overwhelmed by it all ie new school, teachers, friends, getting to class on time, tired, Summer just finished so all quite normal. Since then he has been fine, had a great parents and tutor review day.
This week had to go into the school and speak to the tutor as a local boy who lives on the same street has picked on him during the Summer when all the kids have been out - so we just told him to ignore him and not to go out when he was about. The boy blows hot and cold and tends to pick on DS as he;s the youngest on the road plus allthe other kids have siblings to stick up for them. Anyway said boy said hello sarcastically to DS the other day and he ignored him the boy then swore very nastily at DS, same thing happened at home time. Went in spoke to tutor as the boy has now taken it into school. Tutor has investigated and boy has been spoken to etc... hopefully the end.
Last night DS had a huge meltdown crying uncontrollably, shaking, again saying he hates school, doesn't have any friends, no one likes him said some other boys were picking on him in class. After a while he calmed down but by this time is was 10.15pm, managed to get him off to sleep in my bed with me. This morning he looked very tired but ok. Told him last night it was all normal, Im here to help and support him and we will get through this together. Told him it will all be ok and next week half term we will just chill, have arranged a day out with one of the kids he has met so will see if we can build a friendship there.
Is anyone else going through this? My friend told me it can take a few months for DC to settle it wont be overnight for some. Feel very sad :(
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Year 7 - Only Child and melting down as struggling to make new friends at school, anyone else???
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yohoohoo · 20/10/2016 15:49
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