Nice boarding schools for girls!!

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egyptiandancer64 Mon 22-Jun-15 21:20:41

My daughter left her country Prep school and we tried a London Day school which was very pressurised and a disaster as she didnt fit in. I then sent her to a boarding school where she is having a very tough time with a very disruptive year group and a lot of bitchy girls... Any ideas on nice schools ? Tudor Hall? although I think not very academic or Downe House which I fear may be pressurised as well and full of eating disorders...! Any other ideas for schools within an hour and a half of London. Preferably single sex but am beginning to think maybe co-ed too.She starts her GCSE syllabus in September so I need to move quickly and have been trying to find somewhere. She is rather fragile at the moment and I am terrified if I move her again and get it wrong again I shall have a child with rock bottom self esteem. Any ideas please?

KingscoteStaff Mon 22-Jun-15 21:34:06

Is Roedean too far? Maybe 1 hour 45 mins from West London. Lots of girls starting in Year 9 and a few in Year 10.

IndridCold Mon 22-Jun-15 21:40:12

Queen Anne's at Caversham, near Reading. Have no personal experience but might be worth a look.

P0llyP0cketR0cket Mon 22-Jun-15 21:43:20

Mayfield, East Sussex? All girls, small, girls join in year 10 I think, horsey, creative, academic...

Kent College? Bedes?

ZeroFunDame Mon 22-Jun-15 21:53:20

So what is your DD like?

What (beyond niceness) would be needed to make school enjoyable for her?

What kind of environment is she happiest in?

What, as far as you have discerned, went wrong at the London school? What is there at her current school that might not exist elsewhere?

It's awful to feel a fish out of water at school - do you genuinely think she will settle once you find the right place? Was she happy at her prep?

egyptiandancer64 Mon 22-Jun-15 22:33:11

yes too far for us am afraid... and very few English girls there these days! not being xenophobic but true!

Oakmaiden Mon 22-Jun-15 22:38:02

My friend's daughter is very happy at St Swithins, in Winchester.

egyptiandancer64 Mon 22-Jun-15 22:38:21

thank you for all helpful messages, re St Leonards Mayfield have heard good things and may try that one if not too local. We live in London so need a few from here if poss! Re what is she like... well hard working and quite driven and i think just wants to get on and do some work and if poss some sport. She has had severs very badly for almost two years so no sport hasnt helped her at all. We are not well off and I think her present school is full of rich girls who just talk about clothes and boys which really isnt her. London School was v pressurised three hours homework a night at 13! Plus no-one else had been to country prep school so fish out of water there as well! Happy at prep school until severs and knee probs meant she had to give up sport and in the last year I think all the girls got rather bitchy and hormonal and she felt left out in some way. I think she just needs a nice reasonably academic school thats not all about what clothes you are wearing! I fear this may be impossible though..

00100001 Mon 22-Jun-15 22:40:59

Try Queenswood, but it is super expensive. But lovely school, really caring smile

00100001 Mon 22-Jun-15 22:42:07

They offer bursaries which are means tested too, and not just given to existing pupils smile

ZeroFunDame Mon 22-Jun-15 22:48:37

I wonder if it's possible to find a school, state or independent, where teenage girls do not talk relentlessly about clothes and boys?

You don't mention it but, if your DD finds friendships with boys at least as worthwhile as with girls, perhaps a co-ed school might work better.

And, from what I've seen, independent schools that make a point of not welcoming international pupils do tend to be rather inward looking ...

ifancyagreencard Mon 22-Jun-15 22:52:01

Prior's Field in Godalming? London girls tend to weekly board. Not a hot house, no more bitchiness than any other girls' school. Not academically selective- challenging for bright girls, supportive for not so academic ones. Lots of sport, drama, all the usual add on stuff. Head of Pastoral is excellent, will support a fragile child really well. Mine was a nightmare the first half term, went into total meltdown. Pastoral care was very good. Good mix of parents, from super wealthy to those working really hard to send their girls there. Lots of normality. Good Luck!

Needmoresleep Mon 22-Jun-15 23:08:43

I would second Mayfield. Nice mix. You can be clever, and they do particularly well with maths/science, but you don't need to be. Lots of singing and pottery. And horses. Unpretentious. More international in the sixth form but the group includes Mexicans and Spanish.

Whowherewhywhat Mon 22-Jun-15 23:12:42

Marist school ascot or St George's school ascot or Heathfield school ascot, all very good, know parents from all schools and all very happy smile

happygardening Mon 22-Jun-15 23:21:20

What about St Edwards Oxford coed but has a very well deserved reputation for outstanding pastoral care, a mixture of girls high achieving, musical, sporty, arty, shy, extrovert, ones into ballet, drama, boys and clothes in the main normal teenagers all who thrive in a caring happy environment.

lottysmum Mon 22-Jun-15 23:23:33

Friends daughter is here and she really likes it..... www.thorntoncollege.com/

FreckledLeopard Mon 22-Jun-15 23:26:53

Godolphin School, Salisbury. I used to board there. Train to London takes an hour and a half.

AlphaBravoHenryFoxtons Mon 22-Jun-15 23:56:40

Princess Helena College.
St Francis College
Queen Anne's, Caversham

Hoplikeabunny Tue 23-Jun-15 00:02:06

Beechwood Sacred Heart in Tunbridge Wells is lovely. One hour from London, and excellent pastoral care. It used to be all girls, but has fairly recently become co-educational.

GrinAndTonic Tue 23-Jun-15 00:34:25

What about Royal Masonic School for girls at Rickmansworth?
I worked there a few years ago and while not for the academically gifted girl it is good for the average one.

nattarji Tue 23-Jun-15 11:15:40

Does it have to be boarding?

nattarji Tue 23-Jun-15 11:17:00

Which school did the majority of girls from her country prep go on to? Could you try that?

Tbh you get bitchy girls at all schools mixed and single sex - it really gets better in year 10 when things get more serious.

AnotherNewt Tue 23-Jun-15 11:20:48

There's Woldingham on the outskirts of London, and she could weekly board there. I don't know it directly, but have heard more and more good things about it, plus extremely good things about the head. It's Catholic, but not oppressively so.

ZeroFunDame Tue 23-Jun-15 11:39:23

As someone mentioned bursaries - even if you're not looking for one it might be wise to seek out a school that is serious about offering significant help to the talented but not-wealthy. It means a (slightly) more diverse intake and sets a certain tone - with brains and achievement being more celebrated than Gucci bags and numbers of acres at home. (That's the idea anyway ...)

Kenlee Tue 23-Jun-15 12:12:34

I have to agree with Priorsfield. My daughter loves it there.

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