ds is in an old fashioned all boys' state school which is like a grammar school in its approach.
He did not do brilliantly in his year 8 summer exams. He feels he has gone down a few sets and is now in classes with slightly more messers-about and he is struggling in many subjects.
The kids talk competitively about their levels all the time, this demoralises ds enormously.
The teachers appear to be enacting some policy of 'Terrify Children About The Imminent GCSEs' he has even been shouted at by some teachers when he's struggling to understand in Maths.
I have written to the very good form tutor for a chat and to some of the worst screamers polite letters asking of their advice about what we can do as a family to support ds during this slump in his confidence.
But what do you do when your child says they are too stupid to cope? Too thick to be at this school? Too overwhelmed?
The teachers do say he is able. The problem is ds has always performed directly to the level of an individual teacher's expectation & encouragement. If a teacher is shouty and mean to ds or even worse, appears to dislike ds, de's performance just keels over. I know he needs to learn to be a self starter but he has always been like this, he's never been super confident.
I just feel year 9 was way too young for my ds to choose his GCSEs.
I think I should have sent him to the more rounded, mixed secondary that isn't run by a bunch of Crazed Macho Nazi Shouters (with a few exceptions!) but what can you do?
Any empathy/ advice would be extremely gratefully received.
And I don't mean to disrespect teachers, I always support the school to ds.
It's just I don't see why you can't run a strict school while employing a modicum of emotional intelligence.
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mrsjavierbardem · 22/09/2014 10:27
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