Struggling to work out how to help her really :( DD has just started senior sixth, doing 4 A levels and an extended project, applying for vocational school for next year and also for a more 'traditional' course via UCAS as a backup. She is a member of a theatre group and a drama school outside of school and commits a lot of hours to another hobby. DH and I were concerned from the start that 4 A levels with an extended project would be too much on top of everything else DD does, we were reassured by her school that she was more than capable. Neither of us went to university, so didn't feel we were able to judge any better.
She had a half week the first week of school and seemed perfectly happy, then last week she had a few sobbing meltdowns, insisted she wasn't good enough and she was going to fail at everything, nothing she does is good enough. This is coming off 5 As at AS level, some at above 90%, and being told by her the director of her theatre group she was good enough to consider vocational training. There are no issues at school that I know of, her teachers are all happy that she's making good progress.
I think she's doing too much and even if she's coping now that might not be the case in 6 months time. I'm struggling to see why she needs 4 A levels when as I understand it universities will only make her an offer based on 3 anyway, but DD insists she doesn't want to drop anything and gets more upset at the suggestion. It all came to a head again tonight- she has a test this Friday on what they've covered of the A2 course so far and is in a complete panic about it then calmed down about that but had another sobbing outburst later on and couldn't explain why she was upset sad Not normal behaviour for her at all.
On one hand she's 17 and if she does cut down on the amount she's doing it has to be her decision, assuming that's the problem. On the other hand I don't think I can take a year of this!
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donastcolombe · 15/09/2014 22:31
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