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bullying? chilli peppers!

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hahaRainbow · 15/09/2014 20:25

maybe somebody could advise? seems that the 'tough boys' at school are daring other kids to eat chilli peppers. and of course, one must engage or they are a 'wimp'.

Is this bullying - should I politely alert a member of staff? or say nothing.... what bothers me is the peer pressure involved in such activities and the fact that some kids will feel it necessary to capitulate...

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SweepTheHalls · 15/09/2014 20:26

Email the head of year, stupid behaviour like this needs( and will be ) to be stamps out.

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LadySybilLikesCake · 15/09/2014 20:28

I'd say bulling is anything designed to make one person feel like crap. This just sounds like playground stuff, 'I'm stronger/bigger/braver than you'. They are trying to establish a pecking order. I don't think it's bullying.

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soapboxqueen · 15/09/2014 20:32

lf it is just a one off then it is just stupid behavior. lf the same children are asked repeatedly and are made to feel they can't refuse or feel bad then it is bullying .

Email the head of year as an FYI

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Coolas · 15/09/2014 21:06

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hahaRainbow · 15/09/2014 21:28

thanks to all of you for your responses... I really appreciate it.

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mineofuselessinformation · 15/09/2014 21:38

YouTube Glo Zell. She has a lot to answer for. The 'ice and salt' challenge in particular should be deleted IMO.
Kids find the videos hilarious, and of course some end up trying it for themselves.

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partialderivative · 16/09/2014 12:12

TBH it does sound like fairly normal teen boy behaviour, if done within a friendship group.

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icymaiden · 16/09/2014 13:46

Not bullying.
Kids need to learn how to say no

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Iamnotminterested · 16/09/2014 17:10

There was something similar involving Tabasco sauce at DDs school last year when she was in year 8.

I think she politely told them to fuck off.

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partialderivative · 16/09/2014 19:21

Email the head of year, stupid behaviour like this needs( and will be ) to be stamps out.

I really don't understand how you are going to 'stamp out' this 'behaviour'.

I fail to see what's really wrong with it, it's just what boys do.

Some will get teased a bit if they refuse, some will get teased a bit if they hoot about mocking gross discomfort. It will pass.

We did similar (possibly worse) 40 years ago.