Year 9 lower sets behaviour!

[thornrose]

My dd is in a very good high school. She has AS and some associated LDs so is in lowest sets across the board.

Dd told me this evening about todays music lesson. A group of girls cut another girls hair. The girl went along with it, seemingly under sufferance, and then was very upset with the results!

My dd is potentially a target for bullies/mean girls as she is very timid at school and her AS makes her vulnerable. The girls said "shall we cut dd's hair?" but another girl said "no". I asked dd if she would've known how to stop the girls from cutting her hair and she didn't convince me!

Where the hell was the teacher? Is this normal behaviour for lower set year 9's? Are teachers unable to control this sort of behaviour?

I want to speak to someone at school about this or is it worth it? I just don't understand how this can happen in a classroom.

[thornrose]

Please excuse apostrophe and grammar fails.

[ElephantsNeverForgive]

End of year, boredom gone too far. Y9 is especially bad because DCs are forced to do subjects they hate and aren't taking next year.

However, it sounds like they went too far and the teacher wasn't supervising a class who couldn't be trusted.

Personally I'd be writing an email to the head of year, detailing what happened.

[thornrose]

Thanks, that was my plan for tomorrow.

It's not the first time I've heard of awful behaviour but this struck me as a step too far. The music teacher concerned is subject head!

[gardenfeature]

I don't think subjects like Music are actually set so it may have been a mixed ability class.

[thornrose]

Yes you're probably right there. On reflection I'm not sure there's much point mentioning it now. There are only a couple of weeks left of term!

[WhereHas1999DissappearedToo]

DD is in the lowest set for maths and science, she says there is quite a lot of distracting behaviour, like last year one of her class mates purposely pulled down her sports top to show her bra to the teacher!

DD is middle sets for her other subjects and says that sort of thing never happens.

I would leave it for now and see what happens next year, if it carries on I would mention something to the teacher/head teacher.

[ElephantsNeverForgive]

End of term or not, I think it's worth a quick email. Cutting someone's hair against their will is going to far and may constitute assult.

It's very likely the girl involved parents have complained, but if they haven't the incident ought to be logged.

It's very likely that DT and Art are taught in a similar mixed ability group and behaviour like that in those is a recipe for chaos, even with one week left.

[pointythings]

Yo don't just get bad behaviour in lower sets though... DD1 is in top sets for everything, and in her maths set there are two boys who are dreadful - disruptive, inappropriate/disinhibited, regularly getting short term exclusions.

They are just very, very, very good at maths.

[thornrose]

I'm sure it happens across the board to a point pointy, but lower sets surely attract the worst of it.

Oh don't go there goats, I try to tell myself she'll be ok. I went to a rough school and kept my head down and it wasn't really that bad.

This is a really 'nice' CofE girls school and I naively expected better behaviour! I'm hoping Year 10 will be different as they mature a bit and do their chosen options.

Please don't anyone tell me different!

[ElephantsNeverForgive]

No it certainly isn't just lower sets that mess about, DD2's German class are awful. I think pretty much all of them have got detention.

The difference is DD2 resents detention because it stops her getting to net ball and she's slightly embarrassed when their nice registration mistress reads out the weeks total. The lower set DCs don't seem to care.