NC for this as ds knows my usual name and sorry for it being overly long
I have 2 children dd 15, ds 12.
dd started making her grand plan when she was 7 and we worked back to which schools she needed to be in to stand a chance of getting where she wants to be. I organised her tutors, extra curricular activities and she worked hard, all the time with her eyes firmly set on where she was going.
ds also knows what he wants to do and I did the same for him. But that is where it all starts to break down. Before the 1st lesson he had with a teacher he darted to moan about how he did not want to go in, he moaned continuously for 2 terms before every activity, and all evening after each activity.
This is the sort of thing he supposedly wants to do and enjoys doing when he is in the classes but it was getting him in the classes and then the onslaught of moaning when he came out of the classes. consequently I cancelled all classes
Anyway come to the examination and he gets in 2 out of the 3 schools he applied for. He refuses to go to the 2 he got in and moans about not getting in the school he didn't get in.
So he ends up in the local comp which we had not visited or done any research on because I thought he was going to go to one of the schools he got offered a place in.
I end up pulling him out of after a term because of his constant moaning about how he was not going into school, how he hated it, how he had no friends and on my part because of them not actually doing any work and getting a break from the constant battles to get him to do anything.
I home schooled him for a 1 1/2 terms and did the rounds of all the schools in the area and even looked at some private schools, not that we can afford them.
At the start back after 1/2 term he started at a localish school that as he put it, if he had to go to one it was the best of a bad lot. It is I have told him a good school to get him back on track to go to the school he wants to go to in year 9.
I have had weeks of moaning stomping around, tears and tantrums about how he isn't going to school again and this morning I completely lost the plot and threatened him with boarding school because I and the rest of the family cannot stand the moaning anymore.
He even had the cheek to say how his sister is so lucky how she got to go to the school he wanted to go to. I did point out that had he not moaned so much and had applied himself to the lessons I had organised for him then he would, in all probability have got in. He moaned about how there was no tester days at the schools he got offered. I then had to point out there was a tester day and he refused to go.
I really don't know what to do with him as most of what he is moaning about is usual for any school. Yesterday he was going through his terrible day and went into great detail how a lesson he had consisted of him having to copy stuff down from the
Help please He comes out in less than 2 hours and I am sick of the constant moaning and battles for him to do anything..
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womanwithvan · 24/06/2014 13:32
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