Why wouldnt they tell me my DS's results?

[happygardening]

Ok today the maths GCSE results came out. In september I didnt think he would pass it neither did the school I used to joke with him that he would be still sitting it when he retired! Anyway somethings happened and suddenly the school thought he might pass it.
I'm usually fairly slack chilled about this kind of thing but for some reason the math result really mattered. I am work DS21 slouches off to school with the instructions to text me when he's found out by 10 30 nothing so I ring the school who tell me the result is confidential and only he can tell me!!
Can someone please explain to me why its confidential? His report isn't his school exams aren't I signed to give him permission to do the dam things and also I for some reason I don't really know had to pay for some of these exams. So why the hell are the results confidential?

[LaurieFairyCake]

Maybe cos he's 21 according to your post

[yellowsnownoteatwillyou]

Where do you think they should draw the line at passing out results to parents. University?

I would have gone mental if my patents had opened my exam results. He sat the exam he gets to find out first. Just wait he will tell you.

[happygardening]

He's 16. He was obviously going to tell me when he gets round to it. I still don't see why they are confidential. His report isn't. HIs teachers ring me and discuss his progress; isn't that also confidential then? When he is not working hard enough they ring me and expect me to do something about it and as I've said I've sighed the same form thirty times now giving him permission to sit the maths GCSE and all the rest this summer and had to pay for a couple for a reason I don't really understand and then they keep refunding the money and I keep forgetting to bank the cheques.
At the end of the day I'm not that bothered just confused by what seems to be double standards either everything is confidential or nothing.

[Blu]

Over the phone, how do they know you are you?

[happygardening]

Your right about "over the phone" I could be anyone (not sure who else would want to know) but apparently even face to face or email. The other weird thing is that they sent me personally not my DS an email stating that they would be available from 8 this morning. As I said not a matter of life and death I just find the double standards confusing. But then I find much of the education process confusing.

[snickersnacker]

Perhaps they want to dissuade parents from ringing all morning and tying up the phone lines...

[ICanTotallyDance]

Heh, sounds a bit funny with the emailing but not telling.

Normally on these forums you're the paragon of patient, relaxed parenting so it's almost reassuring to see you a bit flustered! I'm sure it's not a big deal and he can re-sit, right?

I'd say just call your son tomorrow (he boards, right?) is he hasn't told you but don't push tonight or anything.

[deleted203]

I suspect if it is a re-sit that they thought he might pass and he hasn't phoned you in excitement saying, 'Guess what? I passed!' then it might not be good news.

Presumably he knows that you really think it matters, and he slouched off to school with you calling, 'Text me the minute you know!' I would have thought he'd have called with good news, TBH. More likely to think 'bad' news can wait.

[Mutteroo]

DCs had to personally go & collect their exam results & were clearly told that no one would be given any results over the phone unless there was very good reason. We were on holiday when DD got her yr 10 GCSE results & thankfully they agreed we could call. (How nice of them)...Problem was DD was incredibly nervous & asked me to call on her behalf. The office staff, who had spoken to me on numerous occasions refused to give me said results & insisted I put DD on the phone to confirm it was her! I could have put anyone on the phone as they wouldn't have known but thems the rules.

Hope your DS has put you out of your misery & that he gained a good score in the exam.

[ICanTotallyDance]

Actually, maybe I have mixed you up with someone else (I thought your DS was a boarder) but my sentiment still stands: it will be ok and it sounds as though you've suspected about these results for a long time.

[happygardening]

ICan DS2 is the one at a boarding school, DS1 is a state comp. He passed it I am over the moon there is hope for all who are crap at maths. He's never got more than 40% in a maths exam but as he sat the foundation paper apparently had to get over 80% to a get a C and he was one mark over miracles do happen.

[creamteas]

good news happy

It so hard for some DC, to hit the magic C, and sometimes that is simply not recognised.

[happygardening]

We celebrated last night I couldn't have been more delighted. I was a little disappointed at how unexcited his school was for him and other like him; apparently most got C's. It was a momentous achievement. Ok may be not worthy of a couple of paragraphs on your website: "crappy maths pupils pass maths GCSE" maybe not but worthy of some recognition.

[mumblecrumble]

Total agree with you OP.

I spend most of my time in teaching celebrating those who have worked their asses off in subjects they find hard and finally passed - hURRAY!! I also waork in a 6th form so knmow that a C in maths is a big door opener. Fantastic news, well done :)

[Mrsrobertduvall]

Well done to your dc
My dd also got a C, which was a miracle.....we too were anticipating resits.

[deleted203]

Well done! Really pleased he got it.

[ICanTotallyDance]

happygardening sorry for dragging this thread open, but just wanted to say sorry for getting your kids mixed up and congratulations on that pass!