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Projects = HW for parents.(47 Posts)
DD2 has to build a weather station.
Why, I thought this rubbish ended in primary school.
Models of Castles and doodle bugs are bad enough, but at least they are just cardboard.
This needs more craft skills than she has, and bits and pieces that mean DHs shed. DH has real work to do to earn actual money.
When we have built it she's supposed to take a weeks worth of data. Not a chance she'll remember, more HW for me!
Just why? She might learn a bit watching met office videos, but she really isn't infused.
Mine are yr7 and yr9 now. I never fail to be amazed by what they can do if I just back away and leave them to it. The mantra since yr3 has been "it's your homework, not mine", I don't even have to say it any more. The younger one sometimes has what I would call an idiosyncratic approach but he gets very high marks so no doubt it is age appropriate
Can your DD not manage... (/you not prompt these steps)
1. Google 'how to make a weather station' (first result = http://www.metoffice.gov.uk/education/kids/things-to-do/weather-station)
2. Get the materials i.e. ruler, water bottle, card board etc. all things in most households/school can provide if you ask the art department
3. she follows online instructions, asks if she is unsure and you can help her
4. she sets alarm on her phone reminding her to measure
These projects are designed to ensure pupils REALLY understand and are enthused also invite parent interaction- the number 1 predictor of attainment is parent involvement. Obviously not doing it for her but prompting and helping her find the resources and praising/paying interest.
When my DC were given these sort of projects I prompted but didn't 'do it' at all and was always amazed how much they got into it and learnt.
Give it a chance
Yes absolutely. I prompt too. And say things like "We're going out this afternoon so if you're doing homework you've got until 12:00". I actually think they prefer it when it is "their thing".
I love smug parents.
If course you can hint , scaffold and nag, in the end you still end up doing it because you need to get dinner cooked and on with the rest of life and you are sick of standing over her or coming back and finding she's typed 3 words.
Yes I'd love just to drop her in it for being madam, but she'd fetch up in such a state the night before that we'd up up staying up all night fudging something.
If I just let her get detention she will just decide she hates Geography.
I don't want her hating geography, it's a nice subject and one of the easiest academic GCSEs (loads of cross over with science and general knowledge, it also contains people which she likes).
I'm guessing I should have moaned in chat not here, sorry.
I don't think anyone is being smug, they are just pointing out that your DD CAN do it if she has to.
If she thinks that you will do it all for her if she moans/ flounces enough then she will let you - who wouldn't?
Look, I sympathise, have been there especially with DS, and I know that if you make it clear that you are not going to do their homework that they will just get on with it. Honestly, your DD is so much more capable than you realise!
I bet you that it won't get as far as her getting a detention - once she realises that you are serious she will pull her finger out and do it. Neither will she end up hating geography.
Go on, sit back and let her show you what she is capable of!
I'm sorry but I don't see why you would end up doing it. It is HER homework. You have obviously made a habit of doing her homework and now she doesn't actually think that it is her responsibility. I am sure her teacher is really not interested in what you can do, he/she wants to know what your daughter can do.
Give your daughter a chance to shine - she may (pleasantly) surprise everyone.
I don't see anyone being smug either. In my case, I have 3 dc - the middle one would get on with it, the other two won't, but that still doesn't mean it ends up being my homework. By "ending up staying up all night fudging something." you are just teaching her that if she doesn't do it, then "gets herself in a state" you will do it for her. It's a bit like toddler tantrums really - yes, of course it's easier in the short term to give in for a quiet life, but long term you are making life a whole lot more difficult.
No I won't end up doing it. They will do it themselves and they will do it very well. Probably because they have known since they were tiny that I won't do it for them and then moan about choosing to do so, as you seem to do OP. Maybe that is why they are such high achievers. You seem to be misunderstanding the point of education.
<imagines tiny children going to Hobbycraft and stocking up on project supplies>
Homework isn't for parents. I dont do hw for my dc's, I had enough to do when I was in school.
You mentioned that at least in school they could brain storm within the class - you do realize that this doesn't have to remain confined in the class do you? Have none of her group though about meeting up after school to do hw together?
It isn't about being a smug parent, but it is about raising dc's to understand that they have to take responsibility for themselves. Doesn't matter if it's hw, gsce revision or whatever else. They need to made aware that their actions have consequences. And if that means she gets into trouble for not doing her homework, so what? She will have learned that she has to do things that she might not like sometimes. She will have learned that sometimes life is hard.
No it's only anything involving craft, I end up doing, she wouldn't let me within a million miles of most of her HW.
Her teachers would know, her writing is way way neater than mine and she can spell!
Trouble with DD2 is she far too clever and knows how to make life so painful for everyone else we let her get away with it.
I choose my battles and pointless HW projects isn't one of them.
I have no worries that she'll revise for exams, she's as competitive as she is stubborn. No way will she get lower grades than her sister.
Also, a long time ago, I said she call me an idiot when she gets a better degree than me. I bet she remembers.
Some children are arty crafty and some aren't. The school can't expect every child to find every project wildly exciting.
I don't get involved with DS1's HW unless he asks either Startail. Although I did help him with his French last night so hope i haven't broken any rules.
My ds is exactly like this, but I am afraid I do drop him in it. If he can't remember what he is supposed to be doing, he takes that detention.
I have some sympathy with your dd for struggling with the crafty bit, but as for "no chance that she will remember taking the data", I am afraid I think she needs to be to taught a lesson. This is where ds gets told that "that's what detentions are for, to jog your memory".
He is doing a fair few detentions at the moment, for this very reason that he can't be arsed to remember his HW, but I am standing firm and letting the school know that I support them.
Star, you don't "end up" doing it, you choose to do it.
Just because your DD doesn't find craft as interesting as other subjects doesn't mean it is OK for her to dump responsibility for her homework on you.
That's life, sometimes we have to do tasks that we don't particularly enjoy. She needs to learn this lesson for the future, as a future employer will not be impressed if she sulks and refuses to do a task which is part of her job because she finds it "boring".
Yes, I choose to do things for DD2 because I like a quiet life.
I suspect she'll wrap her future employers round her little finger too.
She threatens to be a teacher, teacher my arse, she'll be the sodding HT organising everyone else.
Star - really don't bet on her being able to boss future employers around like she does with you.
You are her DM so you will bend over backwards to keep your little princess happy.
Future employers will not be impressed. If she carries on with this kind of behaviour at work she will quickly get a reputation as an uncooperative prima donna and will not be on anyones list for promotion. Even the most brilliant student would have to start their teaching career at the bottom. Believe me, an attitude like this will NOT gain a headship post.
I have worked with graduate entrants in my field with just this kind of attitude and, bright as they were, they were quickly got rid of.
Alternatively, if she intends to become Mariah Carey when she grows up, scratch all the above advice and tell her to carry on as she is.
I hope these arty crafty projects don't extend to the workplace. DS1 has said he may want to go into law. Hope he doesn't get asked to build a scale model of a court out of cardboard boxes.
The arty crafty projects may not, but you can bet that there will be some tedious tasks involved that your DC will find less than fascinating no matter how skilled the job is. Especially at the entry level.
Refusal to do the more crappy parts of a job will NOT endear them to an employer as someone needs to do them!
Ds1 isn't the sort to refuse to do anything. Sometimes to his detriment TBH.
Sparkling - my last remarks were really directed at OP,TBH as her DC definitely does refuse to do these things. I see your DS may hate these projects but does get on and do them as he accepts they have to be done.
Well done to him, his attitude will serve him well.
Anyway, this thread was in education not chat because I hoped the odd teacher might see it and pause to think.
Please when setting projects for Y7, think about the brief.
Give a list of sections, questions or things to include.
A basic frame work of the style of write up you want.
Some brain storming in class.
And don't leave it 8 weeks without asking to see some work in progress.
Without some sort of scaffolding process, DCs find it very hard to get started. They don't know what is expected of them. And they put off starting.
In the end parents end up providing the guidance and DCs never take ownership of something parents help with, in the way they do things they do at school.
Projects are an excellent opportunity to learn research techniques, mind mapping, planning and time management skills, but Y7s need actively teaching them.
As adult it's easy to see a plausible structure to write this up straight off. My year 10, who does elaborate revision mind maps, would probably manage.
Y7s need guidance.
DDs school has stopped teaching study skills as a Y7 subject, which I think is right. They need teaching in lessons with meaningful examples. Projects can be the perfect opportunity for this.
There is one good thing, parents do get the last laugh. We don't have to spend the Easter holidays marking them
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