My dd is 14, and chose her options last year to begin this year. Some of the choices were a bit difficult due to there not really being much choice iyswim...some subjects she chose because they were the best of a bad lot. (like design and technology for instance - it was that or PE...)
The school is a little faith school. its got about 400 pupils and is a lovely school. DS who has aspergers did very well there in his exams (though he had his own problems, having AS) but he could coast and still do well, as he took in information very easily. He hated school and found it a very difficult experience. He was bullied throughout.
DD on the other hand seemed to love it. She used to be in the top sets, but has gradually moved down and down until now she seems scared to even try. She told me today that she is "useless at everything" and burst into tears.
Last year her science teacher really had it in for her, and she ended up doing really badly.
This year they have put her in a lower set and put her in for the foundation exam, but her teacher says she is one of the brightest in the class. She didnt tell me anything about this teacher until she had left her class, but her friends have also said that the teacher had it in for her for whatever reason. Her science teacher this year seems baffled that she did so badly, yet she wants to stay in this set saying she is there now and its ok.
She also chose History and is really struggling with the volume of work. Instead of trying, she seems to have just given up. The fact that she is doing badly in tests etc is really destroying her confidence and she now just keeps saying she cant do it, is useless, is thick, etc etc and its really upsetting me to hear her like this. She really is far from thick, she has common sense in spades, she is bright, but she just isnt trying anymore.
I cant really gauge how much of this is teen angst, how much is just her peception and how much is valid. She wont really discuss it with me.
I want to contact the school but she got even more upset when i suggested this. She just wants to be left alone. She wants to go to college but now says she wont get the results.
its as if she has just given up and she doesnt want me to do anything about it. She has said to wait until parents evening, which is in Feb, so not long.
I really dont know what the problem is though, and id like to speak to her teachers to try and work out if she is really struggling or if she is being angsty. She has always been really popular with her teachers (bar the science one last year) which was a refreshing change from DS who hated school with a passion but did really well....she seems the opposite - she likes school, has plenty of friends, is popular with teachers usually waxing lyrical about her at parents evenings....one of them said she missed having her in the class because she loved her....
so im struggling to work out whats changed and why she seems to be failing, why she is losing confidence in her abilities.
any one been through similar, or worked out how to play this?
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ThatVikRinA22 · 04/01/2012 18:31
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