dd has just left a small primary - 10 kids in her year, including 5 girls. 3 of the girls, inc dd, are going to be in the same class in secondary. Friendship between one of these girls, and the others, has always been strained. I don't want to go into specifics and I fully accept that I can't possibly know all the details, and that facts get distorted in the reporting. However, over a period of a few years, I have heard consistent reports of this girl teasing the others with a little more meaness and impact than is within normal playground bounds. Her comments have got to some of the girls such that they have modified their behaviour so as to not be teased by her. In such a small school there has never been the option of just leaving her to it and not being friends. The reports that I hear is that the girls have all tried really hard to stay friends with her and include her. The reports are from multiple sources including other kids, parents and teachers. It also seems to me that no-one joins in with her teasing - so it hasn't escalated too much. Towards the end of term things got worse though and there was an incident that actually got physical. The girl was given a suitable punishment, term ended, and that was that.
My fear is that, on starting secondary, things could escalate again - and she could get people joining in with her teasing. My question to you lot is - should I call the y7 teacher to tell her the history? I don't want to label this child, but wonder if it might help any new developments get nipped in the bud - which would be good all round, including for this girl, not just dd. I just want them all to be happy and enjoy their new school. I've never been one to go to teachers about such things - never done it once in fact - even when I heard about the incident last term I was happy to accept that the head had dealt with it and it should be left at that.
So is a calm, factual, reporting of the background helpful? or unwanted meddling? rl friends are divided.
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would you alert y7 teachers to this difficult friendship? teachers - woud you want to know?
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EasternGrit · 05/09/2011 13:21
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