Can anyone advise me here - I'm terribly upset ,disappointed ,fearful for DS future ,but feel I need to get past all this and be more positive .
DS in 3rd year of sixth form .
Last year he panicked/couldn't cope and school came up with plan for him to take one A level last summer ( plus some resits ) and then carry on and do 2 more this year .
He didn't exactly pull it out of the bag with the one A level and got a D in Biology .Resits were up by 2 grades.
This year he's been studying for Physics ,Bio and Chemistry .
He started well ,commendations from school ,but got bad unit results and mocks after Christmas .
School says massive improvement in understanding ,good in class - but it's not translating into exam grades .
Pep talk from head of science to the few who aren't doing well ," disastrous grades ,work every minute etc,etc . " .
Cue collapse of DS .
With his AS grades and one A level he has sufficient points for his insurance choice ,and they've agreed he can switch to make them a firm .
DS cannot be persuaded that it's worth taking A2 modules in summer or that even one more A level at a low grade is better than dropping out now .
He cries ,says he can't take being " the bottom rung " all the time .
( DS reports conversations with subject teachers in agreement with his choice " no point having a nervous breakdown taking the A2's if you're going to end up at insurance choice anyway " )
I suppose my stumbling block is his lack of effort . I've always felt he could try harder. For me anxiety spurs me on to work harder ,with him difficulty and failure make him give up .
How can I help him change that response ?
How can I hide my frustration and frankly anger with him and get behind his plan B ?
And we won't even get started on what a failure I feel ...
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Angry with DS for quitting 6thForm but want to be supportive .
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gingeroots · 15/04/2011 12:10
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