Ok , my ds started high school last week. I know it's only been a week so far but he's really worried as he's made no friends. He talks to everyone but seems shy to break into a group. He mentioned yesterday that he spends lunch time on his own sitting on a bench and is really unhappy as some boys from yrs 9 or 10 keep putting their rubbish in his bag.
He was bullied at his primary school to the extent that he self-harmed which has severely dented his confidence. We choose for him to go to a school where no-one else from his primary was going and he was really upbeat about making a fresh start and friends.
We're trying to let him find his feet at this school but it's hard to let go really as he had a lot of support at his primary (from us and his teachers). Obviously we support him at home and give him strategies to handle the older boys. It's also hard as his form is vertically streamed so there are only 5 pupils from yr7 in it. All the other lessons are streamed academically so he's never really with the same people. He says all the other boys are sticking to their primary school friends and he can't find a way in.
As I said I know it's early days. I just don't like the thought of him being lonely on his own at breaks and lunch.
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kittybrown · 09/09/2010 11:28
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