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Catpuss · 20/06/2015 21:31

Grrr... My Dh has gone to help a buddy move today. It seems to be going on for longer than planned and I imagine that he might be being treated to beers as a thank you. Do you think anyone might thank me for staying at home with the kids alone all day on Saturday so he could do this? I'm not too sure.

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JeanSeberg · 21/06/2015 11:09

Depends what the rest of the relationship looks like and how much free time you get.

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Finola1step · 21/06/2015 11:13

It's a bit crap but it does depend on the situation. If you've got 2 dc, say aged 7 and 4, and its a one off, no great shakes.

If you've got toddler twins and a new born, then yanbu.

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Catpuss · 21/06/2015 11:58

The relationship is fine! Not without its issues of course, but fine. I have 3 girls aged 5 1/2, 4 and 1 1/2. Dh works part time from home this year so is more involved than he ever has been but the childcare and chores are no way split 50/50 in the time he is free. He usually has something he has to get on with after work (in the garden or on his very time consuming hobby) and meals are entirely my responsibility as is clearing, cleaning, laundry etc. he will sporadically do some washing up and he does the bins! He always helps with bedtime and also helps a bit in the morning during the mental getting them out of the house rush.
my original point was less of a moan about him, (although he is sooo incapable of turning down a generously offered beer or two even when he knows I'm waiting for him at home!) I had ok'd the move help and the girls and I spent the day making Father's Day treats so it was time well spent. It was more that I knew his mate would be so gratef to him and he would be getting all this lovely thanks and I felt like I deserved a thank you too! maybe I'm just petty!!!

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JeanSeberg · 21/06/2015 12:01

Thanks from who? Do you get time with your friends/hobbies?

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Catpuss · 21/06/2015 13:27

I'm imagining thanks from dh's buddy. Recognition that I am giving up a family day. Maybe a beer sent home for me too! I guess I just feel like with guys there is no hesitation to ask them to do stuff or go out as the expectation is that there is childcare in the form of mum. Whereas I don't think anyone would ask me for that sort of whole day help as they'd assume I'd have to arrange childcare. Despite having dh.
As for the hobby and friends; nope no hobby; an avid reader but I squeeze that in where I can it doesn't require its own dedicated time. And right now no social life to speak of as we are currently coming towards the end of a year away. Do I have been a long way from my own friends and family and heavily reliant on dh now for social life. He grew up here and so has family and friends here. Maybe I'm more sensitive because of that? Could be...