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sex dilemma

(206 Posts)
sophie69 Tue 23-Feb-10 00:11:05

Hi everyone,

I am a married parent so is simply so lonely. I met a married man recently and his is just adorable. He listens to me, is affectionate, is a gentleman. We talked about our lives and our partners and both miss a sex life. We both want the same thing- to enjoy each other maybe once a week, but remain in our relationships. He is unselfish and just wants to satisfy me, which is so refreshing and new.

I am just so tempted to say yes and enjoy an afternoon of love making. It has been so long and and i dearly want to be help and to experience some fun. He has offered to make it all about me- I can control him and use him for my pleasure.

He really is a sweetie and a gentleman and I just want him so badly. Am I a bad girl for wanting this so so much?

abbierhodes Tue 23-Feb-10 00:17:10

Why can't you get sex from your own partner?

Fizzfiend Tue 23-Feb-10 00:19:17

No you're not bad. But I am because I would say just do it. I'm going to be villified tho I'm sure.

sophie69 Tue 23-Feb-10 00:20:47

he and i don't have a sex life and haven't for about 5 years. we are close and friendly and the marriage is good, but there is no physical side. this new guy just presses my buttons. we are due to meet for a walk tomorrow

JeremyVile Tue 23-Feb-10 00:21:15

You're a very naughty, dirty girl indeed. What you need is a damn good spanking...

Is that the sort of thing you were after?

BrahmsThirdRacket Tue 23-Feb-10 00:22:13

Tell us about your marriage. I understand how you feel, but I personally don't at the moment because I am happy with my relationship. Why aren't you? It's only by looking at yourself and your marriage that you can work out what you really need, and how you might be able to get that from your own marriage rather than risk hurt to both your partners, or whether there is any point to you both being in your relationships.

ACretinoidPsychoanal Tue 23-Feb-10 00:23:16

Why don't you turn it round.....

How would you feel if your DH shagged another bird? and met her every week to do so?

hobbgoblin Tue 23-Feb-10 00:23:48

Bad girl?

Come on

sophie69 Tue 23-Feb-10 00:25:24

the danger is that i go 5, 10 15 yrs without sex, and that makes me so upset. i am 35 and i will only be young and thin for so long. he makes me feel good, and so i just want to seize the moment.

i emailed him what i want and he emailed me what he wants. he is not being selfish, and has offered to play my role play.

it just seems so good and what i need right now

abbierhodes Tue 23-Feb-10 00:25:25

I think you should sort out your own marriage rather than wreck someone else's.

You know the answer to your 'dilemma', you just want us to tell you it's OK.

If your relationship can't be fixed, end it, and find someone who is available.

hobbgoblin Tue 23-Feb-10 00:25:42

Sounds like you don't need or want a sweetie or a gentleman to me. You want a long hard, down and dirty fuck. So, pick someone else maybe?

electra Tue 23-Feb-10 00:26:15

No, you are not bad.......but it will get more complicated. The more you shag him, the more there is the potential for one or both of you to fall in love.

sighofunrequitedlust Tue 23-Feb-10 00:26:32

I find fizzfiend's post refreshing.

People do, you know, and quite often nothing bad comes of it.

But I don't think that's the mumsnet majority line.

GypsyMoth Tue 23-Feb-10 00:27:07

Lol ....... You're going for a walk tomorrow??

You control yourself now, won't you??

sophie69 Tue 23-Feb-10 00:27:28

do i don't want it to be dirty. i want to feel loved and special. and i don't want him to grab- i want to control the moment

hobbgoblin Tue 23-Feb-10 00:29:59

It's been sleeting. It will be muddy. Rethink the walk. And when you find that special place where you can get a taste of this man's sweetness, I suggest you on top if you want control. He may grab yer tits though so beware.

sophie69 Tue 23-Feb-10 00:34:34

the deal over email was that i shaved for him and he would go down on me- no attention to be given to him.
so it is good for me and he has promised to go slow and i don't have to do anything for him.

am i just wrong to want this guy?

ACretinoidPsychoanal Tue 23-Feb-10 00:35:08

Are you purposely bypassing my question then? hmm

Just fuck him and be done with it.

Fuck your family and his eh.

JeremyVile Tue 23-Feb-10 00:35:53

If this is real, and your dh is witholding sex long term then go for it, fuck it. or him rather. Dodgy ground though, it will get messy.

JeremyVile Tue 23-Feb-10 00:36:30

Oh this is so a wind-up...

WhenwillIfeelnormal Tue 23-Feb-10 00:37:44

Yes you are wrong. Now go away.

sophie69 Tue 23-Feb-10 00:39:03

thanks for the sympathy! i am making a big choice here. my love life is important to me. i have cried about it, and have talked it through with friends. i do think it is time for me to have some fun.

ACretinoidPsychoanal Tue 23-Feb-10 00:40:36

Split up with your DH then, go for an 'unattached' man you bloody daft git.

Why the fuck do you want to get involved with a married man, and you being married too???????

ItsGraceAgain Tue 23-Feb-10 00:41:18

umm, Sophie: you rabbitted on about how sweet & gentlemanly the OM is, and how you want to feel loved not dirty etc ... and you're emailing each other with your sex fantasies and your "role-play".

So either you are a very confused lady, or you just want dirrty sex with a man who shares your kinks. He's no gentleman, that's for sure.

MN has already hated me for not thinking infidelity is worse than cannibalism - if you didn't sound so messed up, I'd say go for it.
But you do sound messed up.

WhenwillIfeelnormal Tue 23-Feb-10 00:41:40

Sympathy for you? You must be joking. Sympathy for your husband and children, yes - sympathy for his wife and children, yes.

Just go away.

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