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Fancy my boss! Help

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AdvicePlease1709 Mon 24-Feb-14 20:22:13

I have name changed as i really don't want to be outed. I work very closely with my boss and have a good working relationship.

Just recently though i find myself losing concentration in meetings because i am looking at him and bloody dreaming about him at night.

I feel like i am a teenager again and it is really affecting my work. It wouldn't be so bad if i didn't have to work with him nearly every hour of the day.

I am seriously considering looking for work elsewhere.

Logg1e Mon 24-Feb-14 20:23:22

Ok, you seem to have found a solution.

babyphat Mon 24-Feb-14 20:34:00

I've been there! My worst was a 2 year (!) crush on my female boss - I moved within the organisation after about 18 months. She's moved on too but I suspect even now (years on) I'd still feel a twinge. blush

Partly I think there's just something about proximity - I've had sex dreams about nearly everyone I've worked for!!

Hang in there! Just try and be super professional and don't do anything embarrassing like accidentally putting kisses on emails (been there too)

babyphat Mon 24-Feb-14 20:35:54

I sound like a right nutter. I'm not, honest! Just crush-prone but have never acted on one in the ten+ years I've been with dp. They always pass in the end.

AdvicePlease1709 Mon 24-Feb-14 20:38:31

I had a quick Google and a lot of people have said it is proximity. I never even thought this way about him before i was promoted. It is just frustrating that i have let it affect the way i work.

AdvicePlease1709 Mon 24-Feb-14 20:39:47

I don't have a dp at the moment but it did start before we split. The split was nothing to do with this though - he cheated on me.

superstarheartbreaker Mon 24-Feb-14 20:58:16

Is your boss single? If he is why not drop a few hints? I will probably get flamed but many people do meet at work. If he's married then time to move on.

AdvicePlease1709 Mon 24-Feb-14 21:03:20

He is single which i think is why i can't stop thinking about him. I am a real worrier and would be feeling terrible if he had a partner.

I have thought about flirting a little as we are both single but then i think i could really jeopardize my position there.

ALittleStranger Mon 24-Feb-14 21:12:05

Hmm, it's a really tricky one.

It's not exactly unheard of for people to meet at work, even if one person is the boss, so I wouldn't entirely discount it. He has more to lose than you so I think the impetus has to come from you, but I wouldn't do anything you couldn't row back from. I'd push a friendship with the very mildest of flirty undertones and see how he picks up. I think given the stakes you have to be prepared for any build up to be of the slow burning variety.

Does he directly line manage you? Would it be possible to readjust the structure slightly if you did start a relationship, even if it just means someone else does your appraisals and signs off any pay rises?

AdvicePlease1709 Mon 24-Feb-14 21:18:31

He is the owner of the business and i am line manager to everyone else so i'm directly underneath him (--or i wish- -) blush

We do have a good friendship and if we have been out for a meeting we will stop and have lunch and a drink somewhere. I have also met him on a few nights out and it has been a laugh.

My head says don't be daft but i also think well why not

AdvicePlease1709 Mon 24-Feb-14 21:19:04

Well that strike through didn't work!

Amethyst24 Mon 24-Feb-14 21:29:39

If he's single too there might not be much to worry about. These things are rarely one-sided IME.

I had a really annoying crush on a colleague a few years back. I didn't even like him, he was fucking annoying, but I kept having these damn dreams about him. And then at work I'd get all blushy and awkward. I love my DP and had no desire for an affair at all, and didn't behave inappropriately in any way at all - but I kept having the stupid dreams! They stopped when he left the company.

ALittleStranger Mon 24-Feb-14 21:34:11

Well that strike through didn't work!

No, but it did succeed in drawing attention to what you're thinking. Maybe just go for this approach on the next report you have to write!

AdvicePlease1709 Mon 24-Feb-14 21:37:11

You lot will have me struggling. I think i am thinking more about it now as we leave tomorrow night to stay in London for 2 nights for some big meetings.

I need to be on top form to make sure we come back with the contracts and i really am not going to be able to concentrate

Wrapdress Tue 25-Feb-14 00:49:37

I think it is normal to get crushes on people you spend a lot of time with. Usually for me these work crushes are really quick and then they subside.
I currently have a manager crush that is very intense, however. We have never spoken of it, but it's mutual. He started it. Just eye contact and smiling. No talking about it. Been going on for 6 months. He is 4 levels above me, so very little day to day contact, but he walks by my office several times a day to look and smile. He's married and manager-subordinate relationships are expressly forbidden at this company. I would NEVER initiate anything with him because of these things. It's kind of pleasant, however, and makes my day go by faster. Yet every day I wake up glad nothing further is going on. It would be too messy and simply wrong. I just consider him the love of my next life.
I'd be careful. So many times these things blow up and it's the underling female who suffers for it.

Logg1e Tue 25-Feb-14 02:56:09

And his wife.

LettertoHermioneGranger Tue 25-Feb-14 03:12:26

Is your crush attraction-based? You say you have a good friendship, is your crush based on that, that you enjoy his company and could see a lasting relationship with him?

As others have said, people do meet at work. If it's not purely a sexual attraction thing, if you honestly think you would enjoy him as an emotional partner, I would consider it. It would have to be very slow, nothing that could get you in trouble. Perhaps try to build your out-of-work friendship first, spend more time together off company time, and maybe let a relationship blossom if it happens mutually.

superstarheartbreaker Tue 25-Feb-14 05:34:30

I still have fantasies anout an ex colleague. Gish he is georgeous but 10 years younger and has a gf so I cant go there. It was a mutual thing though. Hit it off straight away but both quute awkward when in the same room.

VivianStanshall Tue 25-Feb-14 06:19:37

I'd look for work elsewhere as it won't go away IME.

I did it the other way round, I was the boss and as the relationship sadly began to break down after a couple of years I was the one who got another job (it's not always the woman that moves jobs).

AdvicePlease1709 Tue 25-Feb-14 16:12:23

We are heading out for something to eat this evening but no drinks because of an early morning meeting.

I think it is just friendship, he is lovely to me but in friendly way - there really isn't so much as a hint of flirting from him. I think the attraction is based on his personality and possibly his authority to be honest.

SeaSaltMill Tue 25-Feb-14 16:17:22

My best friend and her manager used to flirt. Now they've been together 5 years and have a 6 month old baby. It does happen.

However, if he's not returning the feeling, it could just be messy and embarrassing.

Logg1e Tue 25-Feb-14 16:30:09

Whenever I felt like this (not for many years!) it was mostly down to boredom. Having crushes at work just made dull jobs a bit more exciting.

WhateverTrevor83 Tue 25-Feb-14 16:36:03

He's single isn't he?

Don't beat yourself up about it OP. But yes, don't get too distracted on your trip! Good luck.

Evansy Tue 25-Feb-14 16:53:00

I met my husband at work over 20 years ago. He was the boss. I was taken on initially as a temp but later was made permanent. I liked him as soon as I met him, but worked there for over 18 months before any sort of romance started, and then we got married about 18 months after that. We have 2 kids and are happily married. Don't know if that helps any.

WhateverTrevor83 Tue 25-Feb-14 17:07:04

later was made permanent

grin sounds like it! Haha. Aw, congratulations!

Good luck OP. Hope this has a happy ending.

AdvicePlease1709 Tue 25-Feb-14 18:33:52

He is single.

I think my major concern is that I am shit at flirting so I wouldn't know how to be subtle and I would probably make a fool of myself.

Have you tried bending over the desk and handing him a ruler?

<Secretary film fantasy>

maggiemight Tue 25-Feb-14 18:39:19

Have you tried bending over the desk and handing him a ruler

ERrr, is she facing him or beside his chair or what never was any good at flirting

TypicaLibra Tue 25-Feb-14 18:41:05

How about licking his chest in manner of PudseyDuck grin grin grin

AdvicePlease1709 Tue 25-Feb-14 18:47:34

I may hold of on licking him. I am for something to eat so I will report back in a little while.

PortofinoRevisited Tue 25-Feb-14 19:25:16

Don't eat him - it's not professional.

AdvicePlease1709 Tue 25-Feb-14 20:29:47

Well i am back in my room. Dinner was nice.

I tried to flirt a little but i think it went completely unnoticed and i now plan to give up. I think it may be time to start on the mini bar.

AdvicePlease1709 Tue 25-Feb-14 21:28:35

He has just text to see if i fancy sharing his mini bar. Do i stay or do i go?

Lurleene Tue 25-Feb-14 21:34:05

Go. Now.


AdvicePlease1709 Tue 25-Feb-14 21:38:01

Right i'm going. Thanks for the advice

Needadvice5 Tue 25-Feb-14 21:40:32

This is exciting! Hope it goes well!

EricNorthmansFangbanger Tue 25-Feb-14 21:43:48

Glad you are going, maybe the flirting didn't go unnoticed after all? Have fun wink

Loggins Tue 25-Feb-14 22:21:04

Didn't need much convincing did you ;)

At this very moment she will be running down the corridor in her flannelette nighty and her velcro fastened slippers, rearranging her curlers and trying to wipe the Ponds Vanishing cream from her face.

How can he resist?

maggiemight Tue 25-Feb-14 22:27:47

Minibars are extortionate - he must be keen!

RubyrooUK Tue 25-Feb-14 22:32:35

We need a report. <nosy and bored>

WhereMyMilk Tue 25-Feb-14 22:33:08

Am shamelessly marking my spot just for shits and giggles!

Mrswellyboot Tue 25-Feb-14 22:36:45

Totally marking my place. This has livened up my Tuesday night. Will treat myself to a mug of hot milk grin

fortyplus Tue 25-Feb-14 22:37:08

OMG this is brilliant - the start of a new romance no doubt smile

AdvicePlease1709 Tue 25-Feb-14 22:43:18

Well I have just spent a good half an hour going through the presentation for tomorrow's meeting which has been thrilling so I have excused myself to the loo.

5 more minutes and I'm goin to bed. I will update as soon as I can

fortyplus Wed 26-Feb-14 08:02:46

Goodness! Either you were so bored you fell asleep or... wink

AuntieBrenda Wed 26-Feb-14 08:11:40

OP OP OP! I've been lurking! Update please! smile

Jinsei Wed 26-Feb-14 08:25:36

Marking place for updates! smile

AlpacaYourThings Wed 26-Feb-14 08:30:12

Totalling marking my place! [shameless]

AdvicePlease1709 Wed 26-Feb-14 11:06:35

Sorry for the delayed reply. Bloody meetings.

Nothing too exciting really just a lot of talking about work last night but I didn't managed to get back to my room till very late.

We have just finished my first meeting and grabbing coffee. He has told me needs to speak to me tonight and has booked us in at a restaurant tonight.

Let's hope he doesn't want to discuss work.

AdvicePlease1709 Wed 26-Feb-14 11:07:08

Sorry for any typos as I am on my phone.

AuntieBrenda Wed 26-Feb-14 14:06:54

Ah good luck mate!

AmIatwat Wed 26-Feb-14 14:17:10

Keeping everything crossed. Just play a teensy bit hard to get, it will add to the sexual tension, make him really want you bad grrrrrh.

MerryInthechelseahotel Wed 26-Feb-14 14:18:02

Can't you say to him as its a bit cold you suggest room service instead grin

Bogeyface Wed 26-Feb-14 19:14:15

Can't you say to him as its a bit cold you suggest room service instead
and that you are really sorry but the hotel laundry lost all of your clothes except some sexy lingerie grin

50shadesofknackered Wed 26-Feb-14 19:38:43

Ooo good luck! I hope he wants to talk about the same thing as you wink

Bogeyface Wed 26-Feb-14 19:48:14

Just had a thought, havent posted using your work internet have you? shock

MerryInthechelseahotel Wed 26-Feb-14 20:17:50

*cant you say to him as its a bit cold you suggest room service instead.
And that you are really sorry but the hotel laundry lost all of your clothes except some sexy lingerie*

And you are slightly hard of hearing so could he sit really really close grin
I, too, hope this is not on work computer

AdvicePlease1709 Wed 26-Feb-14 20:40:54

No not on the work laptop. I am using my phone mainly and I also have my tablet with me.

I have just returned to the hotel. I completely messed it up. He said he had noticed that I have been flirting with him and I was panicking he was going to say he was not interested so I said that I was just being friendly etc... And he said that it is a shame as although he is worried about work relationships - he does like me.

I just froze and nodded and felt like I couldn't go back on it.

jayho Wed 26-Feb-14 20:42:25

text him, tell him the above. Your audience can't afford for this to fail now grin

BitOutOfPractice Wed 26-Feb-14 20:46:23

OMG! What did you say back?!

AdvicePlease1709 Wed 26-Feb-14 20:49:48

Nothing I literally nodded and he told me not to feel guilty about it and we pretty much drove back in silence. I wish I wasn't so bloody shy

nomorebooze Wed 26-Feb-14 20:51:32

Just read all your post..............! text him back nowwwwwwww and say you do really like him tooo, DO IT!

BitOutOfPractice Wed 26-Feb-14 20:52:15

SEnd him an email! A text!! Anything!

Say "Look I was pretty much the rabbit inthe headlights when you spoke to me the other night about "us". Maybe we could discuss the subject again over a drink, out of work hours and constraints x"

Twinklestein Wed 26-Feb-14 20:55:23

OP - was he definitely saying that he likes you in that way - or was he he saying - noticed you flirting - I like you but don't do work relationships...

AdvicePlease1709 Wed 26-Feb-14 20:55:41

Ok so I'm thinking because we also got the business today. I could get some champagne from the bar and take it to his room to celebrate and just tell him?

I don't know what is wrong with me because my biggest fear was that he wouldn't feel the same and then I am still worried about saying anything.

fortyplus Wed 26-Feb-14 20:55:49

For goodness' sake - text him!! He'll love it that you've stayed professional and rather sweet and shy. Just say something like can we meet for coffee to have a chat about something other than work and see how it goes?

fortyplus Wed 26-Feb-14 20:56:46

XP - no not Champagne - that's far too obvious! grin

AdvicePlease1709 Wed 26-Feb-14 20:56:59

I'm pretty sure that is what he was saying as he said it was a shame I wasn't being flirty. That would be embarrassing if I have read that conversation wrong!

nomorebooze Wed 26-Feb-14 20:57:14


BitOutOfPractice Wed 26-Feb-14 20:57:45

YOu haven't! Go for it!

nomorebooze Wed 26-Feb-14 20:57:56

Yes Champagne..............

AdvicePlease1709 Wed 26-Feb-14 20:58:20

So do I just leave it tonight and wait till we are back ?

AdvicePlease1709 Wed 26-Feb-14 20:58:58

Sorry loads of x posts and differing suggestions! Oh god!

nomorebooze Wed 26-Feb-14 20:59:07

errrr No

nomorebooze Wed 26-Feb-14 20:59:34

text him otherwise you wont do it.............

Lurleene Wed 26-Feb-14 21:00:53

No No don't wait, you will chicken out. And he is probably feeling quite miserable tonight. Talking to you might have taken guts to do. Tonight! Tonight!

ferretyfeet Wed 26-Feb-14 21:03:08

I'm riveted how do I mark my place?

AdvicePlease1709 Wed 26-Feb-14 21:04:32

Sod it I'm biting the bullet and going. I won't have he guts tomorrow if I wait and I'd hate for him to feel embarrassed.

I am going to skip the champagne though

PortofinoRevisited Wed 26-Feb-14 21:04:32

Have you not been to the restaurant yet?

nomorebooze Wed 26-Feb-14 21:05:23

thing is, you will feel even worse if you don't do it tonight! it will stew.....even go with what someone else said, you were like rabbit in headlights and regret the just being friendly remark tell him how you really feel.................

fortyplus Wed 26-Feb-14 21:06:21

Good decision! Go go go!

nomorebooze Wed 26-Feb-14 21:06:42

yeah go girl..................

MyMILisfromHELL Wed 26-Feb-14 21:09:21

Marking place!

FrankUnderwood Wed 26-Feb-14 21:11:50

go go go

AmIatwat Wed 26-Feb-14 21:17:59

Just text him, I know what you are going through, I've been there, regretted never acting on it. Look you know him, you've worked together, it's not a silly crush. He's as bloody scared of rejection as you. Even if you have made an error of judgement ( I doubt you have) just bite the bullet. Say something along the lines of " Had a fab evening, sorry I was a bit shy etc, was taken aback, but yes, sorry if I really fancy you, I can't help how I feel, but understand if you don't feel the same way".

PortofinoRevisited Wed 26-Feb-14 21:18:04

I am always the sour grapes one, I know - but this is an horrendous idea. Don't go and do anything. Keep your self respect and professionalism intact. I have seen this sort of thing happen many a time. It always goes badly wrong and usually means the WOMAN has to leave her job. Not the male boss.

PortofinoRevisited Wed 26-Feb-14 21:19:02

If it is meant to be - then pursue it more gently in normal time.

SheherazadeSchadenfreude Wed 26-Feb-14 21:21:41

What Porto says.

AmIatwat Wed 26-Feb-14 21:22:21

Look, if he wanted to discuss your flirting because he has a problem with that he wouldn't have booked a meal for two in a restaurant, he'd have discussed it over coffee. You have nothing to lose, I doubt you'd get fired. Most people meet there partners at work. However if you do nothing you'll end up resigning if the tension escalates to the point where you can no longer communicate with each other.

Twinklestein Wed 26-Feb-14 21:26:32

Personally I wouldn't do anything tonight.

PortofinoRevisited Wed 26-Feb-14 21:27:06

Um She has EVERYTHING to lose. Shagging the boss like this is a recipe for disaster.

PortofinoRevisited Wed 26-Feb-14 21:29:05

If they genuinely like each other - well they can go on dates like normal people and get to know each other better. Shagging your boss on a business trip is so wrong on so many levels.

Auntimatter Wed 26-Feb-14 21:29:25

Good luck! Lucky you. wink

Lavenderhoney Wed 26-Feb-14 21:29:39

He wouldn't have booked a table in a smart restaurant to harangue you about inappropriate flirtingsmile ( unhelpful after the event)

AmIatwat Wed 26-Feb-14 21:34:30

Yes, don't go shagging him tonight! But a much needed snog wouldn't go amiss. Then date him and keep him waiting and wanting....

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Wed 26-Feb-14 21:39:03

<marking place>

Hope this is more successful than the van man thread.

fortyplus Wed 26-Feb-14 21:45:24

Definitely remain polite and professional tonight! But fine to discuss the fact that you're attracted to each other and formulate a project plan! grin

AmIatwat Wed 26-Feb-14 21:45:56

Look this bloke has bitten the bullet and asked you out on a date. Quite understandably you got all flummoxed and blew it, however it can be salvaged. I'm sure he's a decent fella given that he hasn't been a letch or anything. Don't chicken out. Life is tough but sometimes we have to take a few risks. Follow your instincts and tell the poor bugger you like him. It's not harassment, it's being open and honest. If he says no way Jose accept it; draw a line under it, all is not lost.

MamaPingu Wed 26-Feb-14 21:53:45

Just read through this entire thread and was gutted to get to the end.

Hope all is going well OP I am so giddy for you smile

These are the best threads! So much tension grin

Jinsei Wed 26-Feb-14 22:07:31

Don't forget to update us OP! smile

firstchoice Wed 26-Feb-14 22:10:45

Ahhh, sounds like he really likes you too!
Hope you are able to keep conveying that to each other and have a proper kiss before you have to go home tomorrow?

Don't hop in to bed with him though, take your time with this but be very clear you like him, and then when you get back you can have a proper date?

wishing you luck, OP!

Bogeyface Wed 26-Feb-14 22:15:57

5'll get you 10 that she is riding him like a cowboy right now grin

Or that could be my overactive jealousy imagination!

MerryInthechelseahotel Wed 26-Feb-14 22:21:34

She had better tell us now after all this!

AmIatwat Wed 26-Feb-14 22:29:26

I'm not going to get much sleep, praying for a happy outcome.

Ragglefrock Wed 26-Feb-14 22:29:51

Shamelessly marking place

MamaPingu Wed 26-Feb-14 22:33:30

I'm fed up of finding threads like this and getting giddy about the OP and having to wait for an answer for ages grin

Ratbagcatbag Wed 26-Feb-14 22:37:52

Marking place for update. smile good luck op

Incapinka Wed 26-Feb-14 22:39:14

Eeeek! What's happening?!

something2say Wed 26-Feb-14 22:40:34

Marking place too, how exciting!

AmIatwat Wed 26-Feb-14 22:46:34

Something is definitely happening. Gosh I wish I was OP.I'd 'ave 'im.

Bogeyface Wed 26-Feb-14 22:50:33

Interesting thought to keep you going until we get the update....

what is the ettiquette on calling sick to your boss because you have a hangover and are walking like John Wayne thanks to a night of champagne and shagging, if the man you were shagging is in fact, your boss?

Do you make the call, all official? Or is it ok to pillow talk it?

AdvicePlease1709 Wed 26-Feb-14 22:50:58

Thank you for all your advice ladies. We went for a walk and had a really good chat about how we both really felt and it is mutual.

We are going to start dating and seeing how things go. He said he was really pleased I had come to talk to him as he was a bit gutted about it.

And yes we had a kiss and it was lovely but I went straight back to my hotel room because I am a lady (and you all told me too)

Bogeyface Wed 26-Feb-14 22:51:07

calling IN sick obviously!

Bogeyface Wed 26-Feb-14 22:51:54


Shame I didnt win my bet, but what a fantastic result! Can we have an MN flashmob at the wedding? wink

AlpacaYourThings Wed 26-Feb-14 22:53:07

Aww that's sweet.

How do you think your work will take it? I know it wouldn't be a big deal where I work at all.

MamaPingu Wed 26-Feb-14 22:54:10

Yayyyyy!!! grin

AmIatwat Wed 26-Feb-14 22:55:56

I'm so made up for you, I really hope it all works out , got a good feeling about this.xxxxxxxx At last I can sleep tonight.

fortyplus Wed 26-Feb-14 22:56:45

Brilliant! smile

AdvicePlease1709 Wed 26-Feb-14 22:58:37

Well we have a morning meeting just to sign some contracts and then back to work. I think we will keep it away from work for the time being until we know it is serious.

I will keep you all updated if you want me to. We will be going for something to eat and drinks on Friday

nomorebooze Wed 26-Feb-14 23:00:50

fab outcome so pleasedsmile defo keep us updated ! really hope it all works out well for you flowers

Lurleene Wed 26-Feb-14 23:05:12

Oh how lovely. I really hope it works out. Well done for taking the risk of telling him how you feel, it must have been so scary!

Incapinka Wed 26-Feb-14 23:07:25

This is so exciting. Please keep us posted. I am pregnant and need some excitement!!

ZenNudist Wed 26-Feb-14 23:08:04

Hope this works out for you

[hangs out for update ]

MerryInthechelseahotel Wed 26-Feb-14 23:09:48

bogeyface grin

Have a good time op! Keep us informed!

BitOutOfPractice Wed 26-Feb-14 23:21:15

Oooooooo! How lovely is that?

50shadesofknackered Wed 26-Feb-14 23:27:55

That's lovely. Have a great time and don't forget to update

Jinsei Wed 26-Feb-14 23:36:24


Jaynebxl Wed 26-Feb-14 23:43:12


AmIatwat Wed 26-Feb-14 23:43:24

Keep it nice and slow, and don't say a word to your colleagues ok?

fukkigucci Wed 26-Feb-14 23:44:31


Woo, nice to see a happy ending on MN!

Loggins Thu 27-Feb-14 00:33:24

And for the first time today I smiled.
Good luck to you OP, I wish you lots of good times ahead

AuntieBrenda Thu 27-Feb-14 08:34:04

Ah, good for you OP. I hope you have a lovely date on Friday x

Lottapianos Thu 27-Feb-14 08:40:58

How exciting! So happy for you OP. You've done well so far but agree with others - take it nice and slow. And have fun!

cherrytree63 Thu 27-Feb-14 08:47:48

I actually had butterflies reading this! :-)

ALittleStranger Thu 27-Feb-14 09:00:30

Excellent, I love a happy ending.

Yeah, yeah, it might go wrong still, but well shit happens.

AdvicePlease1709 Thu 27-Feb-14 09:01:15

I just wanted to pop back in and thank you all again. I really don't think I would have done it without your advice

Lavenderhoney Thu 27-Feb-14 09:15:49

How lovelysmile good for you, opsmile and such restraint!

Don't tell anyone at work. The time to do that is when the wedding is booked.

They've probably all been watching you both anyway though. Nothing is secret from bored co workerssmile

PrimalLass Thu 27-Feb-14 12:01:55

Lovely grin

PoirotsMoustache Thu 27-Feb-14 13:45:29

What a lovely thread! I'm sitting here with a big stupid grin on my face grin. All the best, OP, I hope everything goes really well.

ApprenticeViper Thu 27-Feb-14 14:18:55

Absolutely fantastic thread! grin

Really pleased for you OP, wishing you both a happy future!

HotDAMNlifeisgood Thu 27-Feb-14 14:34:52

Sounds like you both handled it really well. Enjoy the dates!

AmIatwat Thu 27-Feb-14 16:35:55
Mrswellyboot Thu 27-Feb-14 18:09:11

Oh this is so sweet. I hope it all works out. Take it easy and enjoy it!

Visitingtethersend Thu 27-Feb-14 18:31:14

Aww really enjoyed reading that. Will you be able to give us an update Friday? Shamelessly marking a place for an update grin

Jbck Thu 27-Feb-14 18:42:09

Yeh! Ive been lurking and couldn't wait to get your update, hope things go well.

bumbleymummy Thu 27-Feb-14 19:27:11

What a lovely thread! I hope it works out for you smile

firstchoice Thu 27-Feb-14 22:30:37

Yay! How lovely you both feel the same!
And a kiss smile
Bet you cant wait till tomorrow night!
Really hope it works out for you both smile

Sourpickles Fri 28-Feb-14 08:42:41


Op, im loving this thread. ..ahhhhhh!

Good luck tonight smile keep us updated!

AmIatwat Fri 28-Feb-14 09:28:11

Yes do, we'll require hourly updates.

AuntieBrenda Fri 28-Feb-14 13:20:37

I am so living vicariously through this thread. I hope we're bit freaking out the OP!

MamaPingu Fri 28-Feb-14 13:54:28

This thread is currently as good as my love life gets ATM grin

Lurleene Fri 28-Feb-14 18:11:35

Hope all goes well tonight OP smile

AdvicePlease1709 Fri 28-Feb-14 18:17:23

I have just got back in from work and he is picking me up at half 7 so I'm running around like a mad woman trying to get ready. I'm actually not 100% sure where we are going as he has said it is a surprise

mumbaisapphirebluespruce Fri 28-Feb-14 18:22:12

De lurking to add my congratulations. This is very exciting. Am 24 hours into DDs sickness bug and this is a much needed distraction from vomity laundry. Have fun getting ready.

namechangeagaininnit Fri 28-Feb-14 18:25:30

Date night! I'm having a date night too smile

Hope it goes well OP

AmIatwat Fri 28-Feb-14 18:49:15

AuntieBrenda .so am I, have even done my bikin line.

Lavenderhoney Fri 28-Feb-14 18:51:48

Gosh he is pulling out all the stops! Keep it slowsmile

Incapinka Fri 28-Feb-14 18:54:09

Please update us later! Hope you have fun and a lovely time!

AmIatwat Fri 28-Feb-14 19:24:44

Any minute now...... please send update from powder room.

50shadesofknackered Fri 28-Feb-14 19:54:05

No update sad come on op! How can I live vicariously through you if u won't update! yes, I know I'm sad

megcleary Fri 28-Feb-14 20:02:00

Shameless place marking

Auntimatter Fri 28-Feb-14 20:19:51

50shades she'll be out having a lovely time. Why would she be posting here, hopefully she's concentrating on lovely dinner and company.

littlewhitebag Fri 28-Feb-14 20:45:17

I have just read this thread and it is very heart warming. You never know when or where the man of your dreams might come along and sometimes you have to grab opportunities with both hands. I hope you have a lovely night out tonight OP.

AmIatwat Fri 28-Feb-14 20:47:58

50 shades, we are all living vicariously through OP, imagining the " what it was me" scenario, oh we can but dream....

nomorebooze Fri 28-Feb-14 20:50:16

hope you have a lovely nightsmile

Sourpickles Fri 28-Feb-14 20:54:22

It's 9pm. hurry home and update op!

FreeLikeABird Fri 28-Feb-14 21:01:20

Ooooh how exciting, hope date night goes well smile

Visitingtethersend Fri 28-Feb-14 21:04:09

Ooh hope it's going well. Gawd what a saddo I am on a Fri night grin

AmIatwat Fri 28-Feb-14 21:05:41
AmIatwat Fri 28-Feb-14 21:06:34

Just wanted to add a little drama to this thread 'cause I'm sooo 'cited.xx

Fluffycloudland77 Fri 28-Feb-14 21:09:04

<buys hat>

AuntieBrenda Fri 28-Feb-14 21:40:57

Just sitting here watching 8 out if 10 cats and thinking about the OP having her date...aaahhhh.... I can't imagine how much fun it is being on a date with someone you fancy this much and having all these mners willing you to really fall for each other. It must be like having a gang of mates in the loos that you have to run in and update every so often! grin

AmIatwat Fri 28-Feb-14 21:55:54

OP please update us, we are going out of our minds . Are you having a good time? Silly question I know,

Visitingtethersend Fri 28-Feb-14 21:58:08

Oh at least it's not just me sat watching 8 of 10 cats. That bloody music is stuck in my head tho. Keep checking back for an update grin

fukkigucci Fri 28-Feb-14 22:17:27

Can't wait for the update!
(I was on the thread earlier but I've name changed!)

MerryInthechelseahotel Fri 28-Feb-14 23:03:53

What colour fluffy? I don't want to clash?

AdvicePlease1709 Sat 01-Mar-14 00:07:42

Sorry for the late update but I have only just made it in. We went for a lovely meal followed by drinks and I had an amazing time. He said he had planned something else but had some problems last minute so I am looking forward to next time.

He is cooking for me Sunday which will be lovely at his house.

Jinsei Sat 01-Mar-14 00:18:00

Aah smile

mameulah Sat 01-Mar-14 00:24:17

This is so exciting!!! I am really happy for you.

mumbaisapphirebluespruce Sat 01-Mar-14 00:30:07

Woo-hoo. A man that cooks. His Mum must have done a good job!

mumbaisapphirebluespruce Sat 01-Mar-14 00:31:15

The woo-hoo was not sarcastic. Hope it didn't come across that way. It was a jubilant woo-hoo. Assuming of course he can rustle up more than beans on toast!

Bogeyface Sat 01-Mar-14 00:57:08

There is a thread on Relationships atm where a man said to his mate how he missed the chase and good luck to him. The man got a pasting but I can see where he is coming from!

I wouldnt want to be part of the meat market that is dating but this thread has really made me miss the heady days of a new relationship, the fun, the anticipation......I am really rather envious of the OP!

Bogeyface Sat 01-Mar-14 00:58:54

Apologies, it is on AIBU

Lurleene Sat 01-Mar-14 10:26:46

So pleased you had a good time. Bet this time last weekend you wouldn't have believed you would be lining up a second date with him!

Sourpickles Sat 01-Mar-14 13:41:14


50shadesofknackered Sat 01-Mar-14 16:08:41

I'm pleased you had a good time op grin

mameulah Sat 01-Mar-14 21:18:27

Please, please keep up updated!

Visitingtethersend Sun 02-Mar-14 10:26:00

Hope you have a great day today. Keep us updated grin

IsTheGrassGreener Sun 02-Mar-14 12:52:39

Have fun today, and yes, updates please smile

Incapinka Sun 02-Mar-14 17:48:36

Have fun!
And another request for updates!!

really1234 Sun 02-Mar-14 17:56:29

Just seen this. What a lovely story, hope all is going well.

AmIatwat Sun 02-Mar-14 21:11:31

So it appears you stayed for tea ! Does he bake as well?

Thetallesttower Sun 02-Mar-14 22:05:55

I've just come across this thread and it is adorable. I'm so glad you got your guy OP!

AmIatwat Sun 02-Mar-14 23:06:11

No news? they say no news is good news but a surreptitious update from the lav might keep us out of our misery.

Aw! Like Thetallesttower I've also just come across this - how lovely!

How did it go?

dulldeirdre Mon 03-Mar-14 01:29:48

More like she's stayed for breakfast!!

birdmomma Mon 03-Mar-14 04:08:32

OMG loving this thread; it's like reading a Jilly Cooper romance when I was 14 and had never been kissed.

Sourpickles Mon 03-Mar-14 08:21:43

They're sharing scrambled eggs while discussing how to time their arrival at work for sure grin

Joysmum Mon 03-Mar-14 08:56:06

I'm waiting, and hoping, for a great update too.

fukkigucci Mon 03-Mar-14 12:54:33

I hope it went well OP!!

AdvicePlease1709 Mon 03-Mar-14 22:53:54

I am so sorry all it has been rather hectic.

Yesterday was lovely and yes he can certainly cook. I drank a lot so he set up the bloody spare bed for me so that I didn't feel uncomfortable and that he was happy to wait.

We woke up late for work so I went in and told them all he had a meeting which I think just about covered it.

I was a bit disappointed to be honest so I waited till everyone had left and told him I didn't fancy waiting.

Bogeyface Mon 03-Mar-14 23:00:15

What was his reaction?! grin

AmIatwat Mon 03-Mar-14 23:04:52

Well that's a feckin relief! Had everyone on tenterhooks you minx!

Visitingtethersend Mon 03-Mar-14 23:26:27

Yay. Yes what was his reaction grin

Jaynebxl Tue 04-Mar-14 07:36:02




HoneyandRum Tue 04-Mar-14 08:23:24

How old is he and how old are you? [nosy]

AdvicePlease1709 Tue 04-Mar-14 20:21:15

Let's just say it beat my usual overtime smile

I'm 30 and he is 35 honey

Visitingtethersend Tue 04-Mar-14 21:06:45

Sounds like a good reaction then grin

Well chuffed for ya and that it's going well

AuntieBrenda Thu 06-Mar-14 19:28:43

How's it going OP?

Monetbyhimself Thu 06-Mar-14 19:30:29

Shall we buy hats ???? [ grin]

Bogeyface Thu 06-Mar-14 19:40:30


You mean you dont have a selection of hats and wedding outfits ready to go, like the queen? [common...sniff]


AdvicePlease1709 Thu 06-Mar-14 22:12:16

All is going well thank you. He is still lovely and I'm coping surprisingly well with acting normally at work.

sadwidow28 Fri 07-Mar-14 01:33:26

I am loving this thread!

I would like to declare that I have an assortment of BIG hats for the MumsNetters. Choose a colour and you can probably have it.

OP, give me enough warning to get the hats loaded into a transit van. We want to look very good and proper when we turn out. grin

BitOutOfPractice Fri 07-Mar-14 08:02:13

<warm glow>

Monetbyhimself Fri 07-Mar-14 09:26:19

Sadwidow I'd like something in shocking pink with enough feathers and stuff to make the vicar sneeze grin

TheShimmeringPussycat Fri 07-Mar-14 20:40:34

<delurks> This thread has warmed the cockles of my...heart. smile

Visitingtethersend Mon 10-Mar-14 14:01:25

Hi Op

How's it going? All still going well I hope.

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