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Is he a Mommy's boy?

(48 Posts)
IsHeAMommysBoy Tue 14-Jan-14 01:00:19

Met a guy online a few months ago. He isn't very experienced with the opposite sex. He lives at home with his parents as he says he financially supports them. He said he is looking for a mortgage this year and has discussed moving out with his Sister.

He is a friend of mine on FB. He has a high paying salary. We have talked a lot on the phone and Skype. He has been badly used in the past by three other women. He is infatuated with a married woman at work and they have kissed. hmm

We arranged to meet this March but he said he couldn't stay out overnight as his parents and family would ask questions. He is 33!!

Should I cut contact with him?

Blondeorbrunette Tue 14-Jan-14 01:02:58

Yes. But not because he maybe a mummy's boy, but because he is infatuated with a married woman.

See those hills, run for them.

IsHeAMommysBoy Tue 14-Jan-14 01:06:26

Yes. It is so wrong. He is obsessed with her.

Mellowandfruitful Tue 14-Jan-14 01:12:12

Too many red flags here, especially the other woman he's obsessed with, never ever mind the parents. I would back right off. Stop the long talks. It sounds as is he's happy to have you as a conversational partner but is unwilling to commit any more of himself.

KitsVegetable Tue 14-Jan-14 01:12:40

Agree with Blonde. Why would he tell you that? What a messy situation.

Also badly used by others, bitchy about exs, being a victim etc not a good sign to be saying this stuff early on.

Sorry I wouldn't take this further.

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 14-Jan-14 06:35:15

Parents don't ask half so many questions about a grown man's whereabouts as a partner does. hmm A crisp tenner says this man bears no resemblance to the picture he's painted of himself.... the married woman, the 'user' exes, the high salary..... being single...

You really know nothing about this person apart from what he has told you online (and that is bad enough. Three ex's, a married woman, him apparently living at home supporting parents); I would walk away and stop contact as of now. There are many red flags here. Hills are that way >.

brokenhearted55a Tue 14-Jan-14 09:05:00

He sounds like one of my exes. Exactly like him.

Run for the hills now. I wish I had.

He will become infatuated with someone else while you're together and leave you. Mine did.

Why are you even bothering with someone who's obsessed with a married woman? I mean, how did you see this playing out?

Just get rid, he sounds a total mess.

Offred Tue 14-Jan-14 09:10:51

Red flags - 33 and 'not very experienced'
Lives with his parents
Slagging off exes
Inappropriate infatuation
Oversharing
Poor boundaries
Not responsible for his own life (can't stay out overnight)

Don't know why you'd be entertaining the thought of meeting him! You don't even believe what he's saying to you - "he says". Is this where AF says he must have a cock of gold?

AnyFucker Tue 14-Jan-14 09:12:06

Do you not get out much or not have much experience with men ?

AnyFucker Tue 14-Jan-14 09:13:41

Ha, cross posted with offred

This poster hasn't met his cock yet, so can't even use the "cock of solid gold" excuse

Offred Tue 14-Jan-14 09:57:52

She may have met the cock on Skype for all we know... <shrug>

AnyFucker Tue 14-Jan-14 09:58:23

Ugh

brusslesprout Tue 14-Jan-14 10:18:25

Run for the hills! My BF is a mummy's boy, we are living with his parents and his Mum still makes his packed lunch. It'd be funny if it wasn't so tragically depressing! sad

IsHeAMommysBoy Tue 14-Jan-14 11:38:31

blocked, deleted last night. He is an utter mess!!!!!

LessMissAbs Tue 14-Jan-14 11:45:15

He sounds like a player. Perhaps he lives at home because he is supporting children from former relationships?

In fact, is he actually single?

Brusslesprout,

Why are you and I say this most kindly, not taking your own advice here:-

"Run for the hills! My BF is a mummy's boy, we are living with his parents and his Mum still makes his packed lunch. It'd be funny if it wasn't so tragically depressing"

Your BF will likely always be in thrall to his mother (theirs is a symbiotic relationship and certainly not a healthy one) and you will always come a dim and distant second to her.

ROARmeow Tue 14-Jan-14 12:00:07

Run, like the wind.

brusslesprout Tue 14-Jan-14 12:00:43

AttilaTheMeerkat I am trying to take my own advice but didn't want to turn this thread into my issues haha!

Offred Tue 14-Jan-14 12:08:30

Ha ha! Glad to hear it op!

Agree brusselsprout, should start your own thread maybe?

IsHeAMommysBoy Tue 14-Jan-14 12:13:23

I have not seen his cock. What an accusation!

hmm

He spent a bit of time trying to convince me he was going to cut contact with the married woman but urgh! He is a player, a user and scared to get a life!

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 14-Jan-14 12:29:10

I wonder if 'Mommy' is in an advanced state of decay and kept on a rocking chair in the cellar? <seen too many old movies emoticon> Good call OP...

brusslesprout Tue 14-Jan-14 12:31:48

My friend always said if a guy treats his Mum well that's a good sign?!

Offred Tue 14-Jan-14 12:32:08

Ha ha! 'Twas not a serious accusation more a reference to a MN meme!

Offred Tue 14-Jan-14 12:36:58

Brusslesprout - not exactly in my experience. Some men with Madonna/whore complexes who can be exceptionally lovely to their mum and terrible to a partner.

IsHeAMommysBoy Tue 14-Jan-14 12:37:58

His Mommy smile is a nurse and is married to his Father. Gut instinct tells me he is a liar!!!!! Urgh!!

IsHeAMommysBoy Tue 14-Jan-14 12:42:48

What a pig, what a liar, what a mess, what a bastard !! [angry--

cunt!

Utterly Tue 14-Jan-14 12:51:12

What's happened OP? I don't understand. Why is he a liar?

IsHeAMommysBoy Tue 14-Jan-14 13:04:43

I scrolled down to the very bottom of his FB posts and he is engaged!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I knew it!!!

Seasoned, experienced liar. Poor Woman.

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 14-Jan-14 13:06:20

Ta-daa!... Didn't I tell you he wasn't single?

brokenhearted55a Tue 14-Jan-14 13:10:21

My ex wasnt in control of his life: not allowed to see me on Saturday nights because he had to help fily. Well shot of him.

AnyFucker Tue 14-Jan-14 13:11:47

No big surprise.

Like I said, do you not get out much ?

brokenhearted55a Tue 14-Jan-14 13:14:13

* help family

Utterly Tue 14-Jan-14 13:15:59

Wow! Well shot.

IsHeAMommysBoy Tue 14-Jan-14 13:20:46

I can't mind read AF.

AnyFucker Tue 14-Jan-14 14:16:52

You don't need mindreading capabilities to pick out a no-hoper like this one. Come on.

JeanSeberg Tue 14-Jan-14 14:20:58

He isn't very experienced with the opposite sex

At least you'll have something in common then.

So you've not even met and are talking about meeting up in March but he can't stay out all night?

Come on, wake up

walterwhiteswife Tue 14-Jan-14 14:29:56

what is a cock of gold?

Offred Tue 14-Jan-14 14:31:10

Eee... Calm down people she spotted it in time for there to be no harm done (to her) and has dumped him!

JeanSeberg Tue 14-Jan-14 14:33:16

what is a cock of gold

When the cock is clearly so amazing that he can get any woman he likes, despite being a 33-year-old liar/loser.

Offred Tue 14-Jan-14 14:34:44

It's a MN meme usually attributable to AF that is trotted out when an OP is umming and ahhing about a man who is clearly a loser.... As in 'he's so crap, can't understand what you see in him, perhaps he has cock of solicitor gold(!)' said with a dose of sarcasm...

Offred Tue 14-Jan-14 14:35:27

Solicitor gold? Excellent! Ha ha ha!

AnyFucker Tue 14-Jan-14 14:43:00

There is an alternative to "solid gold" just to ring the changes

the "cock studded with diamonds" grin

It is not meant to be sarcasm against the the OP. It is an (often justified) reminder that some men are just crap and deserve no more special status than such just because they are in possession of said member. Also, an indictment of the arrogance of some of the male species fanned by the serial adoration of naive women

it is something that occurs to me often as I read this site

women bending over backwards to excuse the behaviour of men, and how they just don't see that telling him to simply fuck off is quite often the most appropriate response. It is quite mystifying to me why this needs poiting out so often. It doesn't always make me many friends though < sigh >

good for you, OP, but you should have seen the red flags a-flying sooner and applied the head not the heart/hormones

Layter Tue 14-Jan-14 15:00:04

What a beautifully composed post AF,smile I stand in awe.

You're well away OP.

Utterly Tue 14-Jan-14 16:32:30

You didn't have to mind read OP, it said on his facebook page. So, not only is he a b$stard, but obviously a bit thick too!

AnyFucker Tue 14-Jan-14 22:10:14

< takes a bow >

GlitzAndGiggles Tue 14-Jan-14 22:19:29

Are you sure things aren't further with this other woman and it's her he lives with so she'd be the one asking questions?

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