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I still haven't moved out, do I take everything? Part 2

(609 Posts)
FarOverTheRainbow Wed 27-Nov-13 21:49:43

This is a follow on from the first thread I done in AIBU here's the link

I can't thank everyone enough for all the help and support you've given me. It's been invaluable and you lovely people have helped get me out of a really dark place and are still doing so. When I read the start of my old thread and think about how I felt 8 weeks ago I never thought I'd be where I am now and even though I still have a long long way to go I wouldn't be half way here if it wasn't for the support here very soppy but so true

I hope I don't lose anyone moving to here

springytickly Wed 27-Nov-13 22:12:39

here! wink

HoratiaDrelincourt Wed 27-Nov-13 22:24:23

We're sticking with you, Far.

Hissy Wed 27-Nov-13 22:41:24

Checking in.

You really have come so far. It's sad that you've had to, but you've got Mn on your side, you can't lose!

DinkyFrinkbuster Wed 27-Nov-13 22:41:26

<Hurries in and tries to look useful>

PigWhisperer Wed 27-Nov-13 23:00:58

Just another one to say we are all right behind you love

teenybash7 Wed 27-Nov-13 23:05:50

Just read your last thread. Haven't got anything to say except I think you are amazingly strong. And all your regular helpers are brilliant - just what I hoped mumsnet was all about!
I hope you get your life back soon.

ChasedByBees Wed 27-Nov-13 23:06:48

Checking in Far thanks

Jux Thu 28-Nov-13 00:00:10

Hey there Far! Waving vigorously so I can find you. Hope you sleep well tonight.

43percentburnt Thu 28-Nov-13 01:25:53

You are doing fab.

Lambzig Thu 28-Nov-13 08:12:24

I have been following your thread. You are doing amazingly well.

Yep - still here as well.
You have come a long way and we are all behind you!

Kyyria Thu 28-Nov-13 10:40:03

Still here, supporting and waving pom poms!

FarOverTheRainbow Thu 28-Nov-13 11:24:54

Thank you smile are we moving to this thread or finishing the other?

perfectstorm Thu 28-Nov-13 11:47:00

You're doing great. Keep on keeping on. smile

JiminyCricketsMiddleWicket Thu 28-Nov-13 12:17:44

Re The smoke alarm.
You are quite rightly denying the FIL access to fix a fire alarm, ergo there is a potential for them to raise a case that you were unreasonable and endangered the welfare of your daughter, by not allowing them to address this safety issue.

They play dirty, just don't give them anything that they could potentially use against you.

FarOverTheRainbow Thu 28-Nov-13 12:30:16

That's exactly what I'm worried about Jimmy! They will use anything and everything they can

JiminyCricketsMiddleWicket Thu 28-Nov-13 13:11:55

Don't worry just go to B&Q, get the alarm and put the receipt somewhere safe.
Head the bastards off at the pass and nick their ammo smile

FarOverTheRainbow Thu 28-Nov-13 13:31:58

Will that be enough to cover myself?

Any help with wording this message denying him access and telling him I'm not moving out on my eviction date?

perfectstorm Thu 28-Nov-13 13:41:38

I think asking for legal advice on that is a good idea, tbh. As previously mentioned, even well-intentioned laypeople aren't always best placed to offer advice and you need to ensure the messages are focused on dd's welfare as regards contact, and don't undermine the no contact request either. You've said all contact via solicitors so really you need to make that two way, I think.

I know I keep saying this, but please call Women's Aid again. Ask them for advice and the name of a good solicitor with experience in these situations.

perfectstorm Thu 28-Nov-13 13:42:18

(Not on the smoke alarm - buying your own is definitely enough I would think!)

FarOverTheRainbow Thu 28-Nov-13 13:46:42

It wouldn't be XPid be contacting it would be his dad.

Ill try phone WA again, I can never get hold of them during the day

perfectstorm Thu 28-Nov-13 14:03:42

I don't think you want to enable him to harass you via his family, which he sounds fully capable of. Them even more so! I'd leave it to solicitors alone now, really and truly.

Rights of Women offer a phone advice line for family law issues, maybe they can offer swifter advice for you?

perfectstorm Thu 28-Nov-13 14:06:00

Oh bugger, they're only there in the evenings as well - sorry.

JiminyCricketsMiddleWicket Thu 28-Nov-13 14:06:54

As your Dad has offered to pay for a solicitor, if you don't get any answer from WA today, please give Band Hatton & co. (Coventry) a call and ask about legal aid (if that still exists) or alternatively a without obligation or charge first appointment where you can establish the costs involved.

They're the best kick arse solicitors in this area (except for those in Birmingham) and are absolutely excellent.
It'll get any law firm in Warwick quivering in their boots

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