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kotinka Thu 14-Nov-13 14:10:57

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Oh I would be so angry Sippie. Their treatment does sound sub-standard and grounds to make a claim. Hope the solicitors goes well. Must have been very scary mentally never mind the physical side of it all.

kotinka Fri 24-Jan-14 23:46:43

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Sorcha1966 Sat 25-Jan-14 10:55:35

Im ok kotinka. Plodding on. Planning 7 mile run after I escape from work today. Hearts not really in it today tbh but I will feel better if I do...

DS1 being a pain. Feel at the end of the road with him really. Its an awful thing t say about your own child. feel very sad but also ANGRY that he cant just NOT steal. Living with a thief destroys all trust and family togetherness.

Dinner out with my mother was ok. She did ask me why I wasn't drinking. I passed it off with a 'just don't feel like it' but she knows me too well. In > 30 years I have never ever 'just not felt like it' or voluntarily been abstinent at a dinner .... she didn't push it (this time) ...

hope every one else is ok too

kotinka Sat 25-Jan-14 15:29:50

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kotinka Sat 25-Jan-14 15:31:13

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MrsSippie Sat 25-Jan-14 20:12:07

hi all - yes soooo much better! District nurse came to today to dress my wound and said it looked beautiful !! I have managed to drive today - had dh next to me! All is hopefully well. You know I had no idea how ill I felt until I started felling well again, if that makes sense!

Sorcha, so sorry to hear the ongoing problems sad it must be horrible to deal with - dinner with mother - no drink - well bloody done! My little relapse was when my mother was in the vicinity grin Hopefully that's all behind me now - have to admit to having a bit of a twinge (must be better!) when i saw my friends' fridge open full of g and t's!!

HOWEVER - am on ab's which would make me ill if I drink, have been seriously unwell and most important, I have now done ( and Sorcha) just about three months!

Good to be back amongst you all smile I will start new thread when it is imminent... x

Sorcha1966 Sun 26-Jan-14 08:19:43

I know Sippie. THREE months... Those "one days" really do add up.

DS1 is 15. He has Aspergers. Don't know if this why he is a compulsive liar and a thief. But he is. It is extremely corrosive. You literally cannot believe anything at all that he says. he will lie even if he is caught on CCTV camera. I love him - he is my son - but I don't trust him and I am bitterly disappointed in the way be is 'turning out'. He is making all the wrong choices. No school work, thieving, dishonest, messy. lazy, unprotected sex, smoking, drinking and (I think) sniffing solvents.

of course DH is not his father. I don't think that helps. I am caught between them. it affects every aspect of our lives, locked doors so that he cant go though my bag; the younger children have nothing which is 'safe' from their brother.

But drinking wont help...so chalk up another sober day and plod on.

stayingdry Tue 28-Jan-14 18:41:48

145 days..yaay!!!!!

behindthescentedcandles Tue 28-Jan-14 21:48:05

Yay! That's great, stayingdry.

I'm just over 4 months. Feels great.

stayingdry Tue 28-Jan-14 22:00:29

4 months that's great, well done!!
I feel like a different person to the one I was, confident, healthier and not always having to say sorry!
my sobriety has kept my family together and better than that they actually want to be with me.
To all those finding it hard please please please stay strong, I promise you life gets better x

MrsSippie Wed 29-Jan-14 14:32:17

Found you! Sorry been feeling sorry for myself the past few days and lost track a bit. Hospital yesterday - all recovering well but no sense of responsibilty from anyone so am taking it further! Feelingg like I 'deserve' a bloody drink at the moment sad can't obviously on the AB's but thinking at the weekend I will say sod it and drink because I of all this . I need tostart running and getting back to normal. It's like i've been in a weird bubble for three weeks. I have another week off next week so will try to get back to some little jogs. Hope everyone is ok x

Finally back online after changing providers.

Oh my goodness you are all doing so well. I'm only a matter of days away from my first month and while not three or four like some of you I'm still pretty damn chuffed with myself. Started metronidazole tonight too for yet another abscess so the option is now taken away from me for over a week.

MrsSippie Thu 30-Jan-14 07:26:51

Just finished my metronidazole! And feeling well. But bored. Dangerous times! Will be off to the supermarket to stock up on good drink today I think! A month is great though - a real milestone. Just keep it going grin

Sorcha1966 Thu 30-Jan-14 09:59:52

Glad you are a bit better Sippie - once you get back out there doing a few runs you will be fine :-)
A Month is great - well done - all thse days of deciding nOt to drink today reallydo add up.

Hi to everyone else Olive I'm a bit worried about you , are you ok ?

stayingdry you sound amazingly positive and very focused - well done! What made you decide to stop drinking ? was there one event or several ?

I'm plodding on - running 4 times a week - getting fitter; I need to tackle my diet next as I'm really NOT losing weight ... DH has hardly been drinking at all the last couple of week, which I love - he is cycling and swimming ... lost of stress with DS1; but DS2 & DS3 are good; and my calmer temperament is definitely helping...

There is a lot to be said for being dry; though I do miss that glass of crisp dry white wine, I do NOT miss the hangovers, guilt, anxiety and fear that came with it.

stayingdry Thu 30-Jan-14 10:35:57

Sorcha, I stopped because I had reached my lowest . I had a 3 day drinking binge witnessed by my partner and children. He was looking for a new home for him and the children, I was within hours of them leaving me . He told family, social sevices, the school.
It was bloody hard, I was humiliated, guilty, a mess. I know that I can't pick up another alcoholic drink ever, I can't stop at one, I am an alcoholic, end of.
Alcoholism is a dreadful disease, and to all of us on this sobriety path, well done on everyday sober

MrsSippie Thu 30-Jan-14 10:55:12

3 months, 3 days. Good lord grin

Yes, it is awful being alcohol dependent - relying on it, feeling that things will never be right unless you're drinking, not actually caring who you hurt (even sobered up, it was generally 'their' fault), seeing your children either afraid or resigned... So so horrible. And I'm glad I'm working my way out of it!

Glad you're feeling better Sippie. Am I right in thinking you had a big run coming up soon? Are you still able to do it?

I was wondering about Olive too, hope you're ok if you're out there along with a few others that have disappeared.

That's great your dh is being so supportive Sorcha.

Think sometimes you have to hit the lowest point before you can make a real life change stayingdry. Well done for turning it around.

Strange I actually thought about wine the other day and thought the first sip would make me shudder. I'm beginning to see it as something not that overly attractive and compartmentalising it in the past. Its like years ago pre-dc I was a big clubber, took loads of drugs and was a pretty much habitual dope smoker. Eventually the lows got bigger than the highs and I had terrible anxiety so I stopped. Now if I hear a song that reminds of that time I get a bit wistful, I remember the fun times then I remember the crashing depression and panic attacks and know I will never touch anything like that again. I'm starting to feel the same way about drinking. Yes it was fun at times but the repercussions simply aren't worth it. It's in the past and I have the opportunity to become a different person now. I've changed before and I can do it again.

stayingdry Thu 30-Jan-14 14:26:15

Sorcha, I stopped because I had reached my lowest . I had a 3 day drinking binge witnessed by my partner and children. He was looking for a new home for him and the children, I was within hours of them leaving me . He told family, social sevices, the school.
It was bloody hard, I was humiliated, guilty, a mess. I know that I can't pick up another alcoholic drink ever, I can't stop at one, I am an alcoholic, end of.
Alcoholism is a dreadful disease, and to all of us on this sobriety path, well done on everyday sober

stayingdry Thu 30-Jan-14 14:33:30

Oops sorry, wrong button pressed, and no I'm not drunksmile

Minutewaltz Thu 30-Jan-14 20:36:34

I'm sorry that some of you have had bad experiences with AA. I went to a meeting at lunch time today and it was great. I feel very grateful to the fellowship as without it I would have lost everything - my home, my wonderful husband and my children.
Well done everyone on DRY thread staying sober. One day at a time and it gets better!

stayingdry Thu 30-Jan-14 21:55:02

Minute waltz, I go AA and can honestly say that without it I would not be the sober sane person I am today.i would be homeless, no family, children, partner, and definitely drinking myself to death.
I'm working the steps, have a wonderful sponsor, loving life, and a million miles from the sad drunk I was.
one day at a time.

TheNunsOfGavarone Fri 31-Jan-14 09:42:07

Hi Everyone,

Sippie, I was so sorry to read about your terrible time with the hospital but glad you're on the mend now brew

Apologies for silence on this thread, I backslid over the last week or so, not thankfully into drinking but into hiding under the duvet.

I had a bad wobble last night, after a frustrating day those thoughts of dry white wine came crowding in but I texted a few AA friends who were fantastic with support. It's progress that I'm asking for help these days instead of being a pushover to the urge anyway. Today is Day 22. I have a lot of fear around debt and tax and may have painted myself into a very sticky corner. That's partly what I've been hiding from under the duvet. Will be getting advice on it, but meanwhile am hanging on to the fact that however unpleasant things may turn, it is NOT the end of the world and I will deal with it somehow..... and as I am single with no children or other dependants, it is only me (the author of the chaos) that has to put up with the consequences.

Have a good Friday everyone grin

Well done Nuns for reaching out and not giving in during a tough time. Debt problems are a really stressful time but just think of the money you're saving by not drinking smile Day 22 is brilliant. I hope things aren't as bad as you think.

Today I reach the end of my first month. Yippee! Got the usual notion this afternoon but it's a Friday and hard to change the thinking habits of more than half my life-time. On anti-bs anyway so it would be a no-go. I know there's no point in thinking about it now but I can't help but feel a bit jittery about the summer approaching. Not quite following the ODAAT ethos but worried about the challenge.

MrsSippie Sat 01-Feb-14 14:30:36

Hi all - god yes, debt is insidious. I had to admit to running up an awful lot of debt I had hidden a few years back. It devastated dh and we ate still paying I back - however, in a clichéd manner it has made us much stronger and realise what's important -no more fancy holidays abraod but three days in a caravan on the coast -and what have the DC enjoyed more? Just the togetherness and corny bumf like that - honest! grin

We went to see eldest dd today - she has been expressing concern about her drinking to me lately and admitted today that she was terrified of turning into me,she is really thinking about how she drinks. I don't know whether to be pleased or not!! Physically I am so much better-may even attempt a run tomorrow...well done to all these great milestones.

Yep I remember many a sleepless night fretting over card debts. Not nice at all.

It's good she can talk to you Sippie you must be really close. Is she still having a hard time over her break-up you mentioned? Glad you're on the mend now.

Another Saturday clocked up. Easy enough as ds had a birthday party to go to so I got a break and as a result dd naps with no noise round the house and is a much more pleasant child in the afternoon for it. Thank goodness he's at the age now you can dump them off and run, hours with screaming kids would have me breaking someone's arm for a drink grin

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