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Sex in cars

(43 Posts)
askingawkwardquestions Sun 03-Nov-13 16:03:57

I'm a long time lurker not a troll I promise

My new boyfriend has been dropping hints that he wants to try this and I can't decide how I feel about it - part of me thinks there's no harm in it and part of me thinks it's kind of seedy and something only teenagers with nowhere else to go do. Is it quite common and 'ok' to do? He's not into dogging or anything and said he'd want it to be private but where would you even do it and could you get in trouble if you got caught?

Tanfastic Sun 03-Nov-13 16:06:11

I've never seen the attraction in this to be honest, even when I was young. Too awkward, too cold blah blah.

I think if you got caught by the police you could be prosecuted.

Tanfastic Sun 03-Nov-13 16:06:55

Maybe you could park the car in his garage? You wouldn't get caught then grin

chinley Sun 03-Nov-13 16:07:55

DH and I did this in the early days before we had anywhere to stay together. I don't see the attraction if there are other options tbh, it's awkward and uncomfortable.

EdithWeston Sun 03-Nov-13 16:08:03

What sort of car does he drive?

ImperialBlether Sun 03-Nov-13 16:10:14

I would bet that he wants to go dogging, tbh. There's no advantage to having sex in a car; it's cramped and uncomfortable and you're nervous of someone seeing you.
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outragedofsuburbia Sun 03-Nov-13 16:10:15

What for? It is really uncomfortable.

brokenhearted55a Sun 03-Nov-13 16:14:50

Did it once but it was spontaneous, not planned. If you have somewhere else to go why would you bother doing it. it won't be exciting if you've planned to do it.

StuckOnARollercoaster Sun 03-Nov-13 16:17:49

Agree with broken - surely it only happens spontaneously because of the moment, where you are and the situation. Actually planning to do this seems odd, unless it's the first step and what he really wants is to move towards public/dogging sex

georgie22 Sun 03-Nov-13 16:20:20

Think it's something you do in your youth - it's uncomfortable and the risk of being caught is too great. Not for me any longer I think!!!

redundantandbitter Sun 03-Nov-13 16:26:44

What's the point of a cold uncomfortable car when you have a home ? Hmm suspicious ....

It's not illegal as such, unless you are parked outside school at 0900. As long as you are somewhere quiet , not inderage and discreet no officer will arrest you. But they may ask you if 'everyone is happy to be here' and smell vehicle for cannabis. Other than that they'll leave you be.

Twinklestein Sun 03-Nov-13 16:31:35

I'm sure you could find a lonely lane in the heart of remote countryside... but what would be the point?

Planning it kinda kills the moment.

Twinklestein Sun 03-Nov-13 16:43:26

Also remember what happened to Gillian Taylforth - & be very wary...

meddie Sun 03-Nov-13 16:44:44

The fantasy is better than the reality

str8tothepoint Sun 03-Nov-13 16:48:58

I quite recently had sex in the back of my car and also the back of OM car both were very horny though when jumping on his lap my knee knocked the handbrake and car started rolling down. Parked in a disused ind est and also a country layby in the early hours so no one around. Didn't realise how hot and sweaty you can get though. But really good fun car shook a lot :-) Was not planned just kissing led to........

ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmmmmmmmmm Sun 03-Nov-13 16:51:12

A hot summer evening, building sexual tension, pull over to a quiet spot in a wood.......all lovely. A layby off the A16 in February - not so much grin

Agree that dogging may not be a million miles away from being " mentioned" soon.....wink

notanyanymore Sun 03-Nov-13 16:52:48

i think its ok if its spontaneous

ouryve Sun 03-Nov-13 16:53:05

It's definitely something for when you are younger. It's not that comfortable blush

OneMoreThenNoMore Sun 03-Nov-13 16:56:39

Have done spontaneously on several occasions, a long time ago when dh and I didn't have a place of our own (and with previous, err, conquests as a teenager) It's awkward and uncomfortable tbh, not the best sex you'll ever have...

BibbleBabbleBobble Sun 03-Nov-13 16:58:48

Seems like a harmless kink to me.

maypoledancer Sun 03-Nov-13 17:01:50

There's a difference between liking the idea of it and making it a reality. It might be a turn on thinking about it but the reality is that it is uncomfortable, cold, inhibiting for reasons of space and maybe someone popping up and looking in the window.

BitOutOfPractice Sun 03-Nov-13 17:05:26

Crikey anyone would think he'd suggested doing it on the high street at 10m on a Saturday. I think it sounds exciting. And if you do it in the spirit of laughing together and having fun, it's just harmless fun. Certainly not some horrifying kink.

In fact I might suggest a drive to my DP later

BitOutOfPractice Sun 03-Nov-13 17:05:47

They have heaters in cars nowadays you know

maypoledancer Sun 03-Nov-13 17:06:58

Bit you don't sound like you are 'out of practice' at all! ;)

BitOutOfPractice Sun 03-Nov-13 17:09:52

I most certainly am not at the moment!

I chose that name after a started online dating after a disasterous break up. But after 8 months of serial first dates I am now 6 months into a relationship with the lovliest man I ever met.

And I'm getting lots of practice! wink

DifferenceEngine Sun 03-Nov-13 17:10:08

redundant I can verify that.

[am not a coppersmile]

Rosencrantz Sun 03-Nov-13 17:10:56

Haven't done it since I was a teenager, but I'd have nothing against having go if I was 100% we wouldn't get caught!

God those were the days, was a regular occurance in the early stages with DH-nowhere else available being the reason.
Would have to be spontaneous now though or where's the fun?

maypoledancer Sun 03-Nov-13 17:15:14

Excellent news Bit. Isn't it funny how much better it is when you've left behing a shit relationship, too? smile

AvonCallingBarksdale Sun 03-Nov-13 17:15:35

DH and I have done this a couple of times, but it's always been spontaneous - can't see the excitement in planning it, tbh!

CoolStoryBro Sun 03-Nov-13 17:18:18

It can be really hot. Especially in a soft top with the roof down. I can't say I feel quite so frisky driving around in my people carrier grin

YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan Sun 03-Nov-13 17:22:57

Exp and i did a lot of this as teens.

One memorable occasion was up a country lane we had used a hundred times before. Mid shag i heard a voice yelling something. Turned round an there was a teenage boy running towards the car shouting 'move the car!' So a bit embarassed we started getting our things back on. Teen kept shouting something that sounded like cars. Exp wound the window down and said that we were leaving but before he had the window up again a HUGE herd of cows started hurling themselves down the very narrow country lane towards us. Exp started the car and tried to reverse but it was no good. The cows were faster and we just had to stop the car and wait for the whole herd to clamber all over his car knocking both wing mirrors off, smashing the front light and making massive dents all over the bonnet. Tbh we were very lucky to get away with such little damage. As soon as the cows were past we sped off for fear of the farmer Phoning the police on us for trepassing. After that a gate was put up at the start of the lane blush

loopdaloo Sun 03-Nov-13 17:24:14

In the rain over the bonnet on a warm summer evening in the middle of nowhere....spur of the moment and exciting! Planned, in the cold in a car park, probably not so exciting! I've always liked the thought of being caught though....

sussexmum38 Sun 03-Nov-13 17:28:12

At my age has no appeal especially in the winter. Seem to remember hot, uncomfortable and messy from our younger days.

ManofMystery Sun 03-Nov-13 17:28:37

I don't see what the problem is but agree with a lot of what's been said already-it will probably be uncomfortable etc. but I would try and find out what he has in mind to put your mind at rest.

He shouldn't be doing anything that makes you uncomfortable but if what he suggests does it for you, then I can't see the problem.

It is probably just a bit of 'man in new relationship' syndrome-if he has had a barren patch, he probably wants to try everything he has seen in all the porn he has been watching!

Harmless fun provided it is within boundaries. And yes, spontaneous is surely more exciting than going out specifically to search a quiet lane...

LEMisafucker Sun 03-Nov-13 17:35:04

my shagging in the car days are long gone - i reckon i'd get stuck smile

cjel Sun 03-Nov-13 17:36:57

be careful of the dogging though! Loopdaloo -with you we had house with huge drive and started off indoorssmile

redundantandbitter Sun 03-Nov-13 17:41:06

Done it a fair bit. Not arsed about being seen, I figure they would have to be pretty sad to be watching me!!!

To follow on from the cow/car story .. Me and exp went into a country park.. Had sex in the wood... In the day.... Then came out to find a barrier had been closed and we were locked in. Not the best day of our lives. Much to-do with the wardens and a call to the council (that was me being pro-active as he was petrified) and it got opened. We were in an affair at the time... Wife's best friend was in park with her kids. If this story isn't enough to put anyone off an affair then I have plenty more shit tales.

AlwaysChasingRainbows Sun 03-Nov-13 17:52:04

Arf at What Car is it ? grin

Hopefully not a Mini grin

Zilvernblue Sun 03-Nov-13 18:18:37

Personally, sleaze just turns me right off.

Get suspicious if he tries to film you, or other car headlights appear...

Nottalotta Sun 03-Nov-13 18:25:14

Go for it! Me and DH did this a lot before moving in together, long drive home from the pub/beach/whatever. Also, on the seafront (not in a car) walking home (to holiday home) or random field out walking in thesummer. Its exciting!

DanFmDorking Sun 03-Nov-13 18:43:35

Go for it!
As long as neither of you are actually driving at the time.
Their excuse? “He pulled out quick to avoid a child”!

maypoledancer Sun 03-Nov-13 18:59:34

other car headlights appear <shudder> That's a thought... you might not know he's an exhibitionist until you've been an exhibit!

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