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Is this really a THING that people DO???

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Strawberrykisses Sun 27-Oct-13 06:30:58

I am in a new relationship with man I've known for a long time. Until I got together with him I never had sex on my period, and when I mentioned this to my friend she looked at me aghast, as if I was weird. I didn't think it was that common, to have sec on your period. I've clearly led a sheltered life.
Now I've relaxed into the relationship a lot and I'm now comfortable having sex on my period, which is awesome, no more crossing a week off the calendar and feeling frustrated.
ANYWAY. I have my period. Last night in bed my partner told me he wanted to go down on me. I was slightly shock, but he was totally relaxed and serious and said "it's alright, it's called a strawberry kiss". I declined.

Is this really a thing that people do???? Strawberry kisses? Really? hmm

LordPalmerston Sun 27-Oct-13 06:31:28

Ew. Plus. Get a coil. No more periods

CogitoErgoSometimes Sun 27-Oct-13 06:32:57

Nothing shocks me any more and I'm sure there are whole websites devoted to it hmm. As with anything else, set your own standard...

KeatsiePie Sun 27-Oct-13 06:35:03

Aaah now I can't really stand to look at your username, it's horribly evocative.

I have sex while I'm on my period, though not on the first days, but just no to this. Okay, certainly nothing wrong with doing it, but, really, ew.

Yeah it's fine. If you leave your tampon or mooncup in there will be no mess. (Although I don't think tasting blood is any worse than swallowing jizz)

Strawberrykisses Sun 27-Oct-13 06:39:16

I think his sexual career has been limited in number of partners but pretty adventurous from things he has said. Which is absolutely fine, and I'm pretty open minded, I'll try things. But this.... Right now? No way. I am glad that the initial responses indicate that this is not a mainstream thing, I thought I was more sheltered than I realised!

Strawberrykisses Sun 27-Oct-13 06:42:56

I think I'm keeping the NN, my STBXH knows my original on and apparently my very recent nc too. Sorry!

CogitoErgoSometimes Sun 27-Oct-13 06:44:01

Any indication that his 'sexual career' has been stimulated by dodgy websites...? Can't imagine he's picked up these references from mates down the pub.

MrsWembley Sun 27-Oct-13 06:45:09

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KeatsiePie Sun 27-Oct-13 06:46:02

Hahaha no need to apologize, I just have a very visual imagination and could not stop it in time, was unfortunate grin

KeatsiePie Sun 27-Oct-13 06:46:54

Actually that's a good point, who tf. made up this disturbing name for it? It sounds like something Humbert Humbert would say.

UriGHOULer Sun 27-Oct-13 06:47:42

Unh. When I'm on my period, I can't be bothered doing anything in bed but sleep or feel sorry for myself.

LordPalmerston Sun 27-Oct-13 06:48:07

Some people need a hobby ffs

JumpingJackSprat Sun 27-Oct-13 06:48:56

I wouldn't do it. .. But if you're comfortable with it then go ahead. If you're not, then tell him so. Don't do anything you are not comfortable with.

bragmatic Sun 27-Oct-13 06:49:17

I don't think anyone needs a biology lesson, but the blood doesn't come out of your clitoris, does it, so...y'know.

I wouldn't indulge in the first couple of days, but after that, then fine. I don't get the ewwwww factor.

Strawberrykisses Sun 27-Oct-13 06:50:17

No, he's not into porn at all. I know one of his exes was into some pretty kinky stuff, and he has been with a couple of other people and I presume tried stuff with them too. His attitude is that the only boundaries in sex should be your own comfort zone and the law. So he is up for trying pretty much anything.
I've also only had a handful of sexual partners but despite my STBXH secretly watching a lot of porn, I have really been having pretty boring missionary sex since I lost my virginity.

Strawberrykisses Sun 27-Oct-13 06:55:48

Tbf I don't think he specifically wants to go down on me while I'm on my period. More he wants to go down on me generally speaking, and doesn't mind if I'm on my period.

MrsBennetsEldest Sun 27-Oct-13 06:59:15

Coco the clown springs to mind...brain bleach

str8tothepoint Sun 27-Oct-13 07:02:31

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Lazyjaney Sun 27-Oct-13 07:06:34

I wonder what will come up next on one of these recent threads.

Strawberrykisses Sun 27-Oct-13 07:07:16


Strawberrykisses Sun 27-Oct-13 07:09:15

I thought I could gauge wether this was a mainstream thing from asking here, and I think I have my answer. I'm not taking the piss but whatever you want to think is fine by me.

LifeofPo Sun 27-Oct-13 07:09:39

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Figgygal Sun 27-Oct-13 07:11:27

No and no

That is grim why would you ?????

Vivacia Sun 27-Oct-13 07:14:14

Can we have a reminder about the troll hunting rule?

What Bragmatic said. I don't understand why some posters here find this so offensive

ExcuseTypos Sun 27-Oct-13 07:18:10

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ExcuseTypos Sun 27-Oct-13 07:19:53

vivacia. I think it's perfectly reasonable to point out facts.

HotDogSlaughter Sun 27-Oct-13 07:25:15

Some guys enjoy this. No biggie. If he wants to.....

Strawberrykisses Sun 27-Oct-13 07:26:16

I don't want to know details of others experiences, I just wanted to know if this was something that was relatively common. Despite being sexually active for ten years, this is only my 5th partner and I was with my STBXH for 8 years before I left at the beginning of September. Of the previous three, one was a virgin (as was I), one was a ONS with a friend, and the other was a sexually, physically and emotionally abusive wanker. Then my husband was a virgin. So I have never been sexually adventurous, and I feel pretty inexperienced when I talk to my friends as they have all had a lot more experience, both in number of partners and variety of sexual experiences.

LordPalmerston Sun 27-Oct-13 07:26:38

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Strawberrykisses Sun 27-Oct-13 07:27:14

Thank you to the posters who have given serious replies.

CatAmongThePigeons Sun 27-Oct-13 07:29:04

It's not common among people I know.

Strawberry kisses [vomit]

You know people who tell you all about your sex life then Cat?

That's why people ask on here, because it's questions they couldn't ask their friends. My DH goes down on me when I'm on (with mooncup in). I don't go round telling everyone I know about it and had no idea some people would be so disgusted by it.

smokinaces Sun 27-Oct-13 07:40:13

I have v. Light periods as on the coil. I use a moon cup with absolutely no mess. My boyfriend does go down on me in that situation. No strawberry kisses for sure, its all clean and tidy, but he does give oral sex at those times (he'd do it all day if he could, bloody loves oral sex)

AnyFuckerForSindarella Sun 27-Oct-13 07:40:14

I accidentally did it once, thought i'd finished, realized i hadn't when he popped up looking like a vampire. I had to tell him..... It was only our second time DTD shock

Timeforabiscuit Sun 27-Oct-13 07:46:02

It's called a strawberry kiss because of the mark it leaves on your chin.

Menstrual blood is not dirty, I'm assuming that both have you have had screening checks for blood Bourne viruses like hepatitis? If not maybe a trip to the sti clinic before you embark on horizons new grin

I love your partners approach of within the law and within your comfort zone!

Whatever you're comfortable with is between you two - so please don't take too much from what's normal on a forum (especially with the beaker backlash), pay attention to what you're comfortable with an enjoy grin

lifesgreatquestions Sun 27-Oct-13 07:46:55

While the thought of this disgusts me, to each his or her own, what do you want to do OP? (Granted, I might not return to the thread to find out - just encouraging you to find your own path!)

Ohwhatwitcheryisthis Sun 27-Oct-13 08:28:46

ooooo aren't we all norty taking about sex? Hope all the tourists are enjoying it. wink

Mojavewonderer Sun 27-Oct-13 08:47:42

I don't talk to anyone in real life about my sex life because it's mine and my husbands business. If I had a problem I would use mumsnet to discuss it. So I find it really annoying when someone comes on here and is shot down for being a troll or a kid. You will stop people from using the site correctly if you carry on and then it'll be pointless. You should give people the benefit of the doubt unless proven otherwise.

Vivacia Sun 27-Oct-13 08:52:17

Oh piss off about troll hunting rules.

1) I think they are good rules. Troll hunting can be even more disruptive than the trolling.

2) Even if I didn't think they were good rules, they are the rules and you agree to abide by them when you join.

What if you get it wrong? What if you put off genuine posters seeking genuine help?

Why is it so difficult for you to not just report rather than telling me to piss off?

rainbowfeet Sun 27-Oct-13 08:53:04

Was feeling queezey with my hangover now I'm positively fighting the urge to chuck!!! confused

Just ewww!! Agree with Mrswembly

ithaka Sun 27-Oct-13 08:55:23

Menstrual blood is not dirty, its just blood. Do you not suck a cut finger?

I really don't see the big deal about a man going down when you have a period. My DH does it. Mark of a real man, if you ask me.

MrsWolowitz Sun 27-Oct-13 08:58:35

Mark of a real man, if you ask me


I have extremely heavy periods that include clots so this is a big fat no from me.

And guess what? My DH is still a real man hmm

Scarletohello Sun 27-Oct-13 08:59:03

Personally I'm really horny when I have my period and love sex during it ( if partner is willing)

Re oral sex, one time I was with a guy, I woke up at 5am with terrible period pains and he very kindly went down on me which helped relieve the pain greatly. I also had another boyfriend who once pulled my rampion out with his teeth!

( takes all sorts...)

rainbowfeet Sun 27-Oct-13 09:00:21

Mark of a real man???!!! biscuit

lisad123everybodydancenow Sun 27-Oct-13 09:02:06

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HettiePetal Sun 27-Oct-13 09:02:56

Menstrual blood is not dirty, its just blood. Do you not suck a cut finger?

Well, to be fair, it's not just blood - there's womb lining & tissue in there too.

ithaka Sun 27-Oct-13 09:06:01

True, but it is really nothing to be scared of, or grossed out by.

That is why I used the phrase 'mark of a real man' - I wouldn't be interested in a guy who was disgusted by something as natural and healthy as a woman's period.

Thants Sun 27-Oct-13 09:08:33

I don't have piv sex on my period because they are very heavy and painful. But sometimes we do mutual masturbation. He has gone down on me when I'm on my period. I've had my moon cup in though. It was relaxing lol!

Back2Two Sun 27-Oct-13 09:10:53

There's quite a large spectrum in between being "disgusted" by a woman's period and wanting to give oral sex whilst she's having a period.

DropYourSword Sun 27-Oct-13 09:11:58

I would suck my own blood if I cut my finger, but I wouldn't if my partner cut his.

NoAddedSuga Sun 27-Oct-13 09:12:01

Mark of a real man?

PMSL i ve heard it all now!

Eww, i'm sorry but that is just rancidconfused

There is huuuuge difference in sexual intercourse during a period and going as far as oral sex!!shock
Is he a vampire, after all it is halloween on thursdaygrin

MrsWolowitz Sun 27-Oct-13 09:14:09

There's quite a large spectrum in between being "disgusted" by a woman's period and wanting to give oral sex whilst she's having a period.

^ This.

Also you're ignoring the fact that women may also not want this. I would totally not be able to enjoy this due to the heaviness of my periods (remember that scene in the shining when the lift doors open?)

I'm pretty sure no woman needs to be told not be "scared" or "grossed out" by something that they've been dealing with since they hit adolescence.

HettiePetal Sun 27-Oct-13 09:14:19

TMI......but my period doesn't smell all that nice & I'd much rather keep that to myself.

But each to their own, of course.

And I always thought it was called "Rainbow Kisses"?

usualsuspect Sun 27-Oct-13 09:18:43

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DropYourSword Sun 27-Oct-13 09:23:38

It's depressing if that's true usual that they've become so desperate and unimaginative!!

Pagwatch Sun 27-Oct-13 09:24:22

Can we get a eurgh topic?

I get that lots of people are really enjoying the shock 'mumsnetters talk about sex!' thing.
But really, it's like competetive tmi on here.

usualsuspect Sun 27-Oct-13 09:26:32

On a Sunday morning too.

BerstieSpotts Sun 27-Oct-13 09:26:46

Seriously, some men like this. Others don't. Some are pretty indifferent.

It's not really a big deal. If you don't like it then tell him so!

Hettie, Rainbow kisses is supposed to be when you both give each other oral at this time of the month and then kiss to mix the fluids... boak... sounds like something made up to me.

EricLovesAnyFucker Sun 27-Oct-13 09:27:04

I'm not disgusted by my menstrual blood but I don't want it in my mouth. And to be honest I'd find any other woman's menstrual blood disgusting, just as I'd find their snot or wee or spit disgusting. And? It doesn't make me a misogynist, just someone with a queasy stomach.

Branleuse Sun 27-Oct-13 09:32:02

yes of course people do. we do

Onebuddhaisnotenough Sun 27-Oct-13 09:32:52

Daily Mail on Tuesday.

Pagwatch Sun 27-Oct-13 09:33:23


I am clutching my pearls so hard I have imprints in my palms.

It's too early!

Spider7 Sun 27-Oct-13 09:49:19

Not new to me. Had a couple of partners not minding a visit downstairs during the red season. Each to their own. As long as you're both comfortable with it, why not? All about being grown up & consenting. If you both get enjoyment then what's the problem? I enjoy it. So does my partner. For those of you who don't like the idea, think it gross etc.... that's fine too, but why so judgemental? Do any of you enjoy rimming? Saw something on here concerning that the other day, responses seemed more relaxed than here. Do any of you swallow your partners sperm? Indeed there are some who may think the whole idea of going sown there gross at any time of the month. As I say,each to their own, I won't judge those who knock what other consenting adults do as frigid, non adventurous, judgemental lemon suckers. That would be wrong.

MadeMan Sun 27-Oct-13 09:50:45

MrsWolowitz - (remember that scene in the shining when the lift doors open?)

That was on last night, ITV4, good film.

Heartbrokenmum73 Sun 27-Oct-13 09:51:05

Oh Christ, I laughed really loudly at popped up looking like a vampire. Thanks for that Sinderella, made my morning!

eurochick Sun 27-Oct-13 09:53:02

Each to their own.

A friend of mine was known as "the vampire" for liking oral so much he would do it regardless.

Personally I feel so minging during my period, I couldn't contemplate it.

HettiePetal Sun 27-Oct-13 09:56:34


I don't think anyone's being "judgmental" - just saying, no, not for me.

MrsWolowitz Sun 27-Oct-13 09:58:29

Spider where are the judgey comments?

LordPalmerston Sun 27-Oct-13 09:59:26

BOAK at all of it.

Stravy Sun 27-Oct-13 09:59:37

I've done it many moons ago , not as a 'preference' but I like oral sex and don't mind blood. DP doesn't like sex when I'm on my period at all and whilst I accept that, I am a bit hmm about it.

Have you heard this poem? Bloodbath-Christian Drake

McFox Sun 27-Oct-13 10:00:34

Good grief there's an awful lot of prudes on this thread. What's the problem exactly?!! If its not for you don't comment/calm the hell down.

My DH goes down on me at any time of the month, and praise be! The only thing that's giving me the heave is the name this fella is giving it smile

LordPalmerston Sun 27-Oct-13 10:02:24

Plus. Stop with the periods guys. There's really no need.

HettiePetal Sun 27-Oct-13 10:03:04

Good grief there's an awful lot of prudes on this thread. What's the problem exactly?!! If its not for you don't comment/calm the hell down


I hadn't realised this was the "Strawberry Kisses" appreciation thread. I thought it was, you know, a discussion?

LordPalmerston Sun 27-Oct-13 10:03:32

That surprises me. Coil. Pill. Whatever. Think of the money you save

LordPalmerston Sun 27-Oct-13 10:04:09

Lol. Don't think refusing to lick someone's arse is prudish.

No. You're a bit avant garde. Go you ! ;)

MrsWolowitz Sun 27-Oct-13 10:04:21

Good grief there's an awful lot of prudes on this thread

Why are we prudes? Because we aren't turned on by the thought of oral sex during our periods?

How silly.

If we were talking about anal and someone said "eww, not for me" would that make them a prude? No. It would mean they wouldn't find it a turn-on.

HettiePetal Sun 27-Oct-13 10:04:22

Plus. Stop with the periods guys. There's really no need

Or any need for you to read it, really hmm

LordPalmerston Sun 27-Oct-13 10:05:11

Im exhorting you to embrace the joy of no periods.

Stravy Sun 27-Oct-13 10:06:11

I don't mind periods. I do mind fucking about with hormones.

BenHer Sun 27-Oct-13 10:07:01

I wouldn't be deterred from doing a bit of clitotoral work but Im afraid I'd be keeping well clear of the adopt the OP's terminology!

HettiePetal Sun 27-Oct-13 10:07:53

Actually - I like having periods. For about 5 days beforehand I am so horny I hardly know what to do with myself*. Wouldn't give that up for the world.

*Actually, yes I do.

Heartbrokenmum73 Sun 27-Oct-13 10:08:26

Ffs, how many more non-vanilla sex threads are going to pop up?

I thought this board was 'Relationships', not 'Oneupmanship In Weird Sex'.

There's a lot of this stuff about lately, only right that people a) question it and b) are dismissive of it.

Oh, and I'm not a prude, just tired of the Daily Fail brigade trying to goad us all into proving they're right!

But yeah, let's have more threads on rimming/period oral/swinging, shall we? Never mind the people with genuine problems who are being overlooked for this nonsense.

Scarletohello Sun 27-Oct-13 10:11:30

Quite from a guy I once knew,

"You don't really love your partner if you're not willing to lick their arsehole..."

Would you?

Scarletohello Sun 27-Oct-13 10:12:04

Meant to say " quote". Bugger!!

Stravy Sun 27-Oct-13 10:12:53

grin at Hattie

There is something appealing about the rhythm of it. I wouldn't want to live in one of those places with no discernible seasons either, even though they might technically have 'better' weather.

SarahBumBarer Sun 27-Oct-13 10:13:50

Jesus! MrsM I'm glad you mentioned clots. I remember having a horrified convo with a friend IRL about this - she was talking about a friend of hers who is happy to do this and my friend's comment was "I mean, for god's sake - there are chunks" It is one of those phrases that has just stayed with me and I do a sort of grimaced chuckle every now and then.

Not for me thanks but as with all things if it is between 2 consenting adults...

nicename Sun 27-Oct-13 10:17:39

That's put me right off my breakfast (toast and strawberry jam).

SarahBumBarer Sun 27-Oct-13 10:19:10

What board would you suggest was appropriate Heartbroken.

Those questioning this thread: Do you think that sexual differences/inhibitions/preferences do not cause issues in relationships? Do you think that women who have been out of the dating game for a while do not have queries/nervousness about whether they are prudish and whether what is "normal" has evolved. Do you think it is not useful to learn that "normal" should only ever be about what you are comfortable with? Should your problem reach a particular level before you are allowed to post on the relationship boards? This is actually the kind of topic that my girlfriend's and I discuss (admittedly usually after a wine or two). Is it really so odd that it should make it on to MN?

I'd be keeping well clear of the adopt the OP's terminology!

grin brilliant

NachoAddict Sun 27-Oct-13 10:19:51

No thanks not for me. If you like it then go for it, its not illegal.

WeAreEternal Sun 27-Oct-13 10:26:49

No no no no no. And no.

I think DP would do it, he has no problem with period sex, but I just wouldn't be comfortable with it.

I'm lucky that my periods only usually last two days, so it's easy to just not have sex while I'm on.

Dahlen Sun 27-Oct-13 10:34:12

Does it matter what we think? It takes two people's consent to have sex. If you don't want to do it, don't; if you do, do. It's not illegal, it's not immoral, whether it's commonplace is utterly irrelevant.

redundantandbitter Sun 27-Oct-13 10:36:22

Leave tampon in. No probs. exp always very keen to give me oral sex. NEVER heard the term strawberry kiss . Though he did use the term Raspberry ripple... Anyway it was all new to be (v boring sex life previously)
And I lived it all. You don't like summat, don't do it.

KeatsiePie Sun 27-Oct-13 19:02:08

I think the topic is perfectly valid and second what Sarah has said above.

payhisdebt Sun 27-Oct-13 19:54:48

OP your BF sounds lovely

Donatoni Sun 27-Oct-13 19:58:29

My wife must be a thousand times more prudish, prim and proper than almost anyone here because you're mostly all talking casually about oral sex as if it's perfectly ok to indulge in it, except during a period maybe.

My final attempt to get her to receive it from me was on an extremely wet and stormy night a few years ago. She told me she'd rather stand the whole night in the garden in her nightclothes in the howling wind and lashing rain than let me do that to her.
She has always found the very idea of it utterly disgusting and revolting. For a man to put his tongue down there is just plain filthy and depraved to her.
And she's always been equally disgusted at touching and masturbating me and ever catching a glimpse of what comes out. So she's made sure none of these things has ever taken place in this house, and she's never once seen my semen although we've been married for years.
She's very refined, likes Jane Austen and simply never swears no matter how annoyed she may be. It's just not in her nature.

I think she'd consider your, in general, fairly casual and accepting attitude to oral sex and touching men's penises as being utterly gross and too distasteful for words. What I tell you is absolutely true, believe it or not.
And yes, in case you guess, we have always had badly mismatched sex drives.

Strawberrykisses Sun 27-Oct-13 20:02:48

payhisdebt I'm not sure if you are serious or sarcastic... But in case you are serious, he is very lovely.

Wow your wife sounds like my nan. She told my mum a few years before she died that she was too old for sex and if grandad wanted any of that he'd have to sort himself out. My mum suggested she could do that for him instead. Her response was 'I'm not touching that! I have to prepare food!'

My family probably overshares!

Donatoni Sun 27-Oct-13 20:09:38

NoArmani - she's only in her 50s.

Twinklestein Sun 27-Oct-13 20:12:21

'I'm not touching that! I have to prepare food!'

Quote of the day. thlgrin

Oh sad my nan was 93 when she died, about 10 years ago. It's sad that people can be that sexually repressed.

olathelawyer05 Sun 27-Oct-13 20:16:20

You're just looking to trend aren't you? .... #StrawberryKiss

Tweasels Sun 27-Oct-13 20:18:46

I love the way these threads always turn into the competitive sex Olympics. Being called a prude because you don't indulge in every sexual practice going is hilarious.

Tweasels Sun 27-Oct-13 20:20:20

Strawberry kiss sounds a lot nicer than "clotted lining of uterus kiss" grin

HelloBoys Sun 27-Oct-13 20:34:56

Sorry but that is yuck and a bit pervy.

Most men I know don't like period sex. I quite like it due to helping with cramps etc but for consideration for men I generally avoid it. also, very messy with sheets etc - its a bugger to get blood out of white sheets

why the F does he want to taste your blood?? is he a vampire?

tingle1 Sun 27-Oct-13 23:00:23

Its called a rainbow kiss. the two of you are meant to share the 'drink'.

Moxiegirl Sun 27-Oct-13 23:11:37

I remember this being discussed as a rainbow kiss at school shock
Don't think anyone had done it, but we discussed it!

Not something I would consider but according to quite a few on here they do so each to their own...

payhisdebt Mon 28-Oct-13 10:17:01

strawberrykisses I am totally serious !
I think a healthy attitude to sex in all its forms when you have a period is whatever the opposite of a red flag is in a man !

never understood men who have a hands off approach during a period ( unless it's at the request of the woman )

payhisdebt Mon 28-Oct-13 10:19:16

donatoni I am speechless!
I take it she has other good points ! otherwise why are you married to her

DropYourSword Mon 28-Oct-13 11:41:04

Donatoni- why why why would you try to force oral sex on someone that absolutely clearly doesn't want it, like it or appreciate it. Your post sort of made my skin crawl.

DistanceCall Mon 28-Oct-13 11:59:33

It's only blood, FFS. Your own blood, at that.

Hegsy Mon 28-Oct-13 13:07:37

We wouldn't but I have really heavy periods and sex is just not enjoyable when I'm on. Tried it before and its all slippy and no friction not good for either of us. DH generally gets his monthly blow job when I'm on though grin only time he gets a 'full' one as we're TTC.

HelloBoys Mon 28-Oct-13 14:04:20

suppose you don't want to do it but your other half does?

I'd just find that a bit.... eww

fromparistoberlin Mon 28-Oct-13 14:22:16

its fine to do it, and its fine not to

I had an ex that liked it, he was wierd though wanted me to turd on him and i declined

Donatoni Mon 28-Oct-13 16:23:19

payhisdebt We get on well together otherwise. Time passes quickly, a marriage can drift on, and on, regardless. Couples are busy and preoccupied most of the time. Taken up with all sorts of other things, major and minor. A common enough story, everything fairly good except one thing: sex and intimacy. Years pass, decades pass... Before you know it marriage has long become a friendship only.

DropYourSword She was not forced to do anything. Nothing further happened that night. God knows why what I wrote 'sort of' made your skin crawl. What an odd reaction to a simple little description.
But the sort of sexual activities often seemingly considered normal enough on this forum would certainly make my wife's skin crawl. No doubt about that.

Enough of this. Defending myself against a typically aggressive remark has dragged me away off topic. My apologies, OP.

MrsWolowitz Mon 28-Oct-13 21:54:48

It's only blood, FFS. Your own blood, at that.

Someone's already pointed out upthread that it's not 'only' blood. It contains womb lining and tissue. That's what those dark lumpy bits are.


Mintyy Mon 28-Oct-13 22:02:05

HQ ffs why don't you just delete this steaming great pile of bullshit?

Do you honestly think your average Mumsnetter is a. interested in or b. taken in by this stupid thread?

HettiePetal Mon 28-Oct-13 22:06:55

I think you're completely out of order, Mintyy.

I am an "average" Mumsnetter, and I think the thread is quite interesting - regardless of who started it and why.

It never occurred to me that this is a regular part of some people's sex lives. Why shouldn't it be talked about?

It's irritating that you've decided to speak for everyone.

Email MNHQ privately if it bothers you that much.

Lweji Mon 28-Oct-13 22:10:43

I would definitely not share such a kiss prude
Might consider if he brushed his teeth afterwards or PIV in the bathtub or with proper water-proof mattress protector.

I do get horny during my period, but not the first couple of days, when I'm uncomfortable with the flow and often cramps.

Lweji Mon 28-Oct-13 22:13:07

I don't know about my average MNetters, but there will definitely be some interested nosy

roadwalker Mon 28-Oct-13 22:19:57

I am stuck with a pretty graphic image- any ideas how to get rid of it

Mintyy Mon 28-Oct-13 22:20:05

Bunch of saddos.

ZingWantsCake Mon 28-Oct-13 22:20:40

<waiting for "do you use a minge beaker" thread to start soon>

Xmusician Thu 07-Nov-13 21:01:06

For a bloke it can be very erotic.....I have always loved it and appreciate the trust it takes for a woman to allow it much less relax and revel in it.

ZingWantsCake Thu 07-Nov-13 22:16:31

oh, just when I have forgotten about this.....


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