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My OH always anal

(87 Posts)
SnoozyAQ Wed 23-Oct-13 20:49:36

I really do love my OH and we have a great sex life but we always end up having anal sex neither of us can seem to have what I would call normal loving sex. Does this mean we are just in tune with each other or we have problems.
We can start off having sex where I feel we are proving we love each other but it soon turns into animalistic sex.

Reality Wed 23-Oct-13 20:50:59

Um.

Erk.

Um.

Okay then.

lurkinglorna Wed 23-Oct-13 20:52:47

paul dacre is that you?

KareninsGirl Wed 23-Oct-13 20:53:31

Why did I read this? Why?

TheLeastAccomplishedBennetGirl Wed 23-Oct-13 20:53:43

grin lorna

MrsWolowitz Wed 23-Oct-13 20:53:53

Um.

If you are both wanting and enjoying the anal then that's fine.

Its good to have a bit of variety though and not just the same old routine.

amothersplaceisinthewrong Wed 23-Oct-13 20:54:14

biscuit

SnoozyAQ Wed 23-Oct-13 20:56:17

I just worry that we don't seem to have meaningful sex if that makes sense.
Don't want to offend anyone but I needed to ask

lurkinglorna Wed 23-Oct-13 20:57:21

maybe you could try a therapist. i know this great guy in hull.

Orangeanddemons Wed 23-Oct-13 20:59:15

He only deals in front bottoms though doesn't he Lurking?

SnoozyAQ Wed 23-Oct-13 20:59:38

Lurkinglorna have you had anything similar

bundaberg Wed 23-Oct-13 20:59:41

why isn't anal sex meaningful?

and if you want a different kind of sex that is meaningful then why don't you do that instead?

SnoozyAQ Wed 23-Oct-13 21:02:54

bundaberg I do see it's as meaningful maybe before I used the wrong word I guess I see anal as more of a non romantic sex, he kind of expects it to go the anal way

lurkinglorna Wed 23-Oct-13 21:03:38

what's "animalistic" sex? is that like dressing up as a blobfish?

Ursula8 Wed 23-Oct-13 21:04:57

Shit is it Friday already?

AnyTweaselsFucker Wed 23-Oct-13 21:05:12

Ah fuck off, seriously just fuck off.

LamaDrama Wed 23-Oct-13 21:05:16

Yoni live once

Do you really have nothing better to do ?

Heartbrokenmum73 Wed 23-Oct-13 21:07:29

Half-term already???

My dc have another two days yet!

biscuit

SnoozyAQ Wed 23-Oct-13 21:08:35

I thought this was a place you could ask questions

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 23-Oct-13 21:08:38

I don't think any of us are going to start telling you about experiences we've had with anal sex.

Annagramma Wed 23-Oct-13 21:08:58

Okay.

ShadeofViolet Wed 23-Oct-13 21:09:00

I though this thread was about a DH who was always anal.

I was going to say mine is the same. He has his ties ordered by shade and pattern.

SnoozyAQ Wed 23-Oct-13 21:09:43

I asked my question

olivo Wed 23-Oct-13 21:10:14

I thought it was my OH complaining about my slightly over the top need for perfection I. Many areas, such as straight towels, shoes lined up, etc blush

lurkinglorna Wed 23-Oct-13 21:11:43

personally it wouldn't be good enough for me, just doing it once a year. i'm normally a xmas and birthday girl.

MrsWolowitz Wed 23-Oct-13 21:12:04

What exactly is your question? Is it ok to have regular anal sex?

(1) Yes. Yes it is if you both want it.

(2) No. No it isn't if one of you doesn't.

I don't understand what the issue is here. Either you enjoy it and are happy with your sex life or you don't and your not. In which case see point (2) above.

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 23-Oct-13 21:12:26

Have you anthea'd your towels olivo? Because you can't be truly anal unless the towels are folded the Anthea way.

Tea towels included, E-Cloths optional.

MrsWolowitz Wed 23-Oct-13 21:12:28

*you're

GillyBillyWilly Wed 23-Oct-13 21:13:34

blush

MoneyMug Wed 23-Oct-13 21:14:15

How do you all know the op isn't genuine?

Op if that's what you both like, there's nothing wrong with it.

ScaryNutellaFucker Wed 23-Oct-13 21:14:16

Why are you asking us instead of talking to your partner?

bundaberg Wed 23-Oct-13 21:15:33

well if you don't want to always have anal you need to tell him so.

i mean, i can't imagine how he just accidentally does it....

CogitoErgoSometimes Wed 23-Oct-13 21:22:02

Sorry but the front bottom comment sent G&T up my nose. ROFL!!!

Yseulte Wed 23-Oct-13 21:23:46

If you're for real OP and you don't want always to end up having anal then you need to tell your partner. Don't let yourself be coerced.

hmm

GreenVelvet Wed 23-Oct-13 21:29:30

Well I have a theory about men who have a "thing" about anal sex. I don't think they like women very much.

There is also less emotional connection than vaginal sex, and the man is not connected with female energy in the same way.

On a purely practical level, anal sex is also more dangerous because unless you take precautions there is a chance of bacterial infection of the vagina.

I am not sure if that helps you with things OP, since you have consented to this but feel there is still something amiss. But perhaps it will give you some food for thought...

olivo Wed 23-Oct-13 21:29:41

Hell, must check out Anthea, fluffy. They have to be folded exactly and hung straight though, no edges overlapping..... As for my fitted sheet folding......wink

Anthea, Brian and 'technics' all on one thread. Just one reason I enjoy MN so much grin

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 23-Oct-13 21:32:58

I've tried the fitted sheet folding, I haven't got the hang of it yet.

Dh put me an extra shelf in for towels, I was very happy.

Nottalotta Wed 23-Oct-13 21:37:12

Um. I think you need to provide more detail.

Or not....

redundantandbitter Wed 23-Oct-13 21:42:22

Yep- must admit I thought this thread was going to involve tea towels and nicely arranged shoes.... I was SOOO wrong.

Anal sex. Do it if you like, if not don't. Not sure what you want us to say. Horses for courses... She says carefully skirting around the subject trying not to give too much away

lurkinglorna Wed 23-Oct-13 21:45:45

seriously,

i think to re-instate the romance and loving feeling, you should take a holiday and/or go out to dinner.

there's a great "holiday village place" near Warminster where you can do a variety of fun activities.

also there is a great restaurant above harvey nicks on the south bank, get your dp to take you there smile

brightnearly Wed 23-Oct-13 21:47:05

So do you both always get carried away into the "animalistic" despite best intentions of being gentle and loving, or does DH get carried away taking you with him?

Whatnext074 Wed 23-Oct-13 21:47:25

I think OP is playing on the article that was in the DM yesterday about MN and is attempting to get a reaction. Go away.

Mintyy Wed 23-Oct-13 21:49:51

Actual laugh out loud at lurkinglorna.

gamerchick Wed 23-Oct-13 21:51:08

I thought DM straight away as well. Apparently some of the curtain wipers in the comment section were going to pay us a visit.

Yseulte Wed 23-Oct-13 21:58:38

I agree, GreenVelvet. There's also the issue of damage to the rectum and anus due to their fragility. Condoms and lubrication reduce the risk of tearing.

Unprotected anal sex also carries an elevated risk of passing on STIs because the anal sphincter is delicate, easily-torn tissue and a tear can provide an entry for

The number of heterosexual men who pressure their partners into anal sex without actually being aware of the risks to the penetrated partner concerns me.

OxfordBags Wed 23-Oct-13 22:00:45

I thank you for 'curtain wipers' from the bottom of my blackened heart, gamerchick.

Yseulte Wed 23-Oct-13 22:02:14

I don't think it's fair to take out the DM stirring on the OP who may be genuine.

KatoPotato Wed 23-Oct-13 22:06:10

Haha! lurkinglorna!

NutritiousAndDeliciousFucker Wed 23-Oct-13 22:08:59

Hmmmmmmmm

Say no?
Ask for penis in vagina?
If you are old enough to be having sex you are old enough to talk about with your partner...........oh wait hmm

Strumpetron Wed 23-Oct-13 22:09:48

If you're not happy with it tell him.

Personally done right it's amazing and me and my partner enjoy it. Exes have tried but I didn't trust them enough so it didn't work.

If you like it, then just enjoy the sex you're having whatever the hole!

AnyKormaFucker Wed 23-Oct-13 22:11:01

How do you know the op isn't genuine?

Because most of us have been here longer than a few weeks

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 23-Oct-13 22:21:06

Plus they banned anyfucker and we're all in a pissy mood.

TheDoctrineOfAnyFucker Wed 23-Oct-13 22:29:49

Good use of OH. One point for that.

FuckeringNineToFive Wed 23-Oct-13 22:32:18

As long as he uses the penis beaker to keep it all clean I don't see the problem.

"maybe you could try a therapist. i know this great guy in hull"

Ha grin

BouquetFanjo Wed 23-Oct-13 23:11:05

Strap it on babe. Strap it on.
If he likes anal and all...

AnyFuckingClue Wed 23-Oct-13 23:12:00

All I can think is the OP is heading for a rectal prolapse and, perhaps, her OH will not be quite so keen when she is has fecal incontinence.

CharityFunDay Wed 23-Oct-13 23:17:20

How big's his knob ffs?

You're looking at several inches in diameter applied over a period of time to stretch your ringpiece to the point of leakiness.

Or so a friend says.

GatoradeMeBitch Wed 23-Oct-13 23:20:33

Are you sure it's what you want to do in bed? If it's not, then talk to him about it.

He could be a porn addict who thinks anal is the 'main event'. Vaginal sex is seen as quite vanilla on porn sites. He could have some kind of issue. But you have to talk to him, not us!

Handywoman Wed 23-Oct-13 23:28:52

eh? w'appened with Anyfucker shock

GatoradeMeBitch Wed 23-Oct-13 23:30:05

She got banned. See the AIBU board.

SheSellsSadShells Wed 23-Oct-13 23:51:19

It is Paul Dacre dressed as a blobfish....

GuybrushThreepwoodMP Thu 24-Oct-13 05:42:50

I love it when Brian and Serial Technics pop up on a thread.
OP, do what you want love. It's your bottom. If your bottom is the way to your heart then so be it.

Lweji Thu 24-Oct-13 06:13:58

I just want to point out that if you don't like animalistic sex, you could try plantalist sex.
Either throw his sperm to the wind or find a carrier. Bees seem to be very good, if a bit risky.

Alternatively, funghi have the most interesting sex lives, with loads of different genders.

And I'm sure there will be lots of bacterialist sex going on I'm your gut. Maybe that's why you like anal so much?

GuybrushThreepwoodMP Thu 24-Oct-13 06:50:08

grin Lweji

str8tothepoint Thu 24-Oct-13 16:23:59

Maybe he is gay, there is that scene in brokeback mountain when Heath Ledger flips Michelle Williams and anals her.

GillyBillyWilly Thu 24-Oct-13 16:28:09

Ive got to say, the first thought I had when I read this thread was "hmm.. He's probably gay".

blush

GuybrushThreepwoodMP Thu 24-Oct-13 17:33:39

I had no idea that 'anal' could be used as a verb.

str8tothepoint Thu 24-Oct-13 18:35:43

I, being a gay man, think it's very unnatural for a female to take it up the anal, you were given a vagina for that. I also think that it's very porno and thats why it is in porn vids, do you deepthroat, bukkake and gangbang aswell I wonder

OhBabyLilyMunster Thu 24-Oct-13 18:40:01

I totally thought this was going to be about a husband who insists the dishwasher is loaded a certain way and only likes even numbers of tins in the cupboard.

Sigh.

LondonNicki Thu 24-Oct-13 18:41:48

I think the word we are all looking for is...'anywaaaaaaaaay' ahem!

EricLovesAnyFucker Thu 24-Oct-13 18:53:10

Str8, may I respectfully suggest that as a gay man you know fuck all about what women might or might not find 'natural' sexually?

It's precisely no more or less natural than gay men having anal sex.

Lweji Thu 24-Oct-13 19:13:38

As would be for me to presume what is natural for gay men.

Ah, to anal or not to anal!

I'm looking it up on the next Oxford dictionary edition as a verb.

Also for a new synonym of anus, i.e. anal. E.g. take it up the anal.

killpeppa Thu 24-Oct-13 19:24:28

IM SCARRED.

I thought he was having problems with OCD...

DownstairsMixUp Thu 24-Oct-13 19:27:02

It's not Friday, come back tomorrow OP.

redundantandbitter Thu 24-Oct-13 19:28:15

Holds hand up... Please sir, what is bukkake? I know the other two ... Two out of three ain't bad ..., (slightly nervous about showing myself up)

DownstairsMixUp Thu 24-Oct-13 19:31:09

It's when a group of people jizz over someones face basically

LifeofPo Thu 24-Oct-13 19:35:45

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LifeofPo Thu 24-Oct-13 19:36:41

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

cupcakeicing Thu 24-Oct-13 19:39:08

Mine too Shades.

DownstairsMixUp Thu 24-Oct-13 19:39:54

If you are brave enough you can google... i unfort came across it when i caught my ex watching it. Not my cup of tea.

AndTheBandPlayedForAnyFucker Thu 24-Oct-13 19:40:12

Let the ice tray return to room temperature before refilling it and putting it back in the freezer? Anal EA xbf....( sorry blush )

If you do not like anal sex then I would say that continuing to allow it is a problem.
You can prove your love in nonsexual ways, fwiw.

BigBoPeep Thu 24-Oct-13 22:48:07

haha wow.

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