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Poor

(29 Posts)
enthusiasmcurbed Thu 05-Sep-13 22:46:52

Just that, I've been dumped for being poor. Life has been really tough these last few years but my BF of the last 6 years has decided I am now too destitute and pathetic to be with. But hey fuck him and I will rise!!

Thurlow Thu 05-Sep-13 22:49:20

Blimey! What a tosser. You're better off without him.

Numberlock Thu 05-Sep-13 22:49:36

Those were his exact words?

Buttercup4 Thu 05-Sep-13 22:49:44

WTAF?!?! angryangryangry

Absolute PRICK! I can't believe that.

enthusiasmcurbed Thu 05-Sep-13 22:52:36

Apparently I want him to pay for everything, even though I always offered to pay my own way.

thecook Thu 05-Sep-13 22:54:37

Better off out of it love but I think you know that.

wheretoyougonow Thu 05-Sep-13 22:56:29

Thank God he's gone. Don't waste your time thinking about it. Time for you to arrange a girls night in. winethanks

enthusiasmcurbed Thu 05-Sep-13 22:56:50

And the stupid thing is, I have a house to sell. But he wants someone who has a great job ( like I used to have ) and is totally independant. As in never needs any help from him.

mcmooncup Thu 05-Sep-13 22:58:28

Lucky escape

You weren't dumped because you're poor. You were dumped because he's a twat.

Here's to your new life without him flowers

enthusiasmcurbed Thu 05-Sep-13 23:05:13

The last straw was when he went off on a boys day out, didn't tell me when he was coming home. Time went on, he has a dog, I thought at 6pm, time to take dog out for a walk. Took dog out, (dog was very excited as he always is when I take him out ). Got back to EXBF house, EXBF was back. I got bollocked for getting dog over excited! End of.

Anniegetyourgun Thu 05-Sep-13 23:08:40

What a shame the dog can't dump him and decide to live with you.

enthusiasmcurbed Thu 05-Sep-13 23:10:23

Annie he loves the dog more than anyone else.

SlumberingDormouse Thu 05-Sep-13 23:17:38

He sounds like a wanker. angry I bet you won't even think about him when you find someone who couldn't give a damn whether you're rich or poor! In the meantime: thanks

enthusiasmcurbed Thu 05-Sep-13 23:20:13

Well, as I'm on the wrong side of 50 I'm not holding out much hope. At my age, the good ones are taken and the twats remain.

Anniegetyourgun Thu 05-Sep-13 23:30:04

Excuse me, the experienced side of 50 is the right side.

enthusiasmcurbed Thu 05-Sep-13 23:32:08

Annie grin

FloraSpreadableMacDonald Thu 05-Sep-13 23:36:55

You are not wealthy until you have something money cannot buy. You have that in abundance....integrity, confidence, sanity (and a house to sell). Leave him to it....what professional woman is going to want a twat like him?!

Shellywelly1973 Thu 05-Sep-13 23:43:56

Honestly you are well rid!!

50? Thats young.!!! You will meet someone when the times right.
Celebrate your freedom from your hideous sounding ex!

enthusiasmcurbed Thu 05-Sep-13 23:58:05

Thank you so much everyone. The thing is, when you don't know him. he is a handsome.funny guy. Some poor bugger is going to find out the hard way.

It's hardly fair that cigarettes and alcohol get big warning labels and guys like this get to walk around free.

Sparklysilversequins Fri 06-Sep-13 00:53:19

grin I like that dreaming

Jux Fri 06-Sep-13 01:12:15

Er, my friend 65 (and a bit more wink) had to declare bankruptcy and wind up her business two years ago due to her knobjockey cocklodger who had somehow inveigled himself into all areas of her life, including her home, very quickly and proceeded to con her out of almost everything she had. Not her home thank goodness. Once she had no money and no business he dumped her and buggered off.

Not quite a year ago, she met a really nice man, a doctor. They are very happy together, though not living together as he is a genuine and sensible bloke, and she's been bitten and has learnt her lesson, so they're not rushing, but they see each other a lot and spend most w/es together.

No nice men out there? Rubbish!

enthusiasmcurbed Fri 06-Sep-13 01:49:01

Jux grin. I now live in hope.

CharityFunDay Fri 06-Sep-13 04:06:59

Being poor can affect your self-esteem badly -- not your fault, but a consequence of living in an economic system that regards people as financial units.

You don't need bell-ends like this bloke making you feel worse. Count yourself lucky that he didn't grace you with his questionable presence any longer than he did.

Good luck with finding a man who loves you for who you are, not what you earn. They do exist.

Leverette Fri 06-Sep-13 06:25:34

Send him an invoice for the dog walking?

Seriously, what an inhuman arse flowers

HairyGrotter Fri 06-Sep-13 07:49:14

Urgh, he sounds vile! You are WELL rid! Dumped for being poor?! Jeez, I'd be on my own for life then if all folk thought like that, thankfully, your ex seems to be 'rare'!

Enjoy your freedom!

catsmother Fri 06-Sep-13 08:48:58

Sad thing is there are a fair few people out there whose relationship choices are dictated by the earning capacity and/or assets of prospective dates. In your case, it beggars belief however as you were together 6 years - am guessing perhaps that when you met you might have had "more" (financially) ? However, if you always offered to pay your own way I don't really see what his problem was ? ..... except that normal and decent people wouldn't see their lower earning partner struggle to "keep up", and I suspect that while he didn't want to seem like a heel to the outside world by letting you struggle, he also, at the same time, wanted to keep all his money for himself! Selfish, in other words - 'cos after such a long relationship, most couples would pool their money or else at least come to some arrangement where one party wasn't always scraping about. He just sounds mean.

I used to work with a woman who on the face of it seemed very nice but who absolutely refused to date any man who didn't appear to be well off. She let several very nice, funny and attractive men slip through her fingers because they didn't have a good "enough" job or a flash car. To that end, she got what she wanted when she started seeing a company director with cash to splash - shame he was married, so she could never truly have him anyway. Yet having access to money was more important than an honest relationship with someone who could truly give themselves to her ?!?

enthusiasmcurbed Fri 06-Sep-13 16:14:42

Thank you all for the kind words. You've really helped me.

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