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What does this mean?

(55 Posts)
dontcallmehon Sat 22-Jun-13 23:39:31

What would you make of it if a person you'd just started seeing posted a link to this on facebook and underneath written 'I know the feeling?'

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=Wc3UeI0ouY8#at=36

Sorry. can't do links!

HeySoulSister Sat 22-Jun-13 23:54:19

What is it?

RiotsNotDiets Sat 22-Jun-13 23:54:35

Has he recently got out of a relationship?

MalcolmTuckersMum Sat 22-Jun-13 23:55:12

Don't click links - what is it?

dontcallmehon Sat 22-Jun-13 23:58:30

It's the Luminites singing 'To love somebody.' No he hasn't been in a relationship recently.

dontcallmehon Sat 22-Jun-13 23:58:54

Off Britain's Got Talent, forgot to say.

RiotsNotDiets Sat 22-Jun-13 23:59:03

a modern cover of 'to love somebody' by the BeeGees

RiotsNotDiets Sun 23-Jun-13 00:00:00

I'd assume it was about me(you) then and tbh I'd be a bit creeped out if you've only just started seeing each other

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 00:01:06

That's what I thought.

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Sun 23-Jun-13 00:01:12

That you are always on his mind smile Sounds sweet.

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 00:02:00

He is sweet.

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 20:10:45

Well - don't I feel an idiot. He posted something today calling someone a c**t (don't like that word) and in the comments it transpired that he was referring to a girl who had let him on and crushed him. I texted him to see what was up (v casually) and it turns out he had feelings for a girl, who told him nothing would ever happen, but she'd also lied to people saying they'd slept together. And he still wants to meet me next weekend confused. So she's obviously who the song was about.

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 20:13:08

*led him on - that should say

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow Sun 23-Jun-13 20:14:25

ah don't feel like an idiot - just learn from it and move on!

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 20:17:58

I shouldn't even think about seeing him again, should I?

PamDooveOrangeJoof Sun 23-Jun-13 20:18:43

I don't think you're the idiot. He sounds awful!

PamDooveOrangeJoof Sun 23-Jun-13 20:22:15

No. There were so many things about your post that rang alarms I wouldn't know where to start. Lucky escape.

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 20:23:13

That kind of language used about a woman is a big red flag anyway I think.

PamDooveOrangeJoof Sun 23-Jun-13 20:25:19

Indeed. Onwards and upwards!

RiotsNotDiets Sun 23-Jun-13 20:25:38

Urgh what a pig, agree it is a lucky escape!

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 20:27:39

He's been texting me all week - everyday - so I'm v confused!

PamDooveOrangeJoof Sun 23-Jun-13 20:31:47

Why are you confused? You know what you have to do.

PamDooveOrangeJoof Sun 23-Jun-13 20:33:03

I'm sure he has been texting you everyday. He's been ditched by the woman he was trying to get with, whilst still seeing you!

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 20:46:34

It's a bit humiliating really. It's only early days - so why did he bother with me at all? He did all the running too!

PamDooveOrangeJoof Sun 23-Jun-13 21:04:19

As a back up? Sorry to be blunt but he has declared his feelings about this other woman to all and sundry on Facebook - which is odd in itself - whilst chasing you at the same time. Only to call declare her a c**t, when it wasn't reciprocated.

This tells you all you need to know about him. Don't be the fall back for this dick head.

PamDooveOrangeJoof Sun 23-Jun-13 21:05:58

If she had accepted his advances, he would have dropped you like you were hot.

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 21:11:52

He actually asked me to add him on facebook too!

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 21:18:46

So when he asks me if I fancy meeting up on Saturday as we planned, do I text back 'no thanks, I don't like being second best.' Or has anyone got any better ideas. I'd like to emerge with a bit of dignity intact. I'm not being egotistical, but I am quite an attractive, intelligent woman and don't really see why losers like this think it's ok to mess me around.

RiotsNotDiets Sun 23-Jun-13 21:26:41

I'd just stop texting back. I wouldn't bother doing him the courtesy of letting him know why you've dumped him, it's not like he gave a shit about your feelings is it?

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 21:32:20

True - he didn't.

PamDooveOrangeJoof Sun 23-Jun-13 21:47:30

I agree with Riots. Delete his number, remove from Facebook, and if he texts you, ignore, ignore, ignore.

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 22:04:00

He's deleted. That feels better. I think he's the kind of guy who won't like being deleted by a mere 'girl' (or c**t as he likes to refer to them).

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 22:13:22

Thanks for giving me the strength to do that - I knew you lot would talk sense. I didn't want anything serious with him - just a fling, but I deserve a bit more respect than that.

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 22:38:58

Forgot to mention, he works at a warehouse, but told me he had 175 k in the bank from doing bare knuckle boxing hmm. I wasn't convinced by any of that. He then let me give him £20 for a taxi ride that only cost about £2 to my house (after making a token effort to bat my money away). I'm actually a bit embarrassed that I was thinking of seeing him again, but by way of explanation, I am not long out of a v long term relationship and was feeling a bit vulnerable.

RiotsNotDiets Sun 23-Jun-13 22:53:45

Good on you OP, he sounds like a knob. you're well rid

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 22:57:20

Yep - certainly does, doesn't he. I kind of knew it all along, sometimes you just need a kick up the backside to realise it fully. I remember him telling me how he could pay off my mortgage (when he lives in a rented flat) and it didn't ring true, but I figured he was just trying to impress me.

Scarletohello Sun 23-Jun-13 23:11:09

What's that phrase, "dodged a bullet"? Yep, think u just did that. You've just saved yourself months of pain...!!

dontcallmehon Sun 23-Jun-13 23:17:53

I certainly did. I think it'll really annoy him too.

PamDooveOrangeJoof Mon 24-Jun-13 08:27:45

Eh? Oh dear. Pathological liar too? So unattractive.

I'm sure he will be annoyed that you have seen the light and ditched him. Don't even get Into a conversation with him about it though. You don't owe him anythinc or have to justify yourself.

This has more red flags than you can shake a stick at.

dontcallmehon Mon 24-Jun-13 10:14:51

I will just ignore. Trust me to pick someone like that. Well he picked me really.

dontcallmehon Tue 25-Jun-13 14:28:52

Well he's texted me again - I am ignoring and hoping he'll go away. He actually makes me feel a bit sick.

PamDooveOrangeJoof Tue 25-Jun-13 14:36:56

Good. Keep it up. He sounds like a complete weirdo. Don't give him anymore head space... He doesn't deserve if.

waddlecakes Tue 25-Jun-13 14:45:40

Just text him back saying: I suggest you make every conceivable effort to reduce residual feelings for a previous romantic interest before attempting to re-engage in potential future partnerships. In addition, you may wish to reconsider your social networking friend adding policy when said issues have not been resolved. I wish you the very best of luck with any future endeavours.

dontcallmehon Tue 25-Jun-13 14:48:22

Love it waddlecakes. He wouldn't understand a word of it though.

RiotsNotDiets Tue 25-Jun-13 17:07:57

waddle grin

Can picture him scratching his head and looking bemused.

dontcallmehon Tue 25-Jun-13 18:45:57

I am actually tempted to send that. Just to see what he does!

waddlecakes Tue 25-Jun-13 18:52:06

Go on! I mean, it says what you want to say...in a way.

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Tue 25-Jun-13 18:58:53

Go on - send it, we all need a laugh.

Though I suspect you will get back this >> ???

RiotsNotDiets Tue 25-Jun-13 21:54:28

<chants> DOO IT DOO IT DOO IT!

dontcallmehon Mon 01-Jul-13 22:58:24

Well, I didn't in the end. Then he texted me, inviting me out for his mate's birthday on Friday night. I said I already had plans. The next day, there were pictures of him and some girl he'd evidently met on the Friday plastered all over Facebook and apparently they are now 'in a relationship!'

SomewhereBeyondTheSea Mon 01-Jul-13 23:02:25

Dodged a bullet OP!

dontcallmehon Mon 01-Jul-13 23:03:34

Yep - he is very odd. I did wonder if all the facebook pictures were for my benefit.

Well he doesn't sound very nice but, really, you only had a couple of dates with him so it's not worth gettng upset about. If you are recenlty out of an abusive relationship, it's probably a good idea to stay off dating for a while and maybe have somecounselling to make sure you don't pick a different type of abuser nexty time.

dontcallmehon Mon 01-Jul-13 23:05:53

I'm not out of an abusive relationship. My ex was not an abuser. I'm not taking any of this all that seriously, I just find it strange.

dontcallmehon Mon 01-Jul-13 23:06:36

I definitely don't need counselling. I'm fine.

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