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So. My first "nasty" OD message.

(35 Posts)
StuffezLaYoni Thu 13-Jun-13 19:42:54

Ive had all the pervs and marrieds - they seem to go away if ignored. But this delightful specimen has taken the trouble to message me saying he's seen me round town (likely as small town) and I should change my photos to include my body, as they're misleading. (He didn't say body, he said gut.)
I know it's an inadequate wanker,pissed off I didn't reply to his "heyyyyy" the other week, but was that needed? Feeling a bit shit about myself but wish I didn't.

MaBumble Thu 13-Jun-13 19:49:39

Oh what a horrible specimen! Block and report him (if you can)

I know it's easy to say, but pay him no attention, and do not respond. I suspect he's a sad abusive low life who gets off on upsetting women.

LeaveTheBastid Thu 13-Jun-13 19:50:09

Ignore. I wouldn't be able to ignore mind, I'd probably reply with "and your vile attitude and disrespect towards women also isn't included on your profile, very misleading of you too. Now fuck off you bitter, pathetic twat, or I'll belly bounce yer if you ever have the guts to speak to me when you see me instead of watching from afar, fecking weirdo."

But I'm proper mature like that grin and it'd probably just make things worse.

Do not let him knock your confidence, sad little man.

StuffezLaYoni Thu 13-Jun-13 19:52:18

I tried to reply but couldn't even muster the sarcasm needed to do it well. I am ok really, I know he's a dick, but why take the time to do something so knobbish? Just knocked me because I'm eating badly at the mo and feeling a bit shit about myself. Meh.

StuffezLaYoni Thu 13-Jun-13 19:52:30

Oh and thanks both.

"My mate fucked you a few years ago and she said you had a chipolata cock and only lasted 3 thrusts".

Just that, nothing else.

The cunt will tear himself in knots trying to work out who told you that.

oopsadaisymaisy Thu 13-Jun-13 19:53:15

Stuffez, do not even think about it. What a cock, he took time to message you because you rejected to him. There are some very sad specimens out there. I've had my share of them! And I know I is bee-oo-t-eeful smile

Heartbrokenmum73 Thu 13-Jun-13 19:54:03

He's a prick. And needs reporting to the site admin (do they have that?) because that's totally shit behaviour.

LineRunner Thu 13-Jun-13 19:54:10

I imagine you are attractive and he is not attractive, and your profile sparkles and he is inadequate, and you ignored him, so he has tried to get your attention by attempting to undermine you.

He has attempted this in a pretty pathetic way.

He is jealous of you, basically.

Ignore him again and move on, you lovely person. smile

forumdonkey Thu 13-Jun-13 19:55:45

I'm with Lauriefairycake gringringrin Love it!!

Aetae Thu 13-Jun-13 19:56:05

Ignore him! He's just insecure about the fact that you didn't reply and he's trying to be a dickhead make himself feel better - small-minded people generally resort to putting others down to make themselves feel better.

See it as a good thing - you were right not to reply to his message as he's obviously a wanker, so your OD instincts are clearly good.

EllaFitzgerald Thu 13-Jun-13 19:56:25

What a ridiculous little man! I bet he hasn't seen you at all! He clearly fancied you. Your 'gut' wasn't enough to put him off messaging you in the first place and it's only because you've damaged his ego by not falling for his 'heyyy' (clearly put a lot of thought into that, didn't he?) that he's trying to do the same to you. What a twat.

Ignore him, safe in the knowledge that he's just bitter because you weren't interested.

StuffezLaYoni Thu 13-Jun-13 19:58:23

Aw, thanks, you'll make my head swell! to match body
Yes, it's ok Cupid, so have reported and blocked. Annoyed I don't recognise hm - I'd love to clock him in town and punch his smug, gurning puss have words.
Bluergh, thanks for the niceness!

Hrrrm Thu 13-Jun-13 19:59:19

Urgh, what a nasty bastard.

I exchanged a few messages with someone out of boredom, and then couldn't be bothered anymore with his long drawn out description of exactly what was involved in making sushi for himself at 2am, so stopped replying. He first sent a message saying 'so, not a fan of [some random shit he'd waffled on about], and when I didn't bite sent a bitchy 'so why do you think you're single? Is it because you lose interest quickly or because you're incredibly choosy?'. Arse. Yes, I'm choosy - especially when it comes to self-involved arseholes.

chocoreturns Thu 13-Jun-13 19:59:28

wow, what an arse. FWIW I probably wouldn't reply at all, I'd just block. But if you really want to I'd say something along the lines of...

'Thank you for saving me (and no doubt the many other women you have felt it appropriate to insult anonymously online) the effort of finding out in person you're a total twat. A body can change. A twattish personality is forever.'

Then block and move on.

Don't let the bitter knob bring you down - and don't feel a single scrap less attractive as a result either, this kind of man is not the kind you should be caring about, ever! His opinions are at the very least, meaningless.

(((hug)))

forumdonkey Thu 13-Jun-13 19:59:35

OP you obviously 'got to him'. He obviously liked and fancied you and has probably been waiting for your reply. The fact you've pissed him off by not replying shows you've got it girl so don't feel down on yourself - quite the opposite!!

chocoreturns Thu 13-Jun-13 20:01:07

lol I was too slow to post - some FAR better suggestions of replies there already!!

Heartbrokenmum73 Thu 13-Jun-13 20:02:13

Friend of mine was logged into POF one afternoon (she'd just joined and we were building her profile together so she hadn't uploaded her photo yet) and this bloke pm'd her three times in about 5 minutes. They were all of the 'hey' variety. She ignored him because we were busy with the profile. Message no.4 arrived - 'at least I've got a photo. You must be ugly if you won't show your face'. Wtf is wrong with some people? And unwitting women END UP with these arseholes.

EllaFitzgerald Thu 13-Jun-13 20:04:25

I suspect there would be a bit of a problem with Laurie's suggestion. There is no way that this silver tongued charmer is going to have a very long list of chipolata victims to choose from. Wondering who said it is likely to take all of three seconds!

NatashaBee Thu 13-Jun-13 20:06:03

He's annoyed that you ignored his original message. Laurie's response is perfect.

Damnautocorrect Thu 13-Jun-13 20:06:52

Another vote for lauriefairycakes.
What an absolute arse.

DevonCiderPunk Thu 13-Jun-13 20:07:17

What are OD and POF?!

Sorry to hear you had a brush with a no-mark. Brush him off & stay classy smile

StuffezLaYoni Thu 13-Jun-13 20:09:11

heartbroken how ridiculous these people are! And hrmm ditto!
Stupid thing is, there's a body shot of me on there, so it's perfectly clear I'm not a skinny minny. AND it says my body type!! Sorry, it's silly defending myself.

StuffezLaYoni Thu 13-Jun-13 20:10:20

Wonderful as your reply was, Laurie, I am going to leave it smile
flowers

sipofwine Thu 13-Jun-13 20:47:02

Oh, Stuffez - I really feel for you. Even though you know he must be a prize tit and you wouldn't waste time even sneezing next to him, you still feel upset and hurt by what he's said and that's understandable. It just shows that you are a nice, normal person who wouldn't treat people like shit and he's a low-life.

It reminds me of being really young and the idiotic boys I met (I know girls will have been just as idiotic and annoying but, you know, I was a girl and upset by boys' comments).. I was VERY self-conscious about my big bum. I remember a boy going on and on asking me out and when he finally got the message he said that I had a huge arse but normally hid it well with skirts. I was so upset and kept wondering over and over again 'why did he have to say that?' Of course he was just an immature prat who felt rejected and the same can be said of the revolting dick who said this to you. He probably responds like that to all his rejectees.

Try to remain positive - you know there are loads of lovely men out there who are a bit more intelligent than that and will be interested in the 'whole' of you and I'm sure you will meet some soon. Good luck x

LineRunner Thu 13-Jun-13 20:50:39

Devon

Online Dating and Plenty Of Fuckwits Fish.

AndTheBandPlayedOn Thu 13-Jun-13 22:14:04

What Sipofwine said. He didn't get what he wanted so he verbally spanked you...the content of what he said doesn't matter. You wouldn't cooperate- so he punished you. I think that is all you need to know about that one. wink

dontyouwantmebaby Thu 13-Jun-13 22:47:28

oh OP what a pathetic unpleasant specimen this person is, just thank your lucky stars you didn't reply to his earlier 'heeeyyyyy' message!

know its easier said than done but really do try to forget this, it was only sent by him because you didn't reply to him, no other reason. pity the poor person that does end up with him, hope he gets kicked off the dating site by the admins.

I'd be sooooo tempted to do what lauriecakes says but even that bloody excellent retort would be seen as 'acknowledging' him by replying, so prob best to ignore. He's a worthless petty spiteful man, not worth your trouble. Hope you find someone lovely, don't let this dent your confidence.

DevonCiderPunk Thu 13-Jun-13 22:48:46

Thanks LineRunner

LessMissAbs Thu 13-Jun-13 23:18:51

How unfortunate to be a no-hoper man who is so used to rejection he feels he can only get attention from women by insulting them. Wouldn't you just hate to be him?

BreathingLessons Thu 13-Jun-13 23:24:39

would you recognise him if you saw him in your small town? Some people go from naught to nasty in under five seconds.

myroomisatip Thu 13-Jun-13 23:36:47

Honestly Stuffez, he is a loser and always will be!! Do not give him a second thought.

However, on a lighter note:

I will memorise this because I know I will need it one day...

"My mate fucked you a few years ago and she said you had a chipolata cock and only lasted 3 thrusts".

hahahahahaha brilliant smile

Discomama Fri 14-Jun-13 02:38:51

I just joined OD and got my first message yesterday, it went
Him: hi
Me: hello
Him: you look like a good fuck
Me:

I reported him and blocked him but I was very blushangry! Almost made me demand a refund but now I have a date with someone much nicerwine

Longdistance Fri 14-Jun-13 03:46:16

I rather thought chipolata was rather generous, I would have said prawn grin

I did OD about 8 years ago. I cannot for the life of me remember if I had any odd replies as I was very popular, and got hundreds of replies had lots of dates, but did wonder 'yes, I know why you're single'.

CogitoErgoSometimes Fri 14-Jun-13 06:49:23

"why take the time to do something so knobbish?"

Because he's inadequate, a bully and a coward. Bullies are so insecure they can only feel good about themselves by making others feel bad. Cowardly because he hasn't the balls to go up to you in the street to deliver this bizarre insult in person, he sends a message. If there were a book entitled 'Red Flags for Dummies'.... smile ... this would be Page 1.

Tosser...

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