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Do you love your sister more than your DH

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MotheringShites Sat 27-Apr-13 22:30:53

I was just reading an article in the MoS about identical twins. It made me think about my sister (not a twin) and how much I love her. I think it's more than my DH but obv not more than DCs.

Anyone else love their sister more than their partner?

No, but I really love my cat.

doingmyhead Sat 27-Apr-13 22:32:25

Absolutely not! blush

Ruprekt Sat 27-Apr-13 22:32:52

Nope! I love DH more than anyone.

bigTillyMint Sat 27-Apr-13 22:32:56

No. I haven't got a sister. Or a brother. sad

SirChenjin Sat 27-Apr-13 22:33:40

Hahaha!! Erm, nope. I love my sister, but no, DH wins.

MrsBombastic Sat 27-Apr-13 22:33:43

I love my sister but in a different way to the DH (who I love immensly) the 2 are incomparible?

What an odd question!

HDEE Sat 27-Apr-13 22:33:47

No way, not even close.

Ruralninja Sat 27-Apr-13 22:34:14

Christ no!

HolyFocaccia Sat 27-Apr-13 22:35:25

Different sort of love.

whattodoo Sat 27-Apr-13 22:35:50

Wow, that's got me thinking!

I love her differently to DP.

She drives me mad, but I trust her with my life. She knows me inside out, my achilles heel, my darkest secrets.

But my DP doesn't judge me like she does, he shares my dreams, soothes me, makes my heart race.

Different. Great question!

YoniLovesChachi Sat 27-Apr-13 22:35:57

No, I barely know my sister.

I would imagine for most people it would be like comparing apples with oranges anyway.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Sat 27-Apr-13 22:36:07

No. I feel different emotions for them.

I don't think you can measure the different types of love. I don't think they're even the same feeling!

The love I have for my husband is totally different from the love I have for my sister, both of which are different from the love I have for my children.

None of which compare to my love for cake. wink

love is an umbrella word, imo.

It's impossible to rank husband and sibling.

you could rank siblings.

Or husbands, I suppose grin

I have 4 sisters. I love them all in a different way from dh. I love them all differently from each other too.

I am an identical twin and as much as I love my sister it can't be compared to how much I love my dh.

Startail Sat 27-Apr-13 22:37:48

No, DH then the DDs in the sense that one day I hope they'll leave home and I hope DH won't

The DDs then DH in the sense that they are perfect and he can be very annoying and my Dear little sister, well I love her dearly, but I do find it easy to end up a cross purposes with her and DM ends up sorting out the mess.

Mandy21 Sat 27-Apr-13 22:41:20

I don't think its an odd question, before opening the post, I really had to think about it. I have a twin sister and we are incredibly close. She's my best friend. She knows me inside out, upside down, we know what the other is thinking without even looking at each other. The love for her is deeper, a part of who I am. My love for my DH is more intense, more involved with who we are as a couple and as parents. So I can't really say who I love more, I love them differently.

That doesn't answer the question does it?

MotheringShites Sat 27-Apr-13 22:41:48

We really need different words for love. This article just really made me think about how much I love my sister and would be bereft without her. I do love DH too but my sister is weirdly different.

Shellywelly1973 Sat 27-Apr-13 23:56:08

I have 2sisters & a dp. My older sister isnt a very nice person. I literally have only just realised why the majority of our family dislike her.

I adore my younger sister. I love her totally unconditionally. Apart from my dc she is the person i love most in the world. She has loved me no& supported me all my life.

Yes its different from dp. Dp doesn't care or will ever understand me like my sister, even after 14years.

WafflyVersatile Sun 28-Apr-13 00:02:38

Differently. Ultimately a partner matters more to my day to day life as I would live with them in the same house rather than hundreds of miles away like my sister.

My sister once called her husband my name in bed though. grin



They were not having sex at the time. She was half asleep and he was annoying her. We shared a room as kids. I guess 30 years of empirical evidence led her to the error.

chattychattyboomba Sun 28-Apr-13 00:03:05

Oooo this is a tough one. I think it's about equal actually. I love my DH and i love my sis- but thy both can be sooo annoying!

Moknicker Sun 28-Apr-13 00:13:18

Tough one.DS and I are very close. Seen each other through everything in life, can finish each other's sentences and nobody can make me laugh like she does. I love her very very much and cant imagine my life without her.

DH and I have only been together for 5 years but hes the true love of my life and still makes me go all gooey. He is quite different to me in a lovely male way which is wonderful. I love him very much and cant imagine my life without him.

They can both also drive me to distraction!!!!!!

I would say different kinds of love but as Im typing this Im just thinking how incredibly lucky I am to have both.

Goes off to give DH a snog kiss and call DS after that.

Trill Sun 28-Apr-13 00:47:14

I only have a brother, but I have friends that I love more than my brother and I think that if he was female but otherwise had the same personality that would probably still be the case.

Trill Sun 28-Apr-13 00:49:07

I don't think that sharing DNA and an upbringing necessarily makes you get on with someone, or makes you think that their opinion is important, or makes you understand someone.

It can help, and it makes it more likely, but you shouldn't assume that it is so.

FishCalledWonder Sun 28-Apr-13 00:52:53

No, my sister is a nightmare. Might love my mum more though!

manicinsomniac Sun 28-Apr-13 00:56:16

I don't have a husband or a partner but I love my sister more than anybody else in the world.

She is the one person I can't even imagine being able to get up and go on without.

Sunnywithshowers Sun 28-Apr-13 01:19:42

Yes. I can imagine living without my DH, but not living without my sister.

happyfreeconfused Sun 28-Apr-13 07:43:09

I love all my immediate family (mum, dad, sister, brother) more than I ever loved exh. I could forgive them anything and stand by them through anything in a way that I would not be prepared to do for a partner. Maybe it just is a different type of love.

ThePlEWhoLovedMe Sun 28-Apr-13 10:48:12

I have 2 sisters who are both wonderful. I love them as equally as my DH but in a different way. I love my sons the most.

singaporeswing Sun 28-Apr-13 11:00:37

I love my sister, but get the impression that she doesn't like me that much, judges me & can't see us ever being really close unfortunately.

She isn't an emotional person and can be quite blunt, with us having to pussyfoot around her, whereas DP is ridiculously supportive & lovely.

Bowlersarm Sun 28-Apr-13 11:02:02

No definitely not.

LalyRawr Sun 28-Apr-13 11:04:31

If it was a choice of saving my brother or saving my OH, I would save my brother.

Every time.

ByTheSea Sun 28-Apr-13 11:11:19

I love them both immensely, but differently.

GoombayDanceBand Sun 28-Apr-13 11:19:15

I don't have a DH but I can't stand my sister.

juneau Sun 28-Apr-13 11:30:09

God no! My sister and I are not particularly close. I love her, but nowhere near as much as I love my DH.

fishybits Sun 28-Apr-13 11:37:48

No!

She made me choose between her and DH. I chose DH.

Biscuitsneeded Sun 28-Apr-13 13:46:43

Hmmmm. I don't love my brother more than my DP. I love my kids most in the world. But actually i trust/can rely on/feel more valued by my best friend than my DP. I guess if I had a sister that's how it would feel, assuming we got on.

VerySmallSqueak Sun 28-Apr-13 13:53:03

Not much fussed with either tbh.wink

Cloverer Sun 28-Apr-13 13:56:06

I don't know actually.

In a "who would you save from a burning building" scenario I'm not sure if I'd go for DH or my sister.

Naysa Sun 28-Apr-13 14:05:46

I love my sister more than DP but I don't like her at all. It's only the fact that she is my little sister that I haven't punched her in the mouth yet blush

thegoldenfool Sun 28-Apr-13 19:06:41

i am an identical twin, and love my DP so much, he is so lovely and caring and we have made together lovely DC

but as seen from this site that isn´t always forever, whereas my sis and I all being well will still be gossiping together when we are 80 . . . .the love is different and perhaps more unconditional

IDoTakeTwo Sun 28-Apr-13 19:10:30

I love my sisters and dh differently.

They know me since childhood which gives a different dynamic. And we can revert being 10.

However, you have to be nice to sisters - you never know when you might need a kidney.

LadyBigtoes Sun 28-Apr-13 19:15:02

No, but I do wish I had a sister I was close to in the way some of you are. I have two - one is great but we're very different in tastes and lifestyle and don't see each other much. The other has always been hard work for me and I've had to pretend we are close while finding her at times impossible. I've recently pulled away more which is a relief. But I fantasise about a sister who could be a true equal, friend and support. (Which is more like what my DP is, so he gets the love!)

ArthurCucumber Sun 28-Apr-13 19:23:38

No, although I didn't grow up with my sisters so am not sure what a more usual type of sibling bond would be like. Of course there's a major bond, but on the other hand my dh is someone I chose. As things are (i.e. not having grown up with them) he'd definitely win in the save one or the other scenario.

colleysmill Sun 28-Apr-13 19:28:58

I adore my sister - I'd walk to the ends of the earth for her. She has been my structural support as i for her (i hope) at different times. She is brutally honest with me, she understands everything , she's my sounding board, my biggest critic but my biggest champion and is just generally bloody brilliant and my best friend.

Dh though is complimentary to that though - he tolerates much more, understands with a different set of eyes but also loves unconditionally (again I hope!) and makes me believe I could conquer the world.

I love them same amount but like others have said in different ways . life has taught me noone is indispensable but if I lost either of them them it would leave me bereft.

2rebecca Sun 28-Apr-13 21:56:25

I love my sister but we are quite different. We have also lived several hundred miles apart for many years which tends to mean her view of me is a bit stuck in the past.

ZZZenagain Sun 28-Apr-13 21:58:47

about the same but my sister is elder and can be a bossy madam, so on the whole I prefer dh.

Almostfree Sun 28-Apr-13 23:18:01

I'm an identical twin and I would choose her over my now Ex-DH every time. But that's because he's an arse - in the early days of my marriage he made me choose between her and him (he was jealous of how close we are) and I put him first. Until I realised he was trying to drive us apart and that generally he's not a very nice person.
Any new partner would have to accept that she's a huge part of my life and not try to compete.
Much as we bicker and argue I can see us sharing a room at the nursing home when we're in our '80s, still bickering and arguing....

Jojobump1986 Sun 28-Apr-13 23:28:42

I love them differently. My love for DSis is probably closer to how I feel about my DCs, although much less intensely. She's 6 years younger than me & I've always sort of 'mothered' her. I feel v protective of her whereas DH can look after himself! If it was a one-or-other type situation I'd probably choose DSis purely because I'd feel more responsible for her safety than for DH's.

Selba Sun 28-Apr-13 23:38:50

yes

chipmonkey Sun 28-Apr-13 23:40:05

Tough question!
I love my children the most.
Dh is always here but dsis has always been there. In testing times, dh has definitely been more of a suppport than dsis but she could probably say the same of her dh and me.
I wouldn't like to have to choose!

willyoulistentome Sun 28-Apr-13 23:53:34

In the burning building scenario it would be..
1) kids
2) mum
3) brothers
4) horse
5) MIL. (Yes really. She's lovely)

Not sure if I'd bother with DH.

readyforno2 Mon 29-Apr-13 00:18:36

Without a doubt. She's on the other side of the world just now and I really miss her sad

BarredfromhavingStella Mon 29-Apr-13 00:26:39

No cos I don't have a sister, pretty sure though that if i did I'd still love DH more, mainly as this is a love through choice.

Love my brother, can't stand the fucker though so same as above... hmm

readyforno2 Mon 29-Apr-13 00:27:17

Believe it or not, she just phoned me...

BrittaPie Mon 29-Apr-13 00:28:51

If my sister slagged off my DH, I would be annoyed at her, but listen to what she was saying. But I would never live with my sister as she would do my head in.

If my DH slagged off my sister I would give him about five minutes to explain himself, then leave him.

(I have actually left him, tbh. Not over my sisters, for other stuff, but I am maybe biased...)

If ANYBODY slags off my children they don't get the five minutes.

I will only hug my children and DH (even though we've split up, I hugged him tonight) and sisters/parents in extreme circumstances.

Different types of love.

arsenaltilidie Mon 29-Apr-13 01:25:38

If i loved my DP as much as I love my DSis then we have a problem.
Vice versa.
Regardless of how much i slag off my sis, no one is allowed to say any bad things about her.

Salbertina Mon 29-Apr-13 07:01:07

Its good to hear about healthy , close sibling relationships on here. Sadly, my dsis is rather mixed up and jealous, never made the effort for a close, adult relationship with me hmm or to offer support through my hard times as i have through hers; on the rare times when we do meet, its ALL about her. Rather enabled by my indulgent yet critical parents and her weak dh, not a great combination for a healthy grown-up to have.

So no way, much as i doubt us at times, dh wins hands down!

Wilding Mon 29-Apr-13 11:16:25

No DP at the moment, but none of my previous partners would ever have come above my sister.

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