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Those nice little romantic gestures... What do you/ does your dp do?

(56 Posts)
cheesesarnie Wed 17-Apr-13 16:43:46

Little things such as my dp sometimes sneaks out to get breakfast in the morning and buys flowers.

lots of vomit inducing stuff please.

Xales Wed 17-Apr-13 16:48:06

Proper coffee every morning when I am in the shower made for me.

Lunch ready to serve when I get in the door.

threesypeesy Wed 17-Apr-13 18:06:55

He does lots of thing but one of my favourites is a candle lit bath with a glass of grey goose and organge, and he puts my pjs on heater to warm up

Squitten Wed 17-Apr-13 18:10:48

He sometimes buys me flowers or some chocolate on his way home from work

VBisme Wed 17-Apr-13 18:25:58

A cup of tea in bed every morning, and way more than his share of the housework. grin

Fragglewump Wed 17-Apr-13 18:29:20

Rubs my hair/feet when we snuggle on the sofa. Pours me wine and a bath when he can see I'm stressy and sends me lovely texts during the day.

iklboo Wed 17-Apr-13 19:31:18

If he's feeling especially romantic he'll cock his arse away from me when he farts.

Seriously, he listens to me rant when I've had a bad day, makes me a brew when I come in, buys me little treats to cheer me up and makes me laugh.

Marking my place to show dp later wink

Fairenuff Wed 17-Apr-13 20:36:37

Regularly cooks family meals, regularly cleans, brings me tea and toast in bed, talks nicely to the cat, fills my car up with petrol and puts air in the tyres, does the supermarket shop, gets up early with the children or stays up late to wait for dd to come home, doesn't tell me what to do, tells me he loves me, lots of cuddles, dances with me, asks me for help, thanks me, picks me up from nights out with friends, laughs at my jokes, goes on a diet with me, lets me have the remote control, asks my opinions, listens to me...

I could go on grin

God, he's lovely

< sigh >

wordfactory Wed 17-Apr-13 20:53:35

My DH is not a romantic gesture kinda guy.
Maybe he'll bring me a cold glass of champagne when I'm in the bath, but no hearts and flowers.

That said he has given me rock solid support from the day I met him. Whatever decision I make (and I've made some huge ones) he has stood by me no matter what.

To be honest, I've barely had a day's worry since I met him.

cheesesarnie Wed 17-Apr-13 22:00:44

these are all lovely!

what are we doing back though?

He has RA so I clear ice off his car, make him a coffee to go, and warm up his car whilst sorting out some choons on his iPod. He walks DS round the corner to nursery while I do all that.

Hassled Wed 17-Apr-13 22:12:42

He's bought me tickets to see the musician of my dreams for my birthday. He doesn't know I know, but the tickets arrived with the venue clearly marked on the envelope, so I know.

cheesesarnie Wed 17-Apr-13 22:13:18

aww! who out of interest?

Hassled Wed 17-Apr-13 22:17:44

Elvis Costello. The Mighty One True Elvis grin.

cheesesarnie Wed 17-Apr-13 22:22:38

he used to live where i live! he played the village halls!

cheesesarnie Wed 17-Apr-13 22:22:53

have fun btw!

Hassled Wed 17-Apr-13 22:28:47

He played the village halls shock? I first saw him circa 1979 aged 13 - but haven't for years. Can't wait. I'm just going to have to practice my surprised face when I'm presented with the tickers.

cheesesarnie Wed 17-Apr-13 22:34:18

yep! north cornwall!

just fall over, makes making faces easier if it's on the floor.

Cherriesarelovely Wed 17-Apr-13 23:18:38

WOw, lucky you Hassled, I love Elvis too. Oddly enough was thinking about him today. His heart rending version of My Funny Valentine!

CutMyFringe Wed 17-Apr-13 23:24:19

Jealous of all you lot, frankly (!)Nice to hear this sort of thing exists though.

EleanorFarjeon Wed 17-Apr-13 23:34:20

We got back from our holiday on Monday.

Today dh came home with a mahoosive bunch of flowers because it occurred to him that I had packed for him! (Only because I was home & he worked up to last minute!)

mumnosbest Wed 17-Apr-13 23:43:44

shock that i can actually add to one of these threads for once! Dh walked up to meet me at school after i'd done tbe morning drop off. It was raining so he brought a brolly so i wouldn't get wet on the way home.

ILoveKermit Thu 18-Apr-13 13:03:20

after he has had a shower, he writes on the mirror little messages he knows I'll see after he's gone to work, makes me smile every time smile

ladyjadie Thu 18-Apr-13 15:43:27

He took a half day off work to surprise look after me when I was feeling ill and anxious. And he bought me a cheese straw and chilli Doritos (my favourite junk snack)

He does the dishwasher (my worst chore)

He drums for hours when I want to play Rockband and puts up with my singing

He brings me toast when I'm drunk grin

He knows my favourite clothing label and surprises me with something from there occasionally.

He never condescends or criticises or patronises me. He notices what I'm all about. He sees us as a team. I never have to feel like a nag.

After three abusive relationships it is like a revelation!!
To think I was in bits at the thought of not being with those idiots is crazy now. It's like growing up in winter and experiencing spring for the first time.

Well you asked for vomit-inducing!!

Clandy Thu 18-Apr-13 20:09:35

He irons cos I hate it. He sings me love songs and changes the names/baby to my name apparently did this at work once and now they take the mick he brings me chocolate when he goes to the shop. He says thank you and tells me how lovely my cooking is every night even if its just mundane rubbish. He allows me to be needy every so often and reassures me I am not as bad as I think smile love him

cheesesarnie Sat 20-Apr-13 18:34:23

ladyjadie- that's lovely!

Ladyjadie, that is such a beautiful thing to say smile

HotCrossPun Sat 20-Apr-13 18:50:58

Love this thread!

He doesn't play mind games. Ever.

He is kind and thoughfull and patient and reassuring.

He drives me everywhere.

Yesterday he drove to my work to drop off money so I could go for after-work drinks. He also pre-empted an order for a chinese takeaway so I could scoff it when I got in and then crash out

He buys me flowers, brings home chocolate, gets me my favourite bottle of wine.

He's like no man I've ever met, and if I'd known there were men like him around I wouldn't have wasted my time with arseholes for so many years grin

gettingeasiernow Sat 20-Apr-13 22:42:51

He brings breakfast in bed every weekend morning.
He writes me a mail every night after calling me whenever he is working away and gives me my alarm call to wake me up the next morning.
He understands with one look when something has upset me or if I'm just not feeling great.
He always tries to feed me the nicest piece of food, the most perfect strawberry etc.
He is a wonderful stepson to ds and has turned him into such a little man capable of facing the world when he was a bit of a mummy's boy before (still is at heart).
He's just a totally solid character and if he says he'll always love me, I believe him.

chocolatebee Sun 21-Apr-13 00:12:52

He give up his job to become my full-time carer.

He brings me my pain killers and rubs my pain when I'm crying out in pain.

He fights my corner for me when my DR's are not listening.

He brings me some flowers or my favourite chocolate from the shop.

He reads my books/magazines to me when I am in too much pain to read them myself.

He lets me have a lie in.

He holds my hand when I go to sleep and come round for surgery like he has never left me

He loves me and stands by me with all of my health problems.

He tells me I look great even when I know I don't.

He holds me and allows me to cry on him when my health is getting to me, no matter what time it is.

I met DP when I first came out of a DV relationship and he showed me how men can really be smile He does have his down sides though

Ouchmyhead Sun 21-Apr-13 01:38:37

-He always kisses me goodbye before he leaves for work, even when I'm asleep.
-My health stuff has never fazed him, he has always supported and loved me and makes sure I know it.
-He buys me everything he sees with my name on (you don't often see my spelling, so I get very excited when I see my name spelt right! So far I have a book about a cat, a bottle of cider and a dinosaur!)

Asking him what are the most romantic things I do for him and he says:
- How I always look after him when he has man flu.
- Bake him cookies when he wants.
- Never have an issue with him going out with his mates.
- Always sticks up for him with his family (they are weird and always kick off on him for no reason!)

Ouchmyhead Sun 21-Apr-13 01:38:52

Also it's nice to read such a lovely thread :-).

SummerDad Sun 21-Apr-13 01:43:48

I feel all too more inadequate now <sigh>.

I could write a book about the little things, so I wool stick to the most important at the moment:
We are finding parenting a four month old and nearly three treat old hard going.
He spends hours building train tracks with DS 1, waking up and down with a refluxy DS 2. He takes then both to the park so I can sleep late at weekends, and brings me tea in bed. He buys flowers at the supermarket and sends DS1 in to give them to me. He spends hours telling me (and anyone who will listen) about his lovely boys.
He tells me I'm doing a great job, which I really need to hear.
He emails me during the day, just chat, telling me things to make me smile.
I feel like he thinks about making me happy. It's lovely.smile

Rulesgirl Sun 21-Apr-13 02:49:56

He brings me a cup of tea every morning, tells me he loves me every day and every night and in between. Texts me to tell me he misses me. Tells me he misses me when Ive been away or he has. Takes me out for romantic dinners. Hunts out dvds I want to watch and buys them on amazon as a surprise. Takes me to the beach for icecream and coffee and a walk by the sea. Always holds my hand. Tells me that Im the most important person in his life. Works hard at his job which involves a lot of stress and up to 14 hour days at worse. Cleans if hes off and Im at work. Takes me to work in the snow. Brings me lunch at work if I cant get away. And....he asks me to marry him every single day...(we have been married for 27 years he he!.

Rulesgirl Sun 21-Apr-13 02:51:14

This has got to be one of the most loveliest threads ever on heresmile

roundtheback Sun 21-Apr-13 02:58:41

We don't do hearts & flowers stuff. Either of us. grin
However, he cooks, all the time. And washes my car when it's freezing cold and I don't want to. And drives me places I need to go when my car isn't working or I have a stomach bug and can't stop throwing up long enough to drive myself.
I'd rather that than roses in all honesty smile

roundtheback Sun 21-Apr-13 03:07:22

Erm, not that I have a permanent stomach bug. Just that he did a 3hr round trip a couple of weeks ago when I did and couldn't do it myself.
And he didnt complain much when he got it a few days later blush

StupidFlanders Sun 21-Apr-13 04:25:49

Whenever he tells me to do something horrible like do some washing it's because there's a bunch of roses waiting in the laundry.

He warms the bed and my pyjamas and towels for me when I'm cold.

When I get in my car the petrol is always full and he buys me a chocolate bar.

He always offers to pick me up when I go out no matter what.

He tells me how beautiful I am everyday.

He buys me jewelry because he wants me to have nice things!

invicta Sun 21-Apr-13 04:34:45

Nothing!

KeatsiePie Algeria Sun 21-Apr-13 06:43:25

Love reading these replies.

He acts like a real partner -- cooks, cleans, deals with tiresome whatnot like bills and taxes and car maintenance and house maintenance, walks our dog, does laundry, etc. I do all that too but what I love about him is that he takes on more than his fair share on weeks when I'm overloaded with work or sick and as he does it he tells me he's glad to do it.

He also tells me how beautiful I am every day. And tells me how much he loves me every day. And tells me how glad he is we're married every day.

And in the mornings he gets up first and brings a cup of coffee and the laptop to me in the bed grin

LtEveDallas Sun 21-Apr-13 07:07:56

When we were both still working at the same place (pre-marriage) he used to leave biscuits on my desk. I always knew they were from him because he'd break them in half "so the calories would fall out"

smile

DoeEyedBeauties Sun 21-Apr-13 07:13:01

He lets me warm my forever cold hands on his warm belly or neck.
He vacumms on the weekend (upstairs and downstairs).
He reads the kids bedtime story with animated, funny voices.
He has said that he does love the dog now (didn't agree to her at first).

It's not typical gestures of love, but for us it does mean something. If I want anything I have to tell him I'd like xyz, and then he will do it. Not especially romantic, but he does try which is halfway there.

Coffee1Sugar Sun 21-Apr-13 08:28:23

He writes I love you in the steam on the mirror after his shower before I walk in, he leaves post-it notes in my handbag of romantic/Vom inducing messages, sends me flowers to work, took me to Claridges Gordon Ramsay restaurant "just coz I love you". Above all he's my best friend, amazing with my toddler and is the only person on the planet who knows how to stop my tears and make me smile when im upset, makes me feel safe and tells me I'm beautiful all the time

Samu2 Sun 21-Apr-13 11:23:02

He gets up with the children and take them to school so I can sleep longer.

He makes me a coffee before I go to bed.

We don't share a room due to his meds he take and his snoring and my insomnia. Every night he comes into my bed for an hour for a cuddle and then he tucks me in.

He empties the bins and does all the recycling because he knows I hate it.

He tells me he loves me all the time.

He often brings me home some chocolate when he knows I need cheering up.

I could go on...

Me? I am always thinking of him, if I am out and about and see something he will like I will buy it. Not expensive things, just little bits and bobs.

If I know he is in pain or something I will pop into the chemist to buy him stuff on the way home from school just so he doesn't have to do it.

I tell him I love him all the time and randomly tell him how handsome and wonderful he is.

I often pick him up a couple of cans of lager if I know he has likely had a stressful day.

There is so much more!!

nerofiend Sun 21-Apr-13 12:09:08

Ahh, my DH is not romantic at all. I'm not a big romantic either but if I'm honest, I'd love to have someone who brings me flowers, makes me a cup of tea every morning, leaves silly messages for me and tells me I'm beautiful.

He has brought me flowers, bought me chocolates and croissants (my favourites!), made me a cup of tea, but these are once in a blue moon events, not a constant.

We do go out for coffee/meals together and he's kind that way.

He says he loves me, and I do believe him and love him too, he's a great dad, and great support in many other ways. So I guess I'll just have to be happy with that and don't get too upset about the absence of little gestures. But when I hear other couples have all that too, I get a bit jealous. Sorry...

elsabel Sun 21-Apr-13 20:28:52

He farts on my head.

Sorry to lower the tone but i couldnt resist! I do find it hilarious (and it is vomit inducing!)

Were not really very romantic...smile

mamaduckbone Sun 21-Apr-13 20:41:31

He always goes out to scrape the car windscreen in the winter before I go to work.
If I'm really tired he lets me have both weekend lie ins.
He buys me little presents for no reason other than because I'd like them.
He tells me I look hot when I feel drab and frumpy.

squiby2004 Sun 21-Apr-13 21:09:14

nothing, apparently he is too depressed to think of anyone except himself and how miserable his life is.

Naebother Sun 21-Apr-13 21:19:15

He gets up with the kids and leaves me to sleep longer.. Every day.
He makes me tea in the morning.
Takes kids to park weekends so I can do my sport.
Takes time off work when I'm ill.
Kisses me hello and goodbye always.

SweetSeraphim Sun 21-Apr-13 21:34:01

Mine does loads and loads of things.

He warms my side of the bed while I'm brushing my teeth and then has to roll over onto the cold side.
He brings me flowers sometimes for no reason.
He buys me lovely puddings that he doesn't particularly like so I can have more.
He drives me to, and pick me up from work every day.
We had a little bit of a to-do a couple of weeks ago, and the next day he brought me a KFC to work at lunchtime.
When I had a migraine recently, he spent most of his lunch hour battling the traffic to bring me medicine.
He scratches my back every night before I go to sleep, and sometimes bites his nails all jagged on purpose so that I get a nicer scratch grin

SweetSeraphim Sun 21-Apr-13 21:34:53

I didn't mention how lucky I am to have found someone like him after all these years. But I am, very lucky.

GizzaCwtch Sun 21-Apr-13 21:38:34

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SweetSeraphim Sun 21-Apr-13 22:01:51

But are there other things that he does for you Gizza? Stuff that might not seem romantic but is really?

HarleyQuinn Sun 21-Apr-13 23:34:22

He always tells me he loves me and how beautiful I am, almost everyday
He always makes me laugh
He buys me my favourite chocolate or snack, "just because"
He always makes me a cup of tea or pour me a glass of wine.

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