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TigsytheTiger Sun 07-Apr-13 12:28:52

celebrating half a century of dating chit chat, all welcome ...

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 12:30:34

AAAAAAArgh feel sick! Hows that for a first post!

Winefiend Sun 07-Apr-13 12:31:34

New thread grin

Nah I don't invite 'guess my age', it is usually orchestrated by my much younger mate, who seems to find it highly amusing as to her I am an old bastard Tiresome sometimes, but sometimes a welcome ego boost when everyone else out seems so young to me these days.

I just wrote a long comment on last thread without realising it was full. Good job I can copy and paste!

Afternoon all!

I've checked POF and Ok and I have messages just from very young lads. Like 18 year olds. I know its only a few years younger but they seem like babies to me grin

I haven't text army guy and he hasn't text me. I might text him later tonight and see if I get a reply or not.

I do feel like deleting profiles but then Ill be alone forever as I don't go anywhere to meet people and when I do go out I have a 3 year old with me. Not exactly attractive grin

TigsytheTiger Sun 07-Apr-13 12:37:28

[girn] Ike, oh please don't puke over him as an opener ....oh, and remember to remove the tea bags before you leave too

TigsytheTiger Sun 07-Apr-13 12:37:57

ooops that's not a girn or a gurn but a grin

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 12:38:04

I dunno about the pile cream Ike it's supposed to work by constricting blood vessels ( I think) - as much of an appalling beauty products tart as I am, I've never tried it.

Juliette I can look at your GSM profile for you if you like ( if I can remember my password - I've had no luck whatsoever on there )

ohmyrainydays Sun 07-Apr-13 12:40:02

Ike I've broken all the rules too and got far too emotionally attached before we met.

1st date Thursday and I've seen him every night since. I've fallen hook line and sinker! I turn into a blathering idiot around him and can't remember what words are for. I'm normally reasonably intelligent. It's really embarrassing but he doesn't seem to mind.

I feel like I've known him for ever and he is so incredibly sweet and lovely.
The best thing though Is despite us pretty much constantly texting he Knows not to disturb me when dr who is on. I'm really hoping it works because I am going be be gutted if it doesn't.

Scrazy Sun 07-Apr-13 12:40:33

I wrote and long thread on the last one too!

Juliette it was about GSM appearing to be too highbrow for me so I've never been on there. A couple of my outdoorsy friends have done OK, one has split recently with a guy from there come to think of it.

Mercury, the botox helps grin. Tbh and not bragging I do look fairly good for my age in that I don't have many wrinkles and can look a few years younger in the right light, with makeup on. A man I went to school with said I look about 16 years younger than I do, now he was trying to flatter and that is ridiculous. Sometimes I think I do look old. I only know that I've told DD that when she comes back in the summer, go out with her peers and never drag me to the clubs again. I really felt out of place and couldn't wait to come home.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 12:40:58

Oh, and -
1. Develop a thick skin;
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon;
3. It's all BS until it actually happens;
4. Trust your gut instinct;
5. If it is not fun, stop

lubeybooby Sun 07-Apr-13 12:42:45

Hello thread 50 grin

Just catching up on the other one...

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 12:42:49

Rainy - I do hope this means I'm going to have to buy hat 4

ohmyrainydays Sun 07-Apr-13 12:50:41

I hope so Kin. I keep thinking the bubbles about to burst but I'm enjoying it.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 12:51:51

You should enjoy it, it's a wonderful feeling.

Scrazy Sun 07-Apr-13 12:52:08

Rainy, sounds like your fb status will change afterall. Very pleased for you.

mercury7 Sun 07-Apr-13 12:54:28

Scrazy, I know botox makes quite a difference (wink) but then again if most women over 40/45 ish have it perhaps it just raises the bar?

lubeybooby Sun 07-Apr-13 12:56:15

Ok.. continued from thread 49

Stella - I'm confused as well, is it possible he did actually send a text you didn't get? Or has he got some previous form for messing you about a bit with contact/texts etc?

Micshi, that sucks! So rude of him as well.

Good to see the crash carp being put to good use Kin... nice one wink

Pomegranate - You're taking way too much of your own self worth and happiness and making it depend on OD... nooooo don't do that! OD requires the thick skin, remember the guidelines... don't expect happiness to come from it, and don't base your self worth in attention from men. The thick skin is required because it can be so shit and draining, and while some are lucky and hit it off with the first person they date, for the majority of us it's a bit more of a slog than that!... if you are going to be online dating, you need to be coming from a place where you are happy anyway otherwise it can be soul destroying.

You won't always be confined to four walls and childrens parties, but your kids are very young so it might seem like that for a little while. Can you try and build up some other social stuff, and go out just to have fun, not with the intention of meeting men... just go out so that you are not feeling so confined... then the OD stuff won't drag you down because you are happy enough anyway. Hope that makes sense?

OWW good luck with cakey grin

Scrazy Sun 07-Apr-13 12:56:32

Yes, I see people on TV my age and think jeez they look younger than me grin. Talking of which did anyone see Sarah Brightman on the one show, whether she has lost weight or something but she looked scarily good.

ohmyrainydays Sun 07-Apr-13 12:59:48

I'd be happy to change mine soon Scrazy but he wants to wait now.

Ike when's your date? I was so nervous before mine I could barely drive. I also lost all the money out of my purse and couldn't pay the car park. He had to come in my car with me to find a free one.

mercury7 Sun 07-Apr-13 13:08:50

I agree Sarah B looks fab, but she'll have had 'work' done, surely?

lubeybooby Sun 07-Apr-13 13:09:21

rainy it's been three seconds you cannot change it yet... I'm with him on the waiting!

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 13:11:39

Pom agree completely with what Lubey says, also take as many positives as you can from it, even from crappy dates. This OD lark has made me realise that, actually, I'm not as shit at talking to strangers as I thought I was, that I enjoy travelling to places by myself and not being part of a couple, that some people think I'm funny and beautiful and that the independent, capable woman I used to be before my personality was chipped away is still in there somewhere. I hold onto all that, especially when I meet men who tell me about their weird fetishes.

ohmyrainydays Sun 07-Apr-13 13:12:54

I'm not going to but before we met he said that's what he'd want to do after our first date in a perfect world. I went a little bit ranty at him about my privacy.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 13:15:54

( and one of my students told me he thought I was in my 'late twenties' the other day - arf. Obviously I've now pre-passed all his assessments )

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 13:16:46

Thats the way boy..that's the kin?

Kin I've Pmd you. My main profile is on OKC

Rainy maybe wait a bit, it's all very new

Pom again what Lubey said

Snapespeare Sun 07-Apr-13 13:25:15

rainy yay! Lovely news! But proceed with caution! Don't get swept away!

ike no [vom] smile

TurnipCake Sun 07-Apr-13 13:33:50


Thought I'd join in as I'm ready to start dating again (though dates are a little lacking at the moment).

I was due to meet up with someone last week, until he texted me to say he had a cash flow problem and could I pay for his train ticket. No I'm not a fecking bank was my reply. angry

Onwards and upwards smile

Bant Sun 07-Apr-13 13:43:21

He asked you to pay for his ticket to the date? That's a new one. Insisting on going Dutch is usually as tight as I've heard before.

So you're not planning on marrying that one then turnip?

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 13:46:55

Oh my god turnip...that along with the playground date....

Turnip Really? Hes a tryer isn't he?!

mercury7 Sun 07-Apr-13 13:52:12

sounds like a scam Turnip!

TurnipCake Sun 07-Apr-13 13:53:51

What can I say, he's the one that got away!

I'm in quite a rural area, but we're getting some more surfer types now that the weather is getting better, I think I need to start spending some more time at the beach

Turnip I got taken to a kids park for a date! He knew the way to a woman's heart is swings and slides!

I've just received a message of a 20 year old asking me if I'm on the site looking for a dad for my son. confused

TurnipCake Sun 07-Apr-13 14:03:44

A kids park?!

And hmm to that message.

Scrazy Sun 07-Apr-13 14:04:19

Turnip, sounds like a scam to me. He could make a bit of money this way and I doubt he would have turned up if you had been gullible. I would report him to the site.

akaWisey Sun 07-Apr-13 14:04:58

Hello Turnip.

Have just received "Ive only myself to blame" text from just-dumped chappie .

So has anyone else here worked out why, if they're like my experience so far in dating, they only seem to attract blokes who are suffering from emotional diarrhoea and can't just let things progress slowly? Or the kind who have patently ignored my online dating profile?

And why on the site I joined (where I met the last cheeky fucker cocklodger) the options are looking for:

1. Fun = sex no strings

2. Friendship = sex no strings

3. Long term relationship = not what I want now

4. Marriage = not what I want at all EVER AGAIN

Please do tell!!!!

akaWisey Sun 07-Apr-13 14:08:02

Oh and why, having removed my profile which says absolutely nothing about me at all but still has my photo - I'm getting guys who want to meet up without knowing ANYTHING about my preferences?!!

I could be (but I'm not) a bunny boiler!!!!

Yes a children's park! It was dark too. Creepy thing it was.

Aka I met someone from the site and we were seeing each other for 6 week then he randomly text me one morning after spending a weekend away together that its not what he wants and we went too fast. It was him sending the flowers, buying gifts, booking trips away and taking me out yet he said it was too fast. He was a gorgeous man though. One you could just sot and look at all day. That's all I miss tbh grin

Snapespeare Sun 07-Apr-13 14:10:15

SP I hope you answered 'yes & I'm prepared to put up with any old shit as long as my son has a male role model in his life' hmm cheeky sod.

turnip he asked for his train fare! rrrrr at surfers though. smile

Never replied but I might reply now with that. Might say yes but I'm looking for a man not a boy. grin

akaWisey Sun 07-Apr-13 14:13:11

SP the cocklodger was like that until he got his arse well and truly stuck to my sofa like a stuffed dummy. Flowers? Forget it. Meals out? Nah, he 'couldn't find work'. Nights out with the girls? Nah, they were all a bunch of fembo women with too high an opinion of themselves.

Shit. Anyway that's why my standards are way, way higher now. WAY higher.

akaWisey all the sites have their 'quirks' hmm. There is no reason except that those men are thinking with their dicks. I for example, attract more than my fair share of men who want to be dominated. I can only put this down to the absence on my profile of fluffy bunnies and a box I ticked which said I preferred dogs (canine).

akaWisey Sun 07-Apr-13 14:16:01

Pay for his train fare?

Be a 'dad' to your son *SP?

Breathtakingly cheeky fuckers.

VelvetSpoon Sun 07-Apr-13 14:18:01

Wisey I really do think (as I said on another thread yesterday) most men are looking for either someone to show pictures of their pathetic genitalia to, or just casual sex, not even in a FWB sense. Men who are actually looking for relationships do allegedly exist, but they are few and far between! Or at least that's my experience in 4 (almost entirely unsuccessful) years of OD...

And these men wonder why they are single? grin

I tend to get creeps. Smoke fetish guy keeps messaging me, you would think 3 ignored messages would be a big hint that I'm not interested in sending him pictures of myself smoking

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 14:21:32

Hello Turnip - lawks a Lordy, these sites are full of appalling arses, just when you think you've lost the ability to be surprised...

( I may be some time, I've just found the tests on okc, woooooooh, I like a good test )

Kin What test?

akaWisey Sun 07-Apr-13 14:24:02


I love a test. Where is it?

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 14:29:49

Well, so far I've done the long personality test ( it's a Briggs Myers thing ) and an English skills test and a Nerd/Geek/dork test, they're on okc, under 'tests' - , right at the very bottom of the page.

I found the tests! I'm on my phone and on OK cupid desktop site it says teats at the bottom of the page

pixiebelle123 Sun 07-Apr-13 14:32:58

Hello dating thread 50!

I'm feeling rather crap, I have just ended things with POF man. 4 months together but it's been rubbish for half of it. He's got so much potential but has way too many guilt issues about his kids and divorce. As someone with her own set of 'issues' I need someone a lot more stable!

So, do I get straight back on the dating wagon or leave it a while?

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 14:39:03

Hello Pixie sorry about PoF Man. I think there are differing schools of thought, OWW got straight back on OD after LM.

lubeybooby Sun 07-Apr-13 14:42:34

I'd go for straight back on I think, pixiebelle when it's only been four months.

Sps... find and use your block button re: smoking fetish guy (and anyone else not suitable/dodgy etc)

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 14:44:03

gibber...dont. wanna. go ...gibber...

I don't know where it is! Ill have a search now

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 14:46:58

Every time I look in the mirror the light falls on my eyebags no jowls....whys didnt I have the fillers!! SOBS!

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 14:47:14


lubeybooby Sun 07-Apr-13 14:55:27

ike! behave... you're lovely. Just go and enjoy yourself grin

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 14:56:36

Ike - don't make me do my stern work voice ...

lubeybooby Sun 07-Apr-13 14:57:11

On PoF or OKC SPs?

PoF it's on their actual message, so don't delete til you've blocked.

OKC I can't remember as haven't used it for over 18 months but it was quite prominent I think last time I looked.

It POF but I'm using windows app which is shit. I cant even look at messages I've sent on it. Ill get on desktop site and have a look. Get more nutters on POF then ok.

Winefiend Sun 07-Apr-13 15:15:24

Oh Ike, all will be well! grin

Ike <severe tone> you are fab and he already likes you. Go and enjoy yourself, and if you get shy just let him talk about him wink

Scrazy Sun 07-Apr-13 15:28:04

Has anyone read the thread 'Do you recognise anyone in these photos'. Have a read, especially anyone new to OD.

Sorry don't know how to link.

lubeybooby Sun 07-Apr-13 15:32:13

What section is it in scrazy?

Scrazy Sun 07-Apr-13 15:33:04

Ike, I bet you are far too good looking for him and he won't believe his luck.

I read it earlier scrazy! Mental isn't it

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 15:33:47

For those who didn't see it, I've managed to add the painting ( sorry it needs rotating though ) - I'll delete it after a little while.

Scrazy Sun 07-Apr-13 15:33:53

Sorry Lubes, have to dash but if you search my username I have posted on it just now.

lubeybooby Sun 07-Apr-13 15:39:23
KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 15:45:17

Yeah, I've seen that site before somewhere, a salutary lesson to keep your wits about you.

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 15:58:53

Pixie just crack on, best way. I'm glad you finished it with him - it's never easy, but he just wasn't what you needed. Hope you're feeling alright.

I'm not feeling alright, feeling a bit Ike ish. All eye bags and nerves. It's much worse when you think you could quite like them. Am wearing perv-proof outfit tonight involving jeans (black, skinny) after my last experience. Don't think Cakey is a groper though.

Winefiend Sun 07-Apr-13 16:12:47

Oww you will also be fine, just be yourself and he'll be dazzled grin

lubeybooby Sun 07-Apr-13 16:14:46

OWW what winefiend said! Relax and enjoy. Good luck grin

StellaBrillante Sun 07-Apr-13 16:21:02

OWW Juliette lubeybooby - I replied with a "didn't you get my reply? not sure which text now...etc" to which he came back with a copy of his last message but saying that he hadn't heard anything back and thought he'd check that I was ok. It seems like a lot of effort for a lie...and to what purpose, really? hmm It'd have been different if we had been planning the next date or similar (Wednesday btw)... So at this point in time, two days of silence is to be kept an eye on but we've only had 4 dates so far and he's really pulled all the stops every time. There is a part of me that feels that I really mustn't let my insecurities get in the way, but I am absolutely terrified of being dragged into some game-playing scenario (just in case I haven't mentioned it previously blush
Turnip - train ticket story = OMG! shock
Hugs all!!! smile

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 16:23:02

Ike have you gone? Good luck, hope he's wonderful.

StellaBrillante Sun 07-Apr-13 16:26:02

Ike OWW - good luck!!! smile

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 16:29:06

Stella I think it sounds like a genuine mix up, otherwise, like you say, what's the point? If it happens again, though, I'd be very wary. Could it be that he goes quiet when he has his children staying or something?

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 16:29:20

Good luck OWW - go for it ! ( am jammed into corner of tram by evil OAP ) may the dating force be with you

StellaBrillante Sun 07-Apr-13 16:38:03

OWW - it has crossed my mind on the other couple of of occasions when he went quiet. This time his children were abroad though so no. And not just that but he had finished his pre-mix up msg by saying that he wanted to see me more often - surely, it'd take a pretty twisted type of man...but then again, there are plenty of losers out there!
Anyway, enjoy yourself!!!!!!! smile smile

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 16:46:50

Well I am not off out until after tea, have had bath and got the paint off me, done my nails but now I'm having a little lie down. Oh he does seem nice so far. And keen. Just been saying to my cousin that I am never going to run round chasing after anyone ever again.

StellaBrillante Sun 07-Apr-13 17:04:01

As long as we learn from our experiences...and don't give ourselves too much of a hard time for being accommodating / understanding / patient... we don't have crystal balls and do not read minds after all!

I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you; if nothing else, thumbs up that you will have a great time tonight!

OWW I'm not a chaser either. Gave up on that a while ago

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 17:06:40

No, OWW, no running around after anyone ever again, for any of us.

I told Software on Friday that I wanted some 'tea' ( i usually say 'dinner' when I'm not with my own people ) and being the posho southern boy he is, he was desperately trying to think of somewhere to take me for a cup of tea, until I explained it to him. I think he's had little or no exposure to northerners.

mercury7 Sun 07-Apr-13 17:14:45

I did have a look at the 'dating nightmare' blog a while ago, I found it a tiring/boring read after about 2 paragraphs and just couldn't be arsed to plod through it confused

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 17:16:00

Bit of northern exposure will be good for his soul ... I say "lunch" quite often but do feel a bit poncey saying "dinner". I do say it on here as in "We're going out for dinner" - "'E's tekkin me out fer me tea" doesn't have quite the same ring to it.

KirstyWirsty Sun 07-Apr-13 17:16:09

Marking my spot .. Still by the pool in tenerife .. Haven't heard from
TheBoy(age 22) since yesterday .. If he disappears I am not bothered ..

Tigsy oi!! I work in IT

StellaBrillante Sun 07-Apr-13 17:23:05

mercury what is the dating nightmare blog and what was that reference on previous thread about 'do you recognise any of these faces' or something to that effect?

mercury7 Sun 07-Apr-13 17:27:44
StellaBrillante Sun 07-Apr-13 17:34:28

thank you mercury
Goodness me...! shock

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 17:38:05

He was telling me about his childhood holidays in Norway and Italy, I told him that we stayed self-catering in North Wales every year, then he got himself all bothered and stressed because he said something about 'that must be what working class people did' (just being clumsy) so I took the mickey for a while.

Bant Sun 07-Apr-13 17:52:32

Right. Time to text CootGirl. I'll go with the 'Had a really nice time, lovely to meet you, but no romantic spark though' message.

Don't know if she felt one, but it's kind of polite I guess.

mercury7 Sun 07-Apr-13 17:54:08

I also had self catering holidays in North Wales as a child
(of course it was all Greek islands after I flew the nest envy )

Pomegranatenoir Sun 07-Apr-13 17:57:28

oww and ike hope it all goes well later ladies! Can't wait for the updates.

Well I'm back from you guessed it - another kids party. Thanks for everyone's messages and sorry I'm sounding a bit grim. If I'm honest with myself my mood has nothing to do with od, it's about my divorce, exh and his new life with ow. It hurts. A lot. I don't want him but it hurts that he has found someone that he is happy with whilst I am bringing up 2 really young (but seriously amazing) children on my own. I would like to meet someone as a distraction but I don't think that will happen any time soon. My life has moved on a lot and most of the time I am happy and smiley and positive. Just when you put the kids to bed at night and think about your life you realise there is a big hole in it. I keep myself busy and I do as many things as I can but it is still there. I really don't want to spend the rest if my life on my own. I am a people person and I want to share my life with someone. Think od isn't right for the time being but it doesn't stop me from plugging away hoping to find someone that I like that likes me too. Makes me sound pathetic doesn't it!

Will start Monday positive I promise!!

Bant Sun 07-Apr-13 18:03:35


it doesn't sound pathetic at all. For all of us who thought we'd found 'the one' for the rest of our lives already, then went through the disintegration of that, for whatever reason - it's tough trying to learn from the past and get back to where we already thought we were.

It's not pathetic to want to be with someone at all - that's the human condition. And maybe you'll find someone on OD that will be right for you, some people have <casts envy look at Snape and others> and some people haven't. But you're not just sitting home navel gazing and being miserable. Dating itself can be fun if you go into it with a positive aspect and not too many expectations. And you'll meet new people, make friends with possibly some of them, and maybe their friend might be right for you. Who knows.

I'm kind of okay being single. I'm not desperate to find someone. I like spending my time with my DC, working, having some freedom to do what I want when I want. But I want to meet someone to do those things with, cos they're more fun when shared. Doesn't make me pathetic. Hopefully.

48howdidthathappen Sun 07-Apr-13 18:11:34

Bloody hell. Just caught up.

Have fun Ike and OWW.

Will be checking in for updates smile

Pomegranatenoir Sun 07-Apr-13 18:13:19

Kin - how do I see the picture?
Pixie - get back on it
Turnip - he sounds like a idiot. Horrendous thing to do! Next.....!
Bant- thanks. Think I am missing time on my own. I just don't have any and then when I do (at night) I am exhausted! My little girl was ill this weekend so exh was here and that felt odd. I was still in charge of looking after the kids though whilst he did some jobs. I don't even have the benefit of child free time. Ex lives miles away and doesn't see the kids a lot. it is all on his terms. he expects me to do it all and not moan either. Up until this weekend l thought I had reached a stage where I was cool about being single. Appears I haven't quite reached that stage yet. But I know I won't feel like this forever and I am not going to wallow. I'm just having a bad weekend but I will pick myself back up tomorrow.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 18:23:36

Pom think it's on my profile but will check to make sure it is.

I echo what Bant said, nothing you've said sounds remotely pathetic, I don't think there are many people on here who don't have awful sad days, when everything just seems like it's completely crap. On top of that, having very young children is very,very hard, god it nearly drove me completely mad, it will all get better, honest and someone will recognise how lovely you are. flowers

Snapespeare Sun 07-Apr-13 18:25:25

pom. I know exactly how this feels, my three were 5, 2 & 9 months old when I found out their dad had been dicking around on me, I had to nail on a smile and watch him play happy families with the OW & my kids for years. Then he dicked around on her when their son was 9 months old... I used to drive kids 25 miles to his and OW house (he'd lost his licence) and then go and pick them up... It was a long difficult slog full of tears and anger and it was absolutely unfair. angry

Now, DCs are all teenagers, they're all fab, life is good. You will get there you know, it's just the journey while you're getting there can be lonely. It isn't pathetic at all to want someone to love and companionship and someone to share things with. smile you won't feel like this forever, you're right. You'll get on with bringing up your amazing kids and being lovely and when it's right you'll meet someone who deserves you. smile

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 18:36:21

Right am back....a lovely bloke very intelligent and sincere....but oh no nothing physical at all...what a disappointment...

Winefiend Sun 07-Apr-13 18:37:55

Oh nooooo Ike sad

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 18:38:12

Oh bastarding hell Ike - was he not at all attractive ?

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 18:39:33

Oh no Ike total bummer

Pomegranatenoir Sun 07-Apr-13 18:40:16

Oh no ike will you meet again or absolutely nothing there at all??

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 18:42:24

Yes ...really liked his mind and personality lovely eyes but no, just no. Snapes' experience with the guy in the leather trench springs to mind. I feel like a totally shallow bastard though. Hey that is EXACTLY why you should meet someone IMMEDIATELY!

Winefiend Sun 07-Apr-13 18:44:29

Ach I wouldn't feel shallow Ike, if it's not there, it's not there, can't be forced.

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 18:46:08

Yeah but we have been chatting for a long time really and basically I am saying to him NO cos I dont fancy him..pah...oh titty wank!

MirandaWest Sun 07-Apr-13 18:48:47

You've moved grin.

Had good day with DC - need to do more work later on sad

Hope Cakey lives up to expectations OWW

Battery is about to go but ill be back <said in manner of the Terminator>

Snapespeare Sun 07-Apr-13 18:49:21

ike don't feel bad. If it isn't there, then you can't make it be there.

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 18:50:11

Still...good news on the green tea bag front...really sorted the eyebags!! And at least I didnt run away!

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 18:51:58

Yeah.. infact it couldnt have been further from THERE. ..oh I am a shallow twat cos if I had fancied him I would have been in there and all over him like a rash.

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 18:54:14

Right that is absolutely the LAST time I am having these convos with ANYONE till I meet way.!

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 18:57:45

It's not shallow though, is it ? You can't magic up the attraction to someone if it's not there.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 19:00:09

Part of this whole OD thing is getting used to listening to what you want and what makes you happy, no more compromising on things that are important to you.

lubeybooby Sun 07-Apr-13 19:01:55

Oh noooo ike!

Sorry it turned out that way. Bugger!

You did meet pretty quickly though at least it wasn't dragged out over months or anything.

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 19:02:28

Oh Blimey I'm setting off in two mins! Please be lovely, Cakey! V nervous. I'm going to walk down as he's coming to my town, bit of exercise should steady me a bit I hope.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 19:04:15

<fingers crossed that Cakey is spectacular>

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 19:04:48

Enjoy OWW! Good luck love! Yeah he has just sent a lovely message saying nice to meet and I returned the same. It was clear I was not interested at the end and ...well there is no need to SAY it is there..

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 19:05:41

Oh Blimey I'm setting off in two mins! Please be lovely, Cakey! V nervous. I'm going to walk down as he's coming to my town, bit of exercise should steady me a bit I hope.

lubeybooby Sun 07-Apr-13 19:05:51

Good luck OWW!

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 19:05:58

Its just so draining to share thoughts and feelings with a person in an intense way and then

scoobydooagain Sun 07-Apr-13 19:09:22

Hi all, sorry for only posting when after advice (but reading and following every day). Being seeing POF man for 7 weeks, seeing at least twice a week, texting everday. Spent yesterday afternoon- this morning with him and for some unknown reason I signed into POF this evening (my profile is hidden) and he had been online today. It must have been not long after leaving mine as he was picking up his daughter late morning. I'm gutted, when this happened with a previous man I smiled, today I cried. Can't even say why I signed in, with previous guy had a funny feeling but not this time next 2 dates even arranged! First couple of weeks when I was still logging in, he hadn't been logging in.
Any chance there could be an innocent explanation!!

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 19:11:45

Ike I know, I'm sorry, love, it's absolute shite

Winefiend Sun 07-Apr-13 19:12:20

It is Ike, but he could be a lovely friend instead. Lovely friends are not to be sniffed at and sometimes just as hard to find as lovely partners. At least you know now though and at least he didn't turn out to be a twat, that would have been harder to get your head around - build a connection and then a total fuckmuppet in person (which is possible, anyone can play a lovely character by phone/message).

Ohhh good luck OWW!

Pomegranatenoir Sun 07-Apr-13 19:14:41

scooby maybe someone messaged him and he was checking his mail? It's a rubbish feeling but best thing to do is to discuss it with him when you see him next. Try to bring it up casually if you can.

Winefiend Sun 07-Apr-13 19:16:12

scooby could he just be doing the se as you? I'm a nosy bastard so I'd probs be inclined to log in now and again just to check my inbox. Depending on how good he is with that type of thing, it might be that he has forgotten to hide gis profile and was doing just that (or checking if you had).

The best thing you can do is just ask him in person and you can gauge his reaction. You never know, he might have logged on to consider deleting it but you won't know for sure till you ask.

Bant Sun 07-Apr-13 19:16:46

good luck OWW

No ike, that wasn't shallow. You can't fancy someone if you don't fancy them.

I was reading the thread about dating disasters earlier, and there were some horror stories. But one of them, the woman said she turned up and saw the guy from a distance - and he was very tall. So she ran for it.

I thought that was shallow.

Winefiend Sun 07-Apr-13 19:18:29

I saw that one Bant and went hmm too.

scoobydooagain Sun 07-Apr-13 19:20:01

Cheers pom here's hoping. Should hear from him in next hour or so, he usually sends first text of evening. I'll probably mention it on Tuesday when I see him (if I do ) in a jokey manner blaming this thread! ( He knows I follow an OD blog thing)

lubeybooby Sun 07-Apr-13 19:25:50

Scooby... time for the what is this?/exclusivity chat if you haven't already had it. I'm guessing not as you both still had profiles

Scrazy Sun 07-Apr-13 19:26:33

Oh Ike, what a disappointment. Green tea bags eh, think I've got some lurking around.

I treat these after date texts in the same way. I get the nice to meet you one and reply in a similar vein, don't ask questions or give off the vibe that I'm interested then hope they get the hint. I am very good at ending dates in a way that they know I am not interested.

I have never had to say, no spark or had it said to me. I would be mortified if anyone actually said it tbh. I think women are put in that position as it's still old school in my book that they should contact first after a date.

No chasing men, ever, I stopped doing that many years ago.

I'm not sure if any of the 'do you recognise these people' blog link is made up but I found it quite chilling and an interesting read.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 19:27:17

Why would you run away if someone was very tall ? That is both a bit knobby and really very impolite.

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 19:28:01

Going in!!!!

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 19:29:17

Ooh, please let him be lovely

Scrazy Sun 07-Apr-13 19:33:04

Forgot to say Ike, could he be a friend? Or is it an out and right no?

Finger crossed for OWW.

Scooby, but you went online too. I would have the chat soon if this is upsetting you, pay good attention to body language when you do.

Snapespeare Sun 07-Apr-13 19:33:36

Fingers X'd big style for OWW come on cake-boy!

Scrazy Sun 07-Apr-13 19:34:19

Posting too quickly, meant men traditionally contact first after a date.

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 19:36:56

Oh no crap pub choice, full of pissed young people! Can't see him, have texted to say where I am sitting!

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 19:38:37

He's just phoned, he's parking up. Oh bugger!

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 19:39:37

If it all goes well, you could have the immense pleasure that comes of offending young people with their elders having a snog.

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 19:40:22

Good luck OWW....just rechecked the guy from today's photo and there is just no way I would have recognised him from it in the flesh...I am not implying there is any deliberate deception...its just that is is soo very hard to judge these things.

Bant Sun 07-Apr-13 19:40:23

we should set up a skype account for this thread so we can all actually watch though people's phone-cameras..

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 19:40:29

And breath OWW

scoobydooagain Sun 07-Apr-13 19:40:37

Thanks for the replies, know I am being unreasonable but was surprised and also shocked by my reaction, obviously like him more than I was admitting to myself. Will try the chat thing Tuesday.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 19:40:54

Can you imagine ? Dear god.

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 19:40:57

Oh no Bant no!

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 19:43:06

We could have those glasses with a camera in the frame, transmitting away. Deary dear

Winefiend Sun 07-Apr-13 19:49:45

Oh god no, I don't think I fancy a load of you seeing me pissed and making a twat of myself grin

Winefiend Sun 07-Apr-13 19:50:15

you can just read that instead

Good luck OWW

I had a man talk to me, mention meeting up then I haven't heard anything. No day, time or place at all. Whats the point in that? confused

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 20:28:39

No idea, SP sometimes I think they're phantom daters, like the Flying Dutchman, destined to roam the dating sites forever, occasionally masturbating into the stiff oncoming breeze.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 20:29:00

Or married.

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:34:01

ahahah Oh Kin sure you wouldnt fancy turning I am looking particularly gorgeous tonight eyebags warra waste!

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:37:02

What is the current scores with your paramours Kin? Who exactly are you seeing again?

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 20:37:23

Ike if I ever decide to leap aboard the other bus, you're on, straight after Beyoncé.

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:38:33

Look hun....I can match the bootilicious one any day!!

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 20:39:06

I'm seeing Showbiz on Friday night for Sniffing Round Two and not sure when/if I'm seeing Software again but he is is still texting me about my hair ( think it's his 'thing' )

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 20:39:38

Are you in fact ready for this jelly ?

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:40:00

Oh, SIGH! I am missing the Herbalists banter...could I force myself??

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:41:21

eeeeew Kin ....not if you put it like that....OR it is strawberry flavoured with the texture of angel delight...

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:41:53

......then it might slip down a treat!!

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:43:04

Do you find Showbiz attractive Kin..?

Winefiend Sun 07-Apr-13 20:43:07

Did someone say Angel Delight? hmm

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 20:44:23

Don't start the Angel Delight stuff again for god's sake, it bothers Bant.

( I probably would carry on talking to Herby, there aren't many people in life that are so easy to talk to, seems a shame to give that up. Sensible people might say otherwise though )

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:45:07

Yes.....when there is nothing else going on Wine...I can at least go back to annoying Bant with my talk about angel delight...

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:46:28

...oh but isnt that leading someone on though Kin?

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 20:46:30

Do I find Showbiz attractive ? I would say that the twinkle in his eye and the waft of dirty coming from him, have an effect <cough> on me, to look at, no.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 20:48:00

You could ask him Ike and see if he feels that would be leading him on, I'm all about the direct, me.

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:48:14

Mmmm could you imagine showing him off to your mates though?

Winefiend Sun 07-Apr-13 20:48:42

Ike, it wouldn't be leading him on if you let him know what the score is with you two (friends, nowt more).

Ah, poor Bant, scarred for life and never to look at a Butterscotch Angel Delight in the same way ever again.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 20:49:21

Sssshhhhhhhh Wine grin

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:49:35

I think I need time to think....he was a mega sweet guy though..just really did nowt for me.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 20:50:05

Ike Christ, no, they'd think I'd taken leave of my senses

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:50:45

it wasnt Butterscotch though it was strawberry...Butterscotch would have been WRONG on soooo many levels...

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 20:51:12

Then you should sleep on it and see how you feel in the morning

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:52:13

Well that's it Kin ...THAT THERE is why I could not see us partnered was bad enough with TR looking like a friggin bouncer...

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 20:52:27

I'm now thinking about a very unpleasant anecdote from the days when bowel preparation before barium enemas wasn't all that it could be.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 20:53:46

I could see myself shagging him and not introducing him to anyone though.

^^^ Look at them standards, right there.

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:54:46

Just call on Doc AD he is good at the prepping apparently....soz Bant I will stop eventually ...just have to let off know how it is!

Bant Sun 07-Apr-13 20:55:07

(runs away with hands over eyes)

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:55:49

Hahahaha ...more opportunity for lovely hotel stays then Kin eh!!

Flipper924 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:56:47

Ike, you know that being honest with him coud win you a new friend to go out with as an alternative to the octos, and you never know, he could be a grower....

Nora, I really like the style of the picture, but I can't work out what the flesh coloured thing in front of you is?

Winefiend Sun 07-Apr-13 20:57:29

Hahaha. Ah, my mistake, strawberry grin

Flipper924 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:58:22

<quietly ignores angel delight convo to avoid bringing up roast chicken dinner>

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 20:58:30

Titties Flip?

hoplittlebunnyhophophop Sun 07-Apr-13 21:00:31

Hi everyone, still following and lurking. I've been sulking as Mr Full On predictably disappeared again. Ironic nickname. Had a date with a man who seemed perfectly nice and normal but I was just so not physically attracted to him, and then became annoyed at myself for being shallow.

I'm talking to a few people on pof, and I'm ready to try another date. I'm not sure who though, feeling a bit more cautious now after speaking to someone on the phone who seemed nice via messages, and sent shivers down my spine over the phone, really creepy. I don't want to waste babysitting arrangements, taxi fares, the nerves getting ready etc on another crap date.

Really excited to hear an update about cakey, please let him be nice!

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:00:32

Oh I've just checked the profile.....Kin you have no face love...

VelvetSpoon Sun 07-Apr-13 21:02:27

Ike that's a proper shame about the Herbalist. I think if you get the feeling he's quite interested, I wouldn't go down the being friends route..too awkward. Shame though because finding someone you get on that well with is rare.

I always do the friend thing and kid myself they would all think said blokes were fine blush

Have decided that considering what my dad's view would be is probably a better guide; although I know his view on practically everyone I've dated could be summed up by a string of Greek and German expletives! He might have liked C (who's a bit of a foodie snob like my dad was), although I strongly suspect he would fail my dad's one-armed press up test...

Ike you tried, when you don't fancy them there is nothing you can do. I would offer friends, he may accept. Last time I said something like 'It was lovely meeting up, I had a great time with you but just didn't get that romantic spark. You are (complement), would you consider meet up as friends sometime?'

So, the mystery of why I am single is solved <drumroll>. I was at a friends house for dinner this evening and another guest explained why I'm single. He assessed the situation by asking me if he would be suitable in theory. Er, no. Was it because he is 'gobby', no. He wouldn't have me either apparently because I expect too much. So there we have it.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:02:52

I think it's her knee Flipper
and not, Ms 'Lowers The Tone' Ike her 'titties'.

And definitely not mine, either, mine are loads better than them <smug face>

VelvetSpoon Sun 07-Apr-13 21:04:09

that should say friends opinion thing. No idea where that word went!

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:05:05

Ah, so you 'expect too much' Juliette - was your response 'you weren't expecting this ' and knee him in the scrotum ?

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:07:26

Kin isnt that portrait YOU though or have I got the wrong end of the stick as usual?

Pffft at 'expects too much' Jules!

Ike why would your friends think you'd taken leave of your senses?

I don't give a toss what my friends would think of physical appearance especially with some partners but I do, do the dinner party thing and consider whether they'd be comfortable in their company and whether I'd be wanting the evening to end fast.

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:10:25

Oh no Velv I know exactly what my 'friends' would think! And of course they would be mega polite! But it is more what the NEIGHBOURS would think! Or the locals in the PUB! I am tres bourgois it would seem!

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 21:12:36

Oh dear no, not for me

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:12:46

Oh Jules cos I am a bit of a fashion snob and I suppose LOOK a certain way also quite I suppose middle class 'alternative'...this guy is none of those

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:13:33

Oh god OWW you were supposed to keep our spirits up tonight!

I just smiled and asked 'why'? He told me it's because I wouldn't have him.

Kin I like the portrait. And the Fornasetti wallpaper in the background grin

Winefiend Sun 07-Apr-13 21:14:18

Oh man sad

Winefiend Sun 07-Apr-13 21:14:49

I've been refreshing like a motherfucker all night as well. Perhaps one needs to get a life!

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:15:32

OWW - that's bobbins, what's up with him ?

( no, the painting's not of me, thank god )

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:16:16

Wine 'refreshing like a motherfucker' made me snigger

Ike we're not talking about the kind of man who would wear those shoes with the toes on a weekend are we? shock

VelvetSpoon Sun 07-Apr-13 21:17:30

Western what a shame! what's up with him?

MirandaWest Sun 07-Apr-13 21:17:35

sad OWW.

Can you escape yet?

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:17:37

Oh Kin!! I thought it was the portrait Mr Software did of you?

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:20:03

Juliette - is he generally a tool or was this a one off ?

( I think I like the painting but I used to go out with someone who is a professional, award-winning artist and so I suspect I might be overly fussy )

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:21:07

'Shoes with toes' - that would be a fucking immediate bale out, right there.

mercury7 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:21:22

i have 4 pairs of shoes with toesgrin

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:21:42

Who the bloody hell is it then Kin?

hoplittlebunnyhophophop Sun 07-Apr-13 21:22:02

Oh nooo, I really wanted OWW's date to be great!

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:23:41

But Hop....we all know the chances will be unlikely but we all still live in hope ...

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:23:55

Noooooo Ike not me, some bint from his life drawing class. That's not to say that I don't think he's working on a painting of me in the style of one of those pictures Saddam Hussein had in his palace, me in a steel bikini sitting astride a giant eagle or something. Shudder

VelvetSpoon Sun 07-Apr-13 21:24:09

The shoes with toes are supposed to be v good for running etc though...and I saw photos of Hugh Jackman in them today which means they MUST be ok!

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:24:49

But you're not a blerk Mercury

He's her next door neighbour, very hospitable, generous and kind but always a tool especially after a drink which makes it anytime.

hoplittlebunnyhophophop Sun 07-Apr-13 21:26:42

I know, Ike, I just have an annoying tendency to mope!

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:26:43

That's ok Velvet - Hugh Jackman does nowt for me. ( he's gutted )

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:27:24

Hello Hop - a bit of moping is allowed from time to time.

Pomegranatenoir Sun 07-Apr-13 21:27:47

oww it must be the week for them. Get back on it!

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:29:18

OWW do you need one of us to call you ?

Movingforward123 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:29:33

wow you chatterboxes 9 pages for today only grin

western thats a shame sad

I don't seem to be getting any dates, the guys that message me are usually ugly the ones I message don't always message back. Maybe I am uglyer then I thought....ts a long old process

The shoes with toes are de rigeuer around here for the Desperately Keen Dads with their Sunday 3 wheel off road tractor buggies <insults remainder of thread in one>

Mercury it's fine if your are a woman and your name is Mercury grin

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:30:41

Yeah...Hop...I know...I was actually more disappointed that this date didnt work out that when i finished finally with TR. Mainly cos I recognise intelligence and sensitivity when I see it..

hoplittlebunnyhophophop Sun 07-Apr-13 21:32:38

I hear ya, Ike. It would be less frustrating in a way if he had been an idiot, rather than you having got on so well with him.

Flipper924 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:33:10

Don't feel bad, Nora, I'll take Hugh off your hands.

Will picture of you astride the eagle have your titties in it?

Juliette, he has a point. If you were prepared to put up with any old knob like him, you wouldn't still be single.

Have a mope, Hop, then pick yourself up, dust yourself down, and start all over again.

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:33:25

Yeah totally! I really dont look for all

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:35:38

I actually do now think I will remain single forever mainly by choice...

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 21:36:43

He's fine, good company but no spark at all ever!!!

Pomegranatenoir Sun 07-Apr-13 21:36:46

moving - that is totally how I feel. Only the weirdos message me first and the ones I message don't get back in touch. It's rubbish. I'm looking forward to getting back to work tomorrow because there is a bit of a hottie there!!

mercury7 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:37:28

Juliette, I only wear them on the treadmill & in the squat rack..and even I think they're a bit 'cutesy' looking for blokes wink

mind you I've only ever seen 3 other people wearing them in about 3 years...the idea of them being de rigueur anywhere is quite surprising!

If I were going to put up with any old knob, I'd be on a large yacht by now.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:39:04

Flipper - he's yours ! < generous face >.

I suspect the eagle straddling picture will feature titties, yes, he seems 'keen'.

Ike you can't extrapolate that from one disappointing date.

VelvetSpoon Sun 07-Apr-13 21:39:12

I do rather like Hugh Jackman.

I actually don't mind the shoes with toes...what has become of me?!

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:39:30

Yeah Jule me too...or maybe a small yacht...I did have the offer a few months back...

Snapespeare Sun 07-Apr-13 21:39:54

Texted nameless that I miss him, this sucks and damn you Internet. blush it's still kinda early days. No one has really declared an intent. I'm a bit befuddled.

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:40:13

Oh i can TONIGHT Kin lol..

VelvetSpoon Sun 07-Apr-13 21:40:22

And that's the general idea of them, not just on HJ!

Scrazy Sun 07-Apr-13 21:40:26

I think it's quite usual for men to not respond to messages, they like to message loads of women who are out of their league for some reason.

OWW oh shame you don't fancy him.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:41:46

< makes notes, Velvet wants Hugh Jackman but only if he's wearing shoes with toes >

VelvetSpoon Sun 07-Apr-13 21:42:01

I thought when I was in my 20s I would end up unmarried and be mostly single...thus far life has largely proved me right!

Mercury my gym has men quite a few DKD wearing them too. No socks, and a DKD won't let that get in the way of his need to go completely bear foot in the cool down area confused

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:42:41

Would you like me to sing Bootilicious to you Ike to cheer you up ? Because I will

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:43:19

Yep too... Oh wait apart from the 16 years with knobber...

Movingforward123 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:43:24

pom - glad its not just me that feels this way! I think I have more luck in real life, but i dont get the chance to go out alot right now.

But I should be starting to host speed dating nights soon, so that might help me meet hot single guys smile

Pomegranatenoir Sun 07-Apr-13 21:43:53

Think I must be massively middle of the road the scrazy judging by some of the freaks that message me!

What are shoes with toes? Am I missing something??

Scrazy Sun 07-Apr-13 21:43:59

What are shoes with toes, please?

Flipper924 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:44:15

Oi, Velvet, Nora gave him to me!

If it would get me on a yacht, I'd try another old knob.

I've made chicken stock today, in an effort to be the perfect housewife that every man is looking for. WTF do I do with a pint of chicken stock?

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:45:10

Im a single ladee ...Im a single ladee boop bap I would not DO Jay matter how BIG the yacht!

VelvetSpoon Sun 07-Apr-13 21:45:13

I blame it all on C for wearing Vans. Which I had previously condemned as footwear only suitable for teenagers. But which (due to being a bit smitten with him blush) I now consider acceptable.

Now I'm liking shoes with toes.

What next, Scholl orthopaedic footware?!!


KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:45:24

Make soup ?

Pomegranatenoir Sun 07-Apr-13 21:45:51

moving yep think I have better luck in real life too. Well i hope so. My friend told me that I command a room when I walk into it - I was completely oblivious to this. Can't think of a single room I have commanded, ever!!!

VelvetSpoon Sun 07-Apr-13 21:46:13

Shoes with toes.... voila

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:47:07

Now you've done it, Velvet, Spud wears Vans - <runs sobbing from thread as I remember his footwear and his bizarre feet >

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:48:08

What the 7th circle of hell is THAT!!

Scrazy Sun 07-Apr-13 21:48:14

Velvet, thanks I wasn't expected those at all, are they for sport?

Have you seen much of C, or when is the next date?

Pomegranatenoir Sun 07-Apr-13 21:48:43

Oh gosh I don't like them at all.

Sorry if I have offended anyone

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:51:19

Wizzard seemed quite keen to get me to watch his future lighting techniques ..I like freaks but no....also there is a podgy 25 year old with a nose ring that is always keen to see me when I usher...but no...wish you were me???

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:52:30

I might start wearing shoes with toes ...noone around these parts has a pair...

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 21:55:57

Ike an 80 year old man asked me to 'tickle' his 'bottom' to help him 'get up' , does the podgy 25 year old who fancies you seem better now ?

Flipper924 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:56:06 one has ever sung Beyonce to me or painted a picture for me....sniff

Scholl do some very nice sandals, Velvet.

Pom, I'm jealous. I've always wanted to be the person that stops a room by walking in. I was once told (some years ago now) that I would never be that person. He was a sad, single, middle aged boss, who took offence at my calling myself the 'company poppet' after he couldn't say what my job title was, but suggested I be a poppet and put the kettle on. I don't put much store in his opinion, and intend to turn heads at least once in my life.

VelvetSpoon Sun 07-Apr-13 21:57:29

Kin apols...--follow up comment re putting my foot in it possibly not appropriate--

and Flipper sorry for trying to usurp Hugh! Given that you've made chicken stock (something I have never done, and am far too lazy/crap/disorganised - delete as applicable to ever attempt it) I think you should have him grin

Scrazy no, nothing going on with C for the last fortnight, hopefully this Friday but it may not be an overnighter (or happen at all) as my Ex is arsing around re when he is/isn't seeing the DSs...but what will be will be etc smile

VelvetSpoon Sun 07-Apr-13 21:58:02

aagh strikethrough fail

hangs head in shame

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:58:31

Hmmmm kin ok...but he did say toodlepip to me last night when I left (vair posh) what ya gotta say? Hmm?

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 21:59:59

Ya know I've got a soft spot for Octos anyhoo...

Snapespeare Sun 07-Apr-13 22:01:13

Oh. My. Jod.

Told nameless I was feeling a bit freaky out through missing him. He phoned me. Despite swapping bodily fluids, We hadn't spoken on the phone before.

I love him. Argh.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 22:01:40

'The shoe on my feet, I've bought it
The clothes I'm wearing, I've bought it
The rock I'm rockin', I've bought it
'Cause I depend on me' - that any better ?

Snapespeare Sun 07-Apr-13 22:01:59

[ahem] I don't think you can handle this!

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 22:02:47

Its ok Snape ...alls cool (gritted lucky bastard)

Pomegranatenoir Sun 07-Apr-13 22:04:37

flip think she was being nice to me. I don't feel like the room commanding type but I am very lively and chatty at work so she might be referring to that!!

Snapespeare Sun 07-Apr-13 22:04:47

Remember those walls I built?
Well, baby they're tumbling down
And they didn't even put up a fight
They didn't even make a sound
I found a way to let you in
But, I never really had a doubt
Standing in the light of your halo
I got my angel now.


Pomegranatenoir Sun 07-Apr-13 22:05:34

I really want a peanut butter kit Kat

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 22:06:39

what the freak is that Snape? Dont make me quote Mark E Smith at you..

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 22:06:45

Velvet - nah don't worry about it he's a wanky Irish wank face anyway
Ike he's trying to be 'quirky' to impress ya, next thing you know he'll be trying to stick his hand down your bra in the pictures.

Snape loving someone again is both wonderful and terrifying, it's worth it though. ( keep it quiet but - hug )

Snapespeare Sun 07-Apr-13 22:07:02


Pomegranatenoir Sun 07-Apr-13 22:07:18

snape you and nameless are brilliant.

See how wise you were not giving him a name!!

VelvetSpoon Sun 07-Apr-13 22:07:33

Snape envy. that is all.

Meanwhile, am seriously biting my tongue. Someone I know on FB has posted a photo of himself looking an utter plank in a Dappy hat. I am ITCHING to comment and ask when he joined Ndubz . But he has so little sense of humour I doubt it would be appreciated!

Snapespeare Sun 07-Apr-13 22:08:22

Beyonce - halo ike

I'm in tune with my beyonce side right now. This means I have to go knock fuck out of my punk rock ukelele to balance out the universe. smile.

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 22:10:25

Oh go on Velvet - dare ya !

I get the feeling that Ike isn't a huge Beyoncé fan ...

( Elbow did a version of Independent Women - I bloody love it )

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 22:12:13

Hey Mr. Pharmacist
I'll recommend you to my friends
They'll be happy in the end
Mr. Pharmacist can you help
Send me on a delict kick
Mr. Pharmacist

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 22:13:38
Pomegranatenoir Sun 07-Apr-13 22:13:40

I've opened the haribo now. This is the most exciting thing I've done all weekend!!!

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 22:13:42

That my darling readers should read ...Hey Mr Marcus POF

VelvetSpoon Sun 07-Apr-13 22:14:47

Kin please don't dare me, I am a terrible one for dares!

Don't mind a bit of Beyonce/Destiny's Child...quite like blasting 'Survivor' out, reminds me muchly of how I felt when I finally got shot of the Evil Ex!

Scrazy Sun 07-Apr-13 22:14:49

Velvet, hope you can get something sorted soon but you do seem really cool with it all.

Snape, it is terrifying isn't it? But it seems like he feels the same and you have already established that you are 'going out' and exclusive so no need to rush to the next stage, just enjoy getting closer and to know each other more.

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 22:15:18

That Kin does nearly rival Lubes' dancing cats video...

KinNora Sun 07-Apr-13 22:22:02

Ah gwan, gwan, gwan Velvet you know you want to ( that's my Mrs Doyle impression and I, too am unable to resist a dare - it's an illness)

Ike that always makes me laugh, every time I watch it.

Flipper924 Sun 07-Apr-13 22:31:58

Thank you all, for the singing and for Hugh. He thanks you all as well wink

Snape, aww, I think you might be going a bit soft. It won't be long before he gets a name....

Velvet, you have to. Please. But not if you're going to fall out with anyone.

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 22:52:04

The Fall were the first ever band I saw playing at the bandstand in the park (!!!!) and they are coming back here later this month and I have no-one to go with. So very sad.

The very very head honcho at the place I work is also called Mark E Smith, but sadly it's not the anarchic lyrical genius, just a sad twat from Warwick.

Cakey has just texted to say thanks so much for a lovely evening with a lovely lady. I, on the other hand, am sending messages to my engineer who is my current hope for ending this horrible period of singledom and no sex. . . He is not bad at all for 51, not bad at all for my age either apart from a bit less hair. And he is also keen but definitely has something about him. Help, what do I do now????

CastroIsDead Sun 07-Apr-13 23:00:31

wow you lot move quick.
so tonight i was going to start a profile on pof but instead i have been texting someone i met today. he's definatley not 'the one' but he wants to take me out for dinner so i might let him

CastroIsDead Sun 07-Apr-13 23:02:16

sp i had my 3yo ds with me when i met the guy so it can happen

MirandaWest Sun 07-Apr-13 23:08:58

What was wrong with Cakey?

Keep messaging Engineer I think smile

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 23:14:08

Yeah ...what was wrong with Cakey OWW?

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 23:16:46

Cakey is a very, very nice man who deserves a very, very nice woman who is not me. So cliched, but there is no spark. There's no naughtiness in this bloke. Sex would be very boring missionary position every time and he would be so horribly grateful. Can't do it. The Engineer has a nice glint in his eye and is also keen, but has a lot more about him and could, I think, turn out to be a bit of a filthy bugger in bed, which is a prerequisite here. Nice but dirty, that's the thing.

OhWesternWind Sun 07-Apr-13 23:17:24

Not that I talked to Cakey about sex, but you can just tell.

ike1 Sun 07-Apr-13 23:23:03

ooooooKay fair dos OWW.

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 00:05:27

Aw Mr H sent me a lovely message saying I was more sexy and gorgeous than my photos do me justice..such a shame...nevermind.,

mercury7 Mon 08-Apr-13 00:06:49

wish i could 'just tell'
truly i am always wrong & never know what to expect! sad

OhWesternWind Mon 08-Apr-13 00:06:49

The Engineer Isn't online tonight as he's away with his children, but I've sent him a message strongly hinting that we meet up. Never done that before, feel a bit forward. I usually lurk around passively waiting for the bloke to get his arse in gear. Hope we can sort something out for next week.

lubeybooby Mon 08-Apr-13 07:54:03

Morning all

OWW but you know the quiet ones often surprise you right wink if engineer lets you down at any point get Cakey over for a booty call and corrupt him!

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 08:40:40

Lubes! Think that libido is looking to be scratched again!!

lubeybooby Mon 08-Apr-13 08:41:54

yes, ike... it continues to torture and bemuse me... <wail>

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 08:43:57

Hahahah even on a frigging monday morning!!

lubeybooby Mon 08-Apr-13 08:51:06




KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 09:00:01

Good morning everyone, fortunately my libido's not awake yet because if it was it'd have been shocked back into a coma by a message from a man who looks like the human equivalent of Dylan from the Magic Roundabout. one for the youngsters

Have you got anymore likely prospects lined up Lubey ?

Ike have you come to a decision about Herby as a friend ?

OWW I sympathise, dirtiness is essential.

OhWesternWind Mon 08-Apr-13 09:13:35

Yep, no possibility of a booty call with Cakey. Need to text him this morning, will do Juliette's friends text as he is good company, just not in the slightest bit sexy.

This is where I am really missing the fantastic filthy sex with LM. Oh dear.

lubeybooby Mon 08-Apr-13 09:36:19

Nope Kin. Gah

I think I'm going to be sofa bound for a while, while the onslaught of work continues.

I've also just decided to quit smoking. I have one pack left and I'm not buying any more. It's a RIDICULOUS amount of money. And I'm sick of my sodding smokers cough.


I suddenly have the urge to stop, and so I have to take the opportunity when that happens otherwise the willpower just isn't there. I've been waiting for this urge since I started smoking again in 2011 so it's been a long time coming.

Anyway that means I'll definitely be sofa bound because I'll be a grouchy fat lump til I'm through the worst of it. (6 weeks or so in my experience) UGH.

So the libido is just going to have to stfu for now. Hopefully #1fwb will be around again soon and might ease the torture a little...

If I'm feeling brave at some point I might get my arse on PoF again... we'll see how the non smoking goes and if I can avoid too much weight gain and feeling crap.

OhWesternWind Mon 08-Apr-13 09:40:22

Good for you Lubey! Are you doing ecigs or patches or cold turkey? It took me loads of tries to stop, tried hypnosis, acupuncture, patches but then one morning I just woke up and stopped, been nearly twelve years now. You can do it!

lubeybooby Mon 08-Apr-13 09:44:40

OWW I did well last time (before the big bad break up) going pretty much cold turkey.

I used patches for the first three days.

This time I have found an e cig that doesn't choke me (lights version) and I still have a few patches left.

Hoping they will get me through that hideous first few days then go cold turkey again after that. Though if i find myself non stop eating I might keep using the e cig.

I've also just ordered about a kilo of sugar free gum.

oh gawd..

OhWesternWind Mon 08-Apr-13 09:51:50

Right, sent a let's be friends text to Cakey.

Snapespeare Mon 08-Apr-13 09:53:46

lubey well done. You're going to be just fine. I stopped smoking in November, I've had one or two when I've been squiffy, but find it really difficult to smoke these days. I've lost my inhale reflex. sad I have put on loads of weight though (sigh)

I'm going to rein it in with nameless for a couple of days. Texts telling him that I miss him are not calm and collected. They're needy. I'm not needy. [nods]

Winefiend Mon 08-Apr-13 09:54:10

I have a patch on today. I am currently smoking fag no 3 of the day hmm

I have found patches good for weight loss though, weirdly! I seem to lose my appetite when they're on.....odd.

lubeybooby Mon 08-Apr-13 10:05:42

Snape I'm going to try and allow myself to stuff my face for a few days to ease the pain, but I'm already right back at the upper limit of weight that my body can take without killing my knees and spine under the strain (and without going up a dress size... everything already tight on me... argh)

So this time I have GOT to not put on weight.

Last time I put on 10lb before it started coming off again with excercise, but I had only just lost about 40lb so I didn't care too much

This time I cannot afford a 10lb gain - and neither can I carry on smoking either.

No pressure on yourself at all then lubes. nice one. hmm

OhWesternWind Mon 08-Apr-13 10:06:46

Well haven't we had a load of disappointing dates recently - Software, CootGirl, MrH, Cakey, Lubey's one, SP's park boy and the rest. Think we are all due for a change of luck.

I actually like dating, it's almost always a reasonable night out and I've met a load of people I wouldn't have met otherwise. But I am getting fed up of being on my own - it's been a long time now with just the LM thing to break it up. I want to meet that person, and at the moment OD is the only way to do that so I'll carry on.

Just realised that two of my babysitters are off to Uni in the autumn - arse! Hope a younger brother will take over.

Snapespeare Mon 08-Apr-13 10:07:50

I am contemplating a detoxy colon cleanse thing [boak] I shall see what the wisdom of Mn thinks about this.

OhWesternWind Mon 08-Apr-13 10:09:38

Ooh Engineer message! Need to get dd off the computer so I can read it. Want to meet up soon to see if it's a goer at all ... As ever, I'm hoping!

OhWesternWind Mon 08-Apr-13 10:11:19

Snape I used to work with a bloke (ex-miner) who swore by his colonic irrigation sessions, got quite evangelical about them ...

Snapespeare Mon 08-Apr-13 10:13:37

I was thinking more of the supplemental path than a hose up my bum... Had enough of that kind of thing with the prof thank you very much... blush

Scrazy Mon 08-Apr-13 10:19:33

I always do cold turkey, my last quit was very successful but I started again! Go for it Lubey and good luck. I always find I'm OK after a couple of weeks. Sleeping the first few days away helps. I might do it again one find day.

OWW agree with Lubey, the quiet ones can surprise you. But if you weren't feeling it at all then forget it.

Also what is with all this filth confused grin.

Movingforward123 Mon 08-Apr-13 10:22:22

Lubey - good luck wink I stopped smoking three years ago by ready 'Allan carrs easy way to stop smoking' seemed to have works for me! Have you heard of it?

I have put on weight since stopping smoking unfortunately but I'm still glad I've stopped! I've also put on more weight since I havnt been walking properly and now need to loose about a stone and a half confused

And I can't seem to stop eating crap confusedconfusedconfused help

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 10:28:51

Oh Snape it time for me to contact Dr AD on your behalf??? He we will be more than happy to pop over with his arse kit...

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 10:29:54

not we definitely NOT we

Snape a colon doctor, yes a real one I was having a op, suggested Aloe, linseeds, psyllium husk and something else I can't remember.

Lubey you will do it, you are in the right place as it's just the time.

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 10:41:51

Kin I have slept on the Herbie situ...and feel that it is all left alone....he was looking at me with utter adoration and there is no way I would want to encourage that! Lovely as he was....

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 10:42:24


Snapespeare Mon 08-Apr-13 10:45:36

shock at 'arsekit' I like to think he keeps it packed and by the door in case of emergencies, like a maternity bag....

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 10:48:05

I have no doubt he does,,,Snape.....with some extra packets strawberry AD (Bant if I use initials with that help?)

OhWesternWind Mon 08-Apr-13 10:48:57

Oh Cakey isn't quiet, he's not a still waters type at all. That could have possibilities. Such a shame as he is very nice, very straightforward.

The only way I can do it Moving is not to buy the crap in the first place. If it's here I will eat it, so I very rarely buy crisps and chocolate or else I will just make a total pig of myself. No willpower.

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 10:53:26

Ike well that's for the best, you need to do what's right for you, you little object of adoration, you !

I think the only thing I could add to the debate about stopping smoking, being a complete non-smoker, is a load of deeply unpleasant stories so I won't.

As for colon cleansing, I'd probably stick with a good diet, high in veg, decent hydration and possibly pre- and probiotics of some description, but I'd have to take a proper look at the evidence for/against them before I shelled out any cash.

MirandaWest Mon 08-Apr-13 10:55:25

I am glad I have never started smoking as I know I would be rubbish at stopping. Am useless at not eating sweets and chocolate blush

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 10:56:35

I apologise for the dullness of my last post, clearly it was a moment of being sensible and thus appallingly out of character.

MirandaWest Mon 08-Apr-13 10:59:55

Finished marking last night and then had to use ftp site to upload them. Some did, some didn't and the thing seems bust now hmm. Last night moaned to Mr Nice about it (he is an IT Geek) and he ended up phoning me at half past minute and taking over my computer for me with one of the freaky things where someone else uses your mouse and he agreed it was being useless too. Person I need to call about it isn't answering their phone. Grr.

House is a tip. CBA to sort it out. Will try and rope in children. Grey hairs are making a bid for freedom and the cat has run out of cat food. Dishwasher still bust too.

Feel like I need some time all on my own with no people. Just for about 24 hours and then I will want them back again grin

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:03:47

He has made me think that maybe I should try to get a better pic of myself on line...I look a bit of a freak on there...but in real life I do scrub up well (takes longer than it used to mind)....I just dont take a brill pic though..

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 11:11:21

Miranda any chance you could book yourself into a hotel for 24 hrs ? The peace of no-one hassling me, no squabbling, no jobs that needed doing was wonderful.

Ike you need someone to take loads and loads of photos and then pick out the best.

OhWesternWind Mon 08-Apr-13 11:19:30

Help please! The Engineer (he's going to have to be TE as that's just too much typing) wants to talk on the phone. I'm not at all keen on this plan - I find it difficult on the phone unless I know someone, dont think i come across well on the phone and would much rather just meet up.

I kind of suggested meeting, which prompted this phoning idea. How do I say no, let's just meet without either sounding a bit odd for not liking phones or sounding a bit control freaky and insistent on getting my own way?

Bant Mon 08-Apr-13 11:24:34

OWW at least then you can tell whether he's going to talk in a weird mexican accent like thees.

Scrazy Mon 08-Apr-13 11:26:11

When I was asked to chat on the phone I said no as I found it awkward to talk to a stranger without eye contact. Really I was scared my horrible voice would put him off. Then when I'd had a few drinks one night text to say OK lets do it.

OhWesternWind Mon 08-Apr-13 11:30:05

How did that go Scrazy?

Ike yes it takes a lot of photos to get one that's reasonable, it rarely happens by chance for some of us.

OWW I usually say that I don't usually give out my number until I've met someone for coffee 'but I'm sure we can sort something out'. That usually prompts them to say 'we can meet up then'. Sometimes they insist with the 'you can call me and do 141 if you like' at which point I think ok they are considerate so I'll do it if I really have to.

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:36:37

OWW I never do the phone stuff. EVER.

Scrazy Mon 08-Apr-13 11:36:45

He seemed relieved that I had a normal northern accent and wasn't posh.

OhWesternWind Mon 08-Apr-13 11:40:29

What do you say Ike when they ask? I've never had anyone wanting to phone me before!

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:42:06

I just say what you have said...that I prefer to meet in RL because I find it awkward due to non eye contact ....I would expect most folk to understand and be empathetic with that.

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 11:45:08

I don't like talking to them on the phone either and will be nicking Juliette and Ike's tactics in future.

OhWesternWind Mon 08-Apr-13 11:46:44

Thanks and glad it's not just me!

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:48:16

Yeah...whats the point? Is it a precursive interview or something? I could have chatted to Mr H on the phone....would have told me NOTHING about physial chemistry...

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 11:49:59

Nah, I hate speaking to strangers on the phone unless it's work related, think Velvet has said much the same thing in the past - Wanky Irish GSM man had a problem with it and so did Strange Coincidence Man but it's tough titty.

OhWesternWind Mon 08-Apr-13 11:50:32

That's the thing isn't it - it doesn't really add anything and even voices can sound different on the phone to in real life. You just have to bite the bullet and meet up.

mercury7 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:50:43

I dont like talking on the phone to someone from a dating site that I've never met, yet I find men often want to.
I wonder why they find it helpful, when I find it so uncomfortable?

As I've said lots of times I'm usually happy to skype, but I know very few on this thread find it helpful

mercury7 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:52:25

indeed Ike what IS the point??
do the men feel as if it puts the women on the back foot, thereby giving them some advantage? hmm

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:54:34

Yeah if they dont like it...absolute TOUGH titty....I can be quite shy in RL and have to use alot of my drama training to put on a 'performance' face to face until I feel comfy ...but on the phone its even worse..

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 11:55:18

I have no idea Merc...but if they push it ...then yes...

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 12:01:01

No idea why they do it, a lot of men suggest it, in my experience, and I tend just to say that I don't like it.

(Ike I'm slightly shy too but I sometimes pretend I'm talking to a patient, within reason, obviously )

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 12:01:49

Ahahaha...interesting approach Kin....ahahah

I used to think I had to do this but went right off it when I found myself being 'interviewed'. Then they ask when you'd like to meet up. Very difficult to be tactful after 30 minutes of them talking at you.

In my early days, I took the direct approach and said no, one man decided this was because he'd said he was Jewish and wouldn't get off the phone until I told him exactly why I didn't want to meet him. I couldn't bring myself to tell him he had bored me witless.

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 12:09:29

God Juliette that sounds horrendous.

MirandaWest Mon 08-Apr-13 12:10:21

I hate phones. I need to call someone now which is bad enough but the thought of a pre date interview would finish me off I think <Miranda goes grumpily away>

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 12:12:05

Yeah Jule ...thats it Mountain Man (another sweet guy...) talked AT me for an hr...about bush craft and racing cars...I was stuck dumb by the end...

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 12:13:12

...and not the sort of 'bush craft' that would interest the likes of Lubes...let me make that straight right now...I may have been mildy interested otherwise...

Walkacrossthesand Mon 08-Apr-13 12:20:49

morning afternoon all! I exchanged a couple of messages with someone on GSM - nothing too hopeful, his messages were laden with gushy adjectives (honest, compassionate etc etc) about what he offered & was looking for, and very light on everyday facts/chat . Suddenly did the 'vanish' thing, ho hum etc. I looked at his profile 2 days later & it was 'unavailable' and now his messages are gone from my inbox - how intriguing! Has he been a naughty boy, or just closed his profile? Anyone know how it works?

MirandaWest Mon 08-Apr-13 12:22:55

My silly exam papers now seem to be uploading smile Was talking to the exams person and DD's toy hobby horse rediscovered its neigh grin

I think what I really need is a few days where I don't try and work and just sort out the house properly. I get bored though and don't do it blush

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 12:23:42

I think that happens Walk when they have a temporary membership of the site, it's happened a couple of times to me.

Walkacrossthesand Mon 08-Apr-13 12:31:53

Ah, ok. He did give me an off-GSM email contact, come to think of it - not sure if I can be bothered to follow up though, he did sound a bit odd in his messages - all froth & no substance!

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 12:46:34

I think GSM is full of knobbers isn't really terribly fruitful.

Scrazy Mon 08-Apr-13 12:51:56

Maybe they want to talk on the phone to check they are in contact with a woman and not some hairy handed trucker called Derek.

Bant Mon 08-Apr-13 12:54:06

I've offered to talk on the phone before meeting, some women insist on it. I've never asked to, though. I've been told I sound lovely smile maybe I should suggest it more often.

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 12:55:08

I AM a hairy handed trucker called Derek.

Talking on men being women I've had two messages this week from transvestites.


KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 13:10:32

I've never had a message from a transvestite, I feel left out now.

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 13:17:55

Anyone fancy a look at a gurning chump later if I can find a way to pm photos ...tell me which ones work...I need a blerk too..Bant?

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 13:19:08

Are you a gurning chimp, love ? You can PM me if you like ( I'm not really a blerk )

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 13:19:24

FFS its like trying to squeaze a paricularly diffiult turd christ too much light shows up the eyebag concealer..too little highlights em..

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 13:20:48

Ok ill work on it a bit more over the next few days too expect something in yer box at some point Kin fnar!

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 13:23:21

By christ I look nutty as a fruit in some!

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 13:24:30

Apparently if you're using the light reflective concealer, you can get flashback on photos, making things look worse

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 13:25:01

But you are nutty as a fruit cake ...

Bant Mon 08-Apr-13 13:29:58

Ike. I would but I'm about to board a 7hr flight, sorry. If it can wait till tonight/tomorrow then I'll help. PM me if you want

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 13:35:10

ok I am in no rush to reveal my true loveliness..dont want to put you off your lunch..

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 13:36:12

That is what is happening here kin...have to use flash live in a very dark cottage and I dont like what daylight does..

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 13:45:20

Can you wander around the cottage taking photos in different rooms, seeing what light's best ? Or, rest a big mirror next to the window and take your photo in reflected daylight ?

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 13:55:24

Yes thats kinda what I am doing ...but it just goes to show how much prep and light professional photos must have...

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 13:56:14

Taking photos of my feet isnt helping either must be said..

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 14:02:01

Take enough and you'll find some that you like.

Try doing a 'take me up the allotment, Herby' face and see if that looks alluring.

Bant Mon 08-Apr-13 14:02:50

Up the what?

Ike I'll take a look if you would like to pm me. I'm very familiar with the issue, I prefer 'difficult to capture' rather than 'not photogenic' grin

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 14:14:21

Oh god no..ha a roll in the cabbages not what is needed here at the mo ..trying for sultry

Ike I don't know, a strategically placed cabbage or two could work grin

ike1 Mon 08-Apr-13 14:20:46

Ill 'do' Jules Bant and Kin then ..may take a few days to find the right ones though so bear with...

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 14:30:51

Yeah, I'm going to draw the line at perusing Calendar Girls style photos of fellow posters though

MirandaWest Mon 08-Apr-13 14:48:45

In more boring news the dishwasher spontaneously started working again shock

smoothieooo Mon 08-Apr-13 14:55:56

Hello all - been lurking for ages but it's hard to keep up!

Sorry to OWW and Ike that the dates weren't 'go-ers'. Like everyone else, I had fingers crossed.

My STB-Ex dropped DSs off yesterday lunchtime... then showed me a picture of his 23 year old girlfriend (I'm 46 next week, he's 38). Any other time and it might have floored me but what he didn't know was that I'd spent the previous night having copious amounts of very hot sex with a very lovely man and just handed the photo back with a smile and a 'you've done alright for yourself' type of comment. grin grin <- this is how I've looked since Saturday.

This was only date 4 with Match man but I had to take the rare advantage of having a child-free house.

Boasting over. As you were...

KinNora Mon 08-Apr-13 15:23:51

Excellent - go Smoothie and in your face, ex-Mr Smoothie.

smoothieooo Mon 08-Apr-13 15:40:43