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The difference between men/woman explained...

(81 Posts)
SnoogyWoo Sat 30-Mar-13 15:51:17

As a man, I can tell you ladies that we are a simple folk. Have a look at this cartoon and I can tell you it explains a lot of our differences in a nutshell....

We love you for who you are, warts and all. Whatever you think we are thinking, we really are not smile

BernadetteRostenkowskiWolowitz Sat 30-Mar-13 16:00:16

can u do a proper link? we ladies can manage it!

InNeedOfBrandy Sat 30-Mar-13 16:02:28
BitBewildered Sat 30-Mar-13 16:08:26

"Centuries of gazing at your fragility have augmented my love for your sex." - Dorothy Iannone

Lovingfreedom Sat 30-Mar-13 16:14:22

You wish...she's actually thinking 'Eugh!! Not again. I'm definitely giving up drinking this time'

BelleDameSansMerci Sat 30-Mar-13 16:17:22

Ah, of course, because all we ever think about is relationships. hmm

garlicbrunch Sat 30-Mar-13 16:28:00

It's so true! All women think about is men, relationships, and whether they're getting fat! No wonder we can't comprehend the far wider, more creative and fascinating minds of men!

Thanks for explaining smile Such a relief to know you love us despite our limited intellect!

Flisspaps Sat 30-Mar-13 16:35:12

And there was me thinking the difference was basically that men have penises and women have vaginas.

Silly me!

Verbalpunchbag Sat 30-Mar-13 16:58:25

Looked at the cartoon, expected to read comments along the lines of, ' LTB, there she is laid in bed worrying and he's ignoring her' etc

But the sarcasm didn't disappoint.

Sunnywithshowers Sat 30-Mar-13 17:04:40


ouryve Sat 30-Mar-13 17:16:36


garlicbrunch Sat 30-Mar-13 18:07:59

I know, Verbal. Why can't a woman be more like a ... man?
Don't know how you put up with us, I really don't.

Verbalpunchbag Sat 30-Mar-13 19:10:53

Garlic, my comment was directed at the attitude of some on here, not differences between men and women, thanks for proving my point.

SanityClause Sat 30-Mar-13 19:14:25

What Flisspaps said!

countrykitten Sat 30-Mar-13 19:33:43 crappy stereotyping there then?

Lovingfreedom Sat 30-Mar-13 20:07:13

Why are there so many patronising men on here recently? Is the screw fix web server down?

Sunnywithshowers Sat 30-Mar-13 20:19:22

Perhaps it's an Easter thing LovingFreedom. grin

Lueji Sat 30-Mar-13 20:20:50

It's because they are all the same, all thinking about the landing habits of flies.
Just hoping they haven't forgotten to do theirs up. wink

I'm not sure trying to convince us that you are that simple is such a good thing. I like men with slightly deeper thoughts. grin

Timetoask Sat 30-Mar-13 20:25:47

The cartoon was funny!

garlicbrunch Sat 30-Mar-13 20:39:29

I did get it, Verbal. We could have so much more fun if you were a little less focused on proving to - er, whomever - that we're a bunch of sour-faced man-haters.

Never mind, eh smile

Fairenuff Sat 30-Mar-13 20:44:29

You don't love us for 'who we are', that's a load of crap. If your dw cheated on you, didn't do any housework or childcare, spent all her money on herself, etc. you wouldn't love it, would you.

What a load of nonsense.

And what makes you think you can speak for all men anyway?

Verbalpunchbag Sat 30-Mar-13 20:48:29

I'm not trying to prove anything, it's a meaningless and not very funny cartoon, does the op deserve such sarcastic remarks? In my opinion no.

Never mind. ;)

Lovingfreedom Sat 30-Mar-13 21:01:10

I'm in the middle of painting a ceiling but all I can think is...does my bum look big in these overalls?

Verbalpunchbag Sat 30-Mar-13 21:08:17

Does it? :-)

Lovingfreedom Sat 30-Mar-13 21:10:52

No bigger than usual...grin

garlicbrunch Sat 30-Mar-13 21:12:06

Does the op deserve such sarcastic remarks? - Well, he's introduced his thread as an 'explanation' of something nobody asked him to explain, and offered us a cartoon which is only funny if you buy into a "women's brains are all about feelings; men's brains are all about engineering" stereotype. Oh, yeah, and he classified all men as 'simple' whilst assuring us - unasked - that all men love women.

I reckon he deserves some sarcasm, yes!

garlicbrunch Sat 30-Mar-13 21:13:24

How on earth are you managing to mn while painting a ceiling? <boggles>

Verbalpunchbag Sat 30-Mar-13 21:20:41

Painting a ceiling whilst posting on here? Now THAT'S multitasking! ;)

dummad Sat 30-Mar-13 21:33:49

It may have been a well meaning post, but FFS: It's pretty patronising and sterotypical tbh.

Lovingfreedom Sat 30-Mar-13 21:34:39

Thank you...and I'm managing to think about my arse at the same time too....and I'm drinking cheap prosecco...and spending quality time with my DS watching Troy and discussing Greek mythology. The wonders of the simple female brain...

Lueji Sat 30-Mar-13 21:36:03

Careful with that fly, Loving. (painting over fly hanging upside Dow, whilst pondering about backside)

Lueji Sat 30-Mar-13 21:36:52

down! Not Dow...

dummad Sat 30-Mar-13 21:38:55

One thing i wonder about is how on one hand women are supposed to be the gender that is prone to over analysis and thinking too much but ONLY when it comes to relationships. And men are supposed to be shallow and straight forward UNLESS the are writing poetry/a novel/doing something useful. Such double bloody standards.

dummad Sat 30-Mar-13 21:42:32

Of course men are then 'tortured souls', 'cteatives', 'deep thinkers', 'poetic', 'romantics', 'sensitive'.

Women are just irrational/patanoid/high maintenance/bunny boilers.

dummad Sat 30-Mar-13 21:45:04

Did i thread kill? hmm

Lovingfreedom Sat 30-Mar-13 21:45:53

I dunno...I'm not paid to think... But I look pretty...

dummad Sat 30-Mar-13 21:49:04

Unless it's about relationships. Then you can go on and on and on thinking about stuff.

BernadetteRostenkowskiWolowitz Sat 30-Mar-13 21:52:51

op long gone . but cartoon not funny. wouldnt sleep with anybody not frank enough to just speak their own mind.
i laugh at FUNNY cartoons though. post a fuuny one

BernadetteRostenkowskiWolowitz Sat 30-Mar-13 21:57:18

so true dummad. and another phallacy... there is no anger like a woman scorn. the worst any of my friends or i have done is send a strongly worded letter and yet we all had a list of insane behaviour from scorned exes.

Verbalpunchbag Sat 30-Mar-13 21:57:36

I think that's all in your mind dummad, I've never thought women can't be deep thinkers, creative etc. is that what feminism is, copying men's worst traits? Because some men stereotype women it's ok to stereotype men? What a shame.

dummad Sat 30-Mar-13 22:06:07

I'm not stereotyping anyone. The OP did by posting that cartoon as applying to all men and all women. How am I sterotyping?

Verbalpunchbag Sat 30-Mar-13 22:14:55

dummad,"One thing i wonder about is how on one hand women are supposed to be the gender that is prone to over analysis and thinking too much but ONLY when it comes to relationships. And men are supposed to be shallow and straight forward UNLESS the are writing poetry/a novel/doing something useful. Such double bloody standards."

"Of course men are then 'tortured souls', 'cteatives', 'deep thinkers', 'poetic', 'romantics', 'sensitive'.
Women are just irrational/patanoid/high maintenance/bunny boilers."

Your words, not the op's.

ArmyOfPenguins Sat 30-Mar-13 22:15:46

So the woman lies there thinking only about the man, and the man doesn't think about the woman at all.

Thanks for endearing me to you! xxx

ps How arrogant.
pps Can you post a clever cartoon?

ArmyOfPenguins Sat 30-Mar-13 22:17:25

I think dummad is describing stereotypes, Verbal. Not agreeing with them.

Verbalpunchbag Sat 30-Mar-13 22:21:09

Maybe but we all know what stereotypes are. no need to describe them.

ArmyOfPenguins Sat 30-Mar-13 22:24:38

And what's with all this 'ladies' crap?

ArmyOfPenguins Sat 30-Mar-13 22:25:09

You accused dummad of stereotyping. Glad you've retracted.

Verbalpunchbag Sat 30-Mar-13 22:38:25

I don't recall saying i'd retracted.

countrykitten Sat 30-Mar-13 23:23:52

But you should shouldn't you?

Verbalpunchbag Sat 30-Mar-13 23:26:22

Why? Am i not allowed to have an opinion unless Army agrees with it?

Twentytotwo Sat 30-Mar-13 23:33:00


Fairenuff Sun 31-Mar-13 09:31:53

I think the cartoon is a good example of how stereotypes, both male and female, are promoted as 'the norm'. Some people fall for it, the educated don't.

My dd is learning about sex inequality in her Citizenship gcse and they are encouraged to spot signs of sexism. This is the sort of cartoon that they would analyse and discuss in class, looking at what statement the creator of the cartoon was trying to make.

Lots of politics and propoganda have been promoted in cartoons over the years and still are today. Most people are familiar with Banksy, for example and there were loads during the second world war.

Maybe the op is trying to make a political statement. Perhaps they will come back and discuss in more detail the point of this thread. Is it to promote sexism, or is it meant to be ironic?

countrykitten Sun 31-Mar-13 10:00:10

Verbal I think it is more that you seemed to misunderstand another poster completely!

seeker Sun 31-Mar-13 10:04:28

Oh, why are men so hard on themselves?

Lovingfreedom Sun 31-Mar-13 10:37:44

Talking of women and our stereotyped thought processes...what I wouldn't do for an extra couple of inches...... reach the difficult bits on the ceiling of course.wink

Sunnywithshowers Sun 31-Mar-13 12:10:28


rustybusty Sun 31-Mar-13 13:34:36

I would never occur to me to think any of that. If you think thats what women are thinking then you know very little about women.

My DP is the clingiest, huggyest person ever. Also, he worries about how his hair looks. hmm

I like making/building things (when I am able to), camping and outdoors and and doing stuff that lets me use my brain and makes me think. I am 6 months pregnant but even then I still like my arse.

Do I get a medal or is someone going to take me to Stepford? grin

slug Sun 31-Mar-13 17:03:36
Theshriekingharpy Sun 31-Mar-13 17:06:46

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Theshriekingharpy Sun 31-Mar-13 17:09:31

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ZoeZoolander Sun 31-Mar-13 17:14:18

Wow!? you seem disproportionately annoyed TSH

I've read the thread. Personally, I didn't think the cartoon was funny. It makes it 'a given' that women need men's approval more than the other way around, and perhaps in the case of young women dressing like porn stars, that is sadly true, but either way it's nothing that would make me laugh.

I laugh at things that are funny.

I found Fairenuff's post very interesting, that there is a citizenship class and that the class would be shown a cartoon like this and asked what point was being made. I think that that 's what was being discussed here. What point is beinng made? and is it a tired old cliché?

Theshriekingharpy Sun 31-Mar-13 17:53:24

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Theshriekingharpy Sun 31-Mar-13 18:07:20

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dummad Sun 31-Mar-13 18:42:34

Verbal, you have totally got me wrong.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Sun 31-Mar-13 18:46:32

You're alright, OP - I read the "You and Your Body" book my parents got me when I was 8, so I know the difference. Would you like to borrow it?

flaminhoopsaloolah Sun 31-Mar-13 19:34:51

Fortunately couldnt see the cartoon...but Um getting the picture...why does there seem to be a fair amount if posts here lately that appear to want to perpetuate stereotypes and seemingly cause divisive environments?

flaminhoopsaloolah Sun 31-Mar-13 19:37:04

Shrieking....too many men obsess over the size of their penisis/biceps/territory (thankfully there are tjose that dont too)...your point is?

Theshriekingharpy Sun 31-Mar-13 20:24:04

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Verbalpunchbag Sun 31-Mar-13 20:24:50

Sorry if I got you wrong dummad but the sarcasm is laid on so thick in response to any post by a man, even if it only contains a pretty bad cartoon, it's often difficult to decide which posts to take seriously.

Lovingfreedom Sun 31-Mar-13 21:04:07

Well...if they can't take the heat....wink

garlicbrunch Sun 31-Mar-13 21:05:54

You're wrong, Verbal. Quite a few long-term, much loved and respected, MNers are men. They attract no more sarcasm than any other (female or trans) member who brings something positive to the boards.

garlicbrunch Sun 31-Mar-13 21:07:35

Sorry, trans & intersex MNers, I could have used a elegant terms there.
Like not mentioning it at all blush

garlicbrunch Sun 31-Mar-13 21:08:14

gah, 'a more elegant term'
my typing brain wants to watch Dr Who

flaminhoopsaloolah Sun 31-Mar-13 21:10:13

Shrieking...but you were saying that women obsess over shallow things...but so do men! Penis size? Ergo -people, not just women, not just men, but himan-kind in general can sometines lose sight of the important and obsess over the unimportant. To suggest that it's just women - and that's what I was getting from your post - is pretty sweeping...

Chubfuddler Sun 31-Mar-13 21:12:02

Most of the time I don't know which posters are men, nor go I care.

A patronising "listen carefully while I explain stuff to you" type post to a predominantly female audience is going to get backs up.

I don't think that cartoon accurately represents anything, but the cartoon itself isn't important.

Lovingfreedom Sun 31-Mar-13 21:16:38

Surely if you put up a joke then you open yourself up to retorts. It's banter. Anyone taking offence needs to grow a thicker skin or get some funnier jokes

Theshriekingharpy Sun 31-Mar-13 23:03:51

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Verbalpunchbag Sun 31-Mar-13 23:06:37

Garlic, I'll take your word for it.

Yamyoid Sun 31-Mar-13 23:14:14

Aaaarrgghhhh. That's awful. biscuit my first one and it has ears. God, that's a crap cartoon. No. No. No.

Fairenuff Mon 01-Apr-13 15:33:15

See, we have a male posting a patronising comment specifically to females, supposedly to reassure the females that males do find them sexually attractive even if (god forbid) she has body hair or cellulite or stretch marks or any other hideously deforming characteristic (including warts apparantly).

How ironic is that. It's such a sexist post that it's hard to believe it's genuine and the op has not come back to clarify so it leads me to the conclusion that the op is trying to wind up the women who read his post.

Take the post without the cartoon

"As a man, I can tell you ladies that we are a simple folk. We love you for who you are, warts and all. Whatever you think we are thinking, we really are not"

and it's glaringly obvious.

The cartoon is interesting because a certain percentage of the population (male or female) will identify with it and to them it represents some of their own feelings or opinions. They will then post accordingly in support of the cartoon, forgetting how patronising the whole post is.

So the op is either quite clever in their manipulation of posters, or just a bit silly in thinking everyone thinks the same as them.

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