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Hmmmm, about DHs reaction to vaginas. Opinions pease?

(74 Posts)
fluffyraggies Mon 11-Feb-13 20:13:35

Just shown DH the above image (prompted by a thread in AIBU), with the intention of saying 'look, what a good thing, to show that not all women are the same' sort of thing.

Before i could say anything he looked at it and said 'ugh'. 'Eww', in fact, and pulled a face.

I'm hmm and sad that that was his gut reaction. I told him as much, and we bickered.

I know this isn't a big deal, but i think it's a shame. I'm feeling a bit uncomfortable about it tbh. Isn't it a bit odd of him? My gut reaction to an image of a penis isn't 'ugh'.

lemonstartree Mon 11-Feb-13 20:27:16

those are not vagina's. they are vulvae.

fluffyraggies Mon 11-Feb-13 20:28:43

This is true lemon. But are they 'ugh'? sad

kinkyfuckery Mon 11-Feb-13 20:30:24

Yes, they're ugh. Same as penii. Not exactly attractive, really, are they? Well, not to me anyway - and I imagine not to your husband judging by his reaction.

merlottits Mon 11-Feb-13 20:35:53

They are ugly though aren't they? Functional like arseholes. Ugly just the same.

IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou Mon 11-Feb-13 20:36:04

To be fair, they are much nicer in the flesh. I pulled a face too.

izzyizin Mon 11-Feb-13 20:36:18

Did you raise this topic before, during, or after dinner? hmm

While I have been known to become fond of certain male genitalia, my reaction to being shown a great wall of dangly bits would not be dissimilar to your dh's no matter what time of day the image was put in front of me.

MagicBaguette Mon 11-Feb-13 20:36:39

I personally do find other people's genitals a bit 'ugh'.

merlottits Mon 11-Feb-13 20:37:07

I love that my autocorrect wants to change 'vulva' to 'Vulcan' grin

Nagoo Mon 11-Feb-13 20:37:35

not odd.

if you aren't expecting to see a wall of genitals, ugh is a reasonable response.

Fairylea Mon 11-Feb-13 20:38:08

I think I would be urghhh if my dh showed me a placard of peni.

I would let his reaction slide !

hmc Mon 11-Feb-13 20:38:12

I think some of them are a bit of an acquired taste! - perhaps they would look better rendered in flesh attached to a real woman but I am afraid that i did go ewww at some of them. However, I'm now thinking mine is quite aesthetically pleasing. Perhaps I should whip it out more often

GreatUncleEddie Mon 11-Feb-13 20:38:44

I might well say ugh to a wall of penises, tbh.

zeeboo Mon 11-Feb-13 20:39:08

I have one but I don't want to look at it and frankly those casts are fugly.

MolotovCocktail Mon 11-Feb-13 20:39:39

I'm still sniggering at 'The Great Wall of Vagina' title. DH could hear menlaughing whilst he wa upstairs!

SPsFanjoHasABlingingVajazzle Mon 11-Feb-13 20:40:25

I had the response had your DH.

pinkyredrose Mon 11-Feb-13 20:41:37

I'm on the great wall! Not telling you which one I am though!

fluffyraggies Mon 11-Feb-13 20:42:11

'Tis me being an idiot then smile ok.

I genuinely didn't have an ugh reaction to them.

pictish Mon 11-Feb-13 20:45:13

I don't think ugh exactly, but I don't think they're beautiful either. I'm more meh about it.
Not bothered about seeing anyone else's clacker tbh.

SPsFanjoHasABlingingVajazzle Mon 11-Feb-13 20:49:04

"Clacker" grin never heard it been called that before!

fluffyraggies Mon 11-Feb-13 20:49:13

With some soul searching maybe it's just that i never considered he might be a bit 'ugh' about mine .... sad

IThinkOfHappyWhenIThinkOfYou Mon 11-Feb-13 20:49:31

This is what I'm looking for in a vagina

“She arches her body like a cat on a stretch. She nuzzles her cunt into my face like a filly at the gate. She smells of the sea. She smells of rockpools when I was a child. She keeps a starfish in there. I crouch down to taste the salt, to run my fingers around the rim. She opens and shuts like a sea anemone. She's refilled each day with fresh tides of longing.”

You don't get that from plaster of Paris. You can love the living flesh but be a bit ugh by a wall of powdery amputees. Honest.

Whatnameforme Mon 11-Feb-13 20:51:41

Hmc I have to thank you for the coughing fit after laughing at your post And OP I would have to agree that all dangly bits look urgh!
Especially if your not expecting to see a wall of it shoved under your nose!!

MajesticWhine Mon 11-Feb-13 20:52:09

I don't think they are ugh. I find them kind of fascinating, but I don't think you're DH's reaction is odd.

Selks Mon 11-Feb-13 20:53:21

He won't be 'ugh' about yours though, because it's yours smile

A whole wall of genitalia is pretty full on, however. Chill, though. Just 'cos his off the cuff reaction was 'eww' doesn't mean that he feels that about your love cleft however.

Selks Mon 11-Feb-13 20:54:27

(........or maybe it was an 'off the chuff' reaction.....grin)

PMSL at "placard of penii"grin

KumquatMae Mon 11-Feb-13 20:56:54

Even I think foofs are ugly and I'm a bisexual bird.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Mon 11-Feb-13 20:57:33

I would go EW if I was confronted by a wall of cocks.

fluffyraggies Mon 11-Feb-13 20:58:47

This is working - i'm starting to feel better.

Thank you MN thanks

izzyizin Mon 11-Feb-13 21:09:19

Score 1 for your dh.

Do try not to boak when he gets his revenge surprises you with unedifying imagery grin

LittleLucifer Mon 11-Feb-13 21:09:37

I think it's fascinating....not ughhhh at all! But I wouldn't be surprised by that reaction. It's not designed to be pornographic or appeal in a titilating way. But, as a female, I really appreciate the message that everyone is different...and there isn't just one version of what your vulva/vagina should look like.

Also love that my iPad just auto-corrected vagina to caging. grin

agoodblue Mon 11-Feb-13 21:14:44

Let's face it, genitals are just odd. They are a bit 'ew.' Especially those plaster casts. Strangely lifeless and flappy.

backonline Mon 11-Feb-13 21:24:54

my gut reaction was the thought of the plaster of Paris getting "stuck on" during the production process....and the idea of trying to remove it shock

Varya Mon 11-Feb-13 21:27:30

Recall a male GP saying if he had to see one more woman's genitals he would throw up. Should have joined the Navy.

Sariah Mon 11-Feb-13 21:30:31

I showed my dh and he said wow thats wonderful, brilliant. But he likes that sort of thing.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid Mon 11-Feb-13 21:32:23


I wish doctors would bloody well THINK about what they say when they're off duty sometimes.

KarlosKKrinkelbeim Mon 11-Feb-13 21:35:35

Love cleft? LOVE CLEFT???? I like to think I'm a tolerant person but I honestly would have you shot for that if I could, selks!!

badguider Mon 11-Feb-13 21:38:46

A wall of willies would make me go 'eugh' even though I don't feel that about dh's.

MarilynValentine Mon 11-Feb-13 21:43:58

Maybe tell him that it made you feel a bit insecure about how he feels about yours? Am sure he'll reassure you.

TheFarSide Mon 11-Feb-13 21:47:16

It's all about context - I wouldn't be surprised if your DH was turned on by the same images in a porn magazine.

Not that that's much comfort ...

Kione Mon 11-Feb-13 21:55:43

I went ewww too! but I dont think I would with a wall of willies, but then I have never seen one!

LovesBeingWokenEveryNight Mon 11-Feb-13 22:00:45

A wall of willies <snigger>

MajesticWhine Mon 11-Feb-13 22:13:42

That reminds me, my DH recently suggested he was going to get me a willy attachment to stick on the bathroom wall. I think he was joking, as no such thing has appeared.

Selks Mon 11-Feb-13 22:17:55

Karlos - grin grin grin - I thought that would get a reaction from someone! grin

The Jeanette Winterson quote should be beautiful, I know.

But it puts me in mind of Grimsby Docks. And those muscles with a little beard.

CabbageLeaves Mon 11-Feb-13 22:26:58

A wall of willies would see me go grin hmm confused and ugh

GlitteryShitandDanglyBaubles Mon 11-Feb-13 23:24:15

Sit on his face and see if he says 'eww' or 'hmf lmf hyu'

<disclaimer, I have had very little sleep and may not be Posting Responsibly>

Kione Tue 12-Feb-13 06:53:50

actually, the wall didn't make go eww it was some of the vaginas, and that is down to personal taste as when I pointed them to dp he didnt particularly dislike them, but he realy disliked the ones with piercings!

aurynne Tue 12-Feb-13 07:15:51

I am a student midwife. Doesn't stop me from thinking that male and, especially, female genitalia are quite ugly. And yes, my reaction to the Great Wall of Vagina was also "ugh!".

Reproduction is fascinating, but the organs themselves are ugly as hell...

bumhead Tue 12-Feb-13 08:00:48

I agree with Karlos.

I am frankly shocked by the amount with piercings. And yes, disembodied vulvas are ugly. I think mine is pretty ace after seeing this. I mean really when people go to see this exhibition all they will be doing is saying 'Ooh thats a good one' and 'Urgh! That one's fucking dreadful!'
And men's peni look like plucked chickens.

LadyRainicorn Tue 12-Feb-13 15:43:01

I didn't go eww, but I don't like genitals male or female. The wall was interesting, especially the sheer variety. And the piercings looked like boils!

I also dislike feet. And toes. Ewwww.

fluffyraggies Tue 12-Feb-13 15:57:41

There is a wall of willies!

I can't do a link, but Google 'wall of willies' - Images, if you're interested.

Aaanyway. I want to thank you all for a bit of perspective. It's been interesting grin 'Love cleft' made me laugh and so did the fishy salty rock pool poem!

My self esteem is very brittle and i tend to look for problems where there is none. Bit PMT'y right now as well, so i'll put it down to that smile

baronsamedi88 Thu 27-Jun-13 15:44:15

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ZolaBuddleia Thu 27-Jun-13 15:47:22

Yep, it's no accident that our growlers were put where we don't have to look at them.

BeautifulBlondePineapple Thu 27-Jun-13 15:50:15

Show him these as well and let us know his reaction. Please!

Fenton Thu 27-Jun-13 15:50:22

weird Zombie thread to bump innit?

BeautifulBlondePineapple Thu 27-Jun-13 15:52:34

damn. someone is getting their jollies in a weird way today.

GetStuffezd Thu 27-Jun-13 15:52:44

baronsamedi is a troll who's been bumping threads and spouting anti woman bollocks for a while.

ZolaBuddleia Thu 27-Jun-13 16:18:42

Blimey, that must take a bit of energy, going back through threads to find something to resurrect.

They're still not pretty.

GetStuffezd Thu 27-Jun-13 16:21:21

Well, I think he probably typed "vagina" into the search box... Bit tragic, really.

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Thu 27-Jun-13 16:27:47

Oh well, harmless thread to resurrect I suppose.

My first reaction was 'urgh' but actually it's quite fascinating - so much variety!! teaches you to be a tad grateful for what you have as well

GiveItYourBestShot Thu 27-Jun-13 16:31:25

Like a filly at a gate? Blimey....I don't want anyone trying to feed mine polo mints!

GiveItYourBestShot Thu 27-Jun-13 16:32:36

Note to self...check date before posting.

widowerbutok Thu 27-Jun-13 16:39:11

Just read through this as it was near the start...for the 1st time for a long time here, i laughed out loud. "sit on his face and ask him to go 'ugh' (or words to that effect) so funny. Ty for brightening a dull day.

orangeandemons Thu 27-Jun-13 16:44:26

OooohI a new game... Concophony of cocks, collection of cocks, cluster of cocks, wall of wangs, placard of,penii, etc etc. Like wall of wangs best, although shimmer of schlongs could be good.

< wanders off>

A 'fresco of fannies' grin

orangeandemons Thu 27-Jun-13 16:52:45

Or fanjos, or foods. Or a muddle of muffs blush

GiveItYourBestShot Thu 27-Jun-13 17:05:07

An eclectic collection of erections wink

lottieandmia Thu 27-Jun-13 17:10:01

I can't see anything - what link is it? I think I may have seen this some time ago though.

lottieandmia Thu 27-Jun-13 17:12:04

oh no not another zombie thread hmm

SonOfAradia Thu 27-Jun-13 17:24:25

Women's bits are absolutely beautiful and I could look at them for hours.

Been a big fan since I was in my teens ;-)

A big thanks to all of you out there! Mwah!

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Thu 27-Jun-13 17:29:09

Ithinkoffluffy what quote is that? I don't think comparing a woman to a "filly at a gate" is very nice.

chillinwithmyyonis Thu 27-Jun-13 18:01:45

How is a wall of white plaster 'ugh'? They represent the shape but not the colour, texture or presence of pubic hair, you have to look at the close-ups to really see what its all about. I'd say your dh's response is a bit grumpy-old-man but not grounds to ltb.

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