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If you have Young kids, what do you wear to bed?!

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Insecure24 Sat 02-Feb-13 06:58:24

My dd is 2.8 and whilst a good sleeper generally, she does wake up now and again. Either she'll call me from her room or just appear next to our bed. Feel awkward to sleep naked incase she walks in but also feel bad for dp cuddling his mrs in jammies and (at the moment) stubbly legs!

constantnamechanger Sat 02-Feb-13 07:00:31

nothing - I prefer to sleep naked so thstd what I do

constantnamechanger Sat 02-Feb-13 07:01:14

she will let you know when she doesn't like it

MammaTJ Sat 02-Feb-13 07:13:33

Nothing. My DS gets in to bed with me most nights, even at six years old but I am covered in the divet so he is not forced to look at my naked body!

I even stroll to the bathroom and my DC even come in to the bathroom when I am naked in the bath.

ArtVandelay Sat 02-Feb-13 07:14:34

So you are worried about what your DP thinks and what your DC thinks... What do you think? What do YOU want to wear?! smile

financialwizard Sat 02-Feb-13 07:18:44

Naked, never been any different. Got a dd 2.11 yrs and a DS 11.9 yrs. I do have an ensuite now though.

Lovingfreedom Sat 02-Feb-13 07:25:21

Whatever you like....I can still remember the joy of cuddling in to my naked mother when I was small and couldn't for my own DC well they know that my bedroom is my space and if they come in I might be naked. DS is 11 and still comes through occasionally during the night. Funnily enough he will happily sit and chat to me while I'm in the bath....but he's nearly sick if he comes in when I'm getting dressed and sees any underwear. DD sleeps like a log....always has done...

OP It's what you feel comfortable with...but would consider the extent to which you are letting yr DC dictate your intimate time with your DH. You know it's not the end of the world if yr DC see you naked...or even if they catch you and DH at it....

Shybairns Sat 02-Feb-13 07:26:11

I'm in full jamma. I'm not tripping along the landing in the nuddy! Its cold at night in my house. And if I did have to comfort a child in the night I don't want to be sitting on their beds with nowt on. Especially as they are in full jammas too.

MoppingMummy Sat 02-Feb-13 07:28:03

Pj bottoms and a vest top. I like to be warm!

WickWackThurso Sat 02-Feb-13 07:33:07

Naked - why would your dc seeing you naked be a bad thing? I always wear nothing to bed, walk to loo/shower naked, children see me wash & dress etc - no issues.

Otoh, worse things will hapoen to your oh than sleeping next to a clothed partner. Wear what you feel you want to.

Thingymajigs Sat 02-Feb-13 07:34:24

Nothing. I try to wear PJ's but always wake up naked. It's not a problem as I'm covered with a duvet and have a dressing gown within arms reach. Just do what you want to do.

Dolallytats Sat 02-Feb-13 07:47:09

I usually wear Pj's and DH pretty much always sleeps naked. DS (4.5) nealry always jumps into our bed in the morning. He doesn't take any notice of what we are or aren't wearing. He's too busy telling us to move over because we are squishing him-or telling me to move my leg because 'your fuzzy leg is itching me'!!

Lueji Sat 02-Feb-13 08:04:31

Whatever makes YOU feel comfortable.

You can leave a night gown next to the bed, should you need to get up, for example.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Sat 02-Feb-13 09:37:23

Sometimes jammas, sometimes naked. I have never felt self conscious about my DD seeing me naked, although i do have ask her to leave my boobs alone sometimes hmm

QuinionsRainbow Sat 02-Feb-13 15:22:26

We're well past this stage now, but when DCs were little and inclined to migrate from their own beds to ours in the early hours, they invariably found us clad as nature intended! We were always very open about bodies, and DCs learned from a very early age that birthday suits were likely to be encountered in bathrooms and bedrooms, and that this was entirely natural and nothing to be ashamed of.

LittleEdie Sat 02-Feb-13 15:25:02


cheesesarnie Sat 02-Feb-13 15:29:02

personally i sleep naked.

wear what you want not what other people say you should wear.

FlorriesDragons Sat 02-Feb-13 15:35:58

Naked here too. My parents were always naked (at home) and I've always thought it a positive as I have grown up with tremendous body confidence and no hang ups about being naked myself.

Cakethrow Sat 02-Feb-13 15:42:22

Depends how cold it is.

I'm not worried about DC coming into bed when I'm naked as they have their own covers for when they do.
Not because I don't want them to see me naked - they see it enough when they invade my shower time etc - but because I don't like sharing! grin

TrinityRhino Sat 02-Feb-13 15:46:18

Nothing at all. That's how I like it. Why you be bothered by your child seeing you naked?

Startail Sat 02-Feb-13 15:50:48

I tend to have a long night shirt on the floor by the bed for if it's cold or something is needed from down stairs.

Early morning horse riders can see straight into our kitchen.

QuinionsRainbow Sat 02-Feb-13 16:19:16

And to paraphrase OP's original question:

If you have young kids, does what you wear to bed affect what they wear to bed?

Xalla Sat 02-Feb-13 16:30:30

Naked. I keep a pair of pj's or nightshirt by the bed for middle of the night Calpol dashes and such. Also tend to stick it on if DSD's around but couldn't give two hoots about my own two DC seeing me naked!

GrandPoohBah Sat 02-Feb-13 16:40:27

DH and I both sleep in the nude. DD is currently cosleeping with us and 5yo DSS not infrequently comes and joins us in bed in the morning in a transparent attempt for us to get more time in bed when he wants us to get up. We also wander around nude, although I do own pjs for morning coffee making/post evening bath sofa time.

An oversized tshirt so i feel covered up if i have to go to the bathroom etc in the night or ds comes into bed and still leaves access for DH and I if we have the energy to do anything naughty

I also feel the cold so can never sleep without anything on my top half unless I'm on holiday in the summer somewhere hot.::::

Shybairns Sat 02-Feb-13 17:05:50

I'm amazed at all the naked sleepers!

Why would you feel awkward to be naked in front of your two year old daughter?

She came out of that body of yours.

ChestyLeRoux Sat 02-Feb-13 17:16:32

I sleep naked to,also bf wherever so usually have a boob out.

hugoagogo Sat 02-Feb-13 17:17:25

Me tooshy

I wear jammies all year round, not because of the dc, but because I really feel the cold. This time of year I wear a vest underneath and thick socks too.

lottie63 Sat 02-Feb-13 17:23:05

Naked here too. Me, dh and dd all walk around house in morning naked or half dressed as well. Tbh, I think it's good for kids to see what normal adult bodies look like. My 11 yr old dd is also so much more at ease at seeing her own body start to change and is more relaxed about developing breasts and pubic hair than she might have been. We've always slept naked. The kids do too apart from sleepovers with friends.

Nooneelseisallowedafergus Sat 02-Feb-13 18:43:54

Wow, I am also surprised at so many naked sleepers. I wear a vest top and knickers in bed always have, although cannot stand pj bottoms which ruck up and annoy me. I would feel cold and exposed being naked. and I am up and down with the children at least 3 times a night!

sheeplikessleep Sat 02-Feb-13 19:13:07

Either jim jams or vest and pants.
Too cold otherwise.
DH knows his luck is in if he comes up to bed and I'm naked wink

sheeplikessleep Sat 02-Feb-13 19:15:25

I quite happily walk around naked after a shower or whatever, when I'm getting ready.

I do wonder at what age do boys get bothered about this? I'm guessing I'm going to need to be more discrete about this in a few years?

brainonastick Sat 02-Feb-13 19:15:42

Don't be daft smile. She's your baby, it doesn't matter what you wear or don't wear. It's also a good way of teaching her to be comfortable with her own body (and what happens to bodies when you grow up).

we both sleep naked - dd is 9 and ds is 6. DS also prone to sleeping naked especially in the summer. We have dressing gowns hanging on the bedroom door if we need to go to the kids in the night

MarshaBrady Sat 02-Feb-13 19:17:38

I wear pyjamas. The french doors don't have curtains (no one can see in) and it gets pretty cold. Which I like, but I need pjs.

sparklyjumper Sat 02-Feb-13 19:28:34

I've been wondering about this myself, I usually sleep with nothing and ds sometimes gets in my bed, he also wonders in and out the bathroom. I've started sending him away now when I'm trying to go to the toilet and he's hanging around! He's 4 but he doesn't seem bothered or aware, he prefers sleeping with nothing on too.

At 2.8 I really wouldn't worry yet though.

I had similar issues, so now wear a silky "slip" type nighty; covers your bits but still feels lovely and isn't too hot. DH seems to quite like it too grin

CarlingBlackMabel Sat 02-Feb-13 19:35:22

I've always slept naked and have never thought twice about DC knowing that, getting into bed etc.
No issue.

pnin Sat 02-Feb-13 19:37:07

Given I've co slept and fed til past three I'm not bothered by nudity, but I do wear silk jamas and a bra as half my body is out of the bed and I can't bear the interminable nipple twiddling

bluemintygel Sat 02-Feb-13 19:43:21

Surely this is a non issue? Little children aren't generally bothered by nudity.

Ragwort Sat 02-Feb-13 19:50:10

Wear what YOU want, or wear nothing if that's what you prefer. As others have said, dress for yourself not your child or DH.

I always wear pyjamas, I like them, they are cosy & I feel comfortable. I am sure DH would prefer me to be naked but I wouldn't be comfortable with that, have never slept naked in my life wink - even on honeymoon I had a silk nightdress, very glam grin.

pepperrabbit Sat 02-Feb-13 19:51:42

My lot wander in and out of the bathroom when either of us are showering, even if it's silent and all is well as soon as I turn the water on WW3 breaks out hmm
But just last week the 2 boys were in the bathroom and I was telling them off for being mean to their sister and DS1 spent the whole time staring at my nipples. It made me a bit uncomfortable tbh, so I may be a little more circumspect in future. They are 8/6/4.
Mind you they were prefectly happy in Boots earlier "helping" me choose some tampax... "why don't you try these Mummy" brandishing the maxi jumbo pads.

wearymum200 Sat 02-Feb-13 19:52:39

Warm pjs and bedsocks, with slippers and a sort of full length fleecy thing to fling on if I have to get upto a dc in the night. I am far to chilly to think of sleeping naked. Brrrr.

Big t-shirt and pyjama bottoms. In winter, I also accessorise with socks stylish to the end

lapsedorienteerer Sat 02-Feb-13 19:54:11

Nothing when DS was young, PJs now he's 10

WakeyCakey Sat 02-Feb-13 19:55:30

Don't have young children but have DSD 12 who sleeps, just like myself and DP in just pants.
She hates PJs and is constantly walking round in pants. She's walked in and chatted to me whilst I was in the bath plenty on times.
DP and I always put a dressing gown on before leaving the bedroom though

sarahtigh Sat 02-Feb-13 20:36:43

I sleep naked but just grab dressing gown if need to get up at night as its a bit cold naked for young children it does not matter, with teenagers it maybe different but they should not be just walking into your bedroom anyhow

Pilgit Sat 02-Feb-13 21:56:16

Chanel no 5 and a winning smile.....! PJ's always to hand so don't have to feed 8wk old DD in the nuddy (and get fripples....)

hopenglory Sat 02-Feb-13 22:02:05

Nothing, if I have to get out of bed I can put my dressing gown on

Ahhhcrap Sat 02-Feb-13 22:04:04

I wander around the house naked all the time.. I think it's a good thing. I don't want my DD being hung up on her body or being embarrassed by nakedness

LifeSavedbyLego Sat 02-Feb-13 22:04:24

Due to a lack of organisation on my part,if I'm not happy tobe seen putting the milkbotttles or bin out in it,I don't wear it to bed.

WhereTheWildOnesSnow Sat 02-Feb-13 22:06:50

I sleep in vest and pants, it's how I'm more comfortable in the night. It has nothing to do with DD(9) or DS(5) seeing me naked ( which they always do as soon as I'm in the bath, they need poos!).

LifeSavedbyLego Sat 02-Feb-13 22:08:30

But to answer the question you actually asked. DCs don't care what i am/not wearing the only time they've comments is when I've gone to bed passed out in day time clothes. blush

catladycourtney1 Sat 02-Feb-13 22:12:17

Another one here amazed at all the naked sleepers! Even if dp and I have been enjoying some naked time, 99 times out of 100 I'll get dressed before I go to sleep. I feel sweaty and weird if I sleep naked.

5madthings Sat 02-Feb-13 22:12:44

I sleep naked and have a towel by the bed to wrap around myself if I get up but don't always use it.

The mad things are 13, 10, 8 and 4 all boys and dd 2 yes they wears pj's to bed. None of them are bothered at seeing me naked, ds1 will still come in the bathroom when I am in the shower or the bath etc but he is more modest himself and keeps himself more covered up, that started in the last year or so.

Ds4 would be permanently naked given the chance and has spent most of the day wearing only pants.

ginmakesitallok Sat 02-Feb-13 22:13:33

Do and I just wear knickers to bed, neither DDS seem to be bothered. They see do naked most mornings and both will happily shower with me in morning (they are 3 and 9)

ginmakesitallok Sat 02-Feb-13 22:15:31

(Who on earth is buying all the grown up jammies if we're mostly naked??)

OscarPistoriusBitontheside Sat 02-Feb-13 22:16:42

I sleep naked, I have a dressing gown for middle of the night wake ups.

nappydaysagain Sat 02-Feb-13 22:31:26

I'm shocked at all the naked sleepers shock only because of the temperature! I'm currently wearing fleece pjs and sometimes wear bed socks too!

I don't have a problem with my DSs seeing me naked and my DS3 (2years 8 months) came in the bath with me earlier but brrrrr far too chilly for me to be naked.

NettleTea Sat 02-Feb-13 23:36:25

We both just wear pants. DD is 12 and DS 6, and I am happy to wander with knickers. DP I think is conscious that DD is not his biological child, so he will pinch my dressing gown for tea duty, although he has been around since she was 2.

M0naLisa Sun 03-Feb-13 03:33:10

Pjs bottoms and normally a camisole top. Or a nightie

Kione Sun 03-Feb-13 09:31:17

I sleep in PJ' because of the cold, vest and socks as someone above. DD is 3 and we just had a bath together, practical and quick and she noticed my boobs, we've gone through "mummies have boobs, babies, children and daddys don't. Just a normal conversation, and she was happy with that smile
My DP is a lot more prude abd doesn't let her in the barhroom when he is in the shower. His choice, but I wouldnt mind if he did, its just our bodies!

carmenelectra Sun 03-Feb-13 09:31:40

I wear same as when I didn't have kids! Don't see what children have to do with it?!

I uusually wear pyjamas, either vest top and bottoms or little vesty nightie. Thicker pyjamas when freezing and bed socks, though various bits come off during night when I get hot. Sometimes dressing
Our house is warm but I'd freeze naked! And I'd be uncomfortable.I'd always have at least knickers and vest tops.

Even when I go abroad I wear knickers and vest! Just doesn't feel comfy! Nothing to do with shyness or dcks seeing me.

Dp wears boxers/pants and sometimes tshirt.

Until recently dc3 has woken me up in the night stacks. The Thought of scrambling around naked and freezing, fills me with horror.

carmenelectra Sun 03-Feb-13 09:38:35

I'm truly amazed at the naked sleepers! Everyone I know wears pj's! Well they buy them, get them for Xmas! Maybe they just wear them downstairs and take em off for bed?

nurseneedshelp Sun 03-Feb-13 09:49:04

Naked in this house too! I couldn't sleep with anything on and the windows need to be open too!
My kids are used to it......

TrinityRhino Sun 03-Feb-13 11:42:24

but jammies are lovely to wear when you first get up or in the evening
so I wear mine loads but not in bed unless I'm feeling unwell and cant get warm or when it really is baltic

trixymalixy Sun 03-Feb-13 11:43:54


binkybonk Sun 03-Feb-13 16:47:36

Seriously? This many naked?!! I don't live in the UK anymore (it's v hot where I am and your birthday suit and a sheet will sufficegrin) but when I did my heating bill would've been massive if I'd slept naked! It's not got a thing to do with prudery or getting jiggy, it's purely a warmth thing- isn't it?! And if your houses are warm enough for nudity in Feb then your carbon footprint must be massive wink
My parents and siblings were always in and out of bedrooms/ bathrooms as necessary and same now with DH and DS but it's never been consciously thought of by me... Until now! don't think what I do or don't wear in bed will affect DS too much
When I visited the UK last summer I slept in multiple layers culminating in a huge fleece borrowed from my sister. It was Baltic. It was July.
I must have some cold blood in my veins

TheSecondComing Sun 03-Feb-13 16:49:59

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

chroniclackofimagination Sun 03-Feb-13 16:52:41

Both my parents walked around naked if they were changing or showering and I never thought anything of it. I had a Finish friend who's parents would quite happily sit naked reading the paper even if her friends were there (grew up in tropical country, it was hot).They'd just look up, nod and go back to whatever they were doing.

DontmindifIdo Sun 03-Feb-13 17:08:44

Jimjams - but then our house is very cold, and I'm not running the heating overnight.

PretzelTime Sun 03-Feb-13 18:03:47

jammies and (at the moment) stubbly legs
I assume this what your dp is wearing also? Unless he is comfy with being nude unlike you?

Just wear (or don't wear anything) what is the most comfortable for you.

5madthings Sun 03-Feb-13 21:02:59

We don't have the heating on overnight but I have a duvet and that keeps me warm.

JoyceDivision Sun 03-Feb-13 21:19:59

Dh doesn't wear jim jams, often I don't, however I think he will start to do so since dd (6) cheerfully told him he has 'got really big hairy boobies' grin

we are in Scotland and have the heating off overnight but I still sleep naked as its cosy under the duvet. Also have dh to keep me warm (also naked!)

Shodan Sun 03-Feb-13 21:43:51

A long silk or satin nightgown with matching robe tossed casually over the foot of the bed. Also heeled mules with fluffy feathers on for tripping lightly from room to room.

I thought everyone wore similar?

not really, just a short t-shirt nightie type thing. Don't want to give pore ol' DH ideas

EmmaThorn Thu 07-Mar-13 09:49:46

I wear cotton PJs in winter and just knickers or nothing at all in the summer!
I'm strongly in camp that feels there's nothing to be embarrassed about nudity, and it gives kids a healthy body image. Not that I have the body to go flaunting it!! But I sleep in whatever I'm comfortable for a good nights sleep - that's most important thing for me! :-)

ribeno Thu 07-Mar-13 11:54:02

uum, please dont shoot me down for this but do you change your sheets before your children sleep in your bed? What if they wake up in the middle of the night say after you have "done the deed"? You know, there may be some traces of whatever... Sorry, genuine question that Im worried about as at the moment I have a baby who will stay in their sleeping bag on top of our duvet. not that we really have a lurve life, lol!

Saltpig Thu 07-Mar-13 21:10:59

Nowt under a duvet and two rag doll cats on top. Enuff already!!!!!!!

Not at all bothered with the DSs seeing me naked, though they are only little at the mo anyway, but right now am wearing pjs as its rather nippy! Though trying to spread out DS2s night feeds so I'd keep a bra on if nothing else - or he'd be attached all night! DH is on nights tonight, if but if he was here it might be warm enough to wear slightly less

I do have a bit of a weird thing about fires though, so get paranoid about sleeping naked and having to escape in the night <weirdo>
Still do it though.

weird paranoia not helped by DHs lack of fire safety awareness

sleepyhead Thu 07-Mar-13 22:19:33

ribeno, there's probably more chance of the child peeing in the bed tbh.

TheYamiOfYawn Thu 07-Mar-13 22:26:14

At the moment, pyjamas, wooly socks and a cardigan, while clutching a hot water bottle. I sleep naked if the weather is warm.

Nagoo Thu 07-Mar-13 22:29:50


I have a warm dressing gown if I have to get up, purely for temperature issues!

DH most affronted when I wear pyjamas. Knickers on is code for 'Fuck off you nobend' grin

firesidechat Fri 08-Mar-13 07:36:58

I'm truly amazed at the naked sleepers! Everyone I know wears pj's! Well they buy them, get them for Xmas! Maybe they just wear them downstairs and take em off for bed?

I love lounging around in my pyjamas and sometimes wear them all day if I'm not going anywhere. Never ever wear them in bed though because I would get too hot and uncomfortable.

I would say that nudity around children is a healthy thing, but husband stopped doing it when they were quite young (we have daughters). They will soon let you know when it bothers them.

DH and I both sleep naked, but have PJs on standby for bathroom trips etc - only because we have his children (my stepchildren) over a lot and they're a lot older.

But as for my DC, couldn't care less if they see me naked as I don't want them to have any unusual ideas about naked bodies or what they should look like, or feel ashamed of them... Who cares?

forevergreek Fri 08-Mar-13 10:15:30

Just pants for both of us.

Have pjs but wear them around the house on lazy days/ after shower etc. would feel suffocated to wear in bed

We have a 15 tog duvet and a fur throw though so it isn't cold ( also have a heated house)

I sleep naked. I have pj's for the time between having a bath and going to bed cos it would seem odd to put clothes back on after a bath. Dh tends to wear short pj bottoms.

I feel the cold easily but hate the feeling of pj's getting tangled and can't sleep in them. We have a duvet, quilt (as in handmade one) and a crocheted blanket over our bed. In winter I sometimes have a hot water bottle too. We never have the heating on overnight.

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