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Ex is a prick(174 Posts)
I know I know...I've said it before...anyone interested in a thread where you can just say things like 'my ex is a prick' and other people say 'yeah so is mine'? I've tried wine and I've tried chocolate...but it's just not helping. He's not doing anything illegal, dangerous or frightening...just being self-righteous, entitled, irritating and generally... a prick..
i am not in contact with my ex but hes a total wanker who tried to alienate me from my family and threatened to leave me in a foreign country (i would have had a much better holiday if he had!) wish id known about mumsnet back then! ill join you in the exes are pricks parade!
Early days in our split but my H is an uncommunicative, selfish arsehole who I'm beginning to believe i am better without I know this should be a celebration of bell-end'ness so hope i don't spoil your vibe...
No Skillbo welcome....I feel the same about mine. Whenever he starts being a prick (i.e. whenever he is in touch) I think 'well at least I don't live with him any more'...sometimes it feels like cold comfort...but not the freezing chill that waking up from a dream and realising he still lives here would be.
JJS your ex sounds like a prize prick...congratulations (for getting shot of him). I wish mine lived in a foreign country...or preferably in a galaxy far far away.
Hi five from me - my ex is a massive wanker. I'm fairly sure his ex-wife would agree with me too. And probably his kids as well.
In fact if I won the lottery I would kidnap him and fire him into outer space, although the fucker would probably still find a way back.
I wish mine would just disappear. He gives me two weeks to truly forget about him then he bloody calls me again. Which I don't answer but ffs. Get the hint! Dumped! Ignored! GO AWAY!
Lol Kernowgal big demand for tickets on that rocket. Mine is such a massive wanker I feel I should really be warning any future partners. Huge respect for OW who told him to piss off...one day I will text her to thank her for prompting me to kick him out.
Oh Kali I know what you mean....i like it best whenever ex is in one of his regular huffs....means I don't have to see, hear or read about the bastard for a few days....then I get one of his patronising 'let's communicate' emails and my heart sinks.
My ex is / was a violent, nasty twat and I've had no contact for 10 years. My husband is lovely, amazing, kind - the kind of 'nice' bloke I dumped before my 3 years with the ex. Maybe there is a point to the pricks - make us appreciate the wonders of peace, respect, calm. Hang on in there!
Hehehehe! Maybe we should get Richard Branson on the case.
Nice theory FG I'm seeing a nice guy now. Keep having to pinch myself to check I'm not dreaming...and him to check he's real. Agree...I probably wouldn't have looked at him were it not for the fact that spending 15 years with a total wanker has made me appreciate nice, normal, previously regarded as boring but actually lovely.....guys. Can't get fully shot of ex due to kids...I'm still fantasizing that he'll fall off a cliff....I live in hope.
Oh hell, yes! I left him 11 years ago and he is still a pain in the arse. I think he would be great for a safe sex campaign for teenage girls - it's not having a baby you need to worry about, but the man child you have to put up with for the next 18+ years.... Nothing cute about that!
The cheeky bastard has pressed all the wrong buttons recently. He has done jack shit towards DS, didn't pay a penny for years, and then whines and moans and claims to be hard done by when paying for anything for him. He wants a medal for giving him some school dinner money! I could fill a thread at the minute!!!! Between DV,EA and alcoholism, he's been a pleasure.
If F4J did more about the shit heads who behave like he has, they would get much more support than they do from any protests. These are the people who have wrecked it for the decent Dads out there. Grrr!!!
Hello my ex is a prick. There, I said it .
He is a big man baby and every time my 4 yr old dd has a tantrum it reminds me of him.
I also have the cold comfort of knowing at least I can shut the front door every night now and have peace .
12stonelighter I'm assuming that your codename refers to the 12 stone of unsightly flab you lost when your loser ex said bye bye. Congratulations.
Hell yes it is.
Delilah your ex reminds me if mine. I paid for music lessons, new instrument, sheet music, orchestra etc for DS then ex complains that I haven't supplied a new notebook and he's having to spend a pound on one. Prick.
Mine was 15 stone of densely packed muscle, lightly covered with freckles. I miss that bit
Kali in your case we recommend Rohypnal and a gag.
My ex is an evil nasty bastard & I wish he was dead. He is currently threatening to tell my Dd10 (not his) that her dad didn't want her when I was pregnant & hit me. This happened & I never forgave him but he is a good dad to DD & ds7. ' they adore him. The damage this would do to my kids is making me want to kill him. I only told him at a vulnerable moment when I needed him as a shoulder to cry on & now as things are bad between us he is throwing that around as a threat. I hate him
squig your ex sounds awful...do you believe in karma? If it's true I think you'll find he should be dead by morning. I've got my fingers crossed for you.
Kali in your case we recommend Rohypnal and a gag.
For me?! I won't answer the phone! I promise!
Squiglett How awful
There is nothing like the feeling that someone you once saw as your ally is now able to throw all your secrets back in your face. I worry sometimes that I will never be able to open up again to a man just in case he uses my weaknesses against me, like my clutching-at-straws ex does. He uses all of my insecurities as a Mum against me now. Gah.
12stone If he did do it would you lie to your DC and say it just wasn't true? I mean, I'm not suggesting this exactly, and we all know lies are wrong, but how to lessen the impact otherwise? Just thinking out loud really, sorry if inappropriate.
Squiglett, not 12stone, sorry AGAIN.
Yes I would lie & as ex is a junkie & has caused nothing but pain in the last 3 years DD would believe me but the seed of doubt would be there. We have a DS, he will be 1 on Sunday. He will not be seeing his dad & as he already as 3 sons that ss have banned him from seeing I don't see a court in the land making me let him see DS. If I knew 3 years ago what I know now but I wouldn't have my gorgeous Lil boy so I can't really say that with much feeling
My ex is a complete prick. He has taken to ringing my phone 'accidentally' and then saying it was a mistake/he didn't realise it was my number when I ring back!
This despite the fact that it was him who cut contact with me. The worst bit of it all is that I still love him. Sometimes I feel like I will never be happy again.
Oh dear....looks like milkandlotsofwine has a prick of an ex she's not over yet....suggestions?
Milk change his name to DO NOT CALL on your phone. As a reminder. DO NOT CALL HIM BACK!
Squig It sounds like you'd just about to be able to get away with it all (if you see what I mean) but why should you have to? What a prick
Edit: Change his name to MY EX IS A PRICK
Yes....we've all been there....in love with a prick....it takes a bit of work but you can break the habit....eventually you strip away all the things you love about and all that's left is a big prick
if you are lucky eh 12stones ?
Or how about MY EX IS AN ARCH-MANIPULATOR PRICK. Sorry, he sounds awful, I hope you get over him soon.
kali Believe you me I have changed his name to every variation of 'Thismanisawankerdonotcallbackhewillbreakyourheart' that it is possible to think of. It makes no difference. My resolve always weakens.
I told him this time to delete my number out of his phone so it can't happen again. I think he will do it. He sounded mortified last time I rang him.
I would call my ex a prick only a prick is actually useful :-).
Mine did a runner to Australia christmes week abandoning my 2 dc and hasnt called them since. Oh apart from drunk..... once that is. To say he is a lowlife is an understatement.
I was really lucky that I did all the stripping away, all the heartache, whilst we were still together, all that was left the day he left was sweet relief. I have been there before though with still loving a prick ex, it is misery .
12stone and loving Thank you. Yes he is a total prick & I also hope I get over him soon. Although I'm still in tears nearly every day a year down the line so I can't see it happening any time soon.
aven that is awful.
aven That is truly terrible. I am so sorry for you and your DC. How any body can be so cruel and spineless is just beyond comprehension.
yeah mines a prick
He was a prick for 10 years by the 11th I cut all contact with him. He'd stopped bothering to see DS 2 years earlier anyway and I'd had enough when I developed cancer and he refused to help.
Yes my ex is a prick
Haha loving. That would be a very worthwhile investment I think. Apparently the best revenge is living well and im sure we will all get to that stage but in the meantime venting is your friend ladies.
Ah, just the thread for me. <pulls up a chair>
My ex is a total prick. Despite him telling me many, many times that he was only staying with me for the kids, he didn't love me, I was fat,ugly etc etc he took great offence to me actually telling him to move out and is now incredibly angry with me.
He has all but abandoned his children, only seeing them for a hour or two every fortnight - leaving me to do everything (including explaining to them why daddy isn't here anymore),he begrudges paying 20 measly percent of his net pay to the CSA, he regularly tells me he regrets ever meeting me and HE'S angry with ME? Prick, prick, prick!
Oo...marry you got it bad ...how many kangaroos do you need? Let's make him really regret meeting you. You ex sounds like a prize prick.
Grrr.. what is it with these men. Marry I feel your pain. How any man can abandon his kids is just disgustingand immoral. All these pricks of exs should be given the kangaroo treatment for sure. MN Is a wonderful outlet though.
My God what a bunch of nobbers. Some of your stories have made me worry that my ex may not be such a prick after all. Ummm, scrap that one. My ex is angry with me because I don't want maintenance, I want him to just pay for dcs childcare.
Onwards and upwards sisters.
Lol Kalidanger. I like your style. :-)
He looks perfect for the job.
Can I join???? My ex is turning out to be a bit of a prick! PRICK PRICK PRRRRIIIIIICCCCCKKKK!!!!!!!!!
That feels better
My ex is a First Class Prick too. He is also a liar and a thief. I wish him nothing but the worst and if he rots in hell it will be too good for him.
I have a nice life now and a lovely DP, who is everything The Prick wasn't, but I still hope that the wanker gets what he deserves.
That kangaroo looks like some kind of mean prick-ex-fucker....
Great thread Loving its been a while since I vented without feeling guilty and laughed to. Thanks ladies. Keep posting its so nice to know im not the only one who fell for a total prick. How they hide it for so long without us realising is a mystery.
Penelope what a wanker....hope your dreams for your ex come true....
Indians I missed your post....I can see your prick-ex-ism has only recently been diagnosed and you are still in shock....
My ex is also a total prick/liar/criminal/inhuman scumbag masquerading as a nice guy who gets a raw deal from life. What kind of tosser can't even send a card a mere few miles for a new grandchild? I wish him what he deserves.
And can I just say here, I'm fucking fed up of being civil to him for the sake of the kids. Of course I'll keep doing it, because it's the right thing to do, but by fuck I'd like to tell him to FUCK RIGHT OFF.
He told me the other week (during his 2 hour visit for the fortnight) that the kids are malnourished because I don't have at least a pot of rice waiting for them when they get home. The 4yo has dinner at her childminders but that doesn't count apparently "as a parent it's the least you should do". No, fuckwit, the least I could do is see them once a fortnight and only pay the bare minimum for them. Ah, that DOES feel better!
A pot of rice..?.....Lol....he's been watching too much Comic Relief
My ex cheated on me whilst i was pregnant.
He was emailing the OW (who i believe he is with now) whilst i was in labour. 80+hour labour with a back to back baby.
I left when DD was 6 months old. He has seen her 3 times in 18 months. The last time was 7 months ago.
He has only been paying CSA maintenance for her since December.
He is a cunt.
And yet, this is a man who i loved dearly. Who i loved spending time with. Who i thought i would be with forever. Who i planned a child with.
And it all just turned to shit, during pregnancy and then even worse with a newborn.
He is a despicable, selfish, arrogant, laughably pretentious cunt, who has the fucking cheek to think he's been hard done by because i took his daughter away from him. Erm, you were cheating you cunt, and i know this because you emailed me by accident a message that was meant for her. He cannot separate his feelings for me from his feelings for his DD.
I pity the cunt because he will never know what it is like to love his daughter and to have that love returned.
I have tried to maintain contact with them - of the 3 times he has seen her, i took her twice (at my own expense) to see her.
Now, i'm not bothering.
He shows no interest in her at all.
I loathe and despise the cunt. Although, when my DD is older, i'll pretend that i don't.
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GloryWhole I'm sorry but I'm going to report you to Mumsnet HQ for your post. You used the 'c' word five times in that post. IMO it's not enough. What a total and utter prick.....and breathe
Lovingfreedom, that would just a cruel and unusual punishment for the kangaroos knowing where he's been.
Lol sulky far be it for me to open up a debate on the rights and wrongs of the marsupial sex industry....but they are well paid and regular health checks are provided. Your ex is a prick.
My alcoholic twat ex who hasn't seen his children for a month because he didn't/couldn't be bothered to to the 20 mile round trip, has phoned me to say I need to deliver his children to him (again) as he has lent out his car on visit day (tomorrow) and has accused me of telling the council in his town that the house was single occupancy 6 years ago before I moved out, now landing him with a bill becasue he never told them he has a girlfriend living there and a lodger. Erm, I never told the council I was there alone as he was paying the tax while I was there alone for 6 months. If he's been claiming single occupancy on the council tax for the last 6 years it's not my fault, and I shouldn't have to pick up the slack regarding the driving about because he has a huge backdated bill to sort out. Grrrr.
momb tell him you've lent out your car tomorrow too and offer to phone him a taxi...then phone the benefits office to tip them off about any other benefits he's claiming....the prick.
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FFS Schmaltz thought you said he wasn't that bad....He sounds horrendous. Unsavoury adultery? What are you waiting for...get the pics developed and put them up on local lamp posts for his neighbours to see....that will be cathartic.
Tee hee LF. Nice to hear you are ok. Some pricks are better out than in - not that I'm jealous or anything-
Lol Fiventhree...you kicked that prick into touch yet? You're not allowed on this thread until you do
My ex is a prick! Found out he was sleeping with everything going, then he swans off with one of the OW while I was pregnant and we haven't heard from him since (that's the good bit!)
However, recently had a creepy stalker harassing me with texts, calls etc, while I was nine months pregnant. Really scared me and today I found out it was my mates boyfriend (now ex). So her ex is also a prick!
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My ex is also a prick.
In fact, he's a bigger prick than all your ex's put together.
He's a prick of the highest order.
He's a 36 year old who cheated on me with a teenager, got with her when i dumped his perverted ass, ditched her, tried to come crawling back to me, got told to get fucked, and now has a 20 year old girlfriend (I'm 28)...we split 18 months ago...and he rang me two weeks ago telling me he loves me AGAIN.
He's vile...and although his kids aren't mine, their birth mother passed away and they called me mummy for nearly 4 years....and he uses them against me to hurt me.
Did I mention my ex is a prick?
JM05 your ex is certainly a big prick and yes, you did mention that...but its been like bonus night in the brothel round here and the competition is stiff...
My ex is a real, class prick.
Where do they all learn to be so vile?
Prick school for pricks. They all have come out with a 1st class Honors in How to be a sly, cheating, lying prick.
My ex is already proving to be an unreliable fucker and it's only been 3 weeks!
I get an early night and the whole thread is stuffed with massive pricks.
Oh I like dreams like that 12stonelighter...
Indians welcome to the prick-ex club. You're in a dangerous place just now...your life probably feels great without that superfluous piece of crap that is your ex....it is....make sure you record his prickness and remind yourself of it....your mind can play tricks on you in about week four or five. Just like after childbirth you can start to forget just how painful and unpleasant it is.... Don't be surprised too if your Prick ex starts turning on the charm and promising the earth to get you back. So you need to remember....once a prick....always a prick....and like fiventhree says...some pricks are better out than in....
No LF, I havnt, but still consider it sometimes.
Push them to the back of your minds as far as possible and read as much as you can on how you got here. Helped me enormously in the past and still does.
I can offer some light at the end of the tunnel- I have an ex prick from 25 year old daughter and I would barely recognise him in the street these days, let alone think about him.
I wish I could push my ex to the back of my mind, but bad for me and good for the kids I have to see him or speak to him most days. He has gone and moved into a massive house around the corner he can't afford so the kids can have space to play when they stay but he only has them overnight once a week so he can have his lie-ins.
The rest of the time he comes around here and bothers me after work instead
Mine is total prick, we have two boys, he isn't allowed contact with them or Social Work will step in, he doesn't know he isn't allowed contact with them as Social Work have not gone to the effort to tell him and I have a strictly no contact on him, one text would lead to him being text happy.So he likes to parade on Fakebook that I 'keep his dc from him' the truth is, the DC do not wish to see him, they see him for what he is an angry abusive drug addict!
He has another dc in care, in hospital born in August never left hospital his g.friend is pregnant again, I would be delighted never to see him again, I want my divorce now, he was supposed to do it in August. He cannot be very busy, he has 1 DC of his in care 2 in my care, and 2 of his g. friends in care, all down to one prick of man, I'm so pleased he is my ex, him not existing would have been better tbh.
I got so fed up with my ex that I left & upgraded to a sentient human being. Best thing I've ever done (besides having my DS)!
Wow so many pricks! My prick needs to come by & collect his final belongings tonight but same as yesterday I will be hiding his bag behind my bins & hoping the rain/random thief gets to it first
Oh & he's told me he's a great dad as he has got DS a big birthday card & no one else will get him one as big. Er you owe me a tenner so I bought the card, you have t paid 1p towards his £200 worth of gifts, his party, cake etc. I bought it all, carried it all, made the cakes etc all while looking after & playing with DS who you haven't seen all week. In fact he's been walking since Wednesday & you haven't seen him. Why?? Coz you are A PRICK!
Ex is a prick, but I've gone on about his awfulness so much that I'm boring myself. He does have DD on a regular basis, so I suppose he's more involved than many of the fathers on here. Now, if only he didn't use his time with her to tell her that I and my parents are evil and trying to kill him. Seriously. DD is 5 and doesn't know what to believe.
He is testing the boundaries with handovers - 40 mins late, then 60 mins late - I'd put money on it that the next time will be 80 mins late. He wants to find out at what time I'll get the police involved, when I'm actively trying to avoid any more drama.
DD is currently on antibiotics, so I emailed and texted him to tell him to collect the medicine from school and when she needs to take it. I've no idea whether he'll do it or not.
He's never paid a penny and has put me into serious debt for the first time in my life by bringing stupid law cases against me - claiming that I'm blocking contact when I'm not.
I don't ill-wish people because I have a superstitious fear that it returns to harm the ill-wisher, but I feel I can observe in an entirely detached manner that the world would be a better place without him in it.
This is so cathartic
On a lighter note mine has a habit of sending texts meant for the latest victim to me by mistake. He then claims the message was for me but his predictive text was playing up. Clearly thinks I'm thick enough to believe him. Then again I did fall for his lies for years so that might be a reasonable assumption on his part.
What was the number for the marsupial sex workers again?
Stbxh isn't just a prick he's a wanker
Officially separated a month ago though still living in the same house (until it sells).
He spent £130 on a prostitute y'day which I found out about and confronted him on seeing as his lied where he was the whole day and could have compromised collecting the children from school.
Apparently that and the other 3 occasions that he did it whilst we were married were my fault cos we didn't have sex enough!! Nice, so it's my fault as is pretty much everything else!!!
On the positive he's so freaking in for a shock when he tries to date again as he really doesn't see the multitudes of faults that he has
Oh Loz, I got that too - stbx telling me he should go to a prostitute as I never wanted to have sex. Umm, how about you help out with your children and stop being a prick and maybe then I might be in the mood...
And I also share your view on the next
victim gf - anyone else I've split up with, I have always dreaded them finding someone else, but I know he's always going to be a prick to whoever he's with, so I just pity whoever it might be!
He also had the bloody cheek to question my outgoings (after I stopped contributing £130 a month towards the mortgage). I pay well over a thousand each month to his £700. Like I'm going to continue giving him that money so he can spend it on a shag!!!
But on the upside is what I find so satisfying - all the faults I know he has and stupidly put up with - the next victim won't be as stupid as I was.
And the list is so bloody long
My ex is a prick of the highest order,just to make things better for the prick,hes also a very stupid prick,too stupid to realise hes a stupid prick
10 blessed years weve been divorced an hes still being a prick.I have had no contact from the time he threatened to kill me infront of young Dc's and I had to get a restraining order but STILL he manages to be a prick,guess its just something,finally in his sad,sorry, victimised excuse for a life that the prick is actually good at
lovingfreedom my life doesn't feel great at the moment because everyday I seem to be hit in the face with a new load of information that informs me that the man that I loved, and had a beautiful son with is in fact a complete waste of space. I feel so betrayed and stupid. The crying has stopped and the anger is now setting in. I feel really fucking angry today.
I'm sorry to read that there are so many pricks.
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I'd pay good money to watch that if mine was on it TisILeclerc, and I think his ex-wife would want a ticket too.
Especially if the only food available was McDonalds (he HATED McDonalds - his eldest daughter once asked him if he'd come to her wedding if she got married in McDonalds, he said no he wouldn't. I said yes of course I would. Hah).
My xh is a total prick. He plays the good dad card but only sees the girls the minimum he can. He texts me when bored and ignores his dc when with gf.
He flips from being overly nice to me then back to being a prick. He has no relationship with our youngest and shows no desire to have one. He never ever looks me in the eye and i have only realised recently he never calls me by my name even when together. I truly am repulsed by him now. Feel like buying him a one way ticket to plant fuck off.
I was out most the weekend with new (non-prick...at least not showing signs at the moment but will not wait 15 years to act if he does this time) man....and come back to this....what is the collective noun for pricks?
Indians I'm sorry. It is horrible when you start to discover what a prick your ex is and when you realise that a lot of it has always been there. I found that writing it all down helped a lot. Filled up about 5 notebooks of ranting, letters to ex, letters to his parents, lists of his prickishness etc.
raspberryfool yes, I recognise that overly nice/prick cycle very well. My favourite was the day that he called me a bimbo in an email in the afternoon then when I dropped off the kids he said he liked my hair! lol.
My ex is also a prick. He's a gaslighting emotionally abusive narc of the highest order.
I was googling sociopath and psychopath the other day and strangely, the description of both fit ex perfectly.
He can be a good Dad but even 11 year ds can see through his tricks like buying stuff to compensate for lack of attention. [hmmm] Mine also plays hot and cold with me. One minute he's accusing me of poisoning his food, the next he's trying to get me to sleep with him.
Indians I'm thinking about what you wrote again. I've taken quite a lot of comfort from this....when my prick-ex first left I was kind of a bit high & dry with the kids, seeing as I work f/t quite a long drive from where we live and my prick-ex used to stay at home. My boss was away so I went to see a woman who I work with who is in a very senior position in our organisation. I was just going to ask her for some time working from home but ended up telling her a bit more about my situation. 'Oh' she said, after I had described prick-ex and his behaviour 'I had one of those once, it's horrible isn't it...don't beat yourself up, it's not your fault, can happen to anyone'
Now this is a woman who has reached the top of her game professionally and who I would regard as both unflappable and formidable. Her words were wize and they were supportive. And when I've been through some of the 'how could I have been so stupid/what kind of idiot let's someone treat them like this?' phases, I've thought 'well it happened to <big boss>'
marryinhaste I share your view on the next g/f.... I go between wishing my prick-ex would get a proper g/f to distract him from making misery for me....and feeling that I wouldn't wish that prick on anyone else.
Squig I know you've already spent £200 but wouldn't it be money well spent if you bought an even bigger card than your ex....afterall size counts! I'd love to see his face when you stagger out with a birthday card the size of a garage door.
Yup I have my very own prickity-prick prick-prick-prick here....and he's not going to change. Ah well, lucky me...I don't have to live with him anymore.
Oh, can I play prick bingo - I also had one who accused me of poisoning him. Where do they get this shit from? There is definitely some sort of prick school where they all compare notes/think up the best ways to display their prickishness!
OOh...I don't have that one on my list...poisoning him...what a bloody great missed opportunity!!!
that was my thought when he accused me - why didn't I think of it? Mine went the extra prickish-mile by telling me he'd had a full body scan at the doctors(!) and that was where it was discovered he had been poisoned. I can't believe my children have his genes - let's hope nurture wins out over nature with them!
I know....I've been over and over this and I just can't work out what I was thinking....It's not like I couldn't see he was a prick...it was kind of obvious. Ah well....as trustissues says, 'I don't have to live with him anymore'...this comment is joyful. My prick-ex didn't accuse me of poisoning him...but he did accuse me of destroying his self-esteem....lol....ha ha ha
Oh I should add my prick on ex has a new g.friend and treats her the same. Yeah he's a prick, actually prick isn' t strong enough for him, complete wanker of a prick no... will have a think
My prick-ex is lovely to strangers...couldn't be more charming, generous, helpful etc...but horrible to anyone close to him. I would pity any new partner...I think he should come with a health warning.
Oh please can I join in!
My ex is a prick, he:
- Tried to push me into aborting DD3 (it's me or the baby)
- Drove our eldest 2 children whilst over the limit
- Hit me round the head in from of DD1
- Literally kicked me out of bed during an argument
- Pinned me down on the bed and shouted in my face whilst I was holding DD2
- Cheated on me when 2 months pregnant with DD3
- left us 3 months after DD3 was born for someone he'd known for 3 months and had been shagging for 2 weeks
- Didnt turn up at all one Saturday for contact with the children
- turned up 5 hours late one Saturday to see kids and claimed train delays when in fact he was staying with the OW at a Holiday Express Inn 5 mins walk from the family home
- is underpaying maintenance by £100 pound this month and for the next two months because he has no money but has spent £191 on flights to take the OW to Barcelona for Valentines weekend and God knows how much more on the hotel
- Is perpetually late to pick up the kids claiming traffic delays on the motorways when AA Roadwatch says it's all clear
- Fails to return practically everything I pack for contact visits: car seat, bottles for DD3, coats for the eldest two, baby's snowsuit
- Demanded I gave him all the presents his family bought the kids for Christmas
Writing this has made me realise he's even worse than I thought!!!!!
McBuckers - this thread is supposed to make you feel better not worse....your ex sounds like a prize prick...I suppose the one positive to take from this is that presumably you don't have to live with him any more?! ... incidentally, have you ever considered poisoning him?
Really it has made me feel better because I'm no longer with him and it's only a matter of time before the OW has to put up with his crap! Every time he's at an opening night, press night, after show party she'll be the one wondering what he's up to. It's not my problem any more.
PS - poisoning is far too painless
Marryinhaste- I am crying with laughter at the full body scan. Mine said that I was going to add brake fluid to his coffee. Nice...
Oh, prick bingo again - this time with loving. My ex is also thoroughly charming to strangers, he even gloats that people love him when they meet him, and that I have no friends. This may be because he was out til 4am every weekend
shagging other women playing pool while I was at home dealing with non-sleeping dc2 as a baby. It does dent your social life somewhat being with a prick.
Mine too - thoroughly charming to strangers. Mine even told his parents to "fuck off out of my house" when his dad cooked us a lovely curry made poppadoms etc and STBXH turned up 2 hours after he said he would without any warning and his lovely parents questioned why he couldn't have let us know he'd be late.
Mine invited one of his OW to my 40th and said that she could bring her DS and they could stay over in our house even though we'd told friends & family that we didn't have room to let them stay and that we'd prefer they got babysitters (well he'd prefer they got babysitters...bizarre...I like having all the kids there). He went in a right strop when I told him that they couldn't stay. He actually denied she was OW...saying that 'you must be crazy, she's got a 7 year old son'...as if that meant she couldn't shag... I had a nine year old son at the time and I could. Few months down the line he's taking Ms Unshaggable to Paris for the weekend....well lucky her! I think she's ditched him now... aw shame.
Lovingthefreedom OMFG - what an arse!
Yes...but that's ancient history...these days he's wondering why I can't just get over it and be friends with him. Came round to my house in tears the other day...he's so depressed you know...poor lamb...
Funny how you all seem to think this after splitting up. Why would you go out with a prick in the first place?
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Some are born pricks, some achieve prickness and some have prickness thrust upon them...others are decent blokes. What about you Mrkidd? I'm thinking if you've read this thread you would find some evidence of genuine prickness.
lovingfreedom -is he actually looking to you for emotional support after everything he's done????
I have no idea McB
Any time things don't go his way he either cries, shouts, sulks or issues threats. I try to treat it all with the same indifference. When he came round crying with 'depression' told him to tell
someone who gives a shit a doctor. It's harsh but tbh I had it for years and he just took the absolute piss. It is attention seeking self indulgent bullshit.
Your ex sounds pretty unpleasant McB wouldn't fancy swapping with you either...
Can I join in? (Hi *Loving Freedom!*)
Mine is a prick and a TWAT - he still tries to control me. He does have the kids and that's part of the problem he wants to have them when it suits HIM.
He went away skiing and then asked for extra days around that - I
stupidly said 'yes'
He's taking them away in March on 'my' week and thinks I shouldn't get days back (which means almost 3 weeks seeing them only 2 night)
Thing is - he was never here when we were together! He was always out at football or the pub
He's sabotaged the mediation we were going to by shouting at me and the mediator
I sometimes wish he were worse and I could just break off contact as 18 months after he's left the house he's by far my biggest cause of stress
Hello ninja yes I'm afraid you qualify for this thread....your ex is a complete and utter prick. Still not sorted with the holiday arrangements?
No just getting worse really. Of course it is all me being unreasonable
I also have a poorly dd2, that's the second week he's taken into preschool ill and ill no doubt have the fallout tonight.
Interesting dd1 is starting to see another side of him. She has to get herself and her sister up, dressed and breakfasted every morning and she's lucky if he gets out of bed before she goes to school both kids look such a mess when they've been to his.
Hang in there ninja play the long game. Your kids will want to spend more time with you...and he will get fed up with having them around all the time. Some things that have helped for me include....showing total indifference to ex. Someone wrote on here 'never explain, never excuse' and I try to follow that. I never explain or excuse my own behaviour...just do it and he can like or lump it. If it's a drop off for you it's up to you when you do it. Do what you want when the kids are with you. He has no influence. Talk about him as little as possible except for asking if they've had a nice few days at the other house. Make their time with you nice, calm, food they like, able to see their friends, lots of good attention from you. I also try to focus on results rather than trying to either be reasonable myself or expect him to be. Don't talk to him except hello and goodbye...here's the bag...email only. And remember....your ex is a prick...it doesn't matter what he thinks about you.
Next time I have to deal with him I will repeat the mantra you are a prick you are a prick
lovingfreedom I aspire to your calm way of being. He's battered me so much with insults and accusations that it's hard for them not to stick sometime. Luckily I have good friends to keep me sane! If I can just get by this holiday and get into the routine we've agreed I think it can happen
Marryinhaste love the name - totally prickish behaviour and oh so familiar! The sociable, easy going charming man out and about. Lots of friends because he doesn't have to be anywhere. 3 nigts a week he'd go staright out after work and not come back until after midnight./ Yet - he coould never be home in time for me to go out to my hobby one night a week
Looks like i found the thread for me. Ex fucked off while I was pregnant and shacked up with ow. Pretended I didn't exist during pregnancy/sent nasty text messages telling me how ow was going to be active in raising my dd (they had known each other for 2 months). Didn't give me a penny towards baby things and when challenged told me he was nothing to do with me now and wanted to spend his money on ow.
Never asked me how i was during pregnancy but a couple of times sent me a text telling me how well he was doing at work, guess he wanted me to go over and
suck his dick stroke his ego.
Flash forward and dd is now 4 months. He has never seen her. Friday I get a text asking if i am home alone and can he come and meet dd and can i answer quickly as otherwise he wants to have a drink. I tell him not convenient but he can meet her sun pm.
He comes over, plays with dd as if she's a cute kitten, asks no questions about her, does not bring a
push present for me present for dd and then fucks off saying he might like to see her again as if I've just shown him a used car.
Heard nothing so texted him today askibg if he wanted to see dd again (trying my best to forge relationship between him and dd for her sake). I get a messsage back saying how terribly busy and important he is but no mention of dd or if he would like to see her.
He is a cold heartless nobber. worst of all he us quite an upstanding pillar of the community and it makes me sick that people think the sun shines out if his arse when u know that he is an evil psychopathic cock
Sorry 'I know' ...fat fingers on phone
angelelle you've got your ex sussed...he is an evil psychopathic cock...is he paying maintenance for your DD? You'd be surprised how many people will praise upstanding pillars in public, but in private recognise them as pricks....and...you know what....so what? ...it doesn't matter...OW got the rough deal there tbh...she gets to live with the wanker. Be great, be cool, take the prick to the CSA and make sure you get what you are entitled to, move on. If that doesn't work there are some more 'intensive' suggestions up thread for dealing with prick-exes...not all of them are strictly legal though.
He is not willingly paying but have csa on the case. actually writing this post just made me even more bitter. He is a member of various boards etc and feel like writing them all a letter telling him what he gets up to behind the scene. Just waiting patiently for karma to make her appearance.
I think you pretty much have to be a psychopath to hold your daughter and feel nothing.
Oh well takes knife out of back and tries to move on.
Oh and if karma doesn't work ill take the illeagal route. lol.
Ugh, prick has just left after gracing us with his presence for the first time in over a fortnight. He watched the football, didn't put the 2yo to bed until after 9, and ordered me around whenever possible ("run the kids' bath", "get me a nappy" etc). I never get a fucking break, and even when he's here he has the fucking cheek to
tell ask me to do stuff.
We then had the obligatory argument once the kids were asleep - I asked him why he didn't see the kids when they had norovirus last week (and I had to take lots of time off in my busiest week of the year at work), his response was that he needs to sleep between his shifts as his job is important. He was working 4pm-1am shifts and is 15 minutes away by train. He refuses to get the train
as he's too thick because he prefers the bus, so says he didn't have the time. His every sentence ended with the words "CSA" as he's livid I got them involved. I wish I knew where I could sign up to only pay 20% of my net pay towards the kids, and have someone else pick up whatever the rest of the costs were.
I am so happy except when I have to deal with prickface.
marryinhaste do you have to let your prick ex in the house? I wouldn't let mine in. I let him leave things for the kids in the shed. Sounds like when he does see the kids you are seeing too much of him too....Not surprised that winds you up. Still ordering you about? Time to kick this prick metaphorically into touch I'd say.
I'm glad you are happy the rest of the time though.
It's a tough one - I have been letting him come round because it means he can see the kids on a weeknight. He lives in a bedsit (I presume, he won't give me his address) and doesn't have a car so can't really take them out anywhere anyway. I need to start going out when he comes round, but am usually too bloody tired. If I go to my room the kids come and find me because he'll be ignoring them to watch TV.
I know it needs to change, but I honestly don't know what to do for the best.
Hmm...I personally found very early on that I couldn't stand having ex in the house. Certainly wouldn't leave him here unsupervised. I would have thought your ex would need to find somewhere outside your house to see the kids. He can't keep coming round, watching your tv, ordering you about etc. I'm not an expert though. Can you get advice on what are reasonable access arrangements?
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I was lucky....a week or so after my ex moved out to stay with a friend, he was coming back to see the kids and to finish off some decorating that he was half way through. I came in from work one day to find he had let himself into the house, replastered some edges (that actually didn't need done as it had been done by professional plasterer but he though he knew better) really badly, then tried to sand them down without putting things away or putting covers on. The kitchen resembled the inside of a snowstorm, with the air full of plaster dust and a thick layer all over everything. I was so angry I didn't say anything except 'right...out!' and haven't let him back in unsupervised since.
Sorry need to vent!
My ex is a spineless manchild prick!
I need him to sign two forms, one for joint bank account one for council tax. Could he be an adult and just do it......oh no! Of course not. Has ignored me for two weeks of asking nicely for him to sign them. So I had to ask his mother (who he now lives with again) to pass on a message. Now he's refusing to talk to me still and using her as a go between, which ain't great as she's 50 shades of batshit crazy!
Why does he find it so hard to be and adult and just sign two forms!!
And all this after he left me after I lost our baby and nearly died from complications, because he was 'tired' and 'couldn't deal with it' 'it was so hard for him, why didn't I understand that and stop crying' and he stole my iPad! Prick!
Others might be familiar with this but it was a new one on me; my ex used to insist we cooked and ate together so I'd end up eating the same as him I was never allowed to skip it or just have a sandwich or an apple and cheese. And as previously mentioned he was a big chap, and into his food.
Since I slung him out 5 weeks ago I have lost a stone. This isn't even the heartbreak diet. It's just being free.
What a prick.
Oh, donttrustmyself How awful Mines trivial after yours
Kalidanger nothing is trivial - I think that's the point of this thread! They might be evil dangerous men, or just pricks. We're allowed to complain here all the same.
kalidanger That's not trivial, dont apologise! They are all pricks in there own special way. The ex I mentioned above also wouldn't let me eat or talk about crisps, mayonnaise, any kind of meat or fish, kiwis or cuecumber! I mean come on!!! Even if I mentioned them he threw a tantrum. In the grand scheme of life it was trivial.....but drove me insannnnneeeee. Thank god we are freeeeeeee
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"I don't approve of kiwis"
I'm eating tons and tons today, to celebrate
TisILecLerc I have no idea....I think he just needed to have absolute control....his mother was slightly....highly strung about certain foods as well.
Kalidanger he text me the other day
having a pity party about how shit his life is to see how I was. I replied I'm good just been eating tons of crisps SMOTHERED in mayonnaise.
Was it mature, no, did it feel good, yeah, did I have a giggle at the horrified look that he would have on his face, yep he didn't text back for some reason.
I think ill join you in that kiwi celebration
I replied I'm good just been eating tons of crisps SMOTHERED in mayonnaise.
Is it ok to say that ex is a huge prick with a teeny cock or has that been said already? (but in my case it's true, I swear)
I think we can be repetitive if we want Besame ExMrLeCerc's got a weeny one, if I recall correctly.
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Another visit from prick last night. I somehow managed to not let him get to me this time, and mainly just laughed at what a prick he is.
My favourite bit was when he told me he'd been to get himself checked out at the drs and found out he had a bladder infection (I did have to ask whether he'd got a full body scan this time, couldn't resist ). He looked at me accusingly - this is the man who got the female petrol station attendant's number on his way to work when we were together - and said the doctor told him that the woman he got it from had kids and drank too much wine and that I should drink more water and juice
My favourite word is "knob head" I repeatedly said it last week whilst in court giving evidence against my knob head ex for all the vile things he has done to us!
My favourite word is "knob head" I repeatedly said it last week whilst in court giving evidence against my knob head ex for all the vile things he has done to us!
Knob head-I love it!!
Love it that much I've pressed the post button twice!
marryinhaste he sounds far more needy than a child!
Saying that when ExH left (initiated by him in the end, butI think he thought I'd beg for him to not leave - not this time!)
1) He stayed in the house for 6 months - for 6 weeks of this the house was in my name and I was paying all the bills and he was still sleeping in the master bedroom with me on the floor in the boxroom -
2) he didn't have the courage to tell his Mum despite visiting her (in Ireland) twice (and he swore my 9 yr old DD1 to secrecy )It wasn't until I spoke to her on the phone and she said that he'd been sleeping in the back room that I told her and finally suggested that I should have MY bed back
3) even then he threatened to come back at 3am and get in with me
4) He took 3 months sick off work saying he wouldn't be able to concentrate at work when things needed doing to his new house (he didn't do them, just made cups of tea for the workman) and I ended up having to go round and paint DD1's room. I'd also bought the kids beds so that they could stay there
5) He then worked for 6 months (well he took about a month off in that time) and took voluntary redundancy and now 9 months later is only doing a few shifts!!
There's no reason why he can't work. He tells me that he has no money to pay for the kids to do stuff but has the full Sky package and has been on about 7 holidays (involving plane journeys) in the last 12 months!!!
He spends his free time making life hard for me (sabotaging holidays, not answering texts and e-mails that are important and sending me insulting ones when not, saying stuff in front of the kids ......)
Sorry - got that off my chest now!!
None of it is major stuff, but it's just total knob head, prickish and twat badgery behaviour!
(and his ball were longer than his dick )
It wasn't unt
My ex is the biggest and baddest prick out of all of the pricks out there!!
And I was a total mug for staying with him for so long
He left me within 5 weeks of moving in, to go back to an xgf who then began emailing me vile stuff and silent phoning me all during the night.
He came back and then over the next few years left another 4 times to go back to same xgf.
We made an agreement that he would pay rent, council tax and monthly bills, while I would pay for
the things you could see immediately food, petrol, his cigarettes.
He didn't have a car so used mine to get to and from work, and I just kept filling it up with petrol while he drove it around.
He didn't pay any of the rent/council tax/bills while he was here, so all in all, he left me £18000+ in debt.
He was violent.
He was EA.
He always made sure I had no money and you couldn't even treat him without him taking the fucking piss, a chinese takeaway always ended up costing at least £30 just for him, because of course I was paying, thinking he was paying his share.
He stole money and goods from me and pawned them, money and goods from DS and pawned them, money from DD.
He chatted up women online and then went to meet them at my expense without telling me.
He embellished what I had confided in him, then told people who I mentioned when I had spoken to him in confidence.
He kicked my door in.
He called the police on me whenever I went out without telling him where I was going, saying I had MH issues and was not safe out on my own, even though this was not true.
He threatened to drop DD once because I couldn't take her from him immediately.
He left DD in the middle of a room I was sorting out, with all manner of things surrounding her and fucked off out because I wasn't showing him 100% of my attention!!
He has paid about £700 maintenance in 4 years and has stolen £800 more from me in that time.
He has never maintained contact with DD, and has left her waiting at the window for hours.
He tells everyone who will listen that I am evil, vile, nuts, crazy, not mentally fit to look after a child, yet he has never looked after DD on his own.
He has made numerous unsubstantiated allegations to SS, just to piss me off.
He accused my DS of sexually abusing DD, which was again unfounded.
He calls the police to come and check DD is safe with me, yet ignores her for up to a year when he meets someone new.
He convinced one gf to support him in his quest for residency, and between them, they made so many allegations to SS that I seriously wanted to fucking emigrate.
He refuses to have contact with DD so I can work, yet looks after his gf's DS and wont contribute anything financially, so I am constantly on my arse money wise and am stressed and I honestly think I will die in shitloads of debt.
He even threatened my friends with a gun, which they thought was real, but which was a BB gun.
He wiped green snot on the underside of my sofa cushions and left it to go hard.
Yes, he cooked. Yes, he cleaned. Yes, he was a hands on dad when he was here with DD.
But, he always made sure he cooked enough for 10 people, hence increasing the food bill, rang endless mobiles, just to chat, rang 0902 numbers when I was working evenings, and he could use a 500ml bottle of kitchen cleaner in a day, and I'm sure it was so I had to buy more!!!
All the little things add up.
He could go without cigarettes all day if I had no money for any, which was usually on my payday (weekly pay) and he'd have to wait until I got back from work to give him cigarettes.
When I handed over 40 cigs, he would go into the garden and smoke 30 in one evening (3-4 hours), even though he only had a 20 a day habit at most.
It really was as if he was deliberately doing every single tiny thing he could to squeeze as much money out of me as humanely possible.
wow that's a long list of awful behaviour, you must be so happy to be rid.
I love that you've included the snot wiping at the end.
How long have you been free?
I am happy now.
Yes, the snot wiping was particularly gross, but because I have some dignity, I didn't spread it around after we split. He, OTOH, has told new gf's things about me that I would really rather he didn't tell anyone, gynae (sp) problems I had that I had hoped he'd keep to himself, but alas that is who he is, at least he can't find out anything new and has to keep recycling the same old shite to new gf's because that's all he's got.
We have been split for 4 years now, but I suppose I am still angry at him because he has just dumped it all on me and moved on, and to add insult to injury, calls police and SS as often as he can and makes out I am the shit one.
He has, and continues to make my life difficult.
That's the price I suppose he is making me pay for having DD with him, even though it was him who was the driving force behind having a child.
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Mine (with the balls bigger than his dick) has actually been more amiable (although still hasn't answered my e-mail about the time around his holiday with the kids) - however, he did ask if I could pack for the kids to go to Ireland with him for 4 night.
He ends up with all the clothes at his (as I return school uniform each week) so I end up having to buy more and more and now he's incapable of packing.
He's trying to get me to come back from my trip with the kids to do it
Nothing serious, just a twat
I'm forgetting about mine. Thank god we don't have DCs. I went out with a friend tonight and he asked if I'd heard from X and I was like 'Who? Oh'
...ex hopes that the kids don't grow up thinking that their mum cared more about work than them and that they are 'latch-key' kids...???
Aw...no, would be a lot to deal with on top of
knowing thinking that their Dad is an adulterous, manipulative, cock-lodger...eh??
Am I too late?!
My ex is a complete prick!
He told me he was moving abroad, so I moved closer to family since the only reason I'd stayed was for the dcs to be near their dad. Once I'd moved he announced he was moving abroad because I'd stolen the dcs away from him!
He's decided that ds1 (14) is now a mate and not a son, and gives him beers with his (ex's) mates and f's and blinds with him. He confided in him all about his break up with his gf and his recent health problems. And ds1 feels responsible for his happiness
He's conveniently forgotten everything he put me and the dcs through. The EA of us all. The rape. The sexual assault. All never happened. The reason I left him (according to him) is because my expectations are unreasonable and I am incapable of being happy.
New dp is great and we are very very happy
That felt good!
I'm in too! My ex is a prick - a great example of being a prick...
'What do you mean you need child support? I think you'll find I gave the children quite enough money when we were all living together - did I not provide towards the children then? Well, did I not? You're just bitter, you just want, want, want don't you? I was warned about this when we split - my mother told me you'd become a bitch!'
He really, actually text me all that.... I kept it on my phone for ages and pulled it up when I needed a laugh...
So last week prick ex emails me saying he hopes for my sake the kids don't look back on being latch key kids when they are with me (they are in for a while after school til I get back, mainly playing with friends or watching tv). Today I find out that not only has he sent kids to his parents for third of his weekends in a row, but that they were left overnight on their own on Saturday night. My daughter is 15 and very responsible but I wouldn't leave her overnight....and they were in a house that's not their own and with two dogs. Unbelievable. They could have stayed with me!! Ex and his family would rather leave them alone though than risk me having an extra days access??
About 70 miles from home too and in a town where they don't know anyone in case if emergency. This is nuts.
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