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those little romantic gestures- tell me...

(51 Posts)
cheesesarnie Sun 20-Jan-13 15:35:04

what you've done or someone's done to you recently smile

Absoluteeightiesgirl Sun 20-Jan-13 15:36:43

Removing the snow and ice from my car in the morning

CuriosityKilledTheCrapTree Sun 20-Jan-13 15:44:06

Walking my dog in the snow and going out to buy fresh croissants, coffee and yoghurt drinks.

He is just lovely.

cheesesarnie Sun 20-Jan-13 15:44:14

smile

Slugslasher Sun 20-Jan-13 15:53:30

Tea and toast every morning; washes and valets my car; cooks luscious food; makes me g'n't's every night; rings me up on his way home from work every night to chat; makes me laugh!

wibblyjelly Sun 20-Jan-13 15:54:53

Sent me out for a massage when ds was 2 months old, so I could have a relaxing break.

Feel15again Sun 20-Jan-13 16:01:48

The object of my desires, not yet a DP but I'm working on that, sent me a bar of chocolate because life is always better with chocolate,wrapped around the chocolate was an copy of an email confirming his plane ticket to the UK for next month.

KumquatMae Sun 20-Jan-13 16:07:11

My wonderful dp often sees something in a trip to the shop that he has to buy me - nothing huge and not always your textbook romantic things like flowers or chocolate, things like a new nice pen he knew I would like, or a clip on light for my e-reader.
He is in the habit, now it is so cold, of tucking me up on the sofa with my blanket and bringing me a mug of hot chocolate with squirty cream and cinnamon.
And when he gets up for work he always blows a kiss from the bedroom doorway, he thinks I'm still asleep.

We have been together four years and he's been getting more and more romantic and thoughtful as time goes on.

NeverBeenToMe Sun 20-Jan-13 16:11:08

After a lovely first date I got an email with a link to The Beatles"I want to hold your hand" on YouTube smile

Slugslasher Sun 20-Jan-13 16:20:08

Before iPods, he used to make me compilation tapes and set them up in my car ready to play with romantic songs on.

IDrankAllTheGravy Sun 20-Jan-13 16:26:35

Brought me dippy egg and toast and a cup of tea to wake me up from my lay in this morning.

The other day when I came back from my first run he had a bath waiting with a big cold glass of juice smile

He does lots of other little things, definitely a good egg

BardOfBarking Sun 20-Jan-13 16:36:11

DH climbed out through DS bedroom window to draw a heart in the snow on the kitchen skylight. grin

twostepsfromhell Sun 20-Jan-13 17:06:12

DP waited out in the snow for me after an evening class just to walk me home (back to my home, in the opposite direction to his). smile

Melissakitkat Sun 20-Jan-13 17:24:46

My dp bought me a lovely engagement ring to replace the one I lost.

Insecure24 Sun 20-Jan-13 17:48:27

Wrote "I love you" in the sand the first time he ever told me, leaves me little notes in my handbag or coat pocket to find when i get to work, runs me bubble baths with candles for some 'me time', tells
me he loves me and how beautiful he think I am all the time, offers me his coat when we're out and I'm cold. He gets more romantic every day grin

AltinkumATEalltheTurkey Sun 20-Jan-13 18:06:05

He does lots of little things, he booked me surprise weekends away at least once a year. Makes me breakfast. Tea etc... Every morning.

Today, I came in from work and he's booked is a fortnight away to Spain.

cheesesarnie Sun 20-Jan-13 18:09:32

they all sound lovely!

Wrote 'I love you' in the ice on my car windscreen.
Has kept me stocked up with logs all winter because he's worried I'll be cold.
Builds a fire for me every time he comes round.
Notices when things are about to run out and replaces them - silly things like boxes of matches, dog food - but stuff like that is a big help when you work full time.
Does my ironing even though we don't live together.
Tells me he loves me several times a day.
Tells me I'm beautiful (I'm not).
Is kind to my kids and pets.
Buys me little things like DVDs of shows I've mentioned that I like, just because.

He's lovely...

yoyo123 Sun 20-Jan-13 18:30:51

just gave me his lovely smile..while wrestling the last of the bottle of wine from my grasp!

susanann Sun 20-Jan-13 18:35:51

Brings me tea in bed, tells me Im beautiful and that he loves me, puts up with my depression, is supporting me in loads of ways(inc financially) as Im unemployed at the moment. Is generous and keeps wanting to buy me things and is just generally wonderful! Getting married in May.

cheesesarnie Sun 20-Jan-13 19:53:40

aww everyones so nice!!

Cailinsalach Sun 20-Jan-13 22:03:18

Mine bought me thermal underwear for Christmas

( hang on....that's shite, isn't it?)

DiscretionAdvised Sun 20-Jan-13 22:05:28

Recorded himself singing/ playing a song that I love and emailed it to me.

Shame we're both living with someone else. But only for a few more weeks.

Pilgit Sun 20-Jan-13 22:54:34

did the 4am feed of our newborn so that I could get a full nights sleep (this could be classed as self serving rather than a romantic gesture as I turn into a screaming harpy on acid with prologued fatigue, but I'm going with romantic!)

Pilgit Sun 20-Jan-13 23:00:14

Let him have a lie in this morning - and picked up a full night feeding of DD2 on christmas eve as he'd been working stupid hours as well as dealing with a new born and a 3yr old (and their lunatic mother....)

Utterlylostandneedtogo Sun 20-Jan-13 23:05:23

Erm

SparkyDudess Sun 20-Jan-13 23:06:52

Phones me as he leaves work - we spend his 30 min drive home talking about anything but DS.

Goes miles out of his way to go to several stationers so he could bring me a selection of pens as I'd cried that morning when I couldn't hold a standard one.

Buys me jelly babies as they're the only sweets I like, and then bans DS from eating the red ones as they're my favourite.

Cuts me slack when I'm a hormonal irrational nightmare (every month).

Washes my hair when I can't do it.

LemonDrizzled Sun 20-Jan-13 23:12:58

Makes me bedtime cups of tea and plies me with cake
Defrosts my windscreen in the morning before work
Makes me tea and porridge in the morning
Pumps up my bike tyres adjusts my gears and mends my punctures
Worries about me when I'm driving on my own
Makes me laugh overlooks my faults and is my friend!

namechangecity Sun 20-Jan-13 23:13:51

for those of us that get none of this (ever) this is a tad depressing....grin

Mosschops30 Mon 21-Jan-13 00:13:13

Quick poll, can't help but notice that a lot of these are dps!
Are they second goes for both of you.

I have a theory that people who divorce then couple up are much better because they learnt where they fucked up first time round

Mosschops30 Mon 21-Jan-13 00:15:32

Oh and I never get any of this either

Longdistance Mon 21-Jan-13 00:20:45

I don't get anything like this sad feeling rather depressed now.

LemonDrizzled Mon 21-Jan-13 00:26:28

yes moss I was married for 26 years (divorce hearing on Tuesday) and my H was a selfish taker who let me run around after him. So I left.

Now I am with a lovely kind man who also had an unkind W who left him.

We are a "recycled couple" and we are in a state of unmarried bliss at how nice it is to be with someone who cherishes you.

He isn't here tonight because of the snow and ice so I am MNetting and hugging a hot water bottle.

If things get stale and he takes me for granted I shall speak out this time. I let my marriage fall apart because I was a doormat last time!

KumquatMae Mon 21-Jan-13 00:34:28

Funnily enough Moss, yes! Very much like LemonDrizzled, first time around I was with a man who talked the talk to start with, wrote me pages and pages of poetry, wanted to be with me forever etc...soon as I moved in with him he gave up on it and started controlling and abusing me.

I still sometimes have silly moments where I worry about something that ex would have punished me for, but my dp will laugh it off or talk it through with me. I know you can never predict the future perfectly but I'm as sure as I can be that dp will never mistreat me, and if he does I won't stand for it.

Aspiemum2 Mon 21-Jan-13 00:50:41

Dh gets up with the 1st twin to wake and at weekends gets them both to leave me sleeping. He wakes me about 9 with a hot cup of tea but has been known to leave me a lot later. He also empties the dishwasher before I get up.
He also defrosts the car for me, cooks and irons.
Yes this is a second relationship (can't say marriage as at least had the brains not to marry ea ex)

Much, much happier but I knew more about who I was and what I wanted. Exdp said all the right things at 1st but quickly changed whereas dh was just himself from day 1. No grand gestures no early declarations of love.

Aspiemum2 Mon 21-Jan-13 00:53:08

Kumquat, I know what you mean. Dh does tell me I say sorry a lot. He laughs and says "I'm not your dad, stop apologising". He knows the history and its his way of diffusing it and putting me at ease.

namechangecity Mon 21-Jan-13 07:57:20

Wow how interesting that it looks like lots of these are second time rounds....! We all have to draw out own conclusions about what it say about each of us that don't get this now.

Mosschops30 Mon 21-Jan-13 08:29:26

namechange exactly!!!!
I feel taken for granted, not respected, not loved hmm don't get any of these things

jessjessjess Mon 21-Jan-13 10:31:44

My DH went out in the snow yesterday to get me the Sunday papers. Which only I read.

He gets up and goes to work first, then rings me to say good morning.

Every relationship needs little kindnesses!

Yup, second time around. Third for dp grin

I think he's learned a lot...

Interesting what poster above said about worrying and waiting for punishment. I can't believe what dp let's me get away with. When I say this to him he just looks nonplussed and says "But you haven't done anything wrong".

I can't believe how much shitty baggage my marriage has left me with. Hope stbx isn't as much of a mess, but sadly I imagine he is...

lets

Doh!

pepitoincognito Mon 21-Jan-13 11:43:18

hmm, last couple of days

DH wiped down the stairs and window sills unprompted (60 stairs - so you know, fairplay), went for a long walk with me in the snow on Sunday and took me out to dinner on Friday

I cooked him lots of lovely meals and washed up, picked up his drycleaning, made his lunch for work, hung out his underpants to dry and put them away, made him cups of tea. I was also pleasant to his brother who I don't think much of at all.

Not too romantic as such but you know, we try and appreciate each other daily.

Astelia Mon 21-Jan-13 12:26:58

He did used to make me compilation tapes thirty years ago. Now I get chauffeured to the hairdressers as it is hard to park, and he picks me up when I am done. And I get nice Christmas presents.

We are not remotely lovey-dovey but I think we are kind and thoughtful to each other.

ihatethecold Mon 21-Jan-13 13:39:27

I have such a lovely DH. He has supported me through so many family problems. He always has time to listen to me.
Has dinner ready for me when I get in from work at the weekend.
Does the washing etc.
brings me a cup of tea every morning.
Always makes me feel good about myself.

I'd like to think I'm the same with himsmile

JuliaSqueezer Mon 21-Jan-13 13:55:20

Brings me breakfast in bed whenever he's on lates or has a day off

Puts books on my Kindle because he knows I love reading

Takes my car to the petrol station/ does all the maintenance on it

Always gets me something nice for birthday, Christmas, Valentine's etc and for wedding anniversaries he buys me the same flowers I carried in my wedding bouquet.

Has been known to put cash and a little note in my purse "Buy yourself something nice" if I'm off on a shopping trip

Currently being very supportive of my diet and is happy to eat the same food

First marriage for both of us so the second time round theory doesn't apply here, been together eighteen years smile

susanann Mon 21-Jan-13 14:44:06

This is such a lovely positive thread. Im loving it.

2nd time here!

cheesesarnie Tue 22-Jan-13 15:06:42

awwww i'm glad i asked!

sorry to those who feel sad after reading though! that wasnt intention!

ive just come out of a 13 year marriage and am 7 weeks in to a new (lovely) relationship. i think ive reverted to a 13 school girl with a crush grin.

sooooooooo dp (still can't get used to saying it!) cooked me a lovely dinner last night. all very well thought out as im veggie and hes not. he kept ringing to see if i could eat mushrooms and red onions!

susanann Tue 22-Jan-13 18:14:59

aw bless! enjoy!

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Tue 22-Jan-13 18:40:55

Thanks cheese, you've prompted me to text my DH who is a bloody marvel.

Him: gets the kids to get me flowers whenever they all go food shopping
Me: rearranged my whole day of meetings to go to his favourite shop for a birthday present.

carlywurly Tue 22-Jan-13 20:02:02

Has phoned every single day since we first spoke on the phone 3 years ago- no matter where in the world he is. Texts every morning to say hello and every night if we're not together.

Gets up before me to bring me coffee in bed without ever being asked.

Makes up silly songs and endless pet names for me.

Is never unkind, not even in jest.

Is kind and affectionate with my boys.

Finds my high maintenance moments endearing grin

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