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That's just it - thought I'd be fine with it but feeling quite sad. Not feeling that well either which doesn't help..

Ex is away with ds and friends either away or doing "family" things. My first Nye on my own. Think I'll treat it as any other day. Anyone else in the same position?

I am but a different situation - I'm last man standing from what was meant to be a family new year - they've all got D&V so it's me, a pizza (no point doing the food!) but I'm opening the champagne!

DS4 is with me, but he's got his headphones on and is deep in some kind of meaningful internet research (to do with monsters I expect), so I might as well be alone. May open a bottle of port later but can't swig too much as I'm working tomorrow, tragically. Apart from that last bit it's all good.

I'm here too with DH, but he is watching some Man type TV programme, so I will be around this evening too.

I'm home alone, too

Me too.... And loving it!

I'm with dc. It feels ok. Certainly better than watching

Ex H get hammered and abusive and waking up with dread at what l will find in the living room after he's pulled an all nighter.

Not quite alone - I've got 2 kids and the dog for company <sigh!>

If I can get the boys to stay in bed I think I'll do some cleaning - it's nice to wake up on Jan 1st to a sparkling house and no hangover

Think i'd probably be ok about it, if I weren't feeling a bit rubbish..

Thanks for your replies, nice to know i'm not the only one

Completely alone - DCs on lovely holidays with friends and relations. TBH I don't do NYE anymore even if not on my own. It's all about next year hopefully being better than this. Don't feel that optimistic.
Isn't it nice to have a period of calm/space without DCs? Might watch a real grown up film later.
Actually not completely alone - companionable cat here.

akaemma - sounds like you had a lucky escape!

Here with flu (again) and a ton of revision. Don't even feel chipper enough to have bubbly. But I am not lonely, I quite like the idea of having the house to myself (bar one child not going out).

Don't treat it like every day. I always write in my new diary my thoughts and hopes for the forthcoming year (lose weight, get laid, not get anymore grey hair) and then on each New Year Eve I sit down, alone, and re read what I wrote a year ago. (you are not allowed to peak during the year) Try that!

Just me here, although I have my dogs for company. DH , DS and DD are in the USA but I was too ill to go.
Feeling a little sorry for myself.

i'm home alone with DD, DH has just gone out to work to entertain all the rest of the world (so it feels like) who are out partying

am feeling right sorry for myself now <--- that is actually me

<pours >

Indeed theend and there's not a day goes by when I am not thankful for it.

Champagne for one on ice here too.

I've been in excrutiataing pain with a knee problem and am hobbling around on <sob> crutches. It looks as if my downhill racing days are over <weeps>

The painkillers I've been prescribed knock me out and I haven't got the energy to get out of my jammies put the glad rags on.

This will be the first time I've spent NYE solo, but as there's a number events I could attend if only I could be arsed it doesn't seem like a big deal to be home alone.

Here's to 2013

DD is off to a friend's in a couple of hours, I will call in to my parents & then come home to a box set of Downton (thanks DD!) a bottle few glasses red wine, and a blazing fire.

Also ham in coke just on cooker now so should be ready 9ish, mmmm!

No crowds, overpriced drinks, walking in heels, no dearth of taxis, bliss...

I've done it through choice - the first time is always the hardest but you'll soon realise you've broken the tyrany of NYE!

I bought my favourite food that didn't need load of work (mussels in garlic, white wine and chilli) and a couple of bottle of champagne. Had bubble bath with tunes blaring, candles lit and wafted about the place singing and upsetting the neighbours. It was fab. And you'll wake up feeling virtuous whilst the rest of country weeps into their hangover.

Am out this year but SO nearly bailed for the above!

Enjoy.

My hopes for the new year are a miracle cure and getting back on the piss piste, MUS. Is it worth recording those for posterity?

Oh thanks - all these messages are making me feel better

Thanks mumsnet - keep them coming!!!

I have a bottle of champers in the fridge. Just found out my DH now has to work late so it'll be just me and my 4mo DS.

Shortly putting DS to bed. Would it be very wrong to open a bottle of champagne that'll be just for me?

I can hear teen DC getting ready for their respective nights out which we will leave me home alone

Champagne chilling, skyplus lined up, MN, nice food to eat up - bliss

No it wouldnt Bazing !

Ooh candles, must light some! I've a Yankee wax burner with cinnamon smellies so that's going on too. Happy 2013 all!

dh is working away so once dd is in bed just me,a glass or two of baileys,chocolates and the tv.
won't be staying up though as did a nightshift last night and haven't been to bed today and i'm starting to feel weary now.
happy new year x

I'm here with DD (5) but she'll be asleep by 8pm <optimistic> and I'll then pretend it doesn't matter that I'm all on my own, watching tv. Then, I'll have a bit of a cry and then pull myself together and laugh at myself.

I'm in. All on my own as my plans for tonight fell through. Kids with their mum. First NYE since we separated a few months back so could have done with being somewhere with someone. Oh well..

Just me and nibbles at the moment, kids all out and dh has met up with a couple of friends and will be back soon. I am enjoying the peace and quiet and want to wake up at normal time tomorrow. I could have had a house full of people which would have been nice but having spent hours tidying the house last week I could not face tomorrow washing glasses and tidying again Happy New Year everybody!

I'm home alone - but not too bothered really. I don't like NY particularly. I'm avoiding doing jobs and housework, watching tv and doing some craft stuff. Aiming to get an earlyish night because I'm really tired! I hope none of my neighbours are too drunk nad noisy at 1.00am!

Well I've got Ds and DD (both under 2) so in about an hour when they're off to bed I'll be all alone and I LOVE it. Best thing about getting divorced was discovering the relaxed joy of not going out on NYE. I'm glad now that DH2 works NYE so that I can continue them alone . I've got a bottle of sparkling chambourcin, some prawns and some stinky cheese - none of which DH would appreciate if he were here. Bliss!

Happy New Year everybody

Home alone with 2 small dcs. First nye since divorce. Not really bothered. Didn't have a sitter and dc2 too young to leave.
Not bothered really its just another night but dc2 had a friend over and made a mess and my head is banging and there's nowt on telly

Get thee down your local c11.00pm, Bill I love pubs on Christmas and New Year Eves.

Hello Izzy I remember you from some of my (awful) threads when I was thinking about splitting up with vstbx h. We're nearly there now - should have decree absolute soon Thanks for all your honesty. think you may have posted on my thread about that "awful part time boyfriend" too = he's well and truly in the past too

Kind of.
Home with 1 yo DD, just gone to sleep, while DH and DS (4) have gone to a party. There will be lots of kids there.

I'm home alone dcs in bed and have been feeling quite tearful all day so i think i might have a bath and go to bed try and get some sleep.

happy new year to you all xx

I'm home alone. Son 1 has gone out. Others are with their Dad.

To be honest feeling a bit low but all the more reason not to go off in search of a drink. A hangover free morning and a good walk will do me a lot more good than a night in the pub.

im on my own by choice had a message earlier from a guy i dated from smooch.com did i want some company tonight, lets say the last date wasnt a raging success so i lied and said nope going out lol, given the choice between company i dont want and being on me own i chose to be me

I'm putting dd to bed then shall be sat here alone too. Wouldn't normally bother me but had no invites out and a crappy couple of months with no sign of things getting better. Chocolate for me tonight!

I'm going to get a bit of a strategy together though.

I know I can change my life because 19 years ago today I gave up smoking. Not a puff since. I reckon that's about 7000 cigarettes I haven't smoked.

On the list is to get running/cycling again, get dating (!), and start a new volunteer role. Also want to get a couple of jobs done in the house. Perhaps this time next year I'll be stepping out of my new bath, preparing to eat the wonderful meal my new lover has cooked for me.

My DH is working away from home and my 2 DC are tucked up in bed. Do I wish I was doing something more exciting? Of course but I refuse to wallow and so I'm going to sit in front of the fire and watch some telly.

Oh, and after reading about everyone else's solitary drinking intentions, I to am going to open the bubbly in the fridge!

Happy New Year Mumsnetters! X

Here at home with my two dds, first NYE post- (recent) separation.

Would rather be at home than out any day. Hate NYE with all that drunkenness forced jollity.

Ex-dh has gone to a party at some friends who have been really horrible since we separated and treated me like the antichrist.

They invited my kids too but I thought no, you're not fucking having my kids at your house on NYE!! Dh is cross but I don't care, I don't want them being driven two hours there and back with drunk drivers on the road either.

2012's been shit so bring on 2013!

Happy New Year everyone

Another one here! I've been a taxi driver to my kids and will have to take my daughter from one party to another in an hour or so, then I'm settling down on the sofa to watch When Harry Met Sally with a glass or thereabouts of wine and some Boursin and crackers.

First NYE in on my own but you know what? I don't care!

me too....As they are all out i was just thinking of sweeping and mopping the kitchen floors then thought "you sad old bag!!"

Lovely to start the new year with clean floors!

Not when H. met S. shorely! <sets recorder>

No, clean house for new year is v spiritually satisfying. Is my belief.

not on my own but might as well be... the DDs are in bed, scary STBEXH watching TV. I am hiding out in bedroom with books, films on laptop, icecream and chocolate and will not be going anywhere!

A bit sad but hopefully next new year will be more fun. Plus it's a rainy, windy night here and I couldn't be doing with going outside

Me! Well, sitting here with 2 dds and DH in bed poorly. Might treat myself to a couple of glasses of wine. Don't think I'll be up at 12!

I'm home alone, through choice! I have a curry and a bottle of bucks fizz and there is nowhere I'd rather be

Me too x

Was feeling a bit sorry for myself till I read that I am not the only one!

2012 may have ended on a low point, but I am determined to end 2013 on a positive note

Home alone-ish, Dc one unwell one annoying unwell DC, me drinking with the dog and a cat, I detested NewYear when with X so boring, not allowed to get all fuzzy in the head or anything.... I love being alone-ish! I also have a random crush....he is making my head feel all fluffy, or that be may the

Happy New Year... I shall not be seeing 12am!

Hello - my sister suggested I login here when I phoned in tears - first NYE as separated and, like you, tried hard to be ok with it but now struggling. Is EVERYONE in a couple, or is it part of that hideous syndrome, that I last experienced years ago after a miscarriage when every woman I saw seemed to be pregnant? Either way, it is horribly hard, and I send you a hug and raise my lukewarm glass to you and 2013 - lucky for some?

Sorry, it's not on tv at the moment - going to watch it on my laptop.

BillM - I completely relate - trying hard to be happy alone, huge gaping gap where someone to snuggle should be! Chin up and teeth gritted - onwards and upwards!

Yep - ex H has taken the DDs away for a few days. This is my third NYE home alone in a row, I think. It's daft because I hate NYE anyway and haven't actually done anything to celebrate it for about 10 years, regardless of whether I'm with people or not, but this year I've felt quite lonely and wish I was snuggled up on the sofa with my children. Still, I've got some pink fizz and a plate of party food (leftover in freezer from Christmas Eve) and I think I feel a million times better knowing that it's not just me! Happy new year to you all.

Tiredofwaitingforitalltochange - Good for you!! 2013 has to be better!!

"me too....As they are all out i was just thinking of sweeping and mopping the kitchen floors then thought "you sad old bag!!"

Ha - that's me then - the sad old bag. I don't care! I've not actually got around to the kitchen floor yet, but I've been batch cooking and cleaning the kitchen and clearing out rubbish. I've got a load of washing in the machine too!

Squirrel- sorry you are finding it hard. No not everyone is in a "couple". It's fine not to be! I'm not adverse to being in a couple if the right man comes along but I'd rather be single than with the wrong one!!

Hey ladies, some of us are married but still lonely. In fact being single is less lonely so count them blessings. Happy new year to all you strong independant people x

I'm currently in bed with a cuppa and CDWM .

This is my perfect nye

Another one here! First NYE on my own and I'm supposed to be in a relationship - "DP" has gone to a pub - I could have gone but would have to walk 3 miles home. He preferred that to staying in with me... Methinks 2013 will be the year for a new DP ..

I'm on my own as DH works new year in a pub so won't be home til 2.30am ish. DD asleep, had bubble bath, nibbles and bucks fizz. About to watch film I recorded, whilst eating chocolate in bed!

Nowhere else I'd rather be

Hear hear, educatingarti. Better alone and with possibilities than in a couple wondering if this is 'it', or worse, how to escape.

educatingarti - Thank you - I was a couple for so long still finding it hard - feels a bit like an amputation!! And trying to remember that he often didn't make me that happy. Funny how one views the past through rose tinted spectacles.

DCs and me...thank Goodness...first New Year without abusive Ex ---->

am considering loud music and a conga in celebration.

and a wee small prayer that he will vanish in a puff of smoke and I'll never have to deal with him again (or I would settle with the solicitor of the year tying him up in so much red tape he looks like a Christmas present...for next year, for someone else...except i wouldn't wish him on anyone!)

/ to you all, wherever you may be

Well done, foolonthehill. (good name!).

First NYE post separating from my DH of 30 years too. Just me and the children who all want to stay up until midnight to watch the fireworks on the TV. I always thought going out for NY was hugely overrated and overpriced so am happy to be home with a glass of Baileys and the Christmas tree lights on. Think we will all light candles and make a New Year's wish at midnight.

Happy New Year everyone

Foolonthehill - me too!

However I still feel a bit isolated. I dunno why because none of my close friends are doing anything spectacular.its the pressure I suppose.
I seem to go around I. Circles emotionally because of holiday season. I was ticking over and then I got back in touch with a close male friend because he has just left an ltr and for a while I was lots happier then it got to ny and because he's a bloke and they don't get saddled with the kids he went out. So I feel a bit crap again. For one night it's silly I don't know why it gets to me

You too 3mum x

3mum, Sleepy, Bill, look on the bright side. At least you (and I) don't have the agony of separating in 2013 because we did that in 2012!! 2013 is going to be the year for getting used to, and starting to enjoy, single life again.

Good luck to cheeky, fool and Phwooar for finding a bit more happiness in 2013 too x

I've just put a bottle of Chablis in the fridge and am going to enjoy it never mind that nsdh is probably slagging me off to all and sundry at that party right this minute!

I may as well be here on my own

Happy new year everyone! Lovely to hear posts from those out of unworthy relationships. Just a few days out of a 18month waste of time relationship as the red flags of emotional abuse were flying!! I'm in tonight with my ds's who are now asleep. I have a glass of wine, mumsnet and tv. What a great way to spend NYE!! happy to be alone and calm :-) Work tomorrow or I'd be smashed by now!!

Wow - didn't expect so many responses when I started this thread!!
Have had a couple of glasses of wine and a nice dinner - feeling quite tearful now though. Thinking of my future life alone, missing the nice things about stbex aand wondering if I should jut have put up with things

My young DSs are asleep, SBXH downstairs txting his married mistress not realising I know he wants to kick me and his sons out and move her and her kids into the family home.

Its the calm before the storm, my calmness helped by the purring cat on my knee while I watch tv in my bedroom.

2013 will be a rollercoaster but I'm determined to make the best of it.

I'm not alone, have my son who is 22 pacing the floor and crying, having a full blown breakdown.
His ads are not working
Would still prefer this than being with the most abusive ex ever

Happy new year

I'm in on my own too. Daughter with friends and son with his dad. Have it nice and cosy watching Robbie in concert. Not too bad. I am lonely tho

Wow googol what a horrible situation.

You sound like a brave and strong woman though. Keep fighting and all the best for 2013 x

Yes, but not bothered, it is not the first time. Anyway as I am in Europe I only have another few minutes to go then I can go to bed, as long as there isn't the usual tirade of fireworks, which there will be.

I had a power cut and sat for 2 hrs this evening, NYE, alone, cold, hungry and in the dark. Was feeling black and bitter.

Then a lovely man came from EDF and fixed it! In 30 mins!

Enough to make me most happy. Me and Mr Cory (cat) are nipping in early with some ham off the bone and prosecco.

I'm almost alone too- Have a very poorly dh and ds1 here. We've had to cancel our plans for tonight (which weren't that exciting tbh...) because of the flu. Dh & DS1 are watching Battlestar Galactica on Lovefilm and I'm on MN drinking Other 2 dc in bed.

Sorry to hear the awful stories here though. <offers hugs>

Hugs (well it is NYE and I am slightly sozzled) to all those who are alone and feeling lonely.

Lord no theendishere your life now can be whatever you make of it.

NYE 2005 I was exactly where you are now. NYE 2007 I was home alone having been ill all Christmas and I accidentally poked my now DH on a dating website. First convo was me explaining why I was sadly home alone NYE. 5 days later we met and the rest is history. I may be still home alone on NYE thaks to DH working but all is soo good and I am sooo grateful I got through those first horrible months after splitting with ExH and had faith that the bad times would pass.

They will. xxxx

Thank you tired. Yes its awful and I know it will be really hard at times but I know the future will be ok. Hopefully this time next year I can be like these lovely women who have got through it and have come out the other side.

Starting to enjoy knowing how sozzled I'd be by now if I'd gone out, and knowing that I wouldn't have got home until about 2.

Happy New Year everyone! (especially those who are struggling tonight).

Happily home alone for NYE, which is how I like it. Used to spend the evening watching Manga films with a mate, but she has dogs (LOADS of dogs) so can't stay here, and I won't stay at hers as they pee, run through it then jump up over me! So I'm better off here than there, and better off not being the designated driver & having drunks throwing up over my car

am here alone, my 8th one. not alone completely as have dd. but it's a bit lonely.

oh have baileys too. am hoping for good positive things in 2013. and hopefully my last new yr alone for ever! x

Im currently awaiting the arrival of dh from work. He is supposed to be here for the bells for the first time in 5 years however it is getting close now and I have no idea if he'll make it or not I was so excited too. <sigh>

I am here by myself. This time last year I was alone too, waiting for my partner to come back the next day. Now I'm single and not waiting for anything, just by myself. I could have ventured into the city centre and found some people but I couldn't be bothered. I feel a bit conflicted because there's so much pressure to DO something, but I am happy indoors in the safe and warm, rather than out there with all the alcohol and trouble of getting home. Just trying to convince myself a bit, really :/ I feel really sad like I should have forced myself out.

ohhh what are we all watching - just turned the ITV news on but not sure if I should stay on it!

He didnt make it

DS asleep, STBXH banished to a different room.

I found out on NYE two years ago that he was cheating on me. I was in floods of tears at the time and at this time last year. This year, I am sad, but no tears. 2 years on and I am still stuck living with him, unable to sell up the house without ending up with masses of debt, for fear of losing residency of my DS and having to consider yet another career change (after the one I planned whilst the STBXH was still in play came back to bite me in the arse with the (in hindsight) terrible timing and its utter incompatibility with caring for DS on a daily basis). I'm clearly suffering from insomnia and depression and have been ever since it all came crashing down around my ears two years ago - instead of seeing a doctor, I am self-medicating with painkillers (albeit legally prescribed for something unrelated) which give me the effect I am looking for - a temporary inability to feel pain, both physically and emotionally.

Thirty minutes ago, I was outside having a cheeky fag and contemplating stepping out in front of a fast-moving car. Now, I'm shaking my head at my propensity for histrionic melodramatics.

2013 - I don't know if it will be better but I find it hard to see how it can be any worse than the preceding two years.

(I'm now off to have another cheeky fag - this time in the back garden, mind )

HardWorker (((unmumsnetty new year hugs))))

Hardworker, happy new year and take care. Of course 2013 will be better x

Thanks tall and tired. Life is already looking a bit brighter now the sun is shining

Hardworker - could you make your NY resolution to get to the GP and get some help? ADs will probably help you more than painkillers.

I hope 2013 is kinder.