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How many exes are on your FB?

(59 Posts)
Smeghead Sat 06-Oct-12 01:25:32

Trying to work out what is normal.

I have one, who I went out with for 3 months when I was 15! It was more a brief (and very chaste) interlude in a very long friendship.

NewNames Sat 06-Oct-12 01:27:04

Two ex boyfriends, and a few shags. Nice guys. Wouldn't have been with them if they weren't.

CouthyMowWearingOrange Sat 06-Oct-12 01:30:20

3.

izzyizin Sat 06-Oct-12 01:38:25

None as, happily, I see no reason to subscribe to a load of old FuckBollocks.

lostpigeon Sat 06-Oct-12 01:49:14

at least 25

Dryjuice25 Sat 06-Oct-12 02:00:20

Not on facebook ever.......and would probably never befriend any of my exes if I was subscribed

Thumbwitch Sat 06-Oct-12 02:04:14

1 only - he was a friend first, then we went out briefly, then went back to being friends. We went to each others' weddings too, and his wife is also on my FB. No drama there.

Wouldn't bother with any others though.

Smeghead Sat 06-Oct-12 02:16:21

So not normal to "friend" every ex you have ever had then? Even the complete nightmares?

Smeghead Sat 06-Oct-12 02:17:16

Caveat....I loathe FB but have family and friends that have moved away and it is the easiest way to KIT. The ex I do have on there moved to Canada with his DW, otherwise he wouldnt be on there either!

Thumbwitch Sat 06-Oct-12 02:17:28

No that would be very weird, Smeghead and suggest unresolved ishoos and possible stalkerish tendencies.
grin

Smeghead Sat 06-Oct-12 02:40:09

Not stalkerish but definitely ishoos, infact I would go so far as to say ISHOOOOOS. sad

izzyizin Sat 06-Oct-12 02:45:59

My family is scattered across the globe and we KIT by phone/email/skype. Some of the younger generation have FB accounts but they're aware I won't be viewing/contributing or otherwise using that particular medium in any way.

Smeghead Sat 06-Oct-12 02:50:17

This isnt about my FB use, but someome elses, can we stick to the question please rather than slagging of FB? Cheers smile

Smeghead Sat 06-Oct-12 02:50:33

off not of!

Thumbwitch Sat 06-Oct-12 02:52:05

Well I guessed it wasn't you Smeghead - is it an ex of yours who has tried to friend you, or some family/friend who is trying to friend all their exes?

Smeghead Sat 06-Oct-12 02:54:51

Or my husband.............. sad

Smeghead Sat 06-Oct-12 02:55:34

That would be the same husband who had a sexting affair with an ex when I was pg.

dont say it, just dont.

I know.

Thumbwitch Sat 06-Oct-12 03:03:56

Ah feck, I'm sorry to hear that Smeghead. sad

izzyizin Sat 06-Oct-12 03:11:01

FB is the spawn of the devil in much the same way as your ex. Think about it and buy a long spoon.

joblot Sat 06-Oct-12 08:01:00

I'm friends with 2 exes on fb. They are friendly in real life too. Would not be friends virtually or in reality with the horrid ones. Actually one is bonkers but I'm still in touch with her now adult kids and it was a very long time ago

I think it's like real life- avoid the idiots

DinosaursOnASpaceship Sat 06-Oct-12 08:18:51

I've got to try and count them blush

I have:

Casual relationship man that used to fill in gaps between relationships. Nice guy.
Ex fiancée from a few years ago. We still get on well.
Ex husband. We share photos of the dc although he doesn't use it very often.
Ex boyfriend. Went out for a year at school and then again for a few months as adults.
Recent exp - but he's deactivated his account.
A few short flings.

So umm quite a few.

picnicbasketcase Sat 06-Oct-12 08:20:14

None, I don't have any exes.

BrittaPerry Sat 06-Oct-12 08:22:27

I only have two exes. One was an adult who took advantage of me when I was too young, so he can fuck off.

Other doesn't have fb, but I have his new girlfriend, who is lovely smile

Februarytwotimes Sat 06-Oct-12 08:45:18

16.

BikeRunSki Sat 06-Oct-12 08:50:06

None, deliberately.

Shesparkles Sat 06-Oct-12 08:50:46

7. None of them very serious, but I've never parted with a guy on bad terms

annalovesmrbates Sat 06-Oct-12 08:50:47

3

annalovesmrbates Sat 06-Oct-12 08:50:47

3

itsallinmyhead Sat 06-Oct-12 08:51:49

At least 3 for me. All good men, whom I respect.

pinkyp Sat 06-Oct-12 08:52:26

It's not normal, one or 2 would be fine but everyone...Noooo

issimma Sat 06-Oct-12 08:54:42

My first boyfriend, but he rarely uses fb and we never chat or message on it (did once briefly and innocently) and he posted Congratulations on my wall when DD was born. May as well defriend actually.
Have added others in the past when I was single, but only for a quick stalk then delete grin.

LucieMay Sat 06-Oct-12 08:55:32

Shagged eight of em.

BigFatLegsInWoolyTIghts Sat 06-Oct-12 08:55:33

Gosh none!

Fairylea Sat 06-Oct-12 08:58:34

None. I have blocked every single one.

My ex husband left me for an ex he got back in touch with on fb. And this was an ex he was only with 6 months and we had been together 5 years.

So now I don't have any exes on my fb and my new dh is the same. It's just a massive no no for me.

ThePlatypusAlwaysTriumphs Sat 06-Oct-12 08:58:47

I have 1 "ex" on my FB- I agreed to his friend request out of nosiness, but now feel like defriending him would be rude blush. I never speak to him, and I've hidden his posts as DH got upset about me "seeing everything he was up to". I would have de-friended him if I wasn't such a wuss

LucieMay Sat 06-Oct-12 09:04:00

I'm friends with all of mine, a lot of whom are now married. They were flings from years ago.

Nagoo Sat 06-Oct-12 09:13:44

most of them, cause I don't have sex with dickheads, they were all nice people I would speak to and take an interest in.

Nothing worrying or wierdy.

OhEmGee24 Sat 06-Oct-12 09:19:05

4 but they were all just three month flings between the ages of 18-22.

TheKettle Sat 06-Oct-12 10:23:48

None. My choice. They're exes for a reason and I don't stay friends with them after the relationship is over. (I don't hate them either - just don't think there's any point being friends with someone who I used to shag and don't anymore).

muttimalzwei Sat 06-Oct-12 10:30:36

2

muttimalzwei Sat 06-Oct-12 10:31:05

3 if you count drunken snogs

RustyBear Sat 06-Oct-12 10:33:01

I don't actually have an ex. Have been with my first boyfriend for 38 years, married for 32.

Not sure where that puts me on the scale of FB normality...

muttimalzwei Sat 06-Oct-12 10:34:50

I don't think it brings anything particularly positive to my life sometimes though. One of them started trying to chat to me inappropriately and another is just looking through my pictures a lot (his friends get recommended to me so I know this is a sign that he is having a look)
However, one I am friends with is still what I would consider a true friend and I am interested in keeping in touch with him even though I will probably never see him again. I suppose I am still a bit in love with him but in a 'that was a great part of my life' not in a 'I want him back' kind of a way.

Dillydollydaydream Sat 06-Oct-12 10:43:21

Just 2. One I went out with for 6 years. Another a dew weeks.

One. I tracked him down.

I then phoned him. Nice long chat. Made me remember just what used to irritate me about him!

My sis added him too. He was the big brother she never had apparently!

We now play song pop against each other.

Bunbaker Sat 06-Oct-12 10:47:53

None. I never seek FB friendship. The only FB friends I have are people who have asked me. I never post on FB either. In fact I don't know why I opened a FB account in the first place as I don't really "get" it. I prefer to communicate with real friends and family in real life.

Gay40 Sat 06-Oct-12 11:22:06

I disagree that FB is the spawn of the devil, though. I think you'll find that FB related fuckwittery was going on well before FB was around. If you are prone to utter nonsense, FB is just another method of indulging in it. Prior to that we had Friends Reunited, dating sites, bars, dances.....need I go on.

KirstyWirsty Sat 06-Oct-12 13:04:18

No real ex's .. Two I snogged and two i shagged

halloweeneyqueeney Sat 06-Oct-12 13:06:12

none really, one snog from school but he's also a friend's brother
none on DHs either

not a trust thing, just have no interest in them really

ZiggyPlayedGuitar Sat 06-Oct-12 13:08:06

I've got my first ever boyfriend on mine and that's it. To be fair we were 13-14 and kissed once, but we did do a lot of hand holding wink

I've had 1 other boyfriend after him but I don't want him on my fb even though he's sent quite a few requests.

ZiggyPlayedGuitar Sat 06-Oct-12 13:09:29

I also agree fb is not a terrible thing to have, I hate when people get judgey over it.
You'll only cheat/mess around if you want to. FB has nothing to do with it.

Tressy Sat 06-Oct-12 13:12:31

7 iirc. I'm still single and they are all people I would have a drink with again if I bumped into them in RL. Hopefully, they think the same about me.

There is one guy who has recently moved back to the area and I might have had a crush on when I was a young teen (I started young). We are going out soon so I quite like facebook.

However I am aware, due to experience, that exes who ask you out again don't necessarily act any differently 20 or 30 years on grin. It would be nice to have a schoolgirl crush at my age, though, not sure I can handle it being unrequited. Fingers crossed that this isn't the case this time around.

RubyrooUK Sat 06-Oct-12 17:10:57

I've got two serious exes and a fair few snog/shag/flings on FB. My husband has pretty much the same.

We're friends with them because we still like them (in the case of our serious exes) and still know them, their new partners and their kids. So nothing remotely dodgy.

In the cases of random snogs/shags, they normally happened because we were friends and the attraction bit wasn't really there or wore off quickly. So again, it's just a bunch of people DH and I think are nice.

I don't see it as weird or making us likely to cheat. We've met a lot of people along the way and didn't come to our relationship without having met other people first. We're both relaxed about that.

LizLemon007 Sat 06-Oct-12 17:15:57

NONE!

i GOT an fb request from one x but I ignored it cos he's just nosey and wants to see if i'm married, live in a big house, have kids. he deosn't want to spark up a chat or anything.

Portofino Sat 06-Oct-12 17:26:20

One I think. I think DH has a couple. I tend to only FB friend people who are actually my FRIENDS or family and have no interest in trawling the internet for past loves/shags.

Portofino Sat 06-Oct-12 17:27:52

I did however once Google my first true love and turned up a video of him in his recent professional capacity. How I laughed! And wondered at the 19 yo me who could not eat nor sleep for months when he dumped me....

LizLemon007 Sat 06-Oct-12 18:49:14

Similar story here Portofino. ~Was devastated when x dumped me in the run up to the millenium 1999. I didn't google on this occasion but just after the riots he was on bbc news one morning talking about race relations or something. :-0 But I felt nothing looking at him. NOTHING. It was odd, looking at him spouting on, knowing how callously he'd wiped his lily white arse with me when he was finished with me!!

LizLemon007 Sat 06-Oct-12 18:49:47

Sorry that was a bit crude !!

Portofino Sat 06-Oct-12 18:58:11

No - I get that. It freaked me out a bit that I felt nothing. He is living where we planned to live. We had chosen baby names and all - oh young love! But his hair is all funny now, and he has definitely worked on losing his accent. Of course "corporate" him is no indication - but he did come across as a boring knob. grin

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