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How many men / women have you slept with?

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ElizabethX Wed 01-Aug-12 18:18:24

Assuming you can remember that is.

Today for the first time ever I counted and it is 14* / 0**.

I am 35. This is just under 1 a year since I became sexually active (started late...4th term at uni). I'm not counting youthful messing about, I mean full sex.

This doesn't seem so many to me and obv its going to depend when you became monogamous anyway. But, I have seen articles that suggest a much lower figure, eg 7 for men 4 for women.

Am I a bit of a slapper (which I would be fine with, I enjoyed it) or are all these people just lying? I think the latter, because judging by who I have spoken to 14 is much more typical than 4.

* 14 men I think
** no women I am sure

Leverette Wed 01-Aug-12 18:21:06


Am 39,was in one relationship for 11 years otherwise would be higher (I hope) grin

Of course you're not a slapper!!

ninah Wed 01-Aug-12 18:22:47

I don't do notches but 4 seems peculiarly low

Houseofplain Wed 01-Aug-12 18:23:19

Oh erm... I don't remember blush 15 ish I think then one.

I genuinely can't remember. I enjoyed my single times smile

LurkingAndLearningLovesCats Wed 01-Aug-12 18:23:37

Not enough. grin

ninah Wed 01-Aug-12 18:24:44

how would you define 'full sex' btw? particularly since you are asking about both genders

brighthair Wed 01-Aug-12 18:24:59

28 years old


propercharlie Wed 01-Aug-12 18:26:04


Aged 27, married at 24.

puds11 Wed 01-Aug-12 18:27:54

16ish/maybe a half?
Im 24, have been in a relationship for 4 years.

ElizabethX Wed 01-Aug-12 18:28:32

@ houseofplain

exactly, it never occurred to me to count either and when I tried to remember I kept forgetting the odd one and coming up with different answers.

do you mean 15 / 1?

@ Leverette

OK so if you started at 20 and it was 1 a year and just 1 in your 11 year LTR, you'd be on 9. You say 8, so you're almost exactly as "prolific" as me.

I reckon 1 a year is typical.

moogalicious Wed 01-Aug-12 18:29:25


I'm in my 40's and have been with DH since I was 26 blush

Doha Wed 01-Aug-12 18:29:45

1/0 blush

NikitasSidekick Wed 01-Aug-12 18:30:25


I'm 31 blush

utahforever Wed 01-Aug-12 18:32:12


ElizabethX Wed 01-Aug-12 18:33:38

@ ninah

good question, well I was excluding giving hand jobs and getting them, which is as far as I went in my youth. After that it was full on intercourse - I accept there's a grey area here but I don't think I've been in it myself...

ninah Wed 01-Aug-12 18:35:40

still plenty to look forward to then grin
didn't you have a thread about meeting a lovely neighbour? is that all still going well?

OwlLady Wed 01-Aug-12 18:35:40

at some point someone is going to post


so it may as well be me <sigh>

Houseofplain Wed 01-Aug-12 18:35:45

Yes 15/1ish if you exclude other naughties...although when I recount I come up with diff numbers so don't know blush

JaceyBee Wed 01-Aug-12 18:35:58


Am 33 and was in a monogamous relationship between the ages of 21 and 32. Was v busy before that though! grin There may be a few in there which probably shouldn't have been but overall je ne regrette rien. I always feel a bit sorry for women who have only ever slept with their dh (sorry if that sounds patronising, just think variety is the spice of life!)

JodieHarsh Wed 01-Aug-12 18:39:12


And I ain't gonna blush about it either, so there.

HecateHarshPants Wed 01-Aug-12 18:41:01

No idea.

That's a bit disturbing hmm


JUbilympiX Wed 01-Aug-12 18:42:23

No idea, and don't care. Does it matter to you how many you've had?

Over 100, but I should probably point out that I am 47 and that's spread over 30 years. Still, I am proud of my Good Score. (I am not sure of the exact amount and it does depend on whether you count group sex as 1 (occasion) or 2/3/4 (participants apart from me.)

OwlLady Wed 01-Aug-12 18:44:46

yes solidgoldbrass, in those circumstances you have to apply the ratio x area x circumference equation and then times it by Y and divide by M

<makes it up as she goes along>

Oh yes, that's a point, are you counting it in terms of: PIV only? Do you include it if neither of you had an orgasm but you had his winky in your woowoo for a couple of seconds? Do handjobs or blowjobs count?

JodieHarsh Wed 01-Aug-12 18:45:43

I don't think there's a 'good score' or 'bad score' is there?! Other than the score you're happy with!

Note: I would still be saying this had I boffed anyone other than DH grin

ninah Wed 01-Aug-12 18:47:15

that's certainly not a stealth boast sgb grin

I think it sort of matters because some people consider the numbers game a matter of morality rather than choice/circumstances with the idea that women should have a really low score to be 'good' women, and that those of us with high scores should have tales of woe attached or at the very least have to end our stories with finding The One and embracing monogamy.

I'd quite like to make it to at least 200 before I die and I am not ashamed or regretful about any of the last lot. Well, not profoundly so, there were a few not-the-best-idea-ever, but nothing horrible or deeply traumatic.

ElizabethX Wed 01-Aug-12 18:49:50

hi ninah

yes it was me and yes it is going fine thanks for asking. only a month in of course. he's exactly the same as he was before and dating him is exactly like I imagined.

I'm no longer concerned about being neighbours and it going tits up because he just doesn't strike me as the sort to go arsey about it if that happened.

he has this very matter of fact way of looking at stuff where he sort of thinks aloud about something and arrives at the answer and I think fuck, so obvious, why didn't I think of that? it is nice really, already he is the first person i ask for advice about stuff. i am sorting my shit out. the kitchen will be finished and i will find a purpose in life again.

meanwhile he is also well handy around the house, doesn't ponce, has a fit body and is a terrific dirty shag. there has to be a catch but I am buggered if I can spot what it is. ask me in three months...

ninah Wed 01-Aug-12 18:51:35

nice one elizabeth it all sounds v promising!

mercury7 Wed 01-Aug-12 18:53:21

when we read that the average man or woman has had x amount of partners, is that a mean, median or mode average?

1 man, 0 women, 1 borderline.

ElizabethX Wed 01-Aug-12 18:54:15

@ sgb

are you counting it in terms of: PIV only?

sorry for being thick but what's PIV?

my definition is that you both got naked and there was penetration and / or one or both of you came, not neccessarily every time you did it but at least once with each other.

bit crap I know but for me there has been teenage mutual hand jobs and then there has penetration with nudeness, orgasms and a need for contraception.

ninah Wed 01-Aug-12 18:54:43

unlikely to be a mode of 4

RubeCube Wed 01-Aug-12 18:55:01

3! Square bear aren't I!

That's 10 years worth of sex (long term relationships), inc DH.

I hasten to add-

I meant borderline whether it counts, not borderline whether it was a man or woman! blush

fridakahlo Wed 01-Aug-12 18:56:15

Men: no idea, way over a hundred.
Women: around sixteen or so.
Tis amazing though, I've only ever had two stds and all my pregnancies have been with the same person.

ElizabethX Wed 01-Aug-12 18:56:22

well in that article the 4 men per woman was the median.

ninah Wed 01-Aug-12 18:56:22

glad you clarified that ltb!

perceptionreality Wed 01-Aug-12 18:57:21



mercury7 Wed 01-Aug-12 19:02:22

but how useful is it to know this stuff?
To get a good picture of sexual behaviour in any given culture surely we'd need to know more than just numbers, it doesnt necessarily tell you how happy people are about their sex lives?

PentreMoch Wed 01-Aug-12 19:04:39

4/0 and frankly I wish it was only 3/0 (one of them was awful)

fuckwittery Wed 01-Aug-12 19:04:54

That's an American survey. America is a more religious country, and I think the age of marriage is earlier.

fuckwittery Wed 01-Aug-12 19:06:08

Yup, according to Wikipedia, average age of first marriage for men 28.4, women 26.5
For the UK it's 30.7 and 28.5

ElizabethX Wed 01-Aug-12 19:06:41

@ mercury

well I'm finding it instructive that there are quite a few genuine low numbers.

am grudglingly impressed by fridakahlo and sgb's 3-digits. I would sleep with 100 attractive men given the chance but I haven't met 100 attractive men who wanted to sleep with me.

MamaLazarou Wed 01-Aug-12 19:08:18

26/2. I had a fair amount of fun before I settled down.

Houseofplain Wed 01-Aug-12 19:09:17

Oh ok...erm you need to up that quite a bit then!

LordOfThe5Rings Wed 01-Aug-12 19:11:40

2 men, no woman all the way just fooling around with so 0.

I'm 22. I don't plan for it to be any more either, as I've found my perfect man (in my opinion).

mercury7 Wed 01-Aug-12 19:13:10

perhaps it would be more instructive to know how many offers/opportunities are person has had and what proportion of those they turned down?

that would be rather taxing to the memory though! grin

mercury7 Wed 01-Aug-12 19:13:55

a person

DiscoDaisy Wed 01-Aug-12 19:14:41

Lost count / 0

I'm 36 and have been with my OH since I was 18.

CreepyCrawly Wed 01-Aug-12 19:14:43


I've been in a relationship since I was 'old enough' to have sex. I'm 21 now, and got married last year.

CaptainHetty Wed 01-Aug-12 19:15:37

10/2. I'm 26, I fully intend for it to stay 10/2 for the rest of forever grin

threeleftfeet Wed 01-Aug-12 19:16:06

50+ (stopped counting!) / 2

Had a very promiscuous, open minded group of friends - men and women grin. Or rather my friends and I were very promiscuous in our younger days. (We're mostly very sensible parents now)! I'm one of the tame ones actually, many of my friends (including DP) are into 3 figures.

ElizabethX PIV means penis-in-vagina (I think)

Teamthrills Wed 01-Aug-12 19:20:39


I'm 31 now and met dh (number 6) when I was 19 & in our first term at uni. We've been together ever since & now have 3 dcs.

Meglet Wed 01-Aug-12 19:20:43


I'm 38. Blokes never fancy / approach me and I was too sensible to get drunk / wasted and shag around. Besides, I wouldn't go near anyone if my legs weren't waxed, it would scare them off!

TheCunningStunt Wed 01-Aug-12 19:21:25

I slept with about a handful of guys before I came out and around 30 women (this is a total guesstimate as I can't be bothered thinking back)......

MaloryMad Wed 01-Aug-12 19:21:47


I am 50. I was highly prolific between the ages of 17 and 23 when I met my exH. Faithful during the marriage, only two since divorce.
So that's quite a lot in that 6 year period during my "yoof" blush. Only regret two of them.

Methe Wed 01-Aug-12 19:21:55

More than I can recall <not 3 digets though>/1

Tbh it's not something I ever think about.

I was given chlamydia and HPV by a person I'd been with for years.. never had anything else, despite being a bit promiscuous in my youth.

If you use protection sleep with how ever many people you like!

6 and 1/2

No women.

I'm 21

03angels Wed 01-Aug-12 19:23:33

I'm 32

Methe Wed 01-Aug-12 19:23:37

Oh, i'm 32. been with the same man for 9 years.

MsOnatopp Wed 01-Aug-12 19:24:20


I'm 22

03angels Wed 01-Aug-12 19:25:27

I must add I have had 2 serious long term 1 marriage- 1 long engagement!

I was dumped by text a few months ago - so when I can get him to leave our house I am looking forward to increasing this number grin

ElizabethX Wed 01-Aug-12 19:26:02

interesting how many have slept with both sexes.

have thought about / had crushes on women and like the female from, but when it comes down to tacks I don't think I could go through with it.


Regret about 3 of those. Have to stop and count carefully to get the number right.

I'm 32. Lost 'it' at 16, slept with 10 men before I met XP at 19 who I was with for almost decade. Split up, went a bit wild for six months and then met DP.

Junebugjr Wed 01-Aug-12 19:33:00

40 maybe/about 2 or 3.

Had an absolute ball during my 4 years of uni, and remained resolutely single the entire time just to 'experience' ahem different people. I can only remember about 15 clearly, but I remember having such carefree fun.

The double standard does still exist unfortunately, when I came back home to settle after uni, I was thought of as a 'nice' girl who hadn't slept with anyone at all in my town, little did they know what I was up to 150 miles away.
I happily settled down at 22 with my DP, and many years later have 2 dc together. When I'm loaded down with shopping, have a house to clean, and 2 kids screaming after me etc etc, I'm thankful I got my kicks while I could!

MsOnatopp Wed 01-Aug-12 19:34:31

and of my 8, 1 was weird because he just sort of did it, without checking it was OK, without my involvement really, twice. I did let him sleep the night before in my bed though so (this was in the morning)...

Whenthetoadcamehome Wed 01-Aug-12 19:40:34

Enough to realise some were a mistake/one or two youthful explorations but nothng serious.

Lochtefan Wed 01-Aug-12 19:47:38


RobotHamster Wed 01-Aug-12 19:51:50


50shadesofstress Wed 01-Aug-12 20:00:55

I counted when I was very young but not since then. I am 32 and approx 40/1 (the 40 is approx, it may be closer to 50 but I am a bit too ashamed to count for definite, the 1 is a definite).

If we are going with 40 then 38 were between ages of 15 and 20 and the last two were my XH and current H.

LordOfThe5Rings Wed 01-Aug-12 20:01:51

mercury I'd say about 1/15 of them I have accepted. Maybe 1/20.

50shadesofstress Wed 01-Aug-12 20:03:59

My '1' was a threesome with friends of mine who were a couple. Never just been me and another girl.

Like someone else mentioned my group of friends were quite 'free' so we just got on with it and had a laugh. It never seemed a big deal to me really but I would hope that my DCs don't feel quite the same way I did.

Heleninahandcart Wed 01-Aug-12 20:04:44

No idea, I've always lost count.

bitredfacednow Wed 01-Aug-12 20:07:39

namechanged for this because it's fairly mortifying.

total of 2

was married to the first one for a long time, got divorced and had sex with someone else.

Am 48. Regret both to be honest. Bloody hell, think it has just been brought home to me what I've missed out on.

JodieHarsh Wed 01-Aug-12 20:09:35

WTF?! Why would you NAMECHANGE because you've only had sex with two people?!

Are women now valued on some kind of sliding scale of sexual experience? How is that any better than women being denigrated for 'lack of virtue'? confused

Sorry you feel sad about it bit sad

It's how you FEEL about how many people you've slept with that matters. Not the number.

JodieHarsh Wed 01-Aug-12 20:10:20

Anyway bit, you're only 48 woman. Get in that saddle and ride 'em cowgirl grin (if you want to etc. etc.)

BehindLaneNumberNine Wed 01-Aug-12 20:10:38

Am not namechanging.


The first was a boyfriend whilst at uni. I loved him, he loved me. We did not last but I don't regret it.
The second is my dh.

BehindLaneNumberNine Wed 01-Aug-12 20:11:49

Oh, are we supposed to add women as well?

Well, that would be none then.

BehindLaneNumberNine Wed 01-Aug-12 20:12:43

And a teeny part of me regrets that (the zero women that is...) There was the chance ten years ago. But I turned it down. (happily married and all that) But boy was I curious...

OlivesTorchStreak Wed 01-Aug-12 20:18:09

13ish/0 (but a few drunken snogs!)

Am 34, married 7 years.

bitredfacednow Wed 01-Aug-12 20:20:55

I namechanged because I'm personally mortified, not having really given this a lot of thought before, and I don't want anyone who knows me knowing that I regret having given the time of day to both the men I've had sex with because even I can see this is pretty peculiar and, yes, sad.

OlivesTorchStreak Wed 01-Aug-12 20:23:01

MsOnatopp are you saying that someone had sex with you without you noticing?? Or without your consent???

Im 34 and I have slept with 5 men. Two were as a 16/17 yr old, and were one off's. Then I was with xp for 10 years, and then 2 men since I have been single. One was a fwb, and not sure what the other one is yet.

jimswifeinTokyo1964 Wed 01-Aug-12 20:26:00

approx35 / 2
including 2 marriages.
I'm almost 40.

MsOnatopp Wed 01-Aug-12 20:32:35

Olives without my consent I guess. Well I didn't protest. I wasn't really sure what to do. He rolled over, touched me very briefly till I got wet enough, rolled on top of me, dtd and then rolled off. He did the same not too long later. I just lay and let him get on with it.

Not sure I want to add it to my number cos now I think about it I am getting pissed off.

OlivesTorchStreak Wed 01-Aug-12 20:34:56

I am not sure how to respond to that.


I hope you are ok.

MsOnatopp Wed 01-Aug-12 20:39:41

I'm fine Olives thanks smile I was 17, pretended I didn't care, and haven't thought about it since really. Until a couple of weeks ago, and again just now. Now I wish I had told him to get off and am feeling a little upset/pissed off about it. No point though, it was five years ago now.

Um...well I have lost count. More than a couple of hundred men and a good 50 or so women. I am 47 and have been happily married for nearly 14 years and we've been together 18 years and we have a very adventurous sex life.

The only STD I have had is chlamydia given to me by my 1st husband who shagged around with out a care.

MattSmithIsMine Wed 01-Aug-12 20:44:40


Number 7 was the best, but we only shagged twice.

Number 4 was totally crap premature ejaculation anyone? and I ended up married to him for 18 years. What the fuck was I thinking ?

Wish I'd stayed with number 2, he was wonderful.


Wigglewoo Wed 01-Aug-12 21:22:09


No women.

1 bar manager at a bar I worked in
2 much older man at the bar as above
3 dd's dad
4 my ex husband
5 6 month fling with younger chef at place I worked in
6 horrible horrible one night thing - mortifyingly embaRrassing
7 best friend of number 5 (oops) another one nighter
(Then went back to 5!)
8 my now dh smile been together 3 years smile

thecook Wed 01-Aug-12 21:23:36

Lost count by my early twenties/0

I am 41

emmieging Wed 01-Aug-12 21:57:33

Bitredfaced- I think it's the fact that some people have actually talked about 'good' and 'bad' numbers on this thread- i mean, wtf is that about?

There is no right or wrong. It's not a bloody competition fgs. I'd far rather sleep with people who make me feel good than just notch up the numbers. It's a shame you feel regret about the way things have gone so far.. But you're still young, get out there and do what makes you happy (whether that's sleeping with men, women or neither!)

Ismeyes Wed 01-Aug-12 21:59:52

About 25, but I got with DH when I was 21 and got married at 23 so that was in a short space of time!

topknob Wed 01-Aug-12 22:02:49

last count was 27 including both sexes..I may have missed out a few though, I was a terrible drunken slut back in the day ! married dh at 22 as well.

Fanjita Wed 01-Aug-12 22:20:02


I'm 41

HidingFromDD Wed 01-Aug-12 22:28:01

was 2 until age 45 (married a loooooong time), then 1 long term, the rest since November last year - I'm making up for my missing 'shagging around' years grin

Just realised that's 1 per decade until christmas then 1 per month since!

CleoSmackYa Wed 01-Aug-12 22:36:40

6/0. That's 12 years worth of sex. I've been in 2 long relationships though, one lasting 7 years, and one lasting 2 years. I didn't have sex for 3 years after losing my virginity, I was so disappointed by it, then crammed the rest in a space of 3 months.

Oh there have been quite a few women as well, maybe 10/15? Haven't done anything for ages now though; lack of opportunity and (for some reason) being menopausal has made me lose interest in actually going on the hunt. But I find it really rather weird that some people have only had one partner in 20 years or so. I sometimes think that this may be an important reason why so many women seem to lose interest in sex and/or have lower libidos than their husbands - he's actually rubbish at it and you've nothing to compare it with, so you think that 'sex' isn't all that, really. (I am quite aware that some people who only have one partner get lucky the first time and their one partner is a good sexual match for them, but it's luck more than anything else).

Devastatedgiraffe Wed 01-Aug-12 22:51:35

Dh was my 19th, I was 22 when me wet. 0 women!

Still on 19. Age 35.

Devastatedgiraffe Wed 01-Aug-12 22:52:27

Met!! On iPhone, can't see!!!

Nuttyprofessor Wed 01-Aug-12 22:53:50

1/0 in 34 years.

KirstyWirsty Wed 01-Aug-12 23:01:04

I am 44

2 marriages

27 sexual partners .. 4 of which were women (one of those was in a threesome which wrecked the couple involved's elationship) ..

It's funny this came up in conversation in the last week and that's how I know how many ...

ElizabethX Wed 01-Aug-12 23:07:31


that typo is Freudian genius! "when me wet" indeed ...

berlinnovels Wed 01-Aug-12 23:10:23


Age 29. Long-term relationships for 8 of the last 9.5 years...kind of wish I'd shagged around more in the gaps.

NoComet Wed 01-Aug-12 23:11:15

Not in the least blush, I slept with My now DH on our first date and had sex on our second. Back in the dark ages, neither of us had condoms just in case.

If I had, had it would be 2/0

Halfling Wed 01-Aug-12 23:13:53

1/0 in 34 years. Became sexually active at 24 years. But then I am from a different country and culture where this is pretty much the norm.

ColinFirthsGirth Wed 01-Aug-12 23:25:17

Just my husband who I have been married to since 22.

To whoever said they were sorry for women that had only slept with their husband -Please don't feel sorry for us! I don't care what other women do but from my point of view I love the fact that I have only ever slept with my husband whom I love very much and have done for 14 years since I was 20.

carernotasaint Wed 01-Aug-12 23:29:48

solid has a good point. I have slept with five men and only two of them actually cared about my pleasure and whether i had an orgasm.

Offred Wed 01-Aug-12 23:33:51

10/1 28 been with DH since 23. Out of those 4 have raped me two of those have been in relationships. Out of the other 6 I regret 2.

Offred Wed 01-Aug-12 23:36:09

3 have cared about my orgasm. Doesn't mean they are nice blokes. DH is, first bf was other was violent alcoholic as it turned out.

carernotasaint Wed 01-Aug-12 23:43:14

I dated this boy in college when i was 17. Didnt sleep with him. 18 months later i had an affair with his dad (who was divorced) i was seeing him 18 months after i split with his son. The exes father cared about my orgasm but i later found out he was also chasing the married woman 2 doors down so i know what you mean. But i was only 18 then and thought differently to the way i do now. If i was in this situation again i would just treat it as great but casual sex and just make sure it was safe.

KissMyEmbroideryHoop Wed 01-Aug-12 23:48:31

Gosh around 28. I think.

I'm not blushing. I am almost 40 and had a very good time for a few years.
Two long relationships...during which I was faithful...then met DH when I was thirty.

Active since age 16. So.

NotLikeThatYouWont Wed 01-Aug-12 23:57:51

Depends on what you count but 12/1 by strictest definition. Am in 40s and monogamous 14 yrs now so it was a while ago.

roughtyping Thu 02-Aug-12 00:03:43


I'm 26. No 1 was my DS's dad. Got together with OH when I was 18 and DS was 9 months. OH and I split up but got back together 2 years ago. The other 2 were in between splitting up and getting back together with OH.

roughtyping Thu 02-Aug-12 00:04:19

And I'm engaged to OH so imagine it will stick at that number!

akaemmafrost Thu 02-Aug-12 00:14:22

Over 30 men and 0 women.

I have reached an age where I finally realise that I don't care if I am not respected because I have had a lot of sex. When I think of the opportunities I have passed up I could weep!

oh fuck - I really am a slut. Thought my score was the high side of normal but clearly it isn't...

gobbledegook1 Thu 02-Aug-12 01:27:40

5 men, 0 women, active since the age of 13.

I am currently 27 & engaged so hopefully it will stay at that number.

Challen Thu 02-Aug-12 01:40:22

Age 43.

Somewhere between 7 and 9. But that's not including the 'almosts' which just involved a bluddy lot of snogging and er, everything but blush then it's probably around 11 or 12.

I was a late starter too, at 21.

Three long term relationships of 4 years, 7 years, 7 years respectively.

I'm currently single and definately haven't had enough! I bluddy love sex and affection and want to still be doing all this lovely stuff into my 90s (I plan to die at 100) :D

lauratheexplorer Thu 02-Aug-12 01:49:52

23 years old.

12. No women but have kissed women in my experimental years.

fridakahlo Thu 02-Aug-12 02:03:10

Come on, north, fess up, no-one is judging, that I have noticed anyway.

TheBolter Thu 02-Aug-12 04:19:36


I think. I'm a bit hazy on the 21, it might be 22.

Cailleach Thu 02-Aug-12 04:51:31

Age 35 - two men, one woman.

northeastmum89 Thu 02-Aug-12 08:46:19

Age 23

Not sure exactly how many men - somewhere between 45 and 50 I think

No women.

That was all between 16 and 21. Am now getting married and I don't expect it to go up.


It's only 2 per year though on average...

dublindee Thu 02-Aug-12 09:22:13

Am 35 years old. Married for 4 yrs - Met DH when I was 25 and been monogamous since.

I lost my virginity aged 25 (could have done it sooner but I wanted to be sure the person I exchanged bodily fluids with was someone I really cared about). I did not orgasm - it felt "nice" but the earth... didn't move shall we say!! Anyway 1 more failed attempt at sex later and then we split. He dumped me by text and I was sure all men were bastards.

My now DH was friends with me at the time and held my hand through the wailing and gnashing of teeth. Then when he felt I'd grieved a suitable length of time he made his move grin. After our first encounter in the bedroom the earth didn't move so much as the whole solar system was realigned gringringrin
So, for that reason I count my total number as 1 and a 1/2 men - 0 women and I'm not in the least bit sorry about it!

IfImHonest Thu 02-Aug-12 10:46:02

Oh, thank the Lord for this thread. Last night my new(ish) DP and i were discussing this very topic. His number was 0/4 (assuming women are the latter number). I almost spat out my tea - he's 43! My number is 15/0 which I always thought was very reasonable but he went all cat's bum face when I told him. This thread proves that I am not an old slapper. So thank you.

LadyLilyWilliamSnowflake Thu 02-Aug-12 10:55:34

1/0 - I started going out with my DH when we were 17 (27 now)

Not even blushed about it

Right at this moment (in a hospital bed in early labour with twins) I wish it was 0/0

ElizabethX Thu 02-Aug-12 11:03:10

Well how fascinating. many thanks...I have no idea what the average is but it must be one of those meaningless averages, like the average person has 1.8 legs. the whole spectrum from 1 to hundreds... someone's probably slept with the 'average' number bit probably only one 'someone'...

either is fine, whatever works for you. I think people who've been happy with 1 partner are fortunate - the one they tried was the one they kept. those who've managed hundreds, well, differently fortunate....good on you for pulling hundreds of times, I never have!!

i don't think i would ever manage that many simply because I find it takes months to get really good and then I don;t want to go back to scratch with someone new. I have not bothered sleeping with blokes I could have slept with simply because I thought Nah, new bloke, we won't have a clue, it'll be crap....can't be arsed.

wonder if anyone's "score" (bleeurgh) is lower because they had FWBs in between times?

happyinherts Thu 02-Aug-12 11:05:40

6/0 here. Maybe my score would have been higher if not for a FWB for 2 years, I don't know. I will say that he was the best out of the 6 and still provides happy memories !

coffeeandcake Thu 02-Aug-12 11:12:49


Said I'd stop at 40 - but then I was persuaded grin

LadyLilyWilliamSnowflake Thu 02-Aug-12 11:14:41

I hate to sound dim, but what's a FWB?

ElizabethX Thu 02-Aug-12 11:16:49

friend with benefits

so if you averaged but then acquired a FWB you'd be getting yer itch scratched without your number going up.

ElizabethX Thu 02-Aug-12 11:17:09

sorry - if you averaged 1 a year but then...

LadyLilyWilliamSnowflake Thu 02-Aug-12 11:17:51

OOOOH and you see I knew that blush

Bertrude Thu 02-Aug-12 11:34:42


1. a lad at a drunken school party who was tiny
2. my high school sweetheart
3. Tosspot ex
4. a random lad in a nightclub whose name I didn't even know then
5. My BIL's best mate
6. Husband

TheonlyWayisGerard Thu 02-Aug-12 12:05:20

11/1. I think the first number is right. Fooled around with a few more men too. All before I was 21.

northeastmum89 Thu 02-Aug-12 13:55:18

I'm loving the lists and descriptions of them! I'm not going to attempt to put mine in list confused

MissFaversam Thu 02-Aug-12 14:03:49

Last night my new(ish) DP and i were discussing this very topic. His number was 0/4 (assuming women are the latter number). I almost spat out my tea - he's 43! My number is 15/0 which I always thought was very reasonable but he went all cat's bum face when I told him

IfimHonest - don't like the sound of your new DP.

As for partners - haven't the foggiest, I've never counted grin

Fuckitthatlldo Thu 02-Aug-12 14:04:28

Lost count a long time ago/2

I reckon probably around 100 though. Lots definitely. I'm neither here nor there about it.

Conflugenglugen Thu 02-Aug-12 14:27:37


My first partner was my first husband, at age 23. My second partner was my second husband at age 35. When I separated last year I decided to push myself out of my comfort zone and have had four partners in the last 11 months. Absolutely no regrets. It was a liberation in many ways, not all of it good (though some has been mind-blowing), but all of it enlightening.

Conflugenglugen Thu 02-Aug-12 14:27:55

I am 40, btw.

Emandlu Thu 02-Aug-12 14:38:17


And one of those I didn't have any choice in the matter.

I'm 35 and have been with dh for 15 years.

ElizabethX Thu 02-Aug-12 14:38:22

@ conflugen

do you find it's better now than it was then?

when I was 25 I didn't really know what I liked, wasn't confident enough to ask for it if I did know, and was with men who didn't know how to provide it anyway. I also wasn't all that comfortable being naked in front of someone either.

none of the above is true any more so it's way better.

come to think of it, apart from the naked bit, all of the above is true of everything else as well, not just sex...

ElizabethX Thu 02-Aug-12 14:42:57

asking a stupid question, can anyone explain how men's and women's average number can be different?

if you have 10 men and 10 women then whether each woman has sex with one man or one woman has sex with all 10 and nobody else does, the average for each is going to be the same.

so how can you have an average of 7 for men and 4 for women? doesn't it prive the sample's rubbish because it doesn't balance?

ElizabethX Thu 02-Aug-12 14:43:34

@ emandlu


DappyHays Thu 02-Aug-12 14:47:09

approx 15/0

I'm 41, married and been with DH 13 years. There are a few ONSs and a couple of LTRs in my figure.

snuffaluffagus Thu 02-Aug-12 14:50:40

I'm 31..

I'm stopped counting at 30.. so approx 32+/ 1.

Numbers don't matter..

Dillydollydaydream Thu 02-Aug-12 14:56:49

5/0. I'm 30.
I have had same partner since 20 though.

Belmo Thu 02-Aug-12 15:02:49

4/0 (am 26)
Have been with DP since we were 17, but did manage to fit in 3 rubbish one night stands before I met him!

SonOfAradia Thu 02-Aug-12 15:12:05


Between the ages of 17 and 30, it was only 0/2. When I split with the (loony, cheating) GF I'd been with for 8 years at age 30, I went a bit crazy and was up to 0/21 2 years later when I met DW, who became the last. And still is nearly 17 years later.

KatieisScarlettinSpandex Thu 02-Aug-12 15:23:21


Am 43

sayithowitis Thu 02-Aug-12 15:45:39

Am 51. Married to DH 30 years, been together 35 years. Not embarassed. Not NC'd. Very happy with my numbers. Clearly, I am one of SGB's 'lucky' ones who found a good match first time round.

Conflugenglugen Thu 02-Aug-12 16:33:02

ElizabethX - Yes, better beyond adequate description. I know myself more, I am far more comfortable with my body, and my partners have been much more sexually aware, experimental, and uninhibited co-conspirators.

I'm also aware of what I still want to face in terms of my own past and I have had two partners who have been willing to face that with me - it's really a process of learning to let go bit by bit.

higgle Thu 02-Aug-12 16:40:42

34/2 - only DH in the last 28 years though. I'm a great believer in sowing your wild oats before you get married grin

OhEmGee24 Thu 02-Aug-12 17:11:47

10/0 I'm 24, been at it since 15. Full intentions for it to stay at 10/0!

im 32 and i have only had 2 sexual partners both male

GhouliaYelps Thu 02-Aug-12 17:34:56

shit loads I've lost count blush maybe 100 including Women and non PIV

happybubblebrain Thu 02-Aug-12 17:39:21

Loads and loads, but none at all in the last 2 years, I prefer not to now.

loganberry12 Thu 02-Aug-12 18:29:32

im 46 slept with 6 men & 2 women been married twice

Cantthinkofafunnynickname Thu 02-Aug-12 18:38:33

16/5 and Im 23

Love having fun that way smile

Sylvana Thu 02-Aug-12 19:24:30


With dh since I was 18. I do admit to wondering what dtd with another would be like blush

DH is 1/0 too ... it doesn't seem to bother him, I'm all he needs aparantly grin

Alconleigh Thu 02-Aug-12 20:23:23

55 ish (don't actually know)/ 1

Am 36. 2 only in the last 6 years. Man alive I enjoyed my 20s.

motherinferior Thu 02-Aug-12 20:27:50

Ooh, I think about 25 in total, most of them men. Am 49.

PoshPaula Thu 02-Aug-12 20:35:00

At least 30. All men. Only 1 in last six years. I'm 43. I've had some sex, some of it was pretty good, some rubbish. Very happy now though - and sex is less important to me, oddly enough.

2/5 it is quite weird that I ended up with a male DP as I am generally more attracted to women.

Oh and I'm 28. With DP since I was 16, but we had an open relationship before we had the DDs. No time now!

Emandlu Thu 02-Aug-12 20:42:47


Why shock ?

PackItInNow Thu 02-Aug-12 20:44:30

4/0 including DH who I've been with since 2003. Don't want or need anyone else. DH says the same about me and we're both still really happy after almost 9yrs and 2 kids together smile.

Ra88 Thu 02-Aug-12 20:47:27



vitaminC Thu 02-Aug-12 20:53:04

Fairly adventurous youth, then married at 23, for 12 years and monogomous throughout that time. Now 39.
2 brief flings after my divorce, followed by 2 years of celibacy!

Currently househunting with my very wonderful new DP who will hopefully be the last... smile

Offred Thu 02-Aug-12 21:19:17

This thread's made me feel pretty good, hate a lot of the circs of things that have happened to me, the number and the lack of control I've had over some of it has made me feel really slaggy but I'm unsung out I am on the very low end of people my age, makes me feel less damaged IYSWIM.

Offred Thu 02-Aug-12 21:19:38

*finding out!

amstronger Thu 02-Aug-12 21:37:00

37 men and 3 women.Been married twice last marriage ended 6yrs otherwise could be more.Only 34 and single ATM blush

tinkertitonk Thu 02-Aug-12 22:28:34

Nobody who lies dying wishes they had shagged fewer people.

So I am told.

kinkyfuckery Thu 02-Aug-12 22:30:48


I'm 28

Nobhead Thu 02-Aug-12 22:36:46

4/0, was with BF for 6 years and then went straight to now DH at aged 22- been with DH 10 years now. Other 2 men: lost my V in a one night stand and the other was a fling behind ex BF's back.

roteelefant Fri 03-Aug-12 00:52:22

I'm 25

roteelefant Fri 03-Aug-12 00:54:30

shit just realised that I have only kissed 2 people (one of which is the sex one) I'm getting married next year.
Fuck the nuns worked - ahhh shock

peanutMD Fri 03-Aug-12 01:04:27

1 / 0

I'm 25, started seeing DP at 14.

Have kissed 9 people though.

lou33 Fri 03-Aug-12 01:37:12

50 + men / 1 woman

I am 45. They include long term relationships, the longest being 17.5 yrs. My bf knows I have had a lot of sexual partners, and I know he has too, but neither of us feels the need to discuss numbers. It shouldn't matter imo.

kellyNo7 Fri 03-Aug-12 12:00:55


I am 32

just1fornow Fri 03-Aug-12 12:13:46

15/2 im 24,
I think that's bad tho.

Cantthinkofafunnynickname Fri 03-Aug-12 12:45:20

Hve to say - Im surprised at how many of us have been with another girl. Seen threads on here where if you say your bi - u get many a angry response smile

MyinnergoddessisatLidl Fri 03-Aug-12 12:51:44

42 year old here. Interesting as I can't believe I am sat at my desk at work doing this started writing it down to try and remember. Started well with teenage long romances, Uni engagement, long term relationship in early 20s. Then I kicked all that to the kerb in my late 20's and had a right old time for 5 years.

And those years are a bloody blurr! So to help me remember I wrote a list.

List started with names and then ended up as - bloke from gay bar in back of black cab, son of Madagascan Diplomat, Albanian with long hair and penis, some Australian I met in the Church....blush

So I am going to put it roughly at 25/1 plus 1 orgy.

If men are wearing make-up, stockings and suzzies do I count the penis, or the mindset? confused

MadameCupcake Fri 03-Aug-12 13:45:54

I am also surprised at how many people have been with a girl, I am definitely not bi-sexual but just did it for fun I guess.

My numbers are approx 50/1. I have snogged mates for dares and stuff but only been in bed with one woman (threesome).

This is a really interesting thread and you are all much more interesting/adventurous than my RL friends, I set up a hen night game for a close friend of mine (due to the fact that we were both in long term relationships and had DCs we never discussed previous sexual partners) and it turned out she had only had 2 boyfriends ever and had only slept with her fiance. It ruined my game - it was most disappointing grin

I have one friend who was adventurous in her younger days and after lots of tequilla we (within our group of friends) had a chat about our younger days - the others were quite shocked whereas we assumed it was normal!

MyinnergoddessisatLidl Fri 03-Aug-12 13:52:03

I agree MadameCupcake nearly all of my Uni friends settled down with their Uni boyfriends into a happily ever after scenario.

They had a few flings in college but not a lot else. I would definitely stand out from the crowd. Not that they judge actually.

But I definitely thought the majority of women were like them, not me, and everyone would be a 4/0 ave at 35 years of age!

So obviously some people are good at keeping it really private and discreet, or I just have very lucky mates.

MadameCupcake Fri 03-Aug-12 14:00:32

I am glad I didn't settle down too young, I experienced loads of stuff so when I met my DH when I was 25 (he was quite a bit older) we were perfect for each other. He'd done all his travelling etc and I had experienced life so we felt ready for settling down.

I am not sure how I would have felt if I had married the first person I slept with (well I'm guessing I would remember his name for starters!)

Cantthinkofafunnynickname Fri 03-Aug-12 14:12:36

Cupcake - I agree - although only 23 I couldnt see myself settling down with no1. Im still single and want to have some 'fun' before I settle down

MadameCupcake Fri 03-Aug-12 14:18:00

I like to think DH was a virgin when he met me of course though (he was 38) grin

tuckchop Fri 03-Aug-12 14:29:17

some research on professional women said most had slept with 11 men by the age of 30/ (they are late marriers)

Fieldette Fri 03-Aug-12 15:11:02

I am 27.


Have been with DP for 5 years, I fully intend for him to be the last. He is definately the best, even before I fell in love with him when it was just the shagging-like-rabbits phase he was definately the best.

In fact, the amazing sex was probably part of the reason I fell in love with him!

jadebond007 Fri 03-Aug-12 20:02:02

Fifteen men and four lady liaisons but always with a man involved. I'm 28.

I'll tell you something really terrible - I once had sex with a man twenty minutes after meeting him. I was on an exotic holiday and he was GORGEOUS. We used a condom, obviously. It was amazing.

frillylemons Fri 03-Aug-12 20:22:51

I'm 25 and have slept with...drum roll...1 man! DH smile

Old school...waited till the wedding night!

frillylemons Fri 03-Aug-12 20:23:36

By the way, this is a really interesting thread!!

LulaPalooza Fri 03-Aug-12 20:27:44

Men - no idea, but more than 75 a fair few
Women - 6 plus a few snogs

I had a list, once upon a time. Some of the I couldn't even remember their names blush but I do remember every liaison

leguminous Fri 03-Aug-12 20:35:49

9 men, no women (though I have kissed some and rolled around with clothes on, but nothing I think of as sex). Started at 18, got together with now-husband at 21 and been exclusive ever since. Pretty sure that I would still be shagging away if single, though!

hlipop Fri 03-Aug-12 21:33:52

15-20ish/5 started at 13 now 23 and have been with om for 3 yrs =]

hlipop Fri 03-Aug-12 21:34:05

*oh sorry

akaemmafrost Fri 03-Aug-12 22:32:05

Well on a long, boring car journey I counted them up.

37/0. I thought it was about 30 but as I went through periods of my life in my head more kept popping up that i had forgotten confused. I was glad when I reached the end, there was a few hmm surprises in there.

northeastmum89 Sat 04-Aug-12 07:59:32

If anyone has the time to work out what the average is for everyone that has posted it would be intetesting. Clearly it will be more than 4!

qumquat Sat 04-Aug-12 13:50:29


I'm depressed!

onemoreforgoodmeasure Sat 04-Aug-12 13:56:24

OMG, I just counted for the first time... If I only include actuall "winky in woohoo" as sex then my total is 6!!! I was in one relationship for about 15 years and another for going on 5 years and I'm 40. I didn't have sex until I was 18. WOW.

beautilicious91 Tue 13-Nov-12 12:14:23

I'm 21, lost my virginity at 19 and slept with 6 men and 0 women.

AlphaBeta82 Tue 13-Nov-12 12:18:20

3/0 and the first 2 I had long term relationships with and the 3rd I married so i do hope that is my 'forever' number!!

GoodGirlGoneBad74 Tue 13-Nov-12 12:22:35

Oh phew!
Thanks for this thread, as I also read something like that and seeing as i only got going at 20...having had sex with 10 made me a right old slapper, it seemed!
Haha....solidgoldbrass....loving the anatomical terms there....I also had one of those winky/woo woo fingies, so if it counts, then we´ll make it 11, shall we?
Any of you in longterm relationships feeling a bit depressed by the idea that there will probably never again be somebody new?? :-/

Whatnowffs Tue 13-Nov-12 12:26:03

more than thirty, less than forty blush i can't remember. I have only slept with one man in the last 20 years though - i started young, im 42.

Anskabel Tue 13-Nov-12 12:34:40

DP is no. 50 and I definitely don't intend on there being any more - not only is it a good round number to stop on, but he's the best I've ever had.

I'm 33, lost my virginity at 16 and have been a serial monogamist for most of the years since with bouts of going a bit crazy in between...

Nowhere near as many as I'd have liked....

Wrongbow Tue 13-Nov-12 13:16:09

Current boyfriend is Unlucky Number 13.
I've never even snogged a woman, I feel left out sad So I'm off to stalk Sue Perkins.

Wrongbow Tue 13-Nov-12 13:16:27

(and I'm 32)

A1980 Tue 13-Nov-12 15:14:21


I'm 32

HullyEastergully Tue 13-Nov-12 15:15:51


OneMoreGo Tue 13-Nov-12 15:17:52

Am 29

flyoverthegoldenhill Tue 13-Nov-12 15:21:36

Hully that seems quite alot for a teenager grin

EuroShagmore Tue 13-Nov-12 15:30:36

9/0 (I think. I thought it was 10 but can only count 9! Maybe one was very forgettable?)

I wish I had been a bit more free and easy with my loving in my late teens and 20s, tbh!

I'm now 36. Lost "it" at 18.

Faxthatpam Tue 13-Nov-12 15:30:47

Approx. 38. I am 47 and was quite frisky for a while in my early 20s before I met DH. Most I don't regret, some I struggle to remember and a couple I wish I could forget (nothing ghastly, just rubbish sex). Happy with my number though... although not entirely sure I haven't left one or two out.blush

Faxthatpam Tue 13-Nov-12 15:41:41

Sorry 38/0.5

Billysiv Mon 13-May-13 17:54:00

Hi girls just to give a male perspective on this.
I'm 62, was married for 33 years been single for 8.
I was married at 21 yrs old and had 1 affair during that time.
At college before I married I was rampant for 3 years and had over 30 girls in that time, most of them short relationships others one night stands. In those days the pill was the common form of contraception and HIV hadn't been invented. I am only counting PIV and not hand or blow jobs. The girls at Teacher Training College outnumbered the men 3/1. Hallelujah!!!
Since I became single and discovered internet dating the world has been my lobster and I started out shagging everything that moved but then had a relationship with a lovely girl for 2 years. After that I went mad again for a while and now I'm in a strange relationship with a single girl who is 48. I never mess around when I am in a relationship.
She has led a sheltered life and only had 5 lovers before me.
I've never had any kind of sexual encounter with another male, but I can understand why so many of you women have tried it with same sex partners. It's because womens bodies are beautiful and where's the harm? Another girl isn't gonna get you up the duff.

badinage Mon 13-May-13 18:04:32

I'm in a strange relationship

Yes well how could it not be?

AnyFucker Mon 13-May-13 18:07:18

Yep, you're a strange kinda guy, aintcha ? hmm

AnyFucker Mon 13-May-13 18:08:03



6 men (including dh)
0 women
I met dh when I was 22 and have been with him 9 years or it would probably be higher smile

Oh Ffs

badinage Mon 13-May-13 18:10:58

I was married at 21 yrs old and had 1 affair during that time.

I never mess around when I am in a relationship.


What a lad huh?

Betcha the 'girls' are just gagging for you Billy.

Women on the other hand....

Branleuse Mon 13-May-13 18:13:45

I think 15 men and 1 woman

Kione Mon 13-May-13 18:33:11

24/0 (I might be forgetting someoneblush )
Loving this thread because I thought it was too many! I am 34

Mondrian Mon 13-May-13 18:45:46

30ish/- 2 x 1/2 (2 x 4way) ..... But that was pretty much all before getting married at 28 been technically a saint since then.

AnyFucker Mon 13-May-13 19:13:01


AnyFucker Mon 13-May-13 19:13:53

Why do most people not read the last few posts ? It would prevent your sex life getting used as wank fodder

Imgettingthere Mon 13-May-13 21:37:46

4/0. To be honest wish it had been just DH. Met him and grew up but everyones perception/circumstances/ideals different which is what makes us unique.

CuChullain Mon 13-May-13 22:01:33


38 years old, been with Mrs CuChullain 5 years

Portofino Mon 13-May-13 22:05:43

Zombie thread alert <<tries hard to back up AF>> some old pervert has rocked up - please don't feed it.

ElBombero Mon 13-May-13 22:09:06

35 / 1

grin Lots of fun!

hobbknob Mon 13-May-13 22:12:03

I'm 30 and been with DP 10 years.

hobbknob Mon 13-May-13 22:13:00

On no.....

OhLori Mon 13-May-13 22:15:06


Ledkr Mon 13-May-13 22:24:05

HELLO !!!!!!! Ffs

AnyFucker Mon 13-May-13 22:42:34


< throws self on floor and beats it weakly >

Ledkr Mon 13-May-13 22:44:23

Wow af them there's some good moves you got there

1/0. Lost virginity at 19, married him at 24, now 29 with a DD. No blush here!

AnyFucker Mon 13-May-13 22:46:14

< puffs on inhaler >

AnyFucker Mon 13-May-13 22:46:47

..... aaaaaaaanD GIVES UP

Oops, sorry!

AnyFucker Mon 13-May-13 22:49:53

Antoinette, can you take over for me, I'm fucked

UnicornCentaur Mon 13-May-13 23:06:10

8/2 and im 24 never had a ltr tho

not blush at all I enjoyed 9 of them... then there was the virgin

LittlePeaPod Mon 13-May-13 23:09:32

I am 37... 5..

UnicornCentaur Mon 13-May-13 23:10:40

can you actually get off based on the NUMBER of people someone else has had???

wow that is a cheap date

AnyFucker Mon 13-May-13 23:13:21

you would be surprised, UC grin

Ledkr Mon 13-May-13 23:13:48

I have a picture if some little wanker sat at the PC furiously masturbating over a few numbers ha ha

LynetteScavo Mon 13-May-13 23:15:03

How does a woman have full sex with another woman. confused blush

And no, I'm not telling. Although I obviously haven't slept with any women.

UnicornCentaur Mon 13-May-13 23:15:14

perhaps someone should tell 'little wanker' about pi..

workhell Mon 13-May-13 23:17:58

Why 'obviously' Lynette?

Bunbaker Mon 13-May-13 23:21:06

"But I find it really rather weird that some people have only had one partner in 20 years or so."

I have been married for 32 years and have never cheated on my husband. Why is that so weird?

I am not telling what I got up to before I met OH grin

LynetteScavo Mon 13-May-13 23:25:04

Well, if I'd slept with a woman, I'd know how to have sex with them.

The fact that I don't get lesbian sex has always been a source of great amusement to DH.

AnyFucker Mon 13-May-13 23:27:30

Isn't lesbian sex just the same as hetero but without a cock ?

Do you consider only penetration to be "true" sex, Lynette ?

LynetteScavo Mon 13-May-13 23:32:24

Ermmm.....I think so. I haven't given it much thought. But for me, personally, yes. I think. confused Although I'm sure other people think their sex lives are fab without penetration. But I don't get it. (This is the bit where DH starts laughing.)

AnyFucker Mon 13-May-13 23:34:31


say no more, the little wanker is gearing up

I can hear the friction from here ....

I think we need to talk about something less inspiring. Like paint for example. I get a lot of pleasure from watching it dry.......

AnyFucker Mon 13-May-13 23:43:49

I am choosing chocolate brown nail varnish, atm

Very smart!
I don't wear it much but am contemplating some for this week when I'm presenting a poster at a conference.
Don't know if your remember my dd's dodgy ankle AF - hurt it in school PE and had to limp with a stick for weeks? It got ok-ish then she hurt it again in PE (!) and I took her off PE till after Christmas - about 4 weeks - and now it's fine again.

TheSecondComing Mon 13-May-13 23:49:06

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

VerySmallSqueak Mon 13-May-13 23:49:23

I've slept with hundreds, both male and female, over the years.

Some dribbled.Some snored.

I prefer my own room nowadays rather than Youth Hostel dorms.


AnyFucker Mon 13-May-13 23:52:14

Gosh, yes, NL, I do remember your dd's ankle

It might be a bit "dodgy" for a little while yet.

Yes we're keeping a close eye on it. Poor kid has been through the wars. There are some signs she may have inherited the family migraine gene, her psoriasis has been pretty dire AND poor lamb had to have a milk tooth extracted so the second could grow straight and because of her heart defect she had to swallow a lot of foul antibiotics beforehand.

AnyFucker Tue 14-May-13 00:02:14

Erk, poor thing.

ThatVikRinA22 Tue 14-May-13 00:05:32

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ThatVikRinA22 Tue 14-May-13 00:06:50

doh......fuck a duck.
why dont i read first and answer later?????????


cronullansw Tue 14-May-13 00:07:32
ThatVikRinA22 Tue 14-May-13 00:09:05

i have consumed wine.
forgive me.

or kill me. one or the other.
and HQ please delete me. ta.

cronullansw Tue 14-May-13 00:23:19

A serious question to add to this interesting topic......

Condoms..... regarding PIV, what percentage of you used condoms?

grapelovingweirdo Tue 14-May-13 08:29:15

Two men, no women. Have only ever even kissed two men (the same two!) I'm 28

grapelovingweirdo Tue 14-May-13 08:30:17

And I should add that my first was a seven year relationship and my second is my current relationship, which has been going strong for three and a half years smile

kittykat10 Tue 14-May-13 10:16:38

just one man no women im im my 30s

TerrysNo2 Tue 14-May-13 10:21:50


Very happy with my DH so I wonder if thats it for me and feel a bit shock

ohnoididnt Tue 14-May-13 11:28:17


13 if those in the last 2/12 years post divorce. :-0

Lucylloyd13 Tue 14-May-13 14:27:44


Flyingtree Tue 14-May-13 15:08:17

I'm 44.

I've been in three long term relationships of 4, 7 and 7 years.

I've had 8 lovers.

I thought that was fairly modest, considering 3 of them were long longtermers and one of them I've been seeing a year. So really, half were longtermers.

I'm currently having the best sex of my life, so as far as I'm concerned, I don't ever want anyone different ever again and am very content with my tally.

spiritedaway Tue 14-May-13 15:21:27

About 20/0 age 42. . I halved it to tell my ex a number when he asked and he was shocked at so many, although his was way too many to count. I would probably like more casual sex in the future but they all turn into stalkers.

TiredFeet Tue 14-May-13 15:40:51

3/ 0.been with 'd' h since I was 22 though, I guess as we have just separated that number may go up one day but probably not for a long time (pregnant, with a toddler, think men will run for the hills for a long time!)

Phoenixx Tue 14-May-13 16:44:26

Im 38, now single. I was married for 10 years.

Slept with about 30ish men

SugarPasteGreyhound Tue 14-May-13 19:41:50


I only regret 2 of them. My first and only ONS because the sex was utterly and appallingly crap and I felt so horrible afterwards. The other because she was a completely manipulative sociopath who messed with my head.

SugarPasteGreyhound Tue 14-May-13 19:43:09

Sorry meant to add that am now 34. Been with DH since I was 23.


Have slept platonically with a few more of each sex though!

Got together with DH at 21, so not much time to experiment.

Futterby Tue 14-May-13 19:47:20


Been with my partner since I was 14 and I'm with him still at 18, now pregnant with his child and planning our wedding. Quite proud of it, really.

Skinnywhippet Tue 14-May-13 20:07:35

1/0 and he's my lovely husband.

Hullygully Tue 14-May-13 20:12:24

472 (some at once)

LeaveIt Tue 14-May-13 20:17:57

43 2/0

mamababa Tue 14-May-13 20:22:17

Not enough/0. grin

Hullygully Tue 14-May-13 20:28:50


chattychattyboomba Tue 14-May-13 20:33:45

13 (i think) Married at 24. Am 28 now.

ShowOfHands Tue 14-May-13 20:35:46

471. It was a fab night in the O2 arena. Hully's the only one I turned down.

Futterby Tue 14-May-13 20:36:02

Hully, get in there grin

Hullygully Tue 14-May-13 20:38:49


VerySmallSqueak Tue 14-May-13 20:52:13

Hully that's 9 in 10 minutes.


Or 3 at a time,with 3 sessions, in 10 minutes

shock shock

<waves zombie thread banner for AnyFucker>

AnyFucker Tue 14-May-13 22:53:49


It's not a zombie thread any more.

BlatantRedhead Tue 14-May-13 22:57:17

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

fay85 Wed 15-May-13 06:57:35

1 in the last 4 and a half years. Considerably more in the 7 and a half years before

Weegiemum Wed 15-May-13 07:00:13

The only man I've slept with is my husband of 18+ years.

Probably makes me a bit crazy, but that's it for us (I'm also his only).

4/0 with the obvious messing around otherwise. Only two of them were worth it at all, luckily DP is one of the worth it ones smile Hopefully that's it for me, I'm 25 and have been with DP 7 and a half years.

I spent hours making that banner...

Hullygully Wed 15-May-13 09:33:42

487 (a quiet night)

tumbletumble Wed 15-May-13 10:01:10

I'm 39 and have slept with 6 people (all men).

5 between the ages of 16 and 22 (3 boyfriends and 2 one night stands)

1 since age 23 (DH)

Lattetogo Fri 17-May-13 13:18:10


I'm 42 & been with DH since 17 which read 1/0 at the time. Yes we did experiment b4 DCs arrived. blush

cDoll Tue 16-Jul-13 00:02:46

300+ Judge all you want, I really don't care.

RaRaZ Tue 16-Jul-13 11:23:19

3/0. Till I got with DP, I'd have preferred the first number to be I hope it never goes higher. Fooled round with plenty more mind - but again I hope DP is the last!

stooshe Tue 16-Jul-13 11:58:28

I started at age seventeen. The one who took my virginity (my boyfriend) seemed to have left some behind. We split ( I didn't like the sex with him, not that I told him). Between the ages of eighteen and twenty I had five sexual partners, then met my daughter's father and had her at age twenty two. We split and I took a conscious break for about a year and then got back on the wagon until I met another partner at age thirty - thirty two. The split was amicable, so I didn't do any "soul searching and got back on the wagon again ( again, I had lots of fun). I met my recent ex at the age of forty and we were together for nearly two years and considering what he did and what he is , I think my downstairs region has shrivelled into a raisin. Thank God I got to have fun when I could. My"nature" isn't as strong as it was. Or maybe I am a bit more picky. Mind you I am going on a date on Thursday ( a "daytime" date). Hopefully this guy isn't a plonker as my garden needs watering even if I am enjoying my present status.
No women. I'd say about forty men ( without having to think about it too much). I love good nookie. It's the great leveller.

stooshe Tue 16-Jul-13 12:00:15

cDoll. It's not how many it's how you go about it !( so says one of my old timey christian relatives. I was scandalized at the time).

ushush Tue 16-Jul-13 12:21:34


16.... Am I on track?

amessageforyouYoni Tue 16-Jul-13 12:50:31

Mid thirties.

I think about 45-ish blokes. God, tried to count it up just now and got a bit confused (...and sidetracked...reminscing on youthful one-night stands with memorable guys like 'small willy man', 'enormous cock man' and 'very strange shaped dick man' grin).

3 women if we're talking full-on going for it sex...

I embrace my youthful slack ways. Twas fun and you're along time dead <cough, married, cough>

amessageforyouYoni Tue 16-Jul-13 12:51:00

* a long

OctopusPete8 Tue 16-Jul-13 13:02:11

1 , mid twenties quite a rarity for my generation.

only 1, still with them though,

yepitsme123 Sat 21-Sep-13 16:20:59

200+ female 23yrs old

lurkinglorna Sat 21-Sep-13 16:57:57


ps see you there

lurkinglorna Sat 21-Sep-13 16:59:03

I reckon some of us must be "sisters" in that we've had the same conquests....hmm

Mojavewonderer Sat 21-Sep-13 17:12:53

35 yrs old
I can't really remember them all though so I am guessing low 20's although my mother has often said she thinks its more ;) my husband has never asked thankfully.

CharlieB30 Sat 21-Sep-13 17:24:01

Age 30

12 - 2 long term relationships (inc the one I'm in now) and 10 flings

CharlieB30 Sat 21-Sep-13 17:26:37

Age 30

12 - 2 long term relationships (inc the one I'm in now) and 10 flings/ one night stands.

I racked up a lot of random sex in a short period of time, after sleeping with my now Dp after a few dates I vowed to go celibate if it didn't work out. Luckily it did lol

oldgrandmama Sat 21-Sep-13 17:35:38

Oh dear ... been making a list. Now blushing furiously ... but I AM 71 and had a very misspent middle age! On the other hand, I was a virgin when I first married, at just 20

Redline Sat 21-Sep-13 18:12:20

Am a man aged 35 & (Full-Time) Father of one but as to Men/Women as per the Title Question of the thread?

Have slept with (as in full on the Works/PIV whatever you want to name it?) 7 women & No Men. I guess that? May seem on the (Rather) Low side but I often have HUGE & terrible self-confidence & endurance issues when it comes to relationships & maintaining them or even TRYING to (never mind DOING?) successfully attract members of the opposite sex FOR r'ships? When I DO manage to succeed? The results tend to be mixed but IF we last beyond a LITTLE while? We tend to last For YEARS. My last few r'ships? Have been 1 & a bit years, 6 years & 2 years if that's any guide?

Anyway? That's me...................confused biscuit

Alconleigh Sat 21-Sep-13 22:19:37

Am 37. About 55 ish / 1. Only 3 in the last 8 years though, so it's safe to say I enjoyed my twenties grin

justgotquestions Sat 21-Sep-13 22:30:33

Am 28.

0/0 blush I am a freak.

juneybean Sat 21-Sep-13 22:42:49

^ you're not a freak!!

I'm 28


2rebecca Sat 21-Sep-13 22:47:34

Not sure, somewhere between 20 and 40 but I'm in my 40s and had fun as a student.
For the past 11 years it has only been 1 so I've slowed down alot.
I don't regret sleeping with a few blokes when younger.
No women, probably would have have if I'd met the right one at the right time but I fancy far fewer women.

Sindarella Sat 21-Sep-13 22:56:44

24/0 relationship/one night stands

760ish/54 workwise ( worked in the 'adult entertainment' biz for a while).

28 been in a relationship 5 years.

MadameLeBean Sat 21-Sep-13 22:59:38

20 ish men and about five women smile

MadameLeBean Sat 21-Sep-13 23:00:31

Oh I'm 27. Been with DP 3 years.

MadameLeBean Sat 21-Sep-13 23:02:26

Funnily enough now-DP was also my first (we dated in school) which is rather sweet I think smile

tombliboouun Sat 21-Sep-13 23:05:25


FavoriteThings Sat 21-Sep-13 23:13:39

Why has this thread got resurrected at least 3 times confused
Not for a good reason I suspect.

LoopThePoop Sat 21-Sep-13 23:20:23

It's the weekend, people are interested..

My answer is not enough. I met DH and married relatively young.

Just him. I'm 35 and wonder a bit.
We are active and experiment a bit ourselves BUT...

fl85 Sun 22-Sep-13 07:54:15

I am 28 and reckon somewhere around 50 men, no women. Only 1 in last 5 years. Most were when I was 18/19.

ThePlEWhoLovedMe Sun 22-Sep-13 09:22:40

My childhood sweetheart who I was with from 13 years - 23 years old.

6 years of singledom = 3 boyfriends and maybe 8 ONS (rough guess)

Have been with current partner 12 years

23 Men. No women.

Seems pretty bad to me!!! im 20 and have been with my partber for 19 months now and expecting a baby. Lost virginity when i was 16. So between 16 and 18 i slept with 23 different guys :/. All safe, mind you! little ashamed of my number. Could be much worse!

frogslegs35 Sun 22-Sep-13 18:24:30


I'm 35 and was in a LTR for agesssss, the others (exc 1 of the females) were before and after him.
Oldest was 12 years my senior and youngest was 9 years my junior smile
No regrets!

cantfindamnnickname Sun 22-Sep-13 18:30:56

35 ish (maybe can't really remember) men and 2 women

Some of those have been erm group activities lol

Pollydon Sun 22-Sep-13 18:32:58


Met dh aged 18, still together aged 40.
No Regrets

makemineamalibuandpineapple Sun 22-Sep-13 18:41:00


I am 30 and have had a 7 year relationship where I was faithful throughout. Just a shame my ex-h didn't see fidelity as part of marriage. He certainly added a few to his score during our relationship.

ItsSoooFluffy Mon 23-Sep-13 16:43:26

5/0. Am 24 and in a LTR for 3 years.

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